Eketem:
Dyt you are a strong woman please edit your story.

This is nairaland with wicked malicious people who will take your story shared with good intentions and abuse you when they disagree with you.

jaybee3:
Have you asked him how he intends to get out of his situation or he is one of those that pray and fast whilst waiting for miracles to happen?

What are his qualifications

Does he have an up to date CV?

Dyt:


Dancing
I am.a superstar

I got a feeling - BEP

Dyt:


The uncle is waiting for a miracle in the house
He keeps going for breakthrough in churches
Studied philosophy

So I read and understood from the thread

jaybee3:


abi ooo

Dyt:


I don't want to laugh
Btw don't you miss me?

jaybee3:


Don't laugh ooooo

I miss you wella

Dyt:



Clown


I blv one way or the other marriages has its up and down
But some are not redeemable *deep sigh*
Not saying OPs situation ooo

babygirlfl:


True. In nairaland, for most people, how much you agree with them is directly proportional to the gesture you get. Sometimes though, I do wish people could be free to say their story without fear of someone using it against them.

How are you eketem?

pickabeau1:


I don't think its as bad in the OP's case
I will be highly concerned if this continues maybe 5 years...

Eketem:



I Am fine jare. How are you and yours?

There are many bitter horrible people in this life who stay online all day waiting desperately to hurt other people because their own lives are so sad.

babygirlfl:
Yebo36,

I know a family who buys agricultural products from the north and sell in the south and they seem to be doing quite well. They started quite small and do it from home. They sell to people in bulk and considerably cheaper. I don't know if you might be interested. Good luck. You seem like a very nice woman.

Jahblessme:
@OP,
Unfortunately,chances that your husband will ever get off his butt and get hustling is 2/10. If he were enterprising,you wouldn't be this aggrieved because youd see he's making an effort.Many go out there and get their hands dirty even if it brings in 10k. The fact that he's not making an effort should give you a clue.Many people in your situation,10 years,20 years no change.

Just get used to the idea that you will most likely be the breadwinner forever.If possible update your skills and get a better job.I say this for the sake of your kids cos as they get older,the cost of caring for them will increase.

This may sound crazy to you but maybe he has to take on the role of househusband if you are open to it.He can clean the house,cook,care for the kids,prepare them for school etc while you go out to hustle just same as a stay at home mom..This may work better for you both cos at least you will be getting all the help you need with the home and maybe it will alleviate some of the stress and anger you feel.You should discuss it with him and find out what he thinks about it.Many families do this especially when the woman is a higher earner and the childcare costs are too high meaning that one partner has to stay and man the home front.

Good Luck!

yebo36:


Thank you. I tried smoked fish from fresh water, i buy it from mokwa and supply to families. They rushed it and even agreed that it has more taste than pound fish but to pay nko? Some paid instantly while some said end of the month and some bit by bit others did not pay till date. The ones i even sold better were the ones my husband helped me to sell in Abuja

At the end the capital did not come out again so i got discouraged. But now that you have mentioned it again, maybe i will borrow some money and start it again. Thanks.

Eketem:
Dyt you are a strong woman please edit your story.

This is nairaland with wicked malicious people who will take your story shared with good intentions and abuse you when they disagree with you.

If you identify with several of the following signs and symptoms—especially the first two—and they just won’t go away, you may be suffering from depression.

you feel hopeless and helpless
you’ve lost interest in friends, activities, and things you used to enjoy
you feel tired all the time
your sleep and appetite has changed
you can’t concentrate or find that previously easy tasks are now difficult
you can’t control your negative thoughts, no matter how much you try
you are much more irritable, short-tempered, or aggressive than usual
you’re consuming more alcohol than normal or engaging in other reckless behavior

ogawisdom:
Op @ yebo
I dnt agree with the idea of making your hubby a full time house husband even when hard working men cant afford to have house wives. Times are hard and the family needs both hands working together to support it.

Making ur hubby a house husband is a bad idea, wat happens when u r sick or u lose ur job or they owe u nine months salary

U see ur hubby kws u r hardworking and can provide all d family needs pls dnt act like it, even if u can jst act like u r in pain n lacking, dnt encourage him to b lazy. I kw u will b d financial leader of dt family n may b dts y God joined u to him but he shld contribute significantly

I agree with those who said if he won't work then he shld nt eat, nothing humbles a man like hunger. Try n give him sth to eat at least once a day where possible n at times approach him for discussions on what to eat. Constantly remind him that God made him d head n provider of d family n u r his helper, let him nt kill u with load

Stop doing biz dt they owe u money, consider going into restaurant biz/beer palour biz with ur hubby. Nothing sells faster than food and u can start small n grow.

A lot of men have joined their wives to set up this biz and its payin their bills.

yebo36:


Thank you. I tried smoked fish from fresh water, i buy it from mokwa and supply to families. They rushed it and even agreed that it has more taste than pound fish but to pay nko? Some paid instantly while some said end of the month and some bit by bit others did not pay till date. The ones i even sold better were the ones my husband helped me to sell in Abuja

At the end the capital did not come out again so i got discouraged. But now that you have mentioned it again, maybe i will borrow some money and start it again. Thanks.

StiffDick:
Yebo36. Your husband is loosing weight and has lost appetite, yet you still want to ration food for him. Pls give him food as usual. How can a family live on 30k?

Your husband is lazy and you are pampering him. He has no excuse. Really disgust me to read that he doesn't like teaching. Despite the hardship he still has preference for certain jobs. When the need is not available, then the available becomes the need. If you break down or have no income guess he will commit suicide?

You make too much excuses for him. He needs to be a man. Let him go out there and hustle any job no matter how dirty it is or no matter how low the money is. It's like he is enjoying poverty. He needs to fight poverty like an enemy because kids are involved even if he doesn't like the good life. Kids deserve the best.

Even handicaps hustle hard. I have seen poverty in 3D. I use to hate my broke days with a passion. Being broke is not a state I had like to go to.

Your man needs to get off his back side and hustle like a real man suppose to. He has no excuse not to give you guys a good life. You have taken over his role and made him comfortable in it. He needs to acquire new skills, in this modern times having a bsc is not enough. with skilled job you can't go hungry. If he lacks motivation let him visit Nairaland business section see what ladies and guys are doing to make legit income.

Sorry if I come across as someone rude. But that is reality. Less I forget. For the supportive and wonderful woman you are....Send me a mail.

To every faithful woman out there supporting their husband in times of difficulties. #Respect# Thumbs up.
x..x.x™

You don't sound rude sir. At times i blame myself for being so open, humble and supportive all this while. I wonder were i went wrong, trying to be like my mom but its not working for me. Saw how my mom stood by dad but I guess i forgot that they both had jobs.

boddie:
Madam u r in the wrong place to seek for advice o. 50% of nairalanders go read comot,40% just wan read ur story and talk non-sense,the remaining 10% sef na like 3% fit help the remaining 7% go ask for personal details like say them go help,all na story.
God will help O! My sister. But tell bros say make him sef no look any hustle as too hard or too dirty. Me sef get son wey be 2 years and I still dey University @ 31 years old,I am self sponsored and no work wey I no dey do. Bricklayer,join-man,E.t.c. But na dog business be my main back bone and God dey bless my hustle. no depend on help here sister,na setup.

yebo36:


Hm! Thanks.

Tundeiab:

Madam, your husband is just lazy. He doesn't need deliverance. What he needs is a job no matter how little the pay is. He shouldn't just leave all the burden to you to bear.