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Your marriage has being upside d fro day one,is just that you failed notice till Is late bu n too late.

orezimena28:
@ op I just have this few advice for you.
In as much as I don't support hitting your wife, and divorce but it seems your wife has taking you for weakling cos your gentle nature.
1. On a very good day, take your daughter out of the house, probably a relative or friend. Lock up the whole house and give her a very good beating. As in the kind of beating ehn that will reset her brain. Beat her-feed her-beat her again till she will acknowledge that Jesus is Lord!(trust me this one really works, cos I know someone with similar character, she even smokes on top and was really abusive and this was the method her hubby used to format her brain. The hubby even tied her to the bed, slept with her, brought doctor to treat. Infact he dealt with her ehn that it was her that started begging)
2.Cut off her source of weed cos she obviously taking some. Destroy her present sim card and phone.
3. Since you are now jobless, you can join her now in the shop. That way u can monitor her and still support her afterall Husband and Wife can run a business together.
4. Keep praying for her.

Shikenna! My 2 cents advice!

You are the only one that has made sense.....all the others advising op on divorce etc are not sane at all.


@Op pls go with this advice.beat her to a pulp consistently for 3days..tie her up....just feed her with water...after you give her rules....change her phone and take charge of her shop...she will start making accounts and reporting to you...give her curfew...set new rules.......my uncle used to say its weak men that say their wives is stronger than them or gives them trouble.....our ancestors lived peacefully with 4wives sef and had no issues...
You come across as a weakling....you need to reset your marriage...stop all these unnecessary complaints and running to d pastor...it makes u appear weak.....

Wow! I read everything, ur wife has mental problem. U need 2 take ur child & run away 4rm her. U can den divorce her afterwards!

samocholi:
Greetings to u all,please I need a candid advise because am fed up and confused at same time.It all started in 2011 when I met my wife through my collegue in the bank. I used to work in operations and hardly have time to truly search for a wife that is what I thought back then.so I had this collegue of mind who appears responsible and is also a church worker in a responsible church,not all these money making churchs.so I confided in him , so one day he came to me that he has this lady where he normally goes to worship atimes that he will take me to meet her ,that she is God fearing ,a church worker and her father is a pastor in one of the northern states,which he did and introduced us and gradually we started dating,


I even took her to see my parent.to their amazement she woke up around 4am and swept and cleaned the house before we could even wake up for morning prayers.when my Dad saw this he was really please and was like this truly is wife material.but my Mum was like don’t conclude oh as per girls of nowadays that we should keep praying.at first I wanted us to do our traditional marriage in April 2012 and after that white wedding but she started indirectly pressuring me that we should do trad in August and white in November,2011.i thot about it,and with my naïve mind said to myself that since she seems nice and am ready to marry.


I agreed and we got married in 2011.we did both court and church marriage.immediatly we came back from honey moon my life has been one hell of a life or another.it began when my former collegue in the bank sent her sister to bring her cv to me incase we are recruiting so that I can submit for her.so the lady called later to thank me for the assistance and my wife was with me in the sitting room.it was around 7-8pm.after the call my wife started quarreling,that who is that lady calling me that am cheating on her,she went inside the room and brought out our wedding cert.that she will tear it and that we should go our separate ways.i became shocked ,I then told her that she can take the lady’s number or I can call the lady in her presence.that I don’t even know the lady. I did not even have the lady number in my phone,the lady collected my number to follow up and that is all.



I left her with my phones and entered the room.this was happening barely a month and a half after our wedding.as the days go by she started bringing different quarrels and problem.after like a year two month into the marriage,one faithful Friday night after I came back from work and I was fast asleep she woke me up around 11pm that we should talk.and I told her that if we can leave it till morning knowing fully well that the next day was satuday unless if the matter is btw life and death then I can wait.she said it is not btw life and death and was insisting that we talk before I knew it she brought out a knife and wanted to stab me so I manage to collect the knife and threw it into the wordrobe.


By then the sleep in my eyes cleared immediately and I was like what is the matter what is wrong or what wrong have I done to her,my people up till tofday she has not given me an answer.so she stood there speechless so I assume all is well then as I was going tom bed she took one of her high heel and struck me behind my head I fell down and went blank.after a while I woke up and saw her looking at me.so I got up and entered my car with blood all over me to her uncle’s house and showed them and told them what happened.before I continue we live in Abj,so the uncle called her parent and her mum came to Abj the next day.before then I had written and taken my divorce letter to the pastor that am not doing again.


After that the pastor and her people intervened and talked to her. I went to that my colleague that introduced her to me that what does he know about her that I may not know so he said she told him in confidence that she was in cult in the university and that her boyfriend then was the capon.she also told him that the boy friend was shot in school then and died in her arms.when I confronted her she down played everything and wanted to pick a quarrel,so that one died down.


Before I continue,am a banker ,and my wife has a boutique that she sells men wears in Abj. She hardly laughs but b4 we got married she was always laughing.i havs severally asked her what the matter is but she will say it is nothing. Before now I did not know that my wife is a runs girl,after our baby’s birth in Dec 2012 my wife went and did family planning without my consent,it was in the evening when the stuf started disturbing her that I got to know. In August last year that is 2014,I was watching news when she came back by 9:30pm,she started making it a habit of coming late in 2014 and that has caused serious quarrel btw us. So when she came in she droped her phone on the center table and went inside to take her shower.as I was watching the television I now said let me go through her gallery because she likes taking pictures.after that I now checked her messages.i was shocked what I saw.

She sent a text to a married man,saying that she cursed him with the sperm he pured inside her and the man said it was mutual that she is the one came to his house to collect money for the shoes and shirts he bought,he also said he will curse her with his children’s life that she is not the only one that has a child and insisted that it was mutual.at that point my hands started shaking and before I know I she jumped out of the bathroom with soap on her body to take her phone.immediatly she came to the sitting room and saw me with her phone she frozed for like 15seconds not knowing what to say after that I asked her who is the man and she said that I was one of her friends from owerri that used her phone to chat the man.

when I checked the chat history it was not just one day chat it spans four days becos the chat was very lengthy. So I was pissed off, I reported the issue to the pastor where we got married and he down play it that she cannot do such a thing..
My wife has quarreled with all my neighbours in my compound of 8 flat,she has also quarreled with our security guards at the gate to the extent that they have refused to wash her car.On 25 of dec 2014 after returning from the church my wife spreed her cloth under the sun and my neighbour’s puppy came and played with the cloth and tore part of it.the next day she went to tell then but she did not grt a good response so she went behind and boiled hot water and pured on the puppy. My neighbor’s wife went and call police for her the next day being Sunday.but their aim is to keep her in cell till Monday to teach her a lesson.unknown to them my uncle is a top police officer so I called him and we were able to bail her putting Monday date.since then small thing my wife will start saying things that she is suspecting me , that am having am affair.i now told her how,she now said a man that does not drink alcohol and does not smoke will surely womanise.i then asure her that I have done nothing of such.and truly since I married her four years ago I have never looked at any woman aside her.

To cut a long stry short,February this year as usual during valentine I to her to a shop and asked her to pick whatever she wants.then she picked cloths and shoes worth 70k and I paid. After that February ending I usually give her 50k for upkeep so tha day I had keep the 50k but there was a plumbing problem that I had to take 5k out of it to solve so I gave her 45k promising to bring the balance home or I credit her,and that faithful morning we were having a meeting in which a top official is coming from head office and my head of operations was nor around so I was sitting in for her.

so I asked my wife to help me take our daughter to sch that day as I have to rush to the office b4 time. After giving my wife the 45k she threw it on the floor that it is not enough and started insulting me that what kind of useless job is that ,unknown to me she had gone and locked the entrance door and taken the key,as I was about to go out I discovered that the door was lock,so I called her aunte to talk to her,as she was on the phone with the aunt I went through the back door. As I was about to drive out I saw my wife rushing to close the gate with only pant and singlet,I mean pant and singlet not bump hort or rapper.i was surprise,but before she could close the gate I had already passed she now took a big stone and stared running after the car.
she threw the stone at my suv ,it sounded like a bomb very loud.at first I did not know what happened untill I saw her running towards the car so I stoped,she now came held my side mirrow and started breaking it so I had to drive off. I was devasted and could not make it to work,so I called someone in the office that I won’st be able to make it to the office that am having some issues at home.


She went back to the house and called my Dad that if I come back she will kill me.so my Dad called me and I explained to him immediately what happened. so he said I should not go back home that day, I went and slept in a hotel In town .so the next day her mum came and I went home.Now it is not that am afraid of her but because I respect women and will not want to beat ofr fight her,I am far biger and taller than her if I decide to cough she will vanish so is not that am afraid of her am only respecting the marriage institution. When I got home the second day to resume work the third day I discovered that she had tore all my cloths,my shirt both office and casuals,all my suit including my wedding suit,.so I had nothing to wear the next day.so I missed work wednesdy,Thursday and Friday,during all these happening I have been in touch with my office and told them am having some family issues and could not make it to work.



I resumed the next Monday to work and everything seem to be going well, then on Tuesday I got a sack letter from human resources of the bank.unkonwn to me. the new manager that was posted to my branch got a querry for myself and the head of operations not being around for the initial meeting. so he was angry and he wrote to the bank’s human resources and when they checked that I was not logged on for the three days I was sacked,all because of my wife.most times she sends abusive texts messages to me while in the office.For instance if am attending to customers and she is calling and I did not pick on time she will now send a nasty text that I delibertly don”t want to pick her calls.i have even told her to come and see how we work in my office.so since march am yet to get any serious thing to do.
I January I had 2.5m I paid our rent 1m and part pay for a land 1m and the remaining 500k lasted us from march till june.as usual with banks I was not paid anything.so when my savings finished in june the major financial burden fell on her,with little coming from me now.Since then my wife has made my life a living hell with all sorts of insult. For example in November,there was nothing in the house so she went to southern fries and bought rice and chicken for herself,then bought a watery oha soup with out meat that I should make garri and eat with it.it was when I wanted to microwave it that I discovered that it was watery and has no meat.i did not say anything.


Most times I stay back at home unless I have an appointment or an interview just not to spend unnecessary .so I was checking one of the cupboard in our room and I saw somethings she got from a native doctor,they include a bottle of concosion with the label witches and wizards destroying oil,the second one was two of her bathing soap with burnt candle on it when I looked at the soap closely I saw small cross buried inside,the third thing I saw was the complimentary card of the native doctor.All these things I just mentioned are real and I have their pictures that I snapped.i picked them and went to her uncle’S place to show him and he was mad,he immediately called her parent to come to Abj immediately and I called my parent to come becos I told them I don’t want the marriage again. Both parties came and the meeting lasted from 5pm to 12 mid nite and continued again the next day.

she could not defend her sellf and I said am not doing again and everyone started beging that I should give her one more chance.and it seems the issues was resolved.i started my investigation and discovered that unknown to me my wife is a runs girl even b4 I married her and after marriage she continued .that is why she went and did family planning without my knowledge so that she can be sleeping with me with out condom.and this days she dresses sugestivly.i have reported to the pastor ,her parent about her dressing but she has not changed.presently she is fighting with a lady in her former church the lady is a leader in the church.she said the lady has been attacking her in the dream and anytime they lady sees her the lady calls her prostitute.She told me that the lady is sleeping with her pastor.My wife has bad mouth and insult at every provocation,she hadly laughs always moody but when some kind of men call her she will be laughing as if tomorrow no dey.

Today being Christmas as we were preparing to go to church,she was noW feeding our daughter who just turned 3 last week.becos the baby was being slow to eat she started shouting that if the baby does not eat quikly that she will injure her.when I heard that I came and told her that such statement to a baby is not good,I have cautioned her severally not to be telling the baby that she will injure her.because there was a day I was playing with our baby and the baby was telling me that she will injure me.so becos of that I cautioned her.that was all,instead of her to take corrections she started insulting me.that am useless,that the whole burden is on her that she regrets marrying me.that she will surprise me one of these days.


My dear brothers and sisters in the house especially the married ones I frankly need ur candid advise as I am tired of her ,her bad and unrepentant character and her evil ways but am only looking at the term Christian marriage in terms of divorce as I ultimately want to make heaven just as every one.

Thank u for taking ur time to go through my ordeal.

you are the man of the house u shouldnt live simply because of ur wife wild life. consider ur daughter and pray unto God. till death do u part i surgest u roll like the man God created u to be, fear not. she should leave not u but keep fighting cause love is crazy

agabaI23:
YOU'RE WRONG. The day he touches her is the day she will kill him when he recovers from the beating.

Trust that her cultist boyfriend that died would have been beating her 100%. This kind of girls don't need soft hand. Na better kpo kpo. She go maintain! Op no get hand to kill her too? Match her FIRE for FIRE! Give her close marking! Give belle join sef!

Jaguda sef dey get Oga!!!

Tallesty1:
I didn't read all but I learnt from the little I read that the op is dealing with a woman who was an ex cultist, a runs girl, and a husband beater.



And e be like say she get personal native doctor because she get plenty jazz for cupboard too.

You captured my thoughts exactly.Op,you have to end this marriage please.

Joel3:
even when I am concluding not to get married, seeing this post and reading from up to down it only gives me more assurance that I had always been right.

in my dictionary marriage is the biggest scam in 21st century. very soon in 22nd century it will be too obvious and clear to all. I need no marriage neither do I need a kid.

just me only after all the world is full of nonsense. I am fed up and tired. their is no meaning we all will die. and here comes tales of hell fire. so I don't want to bring anybody to this world to suffer in any form. enjoy and while it last. good bye.

your convictions about marriage is a normal way of life for many Europeans because they are reflective and developed in thinking unlike us here with complete culture of ignorance. like imagine how this bright young man has destroyed his life because of one yeye institution called marriage? and see how the hopeless pastors urge him on to stay in the marriage because they believe no person can live without a partner, and this OP is actually one maga of the highest order

misspicy:
Catlova come and see wife material

Where?

@samocholi, u admitted d mistake already, it was she succeeding in hurrying up the marriage process. The runs part of it is the most disturbing of all. She might even pass those traits down to your child easily if the runs thing isn't checked.

Bros I swear you no get family at ALL...... Religion is a course to Africa..... Well I am 100% sure this story is fabricated or too much Maggi added but if the story is true Nigga you are suffering from the following

1. Family Problem: Bros you don't have a good mother or father, because no parent will read the first to third paragraph of this tale and not call for divorce imidiatly.

2. Religion Problem: Bros your pastor no even want make you progress... you are saying "I don't want to go to hell" and you are living in one big hell already as in HELL.

3. Psychological Problem: Bros your brain dey very short, after you family and pastor settle the issue finish, shey them dey follow dey with her for house (It's just like leaving you to say with a trained Serpent)

bros make I no yarn too much make your wife no take my matter personal.... because I learnt she works with Wi-Fi.

Safe Bros my short advice is RUN as in Fly..

Ur wife is sick .....ur in laws are selfish .....ur pastor(s) is/are not considerate...BUT U SEE UR PARENTS? I DONT WANA BE RUDE TO THEM.

My brother, love your wife. Marriage na for better for worst.

Sam you never had a marriage.... If you divorce her, she will kill you. The first thing to do is stop communication with that friend that introduced her to you. Secondly you start picking quarrels with her, do not let her start the quarrel, start it instead. She presumes you weak that's why she treats you like shit. I have experience with girls like that. Once you start being the man and treating her like a hoe and nothing else she will start respecting you. One day take your daughter out to your parents house then go to her shop unannounced and start raving like a mad man and tell her if in front of everyone there that if you don't see her at home before 6pm she will hate ever marrying you. Tell her you have been trying to be a gentleman but since she was wants to see the madness in you that you have buried she should try you. Bro if she no come house by 6pm just throw all her load outside and lock your down. Anytime she comes back make sure say she know you dey inside house but no open door. From that day she go start to melo. You don't need to hit someone to be dominant, you just need to put fear in their mind. Tell her she should go to the man's house she is coming from and if you ever see her near your house, she go know say you worst pass devil. If na you open the boutique for am then carry police lock the place up. I swear she will come back begging, better no accept because na pretence. Once you have shown your dominance side then divorce her.. she will be scared to try and harm you.

samocholi:
Thank u for taking ur time to go through my ordeal.

sorry sir, let me ask u a question,

ARE YOU A FOOL?

as in
ARE YOU MAD?

[b][/b] i will advise u run for ur dear life
divorce her asap

Ok it's obvious she will never change....endure till u get a good job or u can get some money then carry ur child and relocate to somewhere she can never trace u....then u can start fighting the battle spiritually cuz she will definitely come for u....all will be well

Mumu, what is ur contribution and ur summerizing.

Tallesty1:
I didn't read all but I learnt from the little I read that the op is dealing with a woman who was an ex cultist, a runs girl, and a husband beater.



And e be like say she get personal native doctor because she get plenty jazz for cupboard too.

Closedoor:
Sam you never had a marriage.... If you divorce her, she will kill you. The first thing to do is stop communication with that friend that introduced her to you. Secondly you start picking quarrels with her, do not let her start the quarrel, start it instead. She presumes you weak that's why she treats you like shit. I have experience with girls like that. Once you start being the man and treating her like a hoe and nothing else she will start respecting you. One day take your daughter out to your parents house then go to her shop unannounced and start raving like a mad man and tell her if in front of everyone there that if you don't see her at home before 6pm she will hate ever marrying you. Tell her you have been trying to be a gentleman but since she was wants to see the madness in you that you have buried she should try you. Bro if she no come house by 6pm just throw all her load outside and lock your down. Anytime she comes back make sure say she know you dey inside house but no open door. From that day she go start to melo. You don't need to hit someone to be dominant, you just need to put fear in their mind. Tell her she should go to the man's house she is coming from and if you ever see her near your house, she go know say you worst pass devil. If na you open the boutique for am then carry police lock the place up. I swear she will come back begging, better no accept because na pretence. Once you have shown your dominance side then divorce her.. she will be scared to try and harm you.

Ur head is there bro... What i had in mind

Closedoor:
Sam you never had a marriage.... If you divorce her, she will kill you. The first thing to do is stop communication with that friend that introduced her to you. Secondly you start picking quarrels with her, do not let her start the quarrel, start it instead. She presumes you weak that's why she treats you like shit. I have experience with girls like that. Once you start being the man and treating her like a hoe and nothing else she will start respecting you. One day take your daughter out to your parents house then go to her shop unannounced and start raving like a mad man and tell her if in front of everyone there that if you don't see her at home before 6pm she will hate ever marrying you. Tell her you have been trying to be a gentleman but since she was wants to see the madness in you that you have buried she should try you. Bro if she no come house by 6pm just throw all her load outside and lock your down. Anytime she comes back make sure say she know you dey inside house but no open door. From that day she go start to melo. You don't need to hit someone to be dominant, you just need to put fear in their mind. Tell her she should go to the man's house she is coming from and if you ever see her near your house, she go know say you worst pass devil. If na you open the boutique for am then carry police lock the place up. I swear she will come back begging, better no accept because na pretence. Once you have shown your dominance side then divorce her.. she will be scared to try and harm you.

This might work too...but remember say na cult girl dem no dey fear anything

Interesting story. Divorce is the answer, take her to court.

Na Wa Ooo!!!

The story is larger than life.

After reading the entire story with details ringing in my head.
I therefore state that you are very very stupid and foolish to still be in that marriage.
and if you still there as i am typing this, you would have earned yourself an award of been the most stupid man on earth.

get outtttttttttttttttttttt fastttttttttttttttttttttttttt!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Hmmmmmmmmm, my brother. It is well oooooo, pls see pastor Daniel oluwasun of living faith church Gwarimpa Estate, seventh Avenue. He is an expert in such cases, just tell him, his son Charles drummer, asked you to see him. God bless you sir.

Tallesty1:
You don't value your life bro

Honestly, I doubt the story, sounds like HINTS MAGAZINE.

Greetings bor, i hail ur gift of endurance as its stands a virtue, but the thing here is, you have to leave that marriage as swift as you can. From what i see, she might still come after you one way or another but leave. Divorce now!!! Then go for deliverance. This might also be a right time to beat the gutter out of her for once...... It works sometimes.

I'm speechless. You are such a nice person if the story is true. A great philosopher said don't raise your hand on any woman but if you must do don't bring it down if not she will take it as a simple threat. Pls run for your dear life. So you can smile. And the next step you take you will see your self as a happy man. Go your seperate ways. If not the worst is yet to happen. The devil has many ways. Know that your wife don't love you. At least for the sake of luv there are things you won't do. My dear you can succeed or go far in life if you have such person. Pls pray and then talk to your self. You will make a good decision.

crackhouse:
like he said, he want to make heaven and u cannot make heaven when u are still alive. He want to die before making heaven and that's why he is still there.

I like sarcasm.

samocholi:
Greetings to u all,please I need a candid advise because am fed up and confused at same time.It all started in 2011 when I met my wife through my collegue in the bank. I used to work in operations and hardly have time to truly search for a wife that is what I thought back then.so I had this collegue of mind who appears responsible and is also a church worker in a responsible church,not all these money making churchs.so I confided in him , so one day he came to me that he has this lady where he normally goes to worship atimes that he will take me to meet her ,that she is God fearing ,a church worker and her father is a pastor in one of the northern states,which he did and introduced us and gradually we started dating,


I even took her to see my parent.to their amazement she woke up around 4am and swept and cleaned the house before we could even wake up for morning prayers.when my Dad saw this he was really please and was like this truly is wife material.but my Mum was like don’t conclude oh as per girls of nowadays that we should keep praying.at first I wanted us to do our traditional marriage in April 2012 and after that white wedding but she started indirectly pressuring me that we should do trad in August and white in November,2011.i thot about it,and with my naïve mind said to myself that since she seems nice and am ready to marry.


I agreed and we got married in 2011.we did both court and church marriage.immediatly we came back from honey moon my life has been one hell of a life or another.it began when my former collegue in the bank sent her sister to bring her cv to me incase we are recruiting so that I can submit for her.so the lady called later to thank me for the assistance and my wife was with me in the sitting room.it was around 7-8pm.after the call my wife started quarreling,that who is that lady calling me that am cheating on her,she went inside the room and brought out our wedding cert.that she will tear it and that we should go our separate ways.i became shocked ,I then told her that she can take the lady’s number or I can call the lady in her presence.that I don’t even know the lady. I did not even have the lady number in my phone,the lady collected my number to follow up and that is all.



I left her with my phones and entered the room.this was happening barely a month and a half after our wedding.as the days go by she started bringing different quarrels and problem.after like a year two month into the marriage,one faithful Friday night after I came back from work and I was fast asleep she woke me up around 11pm that we should talk.and I told her that if we can leave it till morning knowing fully well that the next day was satuday unless if the matter is btw life and death then I can wait.she said it is not btw life and death and was insisting that we talk before I knew it she brought out a knife and wanted to stab me so I manage to collect the knife and threw it into the wordrobe.


By then the sleep in my eyes cleared immediately and I was like what is the matter what is wrong or what wrong have I done to her,my people up till tofday she has not given me an answer.so she stood there speechless so I assume all is well then as I was going tom bed she took one of her high heel and struck me behind my head I fell down and went blank.after a while I woke up and saw her looking at me.so I got up and entered my car with blood all over me to her uncle’s house and showed them and told them what happened.before I continue we live in Abj,so the uncle called her parent and her mum came to Abj the next day.before then I had written and taken my divorce letter to the pastor that am not doing again.


After that the pastor and her people intervened and talked to her. I went to that my colleague that introduced her to me that what does he know about her that I may not know so he said she told him in confidence that she was in cult in the university and that her boyfriend then was the capon.she also told him that the boy friend was shot in school then and died in her arms.when I confronted her she down played everything and wanted to pick a quarrel,so that one died down.


Before I continue,am a banker ,and my wife has a boutique that she sells men wears in Abj. She hardly laughs but b4 we got married she was always laughing.i havs severally asked her what the matter is but she will say it is nothing. Before now I did not know that my wife is a runs girl,after our baby’s birth in Dec 2012 my wife went and did family planning without my consent,it was in the evening when the stuf started disturbing her that I got to know. In August last year that is 2014,I was watching news when she came back by 9:30pm,she started making it a habit of coming late in 2014 and that has caused serious quarrel btw us. So when she came in she droped her phone on the center table and went inside to take her shower.as I was watching the television I now said let me go through her gallery because she likes taking pictures.after that I now checked her messages.i was shocked what I saw.

She sent a text to a married man,saying that she cursed him with the sperm he pured inside her and the man said it was mutual that she is the one came to his house to collect money for the shoes and shirts he bought,he also said he will curse her with his children’s life that she is not the only one that has a child and insisted that it was mutual.at that point my hands started shaking and before I know I she jumped out of the bathroom with soap on her body to take her phone.immediatly she came to the sitting room and saw me with her phone she frozed for like 15seconds not knowing what to say after that I asked her who is the man and she said that I was one of her friends from owerri that used her phone to chat the man.

when I checked the chat history it was not just one day chat it spans four days becos the chat was very lengthy. So I was pissed off, I reported the issue to the pastor where we got married and he down play it that she cannot do such a thing..
My wife has quarreled with all my neighbours in my compound of 8 flat,she has also quarreled with our security guards at the gate to the extent that they have refused to wash her car.On 25 of dec 2014 after returning from the church my wife spreed her cloth under the sun and my neighbour’s puppy came and played with the cloth and tore part of it.the next day she went to tell then but she did not grt a good response so she went behind and boiled hot water and pured on the puppy. My neighbor’s wife went and call police for her the next day being Sunday.but their aim is to keep her in cell till Monday to teach her a lesson.unknown to them my uncle is a top police officer so I called him and we were able to bail her putting Monday date.since then small thing my wife will start saying things that she is suspecting me , that am having am affair.i now told her how,she now said a man that does not drink alcohol and does not smoke will surely womanise.i then asure her that I have done nothing of such.and truly since I married her four years ago I have never looked at any woman aside her.

To cut a long stry short,February this year as usual during valentine I to her to a shop and asked her to pick whatever she wants.then she picked cloths and shoes worth 70k and I paid. After that February ending I usually give her 50k for upkeep so tha day I had keep the 50k but there was a plumbing problem that I had to take 5k out of it to solve so I gave her 45k promising to bring the balance home or I credit her,and that faithful morning we were having a meeting in which a top official is coming from head office and my head of operations was nor around so I was sitting in for her.

so I asked my wife to help me take our daughter to sch that day as I have to rush to the office b4 time. After giving my wife the 45k she threw it on the floor that it is not enough and started insulting me that what kind of useless job is that ,unknown to me she had gone and locked the entrance door and taken the key,as I was about to go out I discovered that the door was lock,so I called her aunte to talk to her,as she was on the phone with the aunt I went through the back door. As I was about to drive out I saw my wife rushing to close the gate with only pant and singlet,I mean pant and singlet not bump hort or rapper.i was surprise,but before she could close the gate I had already passed she now took a big stone and stared running after the car.
she threw the stone at my suv ,it sounded like a bomb very loud.at first I did not know what happened untill I saw her running towards the car so I stoped,she now came held my side mirrow and started breaking it so I had to drive off. I was devasted and could not make it to work,so I called someone in the office that I won’st be able to make it to the office that am having some issues at home.


She went back to the house and called my Dad that if I come back she will kill me.so my Dad called me and I explained to him immediately what happened. so he said I should not go back home that day, I went and slept in a hotel In town .so the next day her mum came and I went home.Now it is not that am afraid of her but because I respect women and will not want to beat ofr fight her,I am far biger and taller than her if I decide to cough she will vanish so is not that am afraid of her am only respecting the marriage institution. When I got home the second day to resume work the third day I discovered that she had tore all my cloths,my shirt both office and casuals,all my suit including my wedding suit,.so I had nothing to wear the next day.so I missed work wednesdy,Thursday and Friday,during all these happening I have been in touch with my office and told them am having some family issues and could not make it to work.



I resumed the next Monday to work and everything seem to be going well, then on Tuesday I got a sack letter from human resources of the bank.unkonwn to me. the new manager that was posted to my branch got a querry for myself and the head of operations not being around for the initial meeting. so he was angry and he wrote to the bank’s human resources and when they checked that I was not logged on for the three days I was sacked,all because of my wife.most times she sends abusive texts messages to me while in the office.For instance if am attending to customers and she is calling and I did not pick on time she will now send a nasty text that I delibertly don”t want to pick her calls.i have even told her to come and see how we work in my office.so since march am yet to get any serious thing to do.
I January I had 2.5m I paid our rent 1m and part pay for a land 1m and the remaining 500k lasted us from march till june.as usual with banks I was not paid anything.so when my savings finished in june the major financial burden fell on her,with little coming from me now.Since then my wife has made my life a living hell with all sorts of insult. For example in November,there was nothing in the house so she went to southern fries and bought rice and chicken for herself,then bought a watery oha soup with out meat that I should make garri and eat with it.it was when I wanted to microwave it that I discovered that it was watery and has no meat.i did not say anything.


Most times I stay back at home unless I have an appointment or an interview just not to spend unnecessary .so I was checking one of the cupboard in our room and I saw somethings she got from a native doctor,they include a bottle of concosion with the label witches and wizards destroying oil,the second one was two of her bathing soap with burnt candle on it when I looked at the soap closely I saw small cross buried inside,the third thing I saw was the complimentary card of the native doctor.All these things I just mentioned are real and I have their pictures that I snapped.i picked them and went to her uncle’S place to show him and he was mad,he immediately called her parent to come to Abj immediately and I called my parent to come becos I told them I don’t want the marriage again. Both parties came and the meeting lasted from 5pm to 12 mid nite and continued again the next day.

she could not defend her sellf and I said am not doing again and everyone started beging that I should give her one more chance.and it seems the issues was resolved.i started my investigation and discovered that unknown to me my wife is a runs girl even b4 I married her and after marriage she continued .that is why she went and did family planning without my knowledge so that she can be sleeping with me with out condom.and this days she dresses sugestivly.i have reported to the pastor ,her parent about her dressing but she has not changed.presently she is fighting with a lady in her former church the lady is a leader in the church.she said the lady has been attacking her in the dream and anytime they lady sees her the lady calls her prostitute.She told me that the lady is sleeping with her pastor.My wife has bad mouth and insult at every provocation,she hadly laughs always moody but when some kind of men call her she will be laughing as if tomorrow no dey.

Today being Christmas as we were preparing to go to church,she was noW feeding our daughter who just turned 3 last week.becos the baby was being slow to eat she started shouting that if the baby does not eat quikly that she will injure her.when I heard that I came and told her that such statement to a baby is not good,I have cautioned her severally not to be telling the baby that she will injure her.because there was a day I was playing with our baby and the baby was telling me that she will injure me.so becos of that I cautioned her.that was all,instead of her to take corrections she started insulting me.that am useless,that the whole burden is on her that she regrets marrying me.that she will surprise me one of these days.


My dear brothers and sisters in the house especially the married ones I frankly need ur candid advise as I am tired of her ,her bad and unrepentant character and her evil ways but am only looking at the term Christian marriage in terms of divorce as I ultimately want to make heaven just as every one.

Thank u for taking ur time to go through my ordeal.

Yes ooOh...You sound like a baby in a cradle,am in support of what your wife is doing to you #Nonsense&Ingredient

When you marry the right woman, you're COMPLETE but
when you marry the wrong woman, you're FINISHED.
I told French President about your problems, his advice is " filee divorcee immediatelee "

takoi:
U need to move on. If this story is true, that woman does not have any business raising a child. By d way, u don't have to fear for ur faith, infidelity is a huge criteria for divorce in the church.

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