why not change it blessing of marriage instead of canceling it outrightly? I had a similar experience when I was getting married the priest (Anglican Church) canceled my wedding cos I was late, he was d one that fixed my wedding on the 30th of Nov knowing fully well dat it was environmental....

the wedding was slated for 10.30 I came past _11

my wife and the other bride knelt down with their gowns and begged him but he refused vehemently, my father in-law and my groom guys suggested we should do our reception and later come bck to him... that was wat we did. We came back to the church on Sunday dressed in our suit/gown.



they should move on... wats done is done after all the traditional marriage is the main thing.
today I jst celebrated my two years marriage anniversary. t.

Tallesty1:
You are less likely to lead a happy life if you continue chasing after wind this way.

Guys have met, fell in love and married women that they met on here.

I have developed strong friendship with females I met on here.

So where did you get this stupid notion that Nairaland hates women in general?

So with all your learning you still don't know that most of the stories they post here is for fun?

You still don't know that it is unwise to take online issues so serious?

Now look around you with your inner eyes.

Do you see couple in love?

Do you see men and women that got each others back?

Do you see guys and girls that are madly in love and could kill for each other?

Now what if I tell you that these people are Nairalanders?

Now listen.

I don't know where and how you were brought up.

I don't know the type of parents you have.

I don't know what you have suffered in the hands of men.

But I want you to know that Nairalanders love and respect women.

Stop fighting yourself in the name of doing women a favour.

You may end up giving yourself psychological problems.

Feminism is gradually making you mad.

The girl knew that the church has rules and standards so she has no right to complain.

She shouldn't have gone for a preggy test in the first place, knowing full well that she's pregnant. It shows how irresponsible she's, I hate it when people bring problem upon themselves and play victim card.
It doesn't make sense.

I really cannot pretend That I don't see the misogyny on nairaland. The insults to women daily ( both members and non-members) is really too much.
I will call it out whenever I can.
I know they're good people on nairaland mixed with the bad, but somehow its so hard to come across the good.

Why did they let her do the marriage without taking the test? It's s very unlikely thing to happen in Nigeria. Very very!
This post is just to shame the Nigerian woman, trust me. No other reason.

I wish one day, a woman will be able to post freely on nairaland without being called a ho or her mental capabilities insulted. ( just like you called me mad because I said this story was fake).
Go through a popular female moniker mentions on nairaland and see the shit show for yourself.

Onegai:


Same thing happened to our neighbour: got his fiancee pregnant and convinced her to abort because the church won't marry them. They had their lovely white wedding. If 7 years later, still no child in sight (botched abortion led to complications), he went to his village and dropped Palm wine and yam and impregnated a 20 year old girl and proceeded to do trad wedding and marry that one. First wife had to move out. He and 2nd wife now have 3 kids and I have no idea where 1st wife is.

All these new churches with their rules and people are adhering to the rules.

bomasek:
U see wetin the so called white wedding dey cause,if una do trado and registry,all this embarrassment go stop.

I don see people wey wed for church in Jan,welcome baby by March. Abi no be church be that.

as in ehn! You just speak my mind! White wedding is for the Oyinbo ppl! We Nigerians do white wedding here to show off to our mates! Have you ever seen a white man doing white wedding?? The couple even get time to dey cry! As far you've done trado and court! Carry your wife enter house joor!! Nigerians and show off life style!! Poor couple

Gidoka:
why not change it blessing of marriage instead of canceling it outrightly? I had a similar experience when I was getting married the priest (Anglican Church) canceled my wedding cos I was late, he was d one that fixed my wedding on the 30th of Nov knowing fully well dat it was environmental....

the wedding was slated for 10.30 I came past _11

my wife and the other bride knelt down with their gowns and begged him but he refused vehemently, my father in-law and my groom guys suggested we should do our reception and later come bck to him... that was wat we did. We came back to the church on Sunday dressed in our suit/gown.



they should move on... wats done is done after all the traditional marriage is the main thing.
today I jst celebrated my two years marriage anniversary. t.

congrats on your anniversary! I don't just knw why Nigerian Cleric will just be acting as if they are GOD!! A similar event happened in my church dat year! The pastor canceled a wedding because the bride was pregnant dat was abt few weeks to d wedding!! Withing 2 months, our pastor's son impregnated a girl in the choir!! It was a public show, they settled it and everything was normal! Withing one and a half years that same pastor son impregnated the same Girl again!

johnson232:

Senseless rubbish.

do you have sense in the first place. You're just a worthless piece of thrash.as worthless as a street prostitute so you have been duly noticed


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Osahon7:
congrats on your anniversary! I don't just knw why Nigerian Cleric will just be acting as if they are GOD!! A similar event happened in my church dat year! The pastor canceled a wedding because the bride was pregnant dat was abt few weeks to d wedding!! Withing 2 months, our pastor's son impregnated a girl in the choir!! It was a public show, they settled it and everything was normal! Withing one and a half years that same pastor son impregnated the same Girl again!

Imagine a Pastor who acts holier than thou in the eyes of the public and often acts like a demi god in the presence of his congregation getting messed up twice by his household. Shows that he shouldn't act like a moral compass to anyone.

Osahon7:
congrats on your anniversary! I don't just knw why Nigerian Cleric will just be acting as if they are GOD!! A similar event happened in my church dat year! The pastor canceled a wedding because the bride was pregnant dat was abt few weeks to d wedding!! Withing 2 months, our pastor's son impregnated a girl in the choir!! It was a public show, they settled it and everything was normal! Withing one and a half years that same pastor son impregnated the same Girl again!

Imagine, thanks bro.. the most important thing is life afterwards not jat d celebration.

thorpido:
You know the church has rules and standard and if you decide to be a member and even a worker then you should abide by the rules.
When you decided to get pregnant,you should not have bothered with the church and simply go to the registry.

Then d church should have told dem before hand or even locked it's premises on d morning... Make we no dey deceive ourselves in the name of religion. . Churches these days are so comfortably with u sinning so long as u are gud at hiding it..

Koolmexxi:

Then d church should have told dem before hand or even locked it's premises on d morning... Make we no dey deceive ourselves in the name of religion. . Churches these days are so comfortably with u sinning so long as u are gud at hiding it..

Not true.Not all churches condone disorderliness or irresponsibility.
The standard in mosr churches is to have the test done on the day before the wedding.
She has been a member of the church and she knew the rules.There's nothing new the church was to tell her.

Osahon7:
congrats on your anniversary! I don't just knw why Nigerian Cleric will just be acting as if they are GOD!! A similar event happened in my church dat year! The pastor canceled a wedding because the bride was pregnant dat was abt few weeks to d wedding!! Withing 2 months, our pastor's son impregnated a girl in the choir!! It was a public show, they settled it and everything was normal! Withing one and a half years that same pastor son impregnated the same Girl again!

Did they conduct a wedding for them in church?
A pastor can only try to raise his children but has no control over their actions.It would be right to have the pastor's son and the chorister punished.

thorpido:
Did they conduct a wedding for them in church?
A pastor can only try to raise his children but has no control over their actions.It would be right to have the pastor's son and the chorister punished.

wedding ke? The guy was a 200l student in AAU! In the 1st case, they were suspended buh in the second case, information got to HeadQuaters and the Pastor was demoted! I won't realli like to mention the name of the church! Its a popular church

Osahon7:
wedding ke? The guy was a 200l student in AAU! In the 1st case, they were suspended buh in the second case, information got to HeadQuaters and the Pastor was demoted! I won't realli like to mention the name of the church! Its a popular church

They were punished so why are you making it look like they didn't even get as little as a reprimand?
They didn't even conduct a wedding.We are talking about conducting wedding services for pregnant women here.

Why do I feel this tale is concocted to demonize Christianity

pickabeau1:
Why do I feel this tale is concocted to demonize Christianity

More than half of the posters are xtains,the Church as a body of Christ needs to change its orientation on sensitive issues as this. I for one don't deem it necessary for the Church to intrude in the personal lives/affairs of its members. Like a poster opined earlier; the church is not for saints but for sinners. Counselling ought to replace suspension.

bomasek:
More than half of the posters are xtains,the Church as a body of Christ needs to change its orientation on sensitive issues as this. I for one don't deem it necessary for the Church to intrude in the personal lives/affairs of its members. Like a poster opined earlier; the church is not for saints but for sinners. Counselling ought to replace suspension.

Which orientation?

pickabeau1:


Which orientation?

The wrong notion that it supersedes traditional beliefs and customary laws as regard marital rites.

bomasek:
The wrong notion that it supersedes traditional beliefs and customary laws as regard marital rites.

of course it does n u know it.

bomasek:
The wrong notion that it supersedes traditional beliefs and customary laws as regard marital rites.

That is an offshoot of colonial mentality that the white customs are better than ours

tpiar:
but Ikoyi registry is always open.

Thank you o

thorpido:
They were punished so why are you making it look like they didn't even get as little as a reprimand?
They didn't even conduct a wedding.We are talking about conducting wedding services for pregnant women here.

my point is the idea of some Nigerian Cleric acting as if they are God! When they can't even put their homes in order!! being a "great disciplinarian" that canceled a member's wedding because she was preg amidst the begging, one would have expected his house to be in Order

For me traditional weeding is the best to hell with those church principle and their barbaric dog.

Osahon7:
my point is the idea of some Nigerian Cleric acting as if they are God! When they can't even put their homes in order!! being a "great disciplinarian" that canceled a member's wedding because she was preg amidst the begging, one would have expected his house to be in Order

It doesn't work that way.It is written,'not by might,nor by power but by My Spirit saith the Lord'.
It is not by being a disciplinarian that guarantees that children will turn out right,it's grace.Some of the greatest disciplinarians have bad children and usually rebellious ones.No man has enough fleshly powers to raise up good children.
Being a priest or pastor requires that you ensure rules and order are adhered to.It doesn't make you the best,it just puts you in that position of the law enforcer.

mjconcept:
For me traditional weeding is the best to hell with those church principle and their barbaric dog.

It is not by force to go to church.No one makes it mandatory to have a church wedding.However,if you decide to have a church wedding,there are principles guiding the church and you should abide by them.

thorpido:
It is not by force to go to church.No one makes it mandatory to have a church wedding.However,if you decide to have a church wedding,there are principles guiding the church and you should abide by them.

Christians are mandated to do church weddings otherwise you are excommunicated.

mjconcept:

Christians are mandated to do church weddings otherwise you are excommunicated.

Then they should abide by the rules of the church.It's not so hard.

thorpido:
Then they should abide by the rules of the church.It's not so hard.

Is church rule bigger than your dog's rule? It is so sad that we went from been enslaved by the white man to allowing religion to enslaved us.

mjconcept:

Is church rule bigger than your dog's rule? It is so sad that we went from been enslaved by the white man to allowing religion to enslaved us.

I hear you.The same white man's rules you observed while in school.
There are some places in Nigeria where they won't conduct traditional wedding for you if the bride is pregnant so it's not a white man's thing.

That church must be redeem, they are usually very strict with those laws. Before your wedding you must present your wedding gown and do a pregnancy test with the church.

thorpido:
You know the church has rules and standard and if you decide to be a member and even a worker then you should abide by the rules.
When you decided to get pregnant,you should not have bothered with the church and simply go to the registry.

QED

[quote author=femidejulius post=40727411]People need to free themselves from bondage of religion...

1. Church wedding is unchristian and unbiblical: Go through the bible and see for yourself. The weddings take place according to traditional. From this, traditional wedding is the acceptable wedding.

2. These churches won't test for your virginity but will test for pregnancy. The result is that dos who have constant sexual intercourse but are smart enough not to get pregnant and those who have been severally pregnant but have done abortion are free to get married in the church. This is injustice by the church

3. Lord don't despise sinners : Jesus throughout his life on earth is always seen amongst sinners. He said he came because of them. He will never turn them back. Okay, but the church will refuse to join the to-be couple together because they have sinned (she has indulge in pre marital sex). When you turn them down from the church, where do you expect them to go? A lot has since been discouraged from the church because of this.

4. Why do marriages still crash even after the wedding took place in the church? Why do even pastors wedding crash?

5. I know some pastor and churches have turn the church wedding to money making venture. If you hear what they collect to make the church wedding happen in their church, una go fear fear.

[Well said my brother. The Bible says neither do i condemn thee go n sin no more. But d church is condemning d sinner man,instead of showing the light of Christ./quote]

petkruz:
That church must be redeem, they are usually very strict with those laws. Before your wedding you must present your wedding gown and do a pregnancy test with the church.

Redeem! i doubt..