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You know how they say that girls always go for
assholes, that they leave nice guys by the
wayside? And you get a busload of self-proclaimed
‘nice guys’ whining and bitching about how
they’re overlooked, how they’re friend-zoned, how
despite always being there and serving as a
shoulder to cry on they just never get a chance to
prove how good they would be to whichever girl is
the object of their affections.
Well, I’m sick of that whole schtick. I really am,
sick to death of it. It makes girls look like these
awful ungrateful, whining brats who don’t know a
good thing when they have it. It makes us sound
like gluttons for punishment, like hard-hearted
bitches who trample all over nice, giving ‘good
guys’ in our mad scramble to bed the bad boys.
I’m gonna call bullshit on that.
See, I’ve got a theory, and it’s that we’re all
possessed by this need to be special , to be
different – to matter so much to the person we
choose to be with that we eclipse all that came
before and all who will come after.
And yes, that’s ridiculous and patently selfish – to
want someone to never be able to forget you, to be
grateful to have found you, but not be prepared to
do the same.
After all, who hasn’t harbored thoughts like these,
jealous notions about your girlfriend’s ex-
boyfriend, biting back sarcastic remarks about your
boyfriend’s ex-girlfriend? But at the same time –
and I know I am guilty of this – reminiscing about
good times with an old lover, missing him after
remembering a beautiful experience.
We ask from others what we ourselves are barely
prepared to give.
But stemming from this need to be so special, so
unique, we girls shun the good men solely because
we know that being treated well by them is nothing
special .
With a bad boy, if you can change him, if you can
make that asshole settle down – now, now you’re
special. Even if you had to drag him kicking and
screaming to whatever level of commitment you
desire.
After all, if an asshole feeds you a line, you can be
pretty sure he’s fed it to other girls and they all
didn’t matter.
But if a nice guy, a good boy, tells you you’re
perfect or that he loves you more than anything,
now that’s suspect. Has he said it to an old
girlfriend? If he has, he probably meant it.
So really, who is the dishonest one here? The man
who you know is lying to you, or the man who
pretends he’s giving you something new and
untainted and special when it’s really just second-
hand sweet nothings?
Maybe the nice guys should take a minute to
reflect on that one. Being nice, being upfront, being
frank and sincere – maybe you’ve already given
up the best of yourself. A bad boy, with his deep-
rooted insecurities or mommy issues or broken
heart, he’s fixable. He’s a project. By winning him,
you can define your own uniqueness. He’s almost
a trophy, to tell the world Bleep yeah. I’m special.
Look at me, I tied down this jerk and now he’s a
lovable little puppy.
The nice guys, I think, are the most insincere of
the lot. They’ll have sung love songs to old
girlfriends, written poetry, delivered flowers,
showered her with affection, taken her to expensive
restaurants and pretentious plays.
And sure, it’s nice to know that there are men who
treat their women right. But if you come after, if
you turn up in his life too late, what’s to make
anything he does for you special?
It’s not enough, I think, especially for the more
neurotic females around, to just be treated well.
We need to know we matter (that goes for men
too).
We’re different. We’re special. We’ve made you do
things you’d never considered before, that when
you swear everlasting love (or to do the ironing)
you mean it, you mean it because you love us and
not just because you’re a nice guy who thinks it’s
the right thing to do.
Do you give us backrubs and hang up our wet
towels and tell us you’ve never met anyone as
perfect because you love us more, or at least
differently than anyone you’ve ever been with?
Or is it just what you do because you’re a nice
guy, because that’s how you’ve loved all your
girlfriends, because it sits well in your gut?
And if that’s the case, what’s different about this
relationship? You’ve put an equal sign between us
and your last lover, marking us as the same.
I could be anyone , I always think when I date a
man like this.
How are we different from your high school
sweetheart, your first love, your last love?
Do we move you?

N.B. Not Op.

too long

Sounds like something an angry, deluded teenager would write.

op, how old are you?

Maybe the nice guys should take a minute to
reflect on that one. Being nice, being upfront, being
frank and sincere – maybe you’ve already given
up the best of yourself. A bad boy, with his deep-
rooted insecurities or mommy issues or broken
heart, he’s fixable. He’s a project. By winning him,
you can define your own uniqueness. He’s almost
a trophy, to tell the world Bleep yeah. I’m special.
Look at me, I tied down this jerk and now he’s a
lovable little puppy.

This is the worst pile of shiit I have ever seen on Saturday morning. I give up on girls ever fishbrains.
So you are not comfortable when the good guy tells you he love you because you know he had said it to an EX yet you are at home with someone you know will be saying the same thing he said to you to another girl just minutes after leaving you.

JustTara:
You know how they say that girls always go for
assholes, that they leave nice guys by the
wayside? And you get a busload of self-proclaimed
‘nice guys’ whining and bitching about how
they’re overlooked, how they’re friend-zoned, how
despite always being there and serving as a
shoulder to cry on they just never get a chance to
prove how good they would be to whichever girl is
the object of their affections.
Well, I’m sick of that whole schtick. I really am,
sick to death of it. It makes girls look like these
awful ungrateful, whining brats who don’t know a
good thing when they have it. It makes us sound
like gluttons for punishment, like hard-hearted
bitches who trample all over nice, giving ‘good
guys’ in our mad scramble to bed the bad boys.
I’m gonna call bullshit on that.
See, I’ve got a theory, and it’s that we’re all
possessed by this need to be special , to be
different – to matter so much to the person we
choose to be with that we eclipse all that came
before and all who will come after.
And yes, that’s ridiculous and patently selfish – to
want someone to never be able to forget you, to be
grateful to have found you, but not be prepared to
do the same.
After all, who hasn’t harbored thoughts like these,
jealous notions about your girlfriend’s ex-
boyfriend, biting back sarcastic remarks about your
boyfriend’s ex-girlfriend? But at the same time –
and I know I am guilty of this – reminiscing about
good times with an old lover, missing him after
remembering a beautiful experience.
We ask from others what we ourselves are barely
prepared to give.
But stemming from this need to be so special, so
unique, we girls shun the good men solely because
we know that being treated well by them is nothing
special .
With a bad boy, if you can change him, if you can
make that asshole settle down – now, now you’re
special. Even if you had to drag him kicking and
screaming to whatever level of commitment you
desire.
After all, if an asshole feeds you a line, you can be
pretty sure he’s fed it to other girls and they all
didn’t matter.
But if a nice guy, a good boy, tells you you’re
perfect or that he loves you more than anything,
now that’s suspect. Has he said it to an old
girlfriend? If he has, he probably meant it.
So really, who is the dishonest one here? The man
who you know is lying to you, or the man who
pretends he’s giving you something new and
untainted and special when it’s really just second-
hand sweet nothings?
Maybe the nice guys should take a minute to
reflect on that one. Being nice, being upfront, being
frank and sincere – maybe you’ve already given
up the best of yourself. A bad boy, with his deep-
rooted insecurities or mommy issues or broken
heart, he’s fixable. He’s a project. By winning him,
you can define your own uniqueness. He’s almost
a trophy, to tell the world Bleep yeah. I’m special.
Look at me, I tied down this jerk and now he’s a
lovable little puppy.
The nice guys, I think, are the most insincere of
the lot. They’ll have sung love songs to old
girlfriends, written poetry, delivered flowers,
showered her with affection, taken her to expensive
restaurants and pretentious plays.
And sure, it’s nice to know that there are men who
treat their women right. But if you come after, if
you turn up in his life too late, what’s to make
anything he does for you special?
It’s not enough, I think, especially for the more
neurotic females around, to just be treated well.
We need to know we matter (that goes for men
too).
We’re different. We’re special. We’ve made you do
things you’d never considered before, that when
you swear everlasting love (or to do the ironing)
you mean it, you mean it because you love us and
not just because you’re a nice guy who thinks it’s
the right thing to do.
Do you give us backrubs and hang up our wet
towels and tell us you’ve never met anyone as
perfect because you love us more, or at least
differently than anyone you’ve ever been with?
Or is it just what you do because you’re a nice
guy, because that’s how you’ve loved all your
girlfriends, because it sits well in your gut?
And if that’s the case, what’s different about this
relationship? You’ve put an equal sign between us
and your last lover, marking us as the same.
I could be anyone , I always think when I date a
man like this.
How are we different from your high school
sweetheart, your first love, your last love?
Do we move you?

N.B. Not Op.

shutup

Bullshit

no atom of sense in this long nonsense

They say girls have poorly developed brains... after reading dis post...*in Timaya's voice "I CONCUR "

Op started well which encouraged me to read almost to the end. But I'm disappointed, I wasted my precious time and I'm afraid I'm never getting it back

Bullsh!t!!!!!

JustTara..

Are u a choir mistress... I find it so hard to read this hymn sometimes in church...

Chimaritoponcho:
shutup

What are you? nice guy or bad boy?

JustTara:
What are you? nice guy or bad boy?

Biitch am me

Whoever wrote this clearly doesn't know what she wants in a relationship.

Firstly I must say, babe u must be one hell of a patient gal ooo, to be able to calm down nd write dis long article, well no doubt DTS y u like picking up project work wit ur term "bad guys". babe wen picking a project topic, u must mk findings, gain knowledge of d project topic and know y dey are d way dey are or if d project is feasible, if u have atleast goten to 300 level in d university u would know dis. do not pick a project DAT is baseless or nt feasible. not every guy are ready to change. let most gals understand dis, i meet u first day, we fu-ck, I treat u like crap, nd u tell me u love me? forget it, all I see is desperation, such a gal can't change me at all. don't take it as a project work, if a guy knows ur worth, he would change for u, u dnt need to work on any project to change a guy.
u started dis well DT I didn't mind reading ur long article, nd den u destroyed it, ur ideology of relationship are so messed up

Chimaritoponcho:
Biitch am me

bitch is a female dog, dogs bark, barks on a tree, tress are part of nature, nature is beautiful. Thanks for the compliment.

Marvinspeed:
Whoever wrote this clearly doesn't know what she wants in a relationship.

go back and read. What does “not op" mean to you?

JustTara:
go back and read. What does “not op" mean to you?

Lol...You obviously didn't read my comment.

Marvinspeed:
Lol...You obviously didn't read my comment.

I did o. Without any equivocation, I felt you were directing it to me as well.

JustTara:
I did o. Without any equivocation, I felt you were directing it to me as well.

Okay..well I dint see it that way

Marvinspeed:
Okay..well I dint see it that way

It's all good bro. I tender my apologies.

JustTara:
It's all good bro. I tender my apologies.

No problem...are u a guy/girl? I can't tell the diff on nairaland

All dis babes just dumb

.

Now i'v to concur that girls have fish brains.

Ok those of you that are in the habit of quoting already ridiculously long posts, I've got a cactus ready, for when karma comes around to fuςk you in the αss.
To girls who reason this way, I wish you the miserable life of anguish you so desperately crave.
Adios

so somborry sat down to type this thing. o girl ur weekend must have been boring o

Give me back my 15 minutes reading.

end time.
No meaning....
pathetic

lol, u try sha





















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Marvinspeed:
No problem...are u a guy/girl? I can't tell the diff on nairaland

it clearly shows (f) after my name doesn't it? and that's me on my profile photo. Lmao. Oga I'm a girl o.

JustTara:
bitch is a female dog, dogs bark, barks on a tree, tress are part of nature, nature is beautiful. Thanks for the compliment.

can we chat on whatsapp