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Most times I hear from couples seeking for divorce using those words I find it very hard to believe if there are any irreconcilable differences between a married couple who truly love each other.

Love is a perfect bond for marriage because love is patient and kind, does not look for its own interest, does not become provoked, does not keep account of injuries, It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Infact love never fails.

So I want to hear your views as to what can be classified as irreconcilable difference that will warrant separation and divorce?

Please I need mature comments.

Pride and selfishness.

When love, respect & trust are gone....marriage is over...

KashyBaby:
When love, respect & trust are gone....marriage is over...

Yes.

praxisnetworks:
Pride and selfishness.

Yea I aggre with u, but love is not selfish and proud. With love, this can be resolved.

KashyBaby:
When love, respect & trust are gone....marriage is over...

But true love never fails, there's always room to work things out if they really wanna be together.

feldido:
But true love never fails, there's always room to work things out if they really wanna be together.

OK....can u give an example?

KashyBaby:
OK....can u give an example?

No matter the differences between them, both couple can come to a compromise because they love each other. Remember they vowed to live together no matter the problem until death.

Kamusta ka

feldido:
No matter the differences between them, both couple can come to a compromise because they love each other. Remember they vowed to live together no matter the problem until death.

Kamusta ka

Lol....u speak Tagalog eh? Thats nice

So many marriage vows we're broken coz along the way one or another they really not meant to be...so any causes, most common is infidelity...

Personally, I can never stay in an abusive marriage. That is one thing I can classify as irreconcilable difference, don't know about others yet.

feldido:
But true love never fails, there's always room to work things out if they really wanna be together.

Bros, true love died with Titanic, and that is why every disagreement now in marriage becomes irreconcilable

KashyBaby:
Lol....u speak Tagalog eh? Thats nice

So many marriage vows we're broken coz along the way one or another they really not meant to be...so any causes, most common is infidelity...

I don't think there should be any room for infidelity when there's Love. And besides marriage is a bonding of two different persons from different backgrounds together, I don't believe there's anything like meant to be.


By d way, I learnt a little tagalog from my ex who's a Filipina.

MKO4ever:
Bros, true love died with Titanic, and that is why every disagreement now in marriage becomes irreconcilable

I don laugh tire

Abbykem:
Personally, I can never stay in an abusive marriage. That is one thing I can classify as irreconcilable difference, don't know about others yet.

I see ur point here, a loving husband will never do that.
But it's still not irreconcilable, what do I know?

Am still giving my babe some oral tinz nt yet married
So do remember me wen am married

Love is never quite enough...

Oliviaarims:
Love is never quite enough...

I agree, u also need Deep respect for the love to flow

feldido:
I agree, u also need Deep respect for the love to flow

That... And compatibility. I daresay, a union founded on mutual respect and compatibility has a higher chance of survival than one founded solely on love.

Op what of a case whereby the wife discovered her husband is a ritualist/murderer, and she wants out,isn't that unreconcilable differences? because If I was the wife, I can not live with a ritualist anymore.

First of all,they are called irreconcilable differences because the couple has decided to end it.That is irrespective of the fact that it could have been resolved.In a case where the husband impregnates the girlfriend,its very few women that would stay back and ride it out.Many would opt out of the marriage due to the anger and hurt they feel.

RussianRoulette:
Op what of a case whereby the wife discovered her husband is a ritualist/murderer, and she wants out,isn't that unreconcilable differences? because If I was the wife, I can not live with a ritualist anymore.

That's a threat to life, but remember marriage is till death or on the grounds of fornication.

queenfav:
First of all,they are called irreconcilable differences because the couple has decided to end it.That is irrespective of the fact that it could have been resolved.In a case where the husband impregnates the girlfriend,its very few women that would stay back and ride it out.Many would opt out of the marriage due to the anger and hurt they feel.

I agree with you, adultery is the only grounds for separation and divorce. But like u said, it can be resolved if both parties decides to, that's why it's called love.

Ye there is.like when a woman allows d husband best friend to Bleep his wife and he catches u giving him BJ.na only jesus go fit repair that marriege ooo

feldido:
I agree with you, adultery is the only grounds for separation and divorce. But like u said, it can be resolved if both parties decides to, that's why it's called love.

sweetie,LOVE IS NOT ENOUGH!You feel those getting divorced don't love themselves?They do..You can love anyone if you decide to..The most important thing is compatibility and mutual respect.

queenfav:
sweetie,LOVE IS NOT ENOUGH!You feel those getting divorced don't love themselves?They do..You can love anyone if you decide to..The most important thing is compatibility and mutual respect.

I get ur point, but why would one even marry someone he/she isn't compatible with?

adajiboyy:
Ye there is.like when a woman allows d husband best friend to Bleep his wife and he catches u giving him BJ.na only jesus go fit repair that marriege ooo

That's justifiable... Only on account of adultery

feldido:
I get ur point, but why would one even marry someone he/she isn't compatible with?

You ask this one o...On nairaland you find all sorts of posts that make it seem like being unmarried is a curse.Why won't people marry anybody they can find ,just to 'belong'?

queenfav:
You ask this one o...On nairaland you find all sorts of posts that make it seem like being unmarried is a curse.Why won't people marry anybody they can find ,just to 'belong'?

Its not a Nigerian issue but the African culture made it so, and I think it's not a bad thing just that people tend to waste their time on other people's matters.