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I am an introvert kind of a guy that doesn't talk much in the midst of people, especially when the need arises as I only do that when I'm in the midst of my friends
Even around girls I seldom talk,Over the years I've lived with this pain and stigmatization as everyone think I'm just being proud and they're feeling insecure around me thinking am looking down on them or have an arrogant nature and all that
I'm seriously confused as I'm not actually financially bouyant,doesn't dress to kill as am always casual when I'm not in a formal environment

Even my teacher, Uncle, Friends have always told me am proud and all that,Pls what should I do?

End time introvert

It 4:00am in the morning. Am trying to advice u but na curse my hand dey write so I will go and sleep and come back to advice......

I find it ironic that you've asked same question I do quite often challenge myself with. I don't know why anyone would consider another arrogant just coz they usually don't share same views to life, similar ideas, character and approach to issues.

For all we know, it could be that they either don't want to embrace the fact that humans are wired differently or they feel intimidated by diverse attitude which isn't in tandem with theirs. Their inability to embrace divergent attitude should be their problem really, not yours or anyone else.

I'd say be you, don't be coerced and let anyone change you provided you know you're not pompous but same time do some soul searching and adjust some attitude of yours. Also, although you affirm you don't talk much, I'd suggest you don't always counter peoples argument even when you're convinced they're wrong and have a superior argument. Some people don't like to be corrected and see it as an affront to their prestige. So even if their arguments is glaringly erroneous, just let it slide.

Don't act like you know better than others, like you're superior or better than everyone else. Relate with everyone fairly like you'd want to be treated.

I had a colleague in my previous place of engagement who always had this mean, unsmiling and glum look and when I newly resume work everyone was murmuring how he's arrogant and suggesting I shouldn't attempt to be nice to him as it's futile. However, I wasn't having any of that and was determined to make an independent assessment of him while I keep extending cordial gestures his way. It didn't take long for me to realise that this guy was the most amazing, precocious and most interesting despite his seemingly taciturn nature.

In a nutshell you should be yourself and at same time be friendly and simplistic as not everyone have the patience to scratch beyond the surface and get to know the real you. This is the approach I've adopted and hope it helps. Cheers mate.

Some times you need not worry about what random folks or people think or say about
you. people will always have opinions about you no matter what.


And you job is to never pay attention to them,because this can lead to depression if your not mentally strong. (I respect all human beings until they give me a reason not to anymore.

Anyway some times what people think about you could be true.,do your best to mellow down and have a rethink or mind search, if this accusations are true please and please endeavor to readjust once you discover this weakness.

Being an introvert isn't bad.....yeah,they'd say ya proud....bt d truth is dat they'll respect you more than an extrovert......my first year in sch I was very shy,people said I was proud of myself...2nd semester I showed them my real colour and they all said hart I love the old you that was cool I was like WTF

ronald4lif:
I find it ironic that you've asked same question I do quite often challenge myself with. I don't know why anyone would consider another arrogant just coz they usually don't share same views to life, similar ideas, character and approach to issues.

For all we know, it could be that they either don't want to embrace the fact that humans are wired differently or they feel intimidated by diverse attitude which isn't in tandem with theirs. Their inability to embrace divergent attitude should be their problem really, not yours or anyone else.

I'd say be you, don't be coerced and let anyone change you provided you know you're not pompous but same time do some soul searching and adjust some attitude of yours. Also, although you affirm you don't talk much, I'd suggest you don't always counter peoples argument even when you're convinced they're wrong and have a superior argument. Some people don't like to be corrected and see it as an affront to their prestige. So even if their arguments is glaringly erroneous, just let it slide.

Don't act like you know better than others, like you're superior or better than everyone else. Relate with everyone fairly like you'd want to be treated.

I had a colleague in my previous place of engagement who always had this mean, unsmiling and glum look and when I newly resume work everyone was murmuring how he's arrogant and suggesting I shouldn't attempt to be nice to him as it's futile. However, I wasn't having any of that and was determined to make an independent assessment of him while I keep extending cordial gestures his way. It didn't take long for me to realise that this guy was the most amazing, precocious and most interesting despite his seemingly taciturn nature.

In a nutshell you should be yourself and at same time be friendly and simplistic as not everyone have the patience to scratch beyond the surface and get to know the real you. This is the approach I've adopted and hope it helps. Cheers mate.

Thanks for the advice,I really appreciate. ''I'd suggest you don't always counter peoples argument even when you're convinced they're wrong and have a superior argument. Some people don't like to be corrected and see it as an affront to their prestige. So even if their arguments is glaringly erroneous, just let it slide.

Don't act like you know better than others, like you're superior or better than everyone else. Relate with everyone fairly like you'd want to be treated. '' I'll work on this

op u are right,people saving judge no be small

Nobody is saying you must all talk. But when you see people you are familiar with, do not hesitate to say hi and exchange pleasantries. That shouldn't take much from you. Then you can retire to your head. People will know you as quiet but not proud.

Holyfield1:
I am an introvert kind of a guy that doesn't talk much in the midst of people, especially when the need arises as I only do that when I'm in the midst of my friends
Even around girls I seldom talk,Over the years I've lived with this pain and stigmatization as everyone think I'm just being proud and they're feeling insecure around me thinking am looking down on them or have an arrogant nature and all that
I'm seriously confused as I'm not actually financially bouyant,doesn't dress to kill as am always casual when I'm not in a formal environment

Even my teacher, Uncle, Friends have always told me am proud and all that,Pls what should I do?

stop bothering yourself

Holyfield1:
I am an introvert kind of a guy that doesn't talk much in the midst of people, especially when the need arises as I only do that when I'm in the midst of my friends
Even around girls I seldom talk,Over the years I've lived with this pain and stigmatization as everyone think I'm just being proud and they're feeling insecure around me thinking am looking down on them or have an arrogant nature and all that
I'm seriously confused as I'm not actually financially bouyant,doesn't dress to kill as am always casual when I'm not in a formal environment

Even my teacher, Uncle, Friends have always told me am proud and all that,Pls what should I do?

nothing.. care not about what people say.

or you can decide to.be more out going
but i doubt you would be happy that way