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Re: ADVICE! What Can I Do To Help My Husband Financially by kweenkong(f): 7:47am On Nov 28, 2015 |
Madam I feel for you and I know God will answer ur prayers. To be honest ur husband is not trying enough, when things get to this level he needs to take drastic measures. Even with his book business he can have other hustles. People drive okada, tricycles and buses just to put food on the table. Even women do it when it has gotten tough. And this are things u can get people to invest in for you. If u worship in a good get somebody to finance any of the above for u and u deliver money daily or weekly to the person. Once in a while he takes a day or 2 to pursue his book hustle. Let him just be faithful in remitting the owners money simple. I wish u well. 5 Likes |
Re: ADVICE! What Can I Do To Help My Husband Financially by yebo36(f): 8:56am On Nov 28, 2015 |
MurphyG1: We talked on that before, he said he does not like teaching and for the hotel, he walked as a manager in one hotel in gwarimpa but they still owe him 1 year salary so he had to stop |
Re: ADVICE! What Can I Do To Help My Husband Financially by EfemenaXY: 9:23am On Nov 28, 2015 |
yebo36: A couple of questions for you: ~ How old is your husband and what was he doing for a living before getting married to you? ~ How long have you both been married for? And how long has he been unemployed for? 1 Like |
Re: ADVICE! What Can I Do To Help My Husband Financially by Nobody: 9:41am On Nov 28, 2015 |
Op it cant be easy with a family of 4 is surviving on 30K Anyway, what are your husbands strengths and what is he good at? That and coupled with being realistic you need to both sit down and work out the best way forward. Look for something that will generate a steady income for you. Selling books in a country where the citizens do not even have time to read is a waste of time. Also relying on other people to go and come before paying you is also dangerous especially in your situation. People are very good at spinning stories when it comes to paying their debts. What you want is something that you can sell/deliver/make/provide where you will be paid immediately and you put your money in your pocket and go; investing some back into the business and spending some. Your hubby may have to retrain. There is no dirty job and being a graduate will help him to learn the ropes quickly and put some finesse into whatever he is doing. I know of graduates raking in money by renovating private houses in Abj. I am not saying they got there in a day but they did what they had to do when there were no regular jobs. They all had to retrain and are now sought after because they bring that extra edge compared to Mr Plumber and Mr Interlock off the street. Op you can also add a few extra things to what you are doing to boost your own income in your spare time too; fashion design, hair, beads, cakes, decoration, make up, catering, party bags etc etc every little penny helps. All the best. 3 Likes |
Re: ADVICE! What Can I Do To Help My Husband Financially by Eketem: 9:42am On Nov 28, 2015 |
yebo36: At this point he should be more concerned about putting food on the table not about what he likes or doesn't like. When he doesn't have mouths to feed and bills to pay he has the chance to be picky. What did he want to do when he read philosophy. Okay what does he want to do? Like I said he needs to be the one growing up, you can try all you want but if he doesn't have the determination there is little you can do 10 Likes |
Re: ADVICE! What Can I Do To Help My Husband Financially by Acidosis(m): 9:56am On Nov 28, 2015 |
yebo36: I think you should create and dedicate some time for the freelance writing. Fivver will definitely give you some crazy deadlines so I won't encourage you to continue with fivver. You can be independent and successful. I could help out by issuing some of my unending tasks with considerable timeframe. I've tested fivver and I can assure you of the fact that you'll make double of what you earn from fivver as an independent freelancer. How long will it take you to complete a 3000 word paper (without outright copying/plagiarism)? Do you do statistics, or market research? Normally, you should be able to write 1000 words daily (you've written over 200 words only on this thread). If you do that consecutively for 3-4 days, you should get something very close or more than your current N30,000/monthly. You have the key in your hands madam. USE it! |
Re: ADVICE! What Can I Do To Help My Husband Financially by EfemenaXY: 9:58am On Nov 28, 2015 |
Eketem: Good questions. And that's why I'd like to know what he was doing for a living pre-marriage. Hustling isn't for every one and if that be the case, then she's got her work cut out, especially as there seems to be a pattern here. 2 Likes |
Re: ADVICE! What Can I Do To Help My Husband Financially by EfemenaXY: 10:00am On Nov 28, 2015 |
Acidosis: Aren't they a books / product reviewing website? |
Re: ADVICE! What Can I Do To Help My Husband Financially by Acidosis(m): 10:06am On Nov 28, 2015 |
EfemenaXY: Yes, some clients seek the expertise of freelance reviewers, but I don't think such deals are easy to come by |
Re: ADVICE! What Can I Do To Help My Husband Financially by EfemenaXY: 10:13am On Nov 28, 2015 |
Acidosis: What deals? To review? |
Re: ADVICE! What Can I Do To Help My Husband Financially by Acidosis(m): 10:15am On Nov 28, 2015 |
EfemenaXY:Yes, to review |
Re: ADVICE! What Can I Do To Help My Husband Financially by EfemenaXY: 10:27am On Nov 28, 2015 |
Acidosis: Maybe, maybe not. Quantity speaks for itself on that site. The more books / products a reviewer has under their belt + rankings received, the better. As an author, if I get a shoddy / copy & paste review, I certainly won't find it funny. Some claim to review literature in 24 hours but I find those reviews dubious. The reviewer has to take into context the range of subject matter, complexity, and most importantly genre. There is no one size fits all. And I'm sorry to be harsh here but going by the quality of lanuguage she's used in posting on here, I wouldn't recommend she reviews literature - unless short stories. But certainly not novellas and definitely not novels. No one wants a "rushed" review and with 2 young kids under 4? I don't think so. 1 Like |
Re: ADVICE! What Can I Do To Help My Husband Financially by Acidosis(m): 10:45am On Nov 28, 2015 |
EfemenaXY: I perfectly understand your stance. In fact I won't advise her to delve into story writing/literature/fiction, and other areas where one needs to transform & transfer imaginations into writing. I'm believing she'd do well in the area of business writing, essays & may be academic briefs where people like me depend vastly on secondary/primary sources (without outright copying/pasting). The challenge however as you've rightly mentioned is TIME/distraction. |
Re: ADVICE! What Can I Do To Help My Husband Financially by MurphyG1(m): 11:12am On Nov 28, 2015 |
yebo36: They owe him one year salary? Has the hotel closed down? Didnt they pay any other staff during that period? If your story is true then please intensify your prayers! |
Re: ADVICE! What Can I Do To Help My Husband Financially by Nobody: 11:30am On Nov 28, 2015 |
Acidosis: Please, how can I reach you? On this same subject matter. |
Re: ADVICE! What Can I Do To Help My Husband Financially by Acidosis(m): 12:00pm On Nov 28, 2015 |
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Re: ADVICE! What Can I Do To Help My Husband Financially by ogawisdom(m): 12:53pm On Nov 28, 2015 |
Op ur husband is still talking abt wat he likes n doesnt like to do when u pay rent, feed him and his children for 4years and counting. He shld man up and start thinking abt survival of his family at this point and shld b ready to do any legal thing to provide for his family. He shld 1. Learn hw to drive keke, taxi,bus, okada 2.Learn hw to Barb n start barbing saloon 3. Take up teaching job in primary/sec whether he likes it or nt his family needs d money 4. Football viewing center 5. Go to construction sites there are alot to do n earn a living there 6. Learn skills in demand in his area He must bring sth to d table monthly, BC even God is nt happy with him as he is worst than an infidel nw. Talk to him and encourage him to hustle harder 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: ADVICE! What Can I Do To Help My Husband Financially by yebo36(f): 12:59pm On Nov 28, 2015 |
MurphyG1: Yes one year. The manager before him left due to same reason. |
Re: ADVICE! What Can I Do To Help My Husband Financially by yebo36(f): 3:33pm On Nov 28, 2015 |
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Re: ADVICE! What Can I Do To Help My Husband Financially by yebo36(f): 3:38pm On Nov 28, 2015 |
ogawisdom: I also think he is not trying enough at times but maybe I don't know how to put it across to him cos we always end up quarreling. Am thinking of talking to an elderly person i know he respect to talk to him |
Re: ADVICE! What Can I Do To Help My Husband Financially by Dyt(f): 3:52pm On Nov 28, 2015 |
Wow Wow As a woman, you can't see your family failing but as a man (your husband) he's just sitting home praying hoping the miracle will walk up to him Wow and wow and wow Yes marriages have the financial parts but not when one is trying and the other is hoping on prayers I have a friend, he's a man, educated, he just got outta job, dude is fine, got all the things classy ladies want but he don't have money but do you know what he does? Cleaning every weekend He doesn't even mind selling okrika clothes as he's saving towards it Does your hubby think he's too big for any job? Yes I understand cos I am a witness to a broke family, I supported but never tolerated a lazy and excuse man He's gotta get his damn asssss up 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: ADVICE! What Can I Do To Help My Husband Financially by yebo36(f): 6:24pm On Nov 28, 2015 |
Thank you all for your contributions. I will talk to him to get more skills. Please men in the house, how do i talk him out of his comfort zone? |
Re: ADVICE! What Can I Do To Help My Husband Financially by Nobody: 6:53pm On Nov 28, 2015 |
yebo36: So what does he do all day? Does he go out looking for work or is he sitting at home There is a difference between someone who has just given up on life and someone who is just lazy even though the symptoms may look similar You know your husband better than anyone . . if he is just being lazy then you need to make him realise that this is not acceptable and he needs to go out there and hustle to put food on the family table. Its his responsibility to do so. If he is depressed and frustrated, then you may need to support him in anyway you can to get his feet back on the ground. it is well 1 Like |
Re: ADVICE! What Can I Do To Help My Husband Financially by ifyjohnson(f): 7:56pm On Nov 28, 2015 |
Eketem: Bro you spoke my mind I have observed the way you respond to issues here and I must say I love it, it only shows your level of maturity Keep it up Bro 3 Likes |
Re: ADVICE! What Can I Do To Help My Husband Financially by ifyjohnson(f): 8:04pm On Nov 28, 2015 |
Op may God strengthen you pray there is nothing too hard for God to do but make your husband to realise that all prayer without action is meaningless 2 Likes |
Re: ADVICE! What Can I Do To Help My Husband Financially by thelish(f): 8:40am On Nov 29, 2015 |
Madam if u pamper this ur husband join this laziness, na be say u go quick old ooo. I was once In ur shoe. The problem is, they feel too big n proud to do some certain jobs irrespective of d cash in flow. U can report him to anybody he respects. 3 Likes |
Re: ADVICE! What Can I Do To Help My Husband Financially by yebo36(f): 1:22pm On Nov 29, 2015 |
thelish: Really? So how did you handle it. I have made up my mind to talk to someone he respect. But will do that when we are not together. Tomorrow is perfect. Thanks. |
Re: ADVICE! What Can I Do To Help My Husband Financially by EfemenaXY: 1:45pm On Nov 29, 2015 |
thelish: So how did you turn your situation around? |
Re: ADVICE! What Can I Do To Help My Husband Financially by Nobody: 4:21pm On Nov 29, 2015 |
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Re: ADVICE! What Can I Do To Help My Husband Financially by Nobody: 4:27pm On Nov 29, 2015 |
yebo36: Ahh. my dear sister. living apart is not a good thing. I'm speaking from experience. You will pay for accommodation in both places. Feed. Transportation (local and visitations) at the end of the day, you will still not be fulfilled unless his job is so well paying. Let him submit CVs in Abuja. some schools pay well. might even be close to 100k. Go to places too and drop CVS. there is little in Suleja o. I once lived there. Better chances are in Abuja. But if you are sure, he will get a very good job in Lagos and u all move down together, that would be good. |
Re: ADVICE! What Can I Do To Help My Husband Financially by Nobody: 4:35pm On Nov 29, 2015 |
Ahh. I just saw that he doesn't like teaching. I don't think this is a matter of what he likes or doesn't like o. He has to intensify his efforts. You have tried in your way. 1 Like |
Re: ADVICE! What Can I Do To Help My Husband Financially by Dyt(f): 4:49pm On Nov 29, 2015 |
Rukemi291: He doesn't like teaching def won't like some other kind of jobs Op pls stop making excuses for your husband In this part if the country not everyone likes what they are doing They are doing it cos of the pay Excuse is a no no no I was in this situation too Yes we had our shouting days and very best days during this time You gotta push him You can't be the only one pushing while he's watching 2 Likes |
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