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Bros, you are a dead man walking...

[quote author=samocholi post=41336082][/quote. Sometimes we knowingly deceive ourselves into believing that where we are is better than where we are headed to. That's part of the devil's tactics to make believers live lives that are under achieved. I can't categorically tell you what to do, I just want to help you understand that the right time to make any decisions that will change the direction of your destiny is today. Imagine what position you would have been placed in the bank if your destiny wasn't cut short. Making the right choice isn't just for you. It's for you child and your calling on earth. No great decision is ever easy. Good luck sir and best of luck.

My brother good day.

This is my take on this: You are a very patient man I must commend that, but my Bible make me understand that the only way you can divorce a woman is when she commits adultery which she did according to you. If you love your life and you don't want someone to slit your throat why sleeping one day, it is better you divorce now so that ........ what God has joined together let no man put asunder is not in this case oooo

Ibedionu:
Op, I really sympathize with you. Like my pastor will say, 'd worst thing after hell fire is a bad marriage'. U married your enemy that is why you're not progressing. please give her space for some time. Whilst seperated, go to God in prayer continuously ask for his help. He will help you.Please and please, don't continue living wt her unless you want to die soon.

For some time? Give her space for ever!!!

samocholi:
I thank u all for ur words of encouragement.From the depth of my heart i say a big thank u to all.Stay Bless

Trust me, you have failed yourself woefully. Your education seems to be a waste. You lack both knowledge and wisdom that should help you. Don't see yourself yet as an adult please. You need a Life Coach on Adult Living because you are far behind adulthood. Marriage does not mean you should be allowing yourself to be rubbished and your self-esteem and confidence trampled. But why didn't you come to Nairaland when your situation was still redeemable? You thought the demon inside your wife would leave on it's own and give peace a chance in your family? What were you thinking when she started manifesting Satanism? You had no clue of what to do other that running to your Uncle? Mehn, am sorry to say this but am ashamed of you. Look at how you have allowed a demonic woman reduce you to nothing because you feel you were married.

And if I may even ask you, how many messages did you listen to or books that you read about marriage before getting into it? I guess none! Now, you are going to learn it the hard way. What baffles me most is that even when your life was crumbling you had no clue of what you should do and you never believed it could worsen. Why? Why were you a man? Why were you a graduate? Why, why, why? How many times should something happen to you before you can learn a thing or two from it know what to do?

Well, I can't continue talking. I'm sorry if I sound insulting with my use of words. The reality now is that you married a demon-possessed woman. As a person, she's good to go but these demons are using her to torment you and your family. Through her, they snatched your source of livelihood and reduce you to a child. Now, would you sit and wait for them to kill you? Yes, they can still use her to kill you and if such happen, you'll be dying like a fool. Wake up now and help yourself while you still can. For more help, send me a Private Mail through my profile. You can bounce back if you want to. The choice is yours.

Bros, without meeting you, I can tell you are a very nice person. You definitely married the wrong wife. Losing your job because of her was a huge sacrifice. You should not have allowed that to happen.
I am really surprised that you are still in that marriage. My advice: If you love yourself, go for divorce immediately. That lady would not have any qualms dumping you or taking your life. Run! I just feel for your innocent little girl.

@ op, u've gotten all d advise u need here, i will feel very sad to read ur obituary, cos dats what's going to happen soon, yes, SHE WILL IETHER POISON U OR STAB U IN UR SLEEP! I no ur type; bookworm/efiko in school, church boy who belives God will not let any bad thing happen to him, no experience with d opposite sex. Now u've been duped, conned by a runs babe who ran to church to trap innocent man like u.
Man-up! raise some cash n start a biz, while looking 4 a job, den take ur daughter n waka, no tell any pastor or inlaw-o, (dey'll never tell u d truth), and start divorce proceeding, ensure u have enough pix & video evidence, goodluck and stay alive.

Meen such a calm guy,u are a man but pls take ur child to ur grandma and run for ur life.dat woman is a devil,pls run for ur life,God almight will be with you

She used jazz to marry you. Now the whole thing has cleared.

Move on bro...

@Op, u must be stup*it I must insult u b4 u wakeup, u don't value or life.
U want to make heaven but she is going to be the reason u will go to hell. I didn't caused u but truly u are a foool.

I don't want to be harsh but sir, i think you are getting what you deserve.

How can you remain in a marriage where your wife had pulled a knife to stab you?
This religion thingy that you claim was your reason for not divorcing her sounds so f,o,olish! Please how old are you? Cos you seem so naive like a teenager.

Fvck religion and all the people that begged you to stay with that biatch. Imagine, you even lost your job hmmm. The award of the most fool!sh person in 2015 goes to you! (no pun intended, just being honest )

wallahi i just dey vex for here, , , smh

OP married a Yaba left patient. Wicked co-worker of yours.

I'll blame you in 2 areas: (1) You didn't study her carefully before marrying her (2) You didn't allow God to decide for you. Apart from that you are my idea of a model dad. If you do value your life and that of your kids, let that marriage end now!!

I have cautiously read your worries. You are living your life for someone,your whole life had been spiritually polluted, many good connectivity has been caught offf,.You are already empty vessel. I must be frank with you.the marriage ,and continue to stay with that bitch will ruin your life beyond repair .Your parent got there life to live so also your spiritual less Pastors. Dear brother if she doesn't leave you by year 2017 you will died mark WORD .run for her you don't need a soothsayer to tell you.and you to go spiritual cleaning or delivanrce ..good bye

sukkot:
Let me guess, the guy who introduced you to her was a waffi or ndigbo guy ? lmaoooo. cuz i know no yoruba man will ever introduce you to a demon. cuz i know ndigbo and waffi people have very high threshold for what is crime or diabolic. you can steal 1 billion or kill 10 people and they will still call you a hero and a saint lmao. yoruba on the other hand and hausa have the lowest threshold for crime or evil. you report a woman like that to a yoruba father or mother ? he or she will hire trailer that moment and hire an armed police man and take you to the house to collect all your property and your kid and he will drive you back to his house himself

You Just have to bring tribe into it, clap for yourself, you sound like a broken record spitting your dummies, to call you pathetic is not doing justice to the pathetic souls out there, you are beyond pathetic.

queenzena23:
You Just have to bring tribe into it, clap for yourself, you sound like a broken record spitting your dummies, to call you pathetic is not doing justice to the pathetic souls out there, you are beyond pathetic.

listen, all am saying is, this is something that can never fly in hausa or yoruba culture. this OP is either waffi or ndigbo. maybe he has paid high bride price so he wants to recoup on his investment

ALTHOUGH GOD HATES DIVORCE, BUT GOD ALSO SAID THAT IF YOUR RIGHT HAND CAUSES YOU TO SIN, CUT IT OFF. YOUR WIFE HAS JAZZED YOU UP OTHERWISE, ANY RIGHT THINKING MAN WOULD HAVE SEPARATED FROM HER. DEPART FROM HER, LET HER RETURN TO HER VOMIT! TAKE YOUR DAUGHTER, COS YOUR DAUGHTER WILL SUFFER IN HER HANDS. LASTLY, R[size=16pt]RELOCATE TO A NEW AREA OR CITY!!![/size]

Seamareggae:
O bobby... This one don comot 4 advice.. Enter insult naaa

the mofo op deserves more than that insult. Such a disgrace to men.

Op should have been born a woman cos he lacks every traits of a man. He is just a pvssy.

When you finally divorce and hide to start a new life

Remember to post her picture here so all this desperate men will not fall victims

For the fact that you are the one seeking solution shows that you are agood man. Pleaese do what you feel is right. GOD is your strenght,,, merry xmas

samocholi:
Greetings to u all,please I need a candid advise because am fed up and confused at same time.It all started in 2011 when I met my wife through my collegue in the bank. I used to work in operations and hardly have time to truly search for a wife that is what I thought back then.so I had this collegue of mind who appears responsible and is also a church worker in a responsible church,not all these money making churchs.so I confided in him , so one day he came to me that he has this lady where he normally goes to worship atimes that he will take me to meet her ,that she is God fearing ,a church worker and her father is a pastor in one of the northern states,which he did and introduced us and gradually we started dating,


I even took her to see my parent.to their amazement she woke up around 4am and swept and cleaned the house before we could even wake up for morning prayers.when my Dad saw this he was really please and was like this truly is wife material.but my Mum was like don’t conclude oh as per girls of nowadays that we should keep praying.at first I wanted us to do our traditional marriage in April 2012 and after that white wedding but she started indirectly pressuring me that we should do trad in August and white in November,2011.i thot about it,and with my naïve mind said to myself that since she seems nice and am ready to marry.


I agreed and we got married in 2011.we did both court and church marriage.immediatly we came back from honey moon my life has been one hell of a life or another.it began when my former collegue in the bank sent her sister to bring her cv to me incase we are recruiting so that I can submit for her.so the lady called later to thank me for the assistance and my wife was with me in the sitting room.it was around 7-8pm.after the call my wife started quarreling,that who is that lady calling me that am cheating on her,she went inside the room and brought out our wedding cert.that she will tear it and that we should go our separate ways.i became shocked ,I then told her that she can take the lady’s number or I can call the lady in her presence.that I don’t even know the lady. I did not even have the lady number in my phone,the lady collected my number to follow up and that is all.



I left her with my phones and entered the room.this was happening barely a month and a half after our wedding.as the days go by she started bringing different quarrels and problem.after like a year two month into the marriage,one faithful Friday night after I came back from work and I was fast asleep she woke me up around 11pm that we should talk.and I told her that if we can leave it till morning knowing fully well that the next day was satuday unless if the matter is btw life and death then I can wait.she said it is not btw life and death and was insisting that we talk before I knew it she brought out a knife and wanted to stab me so I manage to collect the knife and threw it into the wordrobe.


By then the sleep in my eyes cleared immediately and I was like what is the matter what is wrong or what wrong have I done to her,my people up till tofday she has not given me an answer.so she stood there speechless so I assume all is well then as I was going tom bed she took one of her high heel and struck me behind my head I fell down and went blank.after a while I woke up and saw her looking at me.so I got up and entered my car with blood all over me to her uncle’s house and showed them and told them what happened.before I continue we live in Abj,so the uncle called her parent and her mum came to Abj the next day.before then I had written and taken my divorce letter to the pastor that am not doing again.


After that the pastor and her people intervened and talked to her. I went to that my colleague that introduced her to me that what does he know about her that I may not know so he said she told him in confidence that she was in cult in the university and that her boyfriend then was the capon.she also told him that the boy friend was shot in school then and died in her arms.when I confronted her she down played everything and wanted to pick a quarrel,so that one died down.


Before I continue,am a banker ,and my wife has a boutique that she sells men wears in Abj. She hardly laughs but b4 we got married she was always laughing.i havs severally asked her what the matter is but she will say it is nothing. Before now I did not know that my wife is a runs girl,after our baby’s birth in Dec 2012 my wife went and did family planning without my consent,it was in the evening when the stuf started disturbing her that I got to know. In August last year that is 2014,I was watching news when she came back by 9:30pm,she started making it a habit of coming late in 2014 and that has caused serious quarrel btw us. So when she came in she droped her phone on the center table and went inside to take her shower.as I was watching the television I now said let me go through her gallery because she likes taking pictures.after that I now checked her messages.i was shocked what I saw.

She sent a text to a married man,saying that she cursed him with the sperm he pured inside her and the man said it was mutual that she is the one came to his house to collect money for the shoes and shirts he bought,he also said he will curse her with his children’s life that she is not the only one that has a child and insisted that it was mutual.at that point my hands started shaking and before I know I she jumped out of the bathroom with soap on her body to take her phone.immediatly she came to the sitting room and saw me with her phone she frozed for like 15seconds not knowing what to say after that I asked her who is the man and she said that I was one of her friends from owerri that used her phone to chat the man.

when I checked the chat history it was not just one day chat it spans four days becos the chat was very lengthy. So I was pissed off, I reported the issue to the pastor where we got married and he down play it that she cannot do such a thing..
My wife has quarreled with all my neighbours in my compound of 8 flat,she has also quarreled with our security guards at the gate to the extent that they have refused to wash her car.On 25 of dec 2014 after returning from the church my wife spreed her cloth under the sun and my neighbour’s puppy came and played with the cloth and tore part of it.the next day she went to tell then but she did not grt a good response so she went behind and boiled hot water and pured on the puppy. My neighbor’s wife went and call police for her the next day being Sunday.but their aim is to keep her in cell till Monday to teach her a lesson.unknown to them my uncle is a top police officer so I called him and we were able to bail her putting Monday date.since then small thing my wife will start saying things that she is suspecting me , that am having am affair.i now told her how,she now said a man that does not drink alcohol and does not smoke will surely womanise.i then asure her that I have done nothing of such.and truly since I married her four years ago I have never looked at any woman aside her.

To cut a long stry short,February this year as usual during valentine I to her to a shop and asked her to pick whatever she wants.then she picked cloths and shoes worth 70k and I paid. After that February ending I usually give her 50k for upkeep so tha day I had keep the 50k but there was a plumbing problem that I had to take 5k out of it to solve so I gave her 45k promising to bring the balance home or I credit her,and that faithful morning we were having a meeting in which a top official is coming from head office and my head of operations was nor around so I was sitting in for her.

so I asked my wife to help me take our daughter to sch that day as I have to rush to the office b4 time. After giving my wife the 45k she threw it on the floor that it is not enough and started insulting me that what kind of useless job is that ,unknown to me she had gone and locked the entrance door and taken the key,as I was about to go out I discovered that the door was lock,so I called her aunte to talk to her,as she was on the phone with the aunt I went through the back door. As I was about to drive out I saw my wife rushing to close the gate with only pant and singlet,I mean pant and singlet not bump hort or rapper.i was surprise,but before she could close the gate I had already passed she now took a big stone and stared running after the car.
she threw the stone at my suv ,it sounded like a bomb very loud.at first I did not know what happened untill I saw her running towards the car so I stoped,she now came held my side mirrow and started breaking it so I had to drive off. I was devasted and could not make it to work,so I called someone in the office that I won’st be able to make it to the office that am having some issues at home.


She went back to the house and called my Dad that if I come back she will kill me.so my Dad called me and I explained to him immediately what happened. so he said I should not go back home that day, I went and slept in a hotel In town .so the next day her mum came and I went home.Now it is not that am afraid of her but because I respect women and will not want to beat ofr fight her,I am far biger and taller than her if I decide to cough she will vanish so is not that am afraid of her am only respecting the marriage institution. When I got home the second day to resume work the third day I discovered that she had tore all my cloths,my shirt both office and casuals,all my suit including my wedding suit,.so I had nothing to wear the next day.so I missed work wednesdy,Thursday and Friday,during all these happening I have been in touch with my office and told them am having some family issues and could not make it to work.



I resumed the next Monday to work and everything seem to be going well, then on Tuesday I got a sack letter from human resources of the bank.unkonwn to me. the new manager that was posted to my branch got a querry for myself and the head of operations not being around for the initial meeting. so he was angry and he wrote to the bank’s human resources and when they checked that I was not logged on for the three days I was sacked,all because of my wife.most times she sends abusive texts messages to me while in the office.For instance if am attending to customers and she is calling and I did not pick on time she will now send a nasty text that I delibertly don”t want to pick her calls.i have even told her to come and see how we work in my office.so since march am yet to get any serious thing to do.
I January I had 2.5m I paid our rent 1m and part pay for a land 1m and the remaining 500k lasted us from march till june.as usual with banks I was not paid anything.so when my savings finished in june the major financial burden fell on her,with little coming from me now.Since then my wife has made my life a living hell with all sorts of insult. For example in November,there was nothing in the house so she went to southern fries and bought rice and chicken for herself,then bought a watery oha soup with out meat that I should make garri and eat with it.it was when I wanted to microwave it that I discovered that it was watery and has no meat.i did not say anything.


Most times I stay back at home unless I have an appointment or an interview just not to spend unnecessary .so I was checking one of the cupboard in our room and I saw somethings she got from a native doctor,they include a bottle of concosion with the label witches and wizards destroying oil,the second one was two of her bathing soap with burnt candle on it when I looked at the soap closely I saw small cross buried inside,the third thing I saw was the complimentary card of the native doctor.All these things I just mentioned are real and I have their pictures that I snapped.i picked them and went to her uncle’S place to show him and he was mad,he immediately called her parent to come to Abj immediately and I called my parent to come becos I told them I don’t want the marriage again. Both parties came and the meeting lasted from 5pm to 12 mid nite and continued again the next day.

she could not defend her sellf and I said am not doing again and everyone started beging that I should give her one more chance.and it seems the issues was resolved.i started my investigation and discovered that unknown to me my wife is a runs girl even b4 I married her and after marriage she continued .that is why she went and did family planning without my knowledge so that she can be sleeping with me with out condom.and this days she dresses sugestivly.i have reported to the pastor ,her parent about her dressing but she has not changed.presently she is fighting with a lady in her former church the lady is a leader in the church.she said the lady has been attacking her in the dream and anytime they lady sees her the lady calls her prostitute.She told me that the lady is sleeping with her pastor.My wife has bad mouth and insult at every provocation,she hadly laughs always moody but when some kind of men call her she will be laughing as if tomorrow no dey.

Today being Christmas as we were preparing to go to church,she was noW feeding our daughter who just turned 3 last week.becos the baby was being slow to eat she started shouting that if the baby does not eat quikly that she will injure her.when I heard that I came and told her that such statement to a baby is not good,I have cautioned her severally not to be telling the baby that she will injure her.because there was a day I was playing with our baby and the baby was telling me that she will injure me.so becos of that I cautioned her.that was all,instead of her to take corrections she started insulting me.that am useless,that the whole burden is on her that she regrets marrying me.that she will surprise me one of these days.


My dear brothers and sisters in the house especially the married ones I frankly need ur candid advise as I am tired of her ,her bad and unrepentant character and her evil ways but am only looking at the term Christian marriage in terms of divorce as I ultimately want to make heaven just as every one.

Thank u for taking ur time to go through my ordeal.

It is very simple. You got what you asked for. How can u listen to a pastor or run to the girls family in times of troubles. You have your family to run to as they are the only one who could have been 100% honest with you. Now you're jobless. My advise, let the stupid woman go and start your live all again.

I always say it time and time again, if u have a bad wife or husband, divorce ASAP. Life is too short to be unhappy and jobless.

@OP, sorry about the whole drama. You don't deserve such a woman and to add insult to injury, you always go to the Pastor.

Unbelievable but as usual there are 3 sides to a story.

You have to give her space for sometime . if she does not show remorse in all her actions and repent. you move on with your life.
How can one endanger himself and be at risk of heart attack in the name of marriage? is it when you die that your eyes will be opened?

samuelson06:
Trust me, you have failed yourself woefully. Your education seems to be a waste. You lack both knowledge and wisdom that should help you. Don't see yourself yet as an adult please. You need a Life Coach on Adult Living because you are far behind adulthood. Marriage does not mean you should be allowing yourself to be rubbished and your self-esteem and confidence trampled. But why didn't you come to Nairaland when your situation was still redeemable? You thought the demon inside your wife would leave on it's own and give peace a chance in your family? What were you thinking when she started manifesting Satanism? You had no clue of what to do other that running to your Uncle? Mehn, am sorry to say this but am ashamed of you. Look at how you have allowed a demonic woman reduce you to nothing because you feel you were married.

And if I may even ask you, how many messages did you listen to or books that you read about marriage before getting into it? I guess none! Now, you are going to learn it the hard way. What baffles me most is that even when your life was crumbling you had no clue of what you should do and you never believed it could worsen. Why? Why were you a man? Why were you a graduate? Why, why, why? How many times should something happen to you before you can learn a thing or two from it know what to do?

Well, I can't continue talking. I'm sorry if I sound insulting with my use of words. The reality now is that you married a demon-possessed woman. As a person, she's good to go but these demons are using her to torment you and your family. Through her, they snatched your source of livelihood and reduce you to a child. Now, would you sit and wait for them to kill you? Yes, they can still use her to kill you and if such happen, you'll be dying like a fool. Wake up now and help yourself while you still can. For more help, send me a Private Mail through my profile. You can bounce back if you want to. The choice is yours.

You have summarized it all with serious points. His approach to the whole mess is rather ill-timed. It's good to be man enough and know the right thing to do at the right time.

bobkezel:
Rooster and bull story. Op i must tell you, if this stupid story is true then u must be a big fool, an idiot, an slowpoke, u are hopeless. Nonsense. Please madam, deal with him dangerously cos he is a fool. You came here for advice, you fool. If i am the wife i will strangle you personally. U live a useless life. You are not worthy to be alive. Nonsense. Well i don't believe this nonsensical sh!t. Thunder fire you there, idiot.

I understand that u are pissed off. I am too. TAKE IT EASY ON THE DUDE. Maybe he's enjoying his condition that's why he still call her his wife and is still living her.

samocholi:
Greetings to u all,please I need a candid advise because am fed up and confused at same time

Thank u for taking ur time to go through my ordeal.

My brother note that

The book of Proverbs 21:9 says

Better to live on a corner of the roof than share a
house with a quarrelsome wife.

Even 21:19 also says


"Better to live in a desert than with a quarrelsome
and nagging wife."



And 25:24 says

"Better to live on a corner of the roof than share a
house with a quarrelsome wife."



My Guy stop Enduring Foolishly and Quit the marriage

I don't like this Divorce thing Either but if its the best thing I'd go for it


Stop Enduring what you can't Change ,,,to me she has challenged your authority Enough ... 2captains cant head a Ship




I rest my case.

Guy.. Pardon me, but I think your I.Q is just 003..
You are too dull for my liking..
Well, let me assume that she really used Jazz on you, and that she is a mermaid spirit sent to destroy your life.

sukkot:
listen, all am saying is, this is something that can never fly in hausa or yoruba culture. this OP is either waffi or ndigbo.

Don't say what you are not sure of. I am a waffarian. A typical warri guy would have sent this woman packing after finding out she's cheating on him.

Thank God it's you that is alive telling this story not someone else related to you after your death.
1. The woman (I won't call her your wife cos she isn't) is already dancing on your grave unless you run now!
2. She had always wanted you to lose your job.
3. Runs girls never retire. I mean NEVER!
4. They are thousands of women out there that can make you very happy.
5. Run away! Leave the house the property for her. You'll get another job and another love soon.