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mrkay101:
My brother ur jst pouring water on a big stone. I sense dat u'v invested a lot of emotion into this so called relationship dats why ur still thinking on what to do

Also my mind they tell me say becos u never chop am yet NA em make u still stuck on her

Spot on bro, you just nailed it, but I still care about her, just thinking I could get some encouragements from nairalanders to keep on though

PHLastborn:
Spot on bro, you just nailed it, but I still care about her, just thinking I could get some encouragements from nairalanders to keep on though

Well all am going to say is if choping her is worth the stress den carry on. But if its not my guys save ur strength for someone else

Op if you are really 32 then you are no longer a kid. This girl is wasting your time, she is just using you. What will come out of this whole quagmire won't be nice at all.

intbizoil:
Op if you are really 32 then you are no longer a kid. This girl is wasting your time, she is just using you. What will come out of this whole quagmire won't be nice at all.

Thanks for the advice, guess it's not worth it, I just hope she doesn't introduce another trick to want to use to hold me down such as crying or promising that she would call and end it in my presence.

PHLastborn:
Hi guys,
I am 32 and I met this girl who is 27 years old and I admired her and I didn't waste any time to express myself to her, we got talking and exchanged contacts, started chatting on whatsapp, and from then on, we got emotional and fell in love with each other, she had come to my house like three times now, I have always played it cool, we only make out, when I initiate sex she will tell me to hold on. Not now.
Anyway, one day she called me out on whatsapp and gave me a shocker! That she was in love with a married man, in fact that she has a thing with married men, and it has been so for her since she was in the University and that she's currently dating a married man whose wife and kids are staying out of town, but he owns an apartment in town, which she normally goes to spend the weekend with him.
The thing is, since she opened up to me about it, I have tried to persuade her to pull out of it, but she seems incapable of that. We promise ourselves love and make out, express how we love each other, but most nights she still goes to spend it with the man, on weekends when she closes from work, his driver picks her from the office, to her parents house, where she picks her weekend things and Jets off on a weekend cruise with the man.
Her parents are wealthy, she is working and earning a six figure salary but claims she just can't end it with the man anytime soon.
When I prodded her to know why she is so in love with a married man, she claimed the man has always been there for her, especially when she conceived for him, though it ended in a miscarriage cos she couldn't bring herself to abort it cos of her religious beliefs. She feels it is not easy to end a three year relationship that abruptly. If I threaten to leave her, she throws her hands up in exasperation stating that the man has been there before me, there's nothing she can do about it other than to give it time.
She has promised to call it quits before the year runs out, but I still feel she is not doing enough. She finds it easy to tell me about the man, but will not dare tell the man about me. She said it causes problems anytime she tells the man she wants to leave, because he has told her he will only let her go when she actually finds a man who has paid her bride price and is actually walking her down the altar.
I really love her and I think she loves me too, but I don't want to take the signs lightly, I really need advice from you guys whether I should damn the consequences and stick with her or just call it quits with her. I need to mention that I quite appreciate her sincerity, frankness and honesty in respect to this issue, but I feel she could do better. I feel her truthfulness and sincerity is a virtue, compared to most girls who are runs girls and would sleep with several men and still pretend to be Saints.
I need your candid advice. Please talk to me

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please do the needful, I need people's advice on what steps to follow.

"The thing is, since she opened up to me about it, I have tried to persuade her to pull out of it, but she seems incapable of that. We promise ourselves love and make out, express how we love each other, but most nights she still goes to spend it with the man, on weekends when she closes from work, his driver picks her from the office, to her parents house, where she picks her weekend things and Jets off on a weekend cruise with the man"

At age 32, I can't believe this is coming out from your mouth. Why forcing yourself on a woman who has her heat somewhere else? For your information, it is high time you speed off cos I don't see your life in a save hand if you get marry to this lady cos there is probability that this 'show' has been embedded in this lady and hardly can she change.

Love is not blind, one might just decides not to use his/her common sense.

@op, lol ... This is for u