duduade:
I feel for your friend sha
But anyways.
Abeg drop the name of the company here ...

metorichmond:
Bros with more than 500k as monthly salary u can neva be sad with such work. na from village de don table ur Mata ooo, u beta see pastor or imam asap.

kenonze:
Everyone seems not to have seen the part he categorically stated that he is being exposed to many dangers and risk.
Everyone is interested in the 500k per month.
Pls quite that Job as soon as possible.
Our lives are previous.
The families u are working ur ash out will move on if anything happens to you.
There is nothing satisfactory like doing a job u are safe and happy with

martineverest:
I wud rada earn 250k and be happy than earn millions @ xpense of happiness

OCTAVO:
God! Nawa

Sagamite:
If he wants to quit simply because he misses his kids, that is nonsense.

As much as I love kids, I also know it is expensive to raise them and give them the good things in life.

If he wants to quit because he misses his kids, actually hates his job and he has another sustainable avenue of making a living that he likes, then he needs to hand in his resignation asap.

Life is about being happy. But happiness does not normally come from being broke and failing your family.

Brugge:
The truth is there is more to life than money but on the other hand life could be more comfortable with money.

Most people will not understand why in the midst of poverty and anguish someone who is supposedly well off is still unhappy and complaining. This life is just once, you don't want to spend the productive and most active stage of your life being unhappy. The problem with being unhappy with your job is that sooner or later it sips into every other aspect of your life, and will ruin it.


I think your friend should talk to a therapist to start with. I am sure when he is through with his sessions he will figure out what exactly the problem is, and if it means making adjustment or changing a job then he should do it. There is no point going to a job you don't like just because of the money, for how long is he going to live like that before he losses his mind?

Brugge:
The truth is there is more to life than money but on the other hand life could be more comfortable with money.

Most people will not understand why in the midst of poverty and anguish someone who is supposedly well off is still unhappy and complaining. This life is just once, you don't want to spend the productive and most active stage of your life being unhappy. The problem with being unhappy with your job is that sooner or later it sips into every other aspect of your life, and will ruin it.


I think your friend should talk to a therapist to start with. I am sure when he is through with his sessions he will figure out what exactly the problem is, and if it means making adjustment or changing a job then he should do it. There is no point going to a job you don't like just because of the money, for how long is he going to live like that before he losses his mind?

Brugge:
The truth is there is more to life than money but on the other hand life could be more comfortable with money.

Most people will not understand why in the midst of poverty and anguish someone who is supposedly well off is still unhappy and complaining. This life is just once, you don't want to spend the productive and most active stage of your life being unhappy. The problem with being unhappy with your job is that sooner or later it sips into every other aspect of your life, and will ruin it.


I think your friend should talk to a therapist to start with. I am sure when he is through with his sessions he will figure out what exactly the problem is, and if it means making adjustment or changing a job then he should do it. There is no point going to a job you don't like just because of the money, for how long is he going to live like that before he losses his mind?

This is wonderful!

Blackteeth:

Well, I don't think it's about missing his kids. He said the job exposes him to dangers and keeps him away from his family for 6 months. So I think he has a reason to get frustrated.

nyben4eva:
Hello nairalanders,a very good friend of mine came to me a couple of days ago with a detailed epistle of the trauma he faces with his job and how he's opted to quit,but insists on my advice before he hands in his resignation letter:

"I got my job six months after my NYSC and March 2015 was my eight years of working for the company.As an engineer,the job isn't my kind of job as it exposes me to lots of dangers and keeps me away from my family for at least six months every year.
My salary is more than half a million per month,yet I don't find joy doing what I'm been paid to do.

Thinking of my kids each time I leave home for work and how they cry to go with me is such a feeling that makes me wish I never had the job in the first place and at the same time,the thought of how they would fare if I quit without laying a proper foundation for their future makes me reconsider my decision and keep telling myself that I have to keep on going.

Though,I have most of the necessary things to make life a bit easier,but I'm always sad whenever is time to go to work.My wife on the other hand,tries to convince me before I'll finally make up my mind.It has been like this right from the onset,yet things aren't changing.
The most annoying aspect is that of my employers,an American company.They drain every bit of my energy and always remind me of how jobs are very scarce in Nigeria.

Right now,I have a business that could be fetching me at least two hundred thousand naira per month with lots of rooms for expansion and I feel so delighted that I'm going to become my own boss.
The happiness I derive from trying to do my own business is so boundless,but my problem is this: I don't want to go back to the same job once I quit".

Should I ask him to quit or continue with the job?Is happiness more important than pay?I need very intelligent answers, please.

My candid advice is that starting a business in Nigeria is not an easy journey, he should just have a plan as where he wants to be in the next few months/years.

He can continue to work let's say for d next 6 months or for the next 1 year, save alot and plan for what he wants to use the money for, it is very true that happiness is very important than the job but at d same time the pay he is earning is very good, it is not advisable to resign due to frustration, but resign on d basis that you have a concrete plan for yourself and your family.

My opinion

Sagamite:
If he wants to quit simply because he misses his kids, that is nonsense.

As much as I love kids, I also know it is expensive to raise them and give them the good things in life.

If he wants to quit because he misses his kids, actually hates his job and he has another sustainable avenue of making a living that he likes, then he needs to hand in his resignation asap.

Life is about being happy. But happiness does not normally come from being broke and failing your family.

voltron:
..It is called WORK-LIFE BALANCE.. one of the most difficult thing to attain.. you are torn between being a family man and getting the resources to take care of your family.. most people look at successful wealthy peeps and read their biographies.. these guys made deep sacrifices that meant pushing family aside.. it is tough but if your spouse understands and bears.. you can push forward and attain greater goals and more money.. you cannot do 50-50 when it comes to work-life balance.. you can aim for 85-15

nyben4eva:
Hello nairalanders,a very good friend of mine came to me a couple of days ago with a detailed epistle of the trauma he faces with his job and how he's opted to quit,but insists on my advice before he hands in his resignation letter:

"I got my job six months after my NYSC and March 2015 was my eight years of working for the company.As an engineer,the job isn't my kind of job as it exposes me to lots of dangers and keeps me away from my family for at least six months every year.
My salary is more than half a million per month,yet I don't find joy doing what I'm been paid to do.

Thinking of my kids each time I leave home for work and how they cry to go with me is such a feeling that makes me wish I never had the job in the first place and at the same time,the thought of how they would fare if I quit without laying a proper foundation for their future makes me reconsider my decision and keep telling myself that I have to keep on going.

Though,I have most of the necessary things to make life a bit easier,but I'm always sad whenever is time to go to work.My wife on the other hand,tries to convince me before I'll finally make up my mind.It has been like this right from the onset,yet things aren't changing.
The most annoying aspect is that of my employers,an American company.They drain every bit of my energy and always remind me of how jobs are very scarce in Nigeria.

Right now,I have a business that could be fetching me at least two hundred thousand naira per month with lots of rooms for expansion and I feel so delighted that I'm going to become my own boss.
The happiness I derive from trying to do my own business is so boundless,but my problem is this: I don't want to go back to the same job once I quit".

Should I ask him to quit or continue with the job?Is happiness more important than pay?I need very intelligent answers, please.