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Caveatemptor:
For your information that was a proverb,read carefully and comprehend. It means she is not married but is trying to teach a happily married couple how to run their home.
My friend the figures that come after figure 6 are more than 7. What works for each couple varies just like the weather. The OP should go and get married and then run her own home as she likes. In her brothers home she is an intruder. Simple.

2sex:
Some people say the wife is the bread winner... My Aunt was the bread winner till her husband died about 3 years ago. I never saw where she sent the man on errand, not for once.

I know for sure I can't handle such...

Pidggin:
When I went to spend time with my elder brother and his family, I noticed the kids were very close to him, in fact much closer to him than to their mother. After a while, I discovered why, it is because he is involved with the kids, he helps out as much as he can and I was surprised to see him even change his baby's diapers. OP, It seems you are not too happy that your SIL is enjoying her marriage? If a man doesn't help at home, you will complain, if he does, you will say his wife is using him. I really hope your brother has your medicine.

Acidosis:
OP asked a wrong question.

I'm not surprised to see the volume of attack you received.

What you should have asked is whether men would accept such from their wives; and whether wives would treat their husbands as errand boys.


I personally won't accept such from anyone. Cooking for my sister-in-law? Washing her plates? Serving her pottage? Running to the shop to get her materials and arranging yam in a sack so she can take to her boyfriend's hostel in school, while She (sis in-law) and my wife sit to gossip and watch me (the romantic errand boy) fool myself around the home.

You can help a sis-in-law get food stuffs, if you're mobile, you can drive and assist with whatever she wants, but doing this concurrently with cooking, and serving food? Ewwwwww!!

As regards your brother, I think its best you ignore him. If he enjoys running errands for a bossy lady, why not? It's his dream and divine calling. What I don't know is whether the call/dream is from Satan or from Devil, but its certainly not from God.

God's purpose for MEN has not changed. Globalization, Westernization, Colonization and Americanization can never change divination.

In summary, ignore your brother!

bennyrazz:
@oyind17, he is your brother and when you see things are going wrong in his marriage, you have every right to intervene indirectly. But the kind of intervene you will do is through intercessory prayers. Keep praying for your brother and if possible ask some pastors to pray for him too. His wife might be the one financing the home at the moment and maybe she calls the shots. You have to find out his financial status first, if he has no money, intercede through prayers for financial breakthrough. If he is financially capable and he is turned into a houseboy in his own home, then the prayers will have to be serious.

Oyind17:
That is Nl for you

2sex:
lol... you don't need to tell. What I saw in a similar thread is enough. Just like you, they tagged the other one jobless. Families are different and if what I see on this family section is anything to go, I must say not many are well bonded while growing up... little wonder they use words such as "intruder", "stranger" etc, someone you call your own BLOOD. But if anything evil (God forbid) happens tomorrow and you never showed up or take care of your brother, the same people who termed you "stranger", "intruder" etc would call you heartless abi? They would suddenly expect a "stranger" and "intruder" to come and do "somethings" lol

Do your best while you can. It's left to your brother to heed or ignore. If he listens, good if he doesn't also good. At least your conscience would be free that you made an effort.

Oyind17:
Thanks, I will modify it now. I have moved on already, like benrazz said I will pray for him if need be.

Oyind17:
Thanks dear, he is d controlling type that felt he knows it all while growing up. God knows I am not trying to break his home but I wish things will change for better.

Oyind17:
Thanks dear, he is d controlling type that felt he knows it all while growing up. God knows I am not trying to break his home but I wish things will change for better.

Miami11:
People have told you to move on, in simple words get a life, find your own man start your own family

He was controlling to your family, apparently he does not like tha anymore, he has grown wiser

Let them be, it's seems like you will never rest until you break their home

Miami11:
People have told you to move on, in simple words get a life, find your own man start your own family

He was controlling to your family, apparently he does not like tha anymore, he has grown wiser

Let them be, it's seems like you will never rest until you break their home

Miami11:
People have told you to move on, in simple words get a life, find your own man start your own family

He was controlling to your family, apparently he does not like tha anymore, he has grown wiser

Let them be, it's seems like you will never rest until you break their home

thelish:
hahahahaha.

oloyede252:
can you turn your husband into a houseboy?if you already have.ur juju strong o

thelish:
Can u turn ur wife into a house girl? if u already have, ur juju thick oo.

Acidosis:
OP asked a wrong question.

I'm not surprised to see the volume of attack you received.

What you should have asked is whether men would accept such from their wives; and whether wives would treat their husbands as errand boys.


I personally won't accept such from anyone. Cooking for my sister-in-law? Washing her plates? Serving her pottage? Running to the shop to get her materials and arranging yam in a sack so she can take to her boyfriend's hostel in school, while She (sis in-law) and my wife sit to gossip and watch me (the romantic errand boy) fool myself around the home.

You can help a sis-in-law get food stuffs, if you're mobile, you can drive and assist with whatever she wants, but doing this concurrently with cooking, and serving food? Ewwwwww!!

As regards your brother, I think its best you ignore him. If he enjoys running errands for a bossy lady, why not? It's his dream and divine calling. What I don't know is whether the call/dream is from Satan or from Devil, but its certainly not from God.

God's purpose for MEN has not changed. Globalization, Westernization, Colonization and Americanization can never change divination.

In summary, ignore your brother!

oloyede252:
this is funny..ok continue..i fear you o.lemme run before you turn me to mumu husband.

lolaluv1:
This makes plenty sense.
And Oyind17, take note of the operative sentence here: "You are an outsider".
Because I'm sure you are getting set to light their peaceful home on fire.

I myself learnt the hard way years ago when I saw my uncle and his wife arguing during a visit. I felt so hurt at the way she insulted him while he was majorly quiet. It was a Saturday, and I was waiting for a suitable occasion to download what I'd seen to my mum (just like you). Though my mum is a peaceful angel sha. She would never interfere. So the downloading would have just been a gist.

But the next day, I heard my uncle proudly talking of how his wife knew him better than anyone in the world and was his best friend. I was like :O

That was how I learnt that when it comes to a couple, you can never tell because you arent with them 24/7. Just mind your own business!

anumide:
the lesson wasn't hard enough jor. I was expecting to read that they broke your head with bottle.

Oyind17:
I went to my elder brother's house for a visit and I lost my peace due to what I saw there.
I didn't call him on phone before going, I knocked and their first son opened the gate for me, when I entered they were eating. Normally the woman was supposed to dish food if they needed more but to my greatest surprise she asked him to dish more, like an obedient servant he went to the kitchen to get more.

About 30 minutes later her younger sister arrived and the wife started sending him all manner of errands, she started with bring yam for Mercy( the name of the girl), he brought the yam and she sent him again to tie the yams together for the girl, I was pissed cos I couldn't believe my brother was doing that.

She later send him to their shop to bring some stuffs for the girl, I left immediately cos I couldn't bear it any longer. The girl is above 20

would you accept such from their wives and to the wives would you treat your husbands as errand boys.

boboLIL:
Mind ur business...or she will also turn you to housegal cos you reason like one

Cutehector:
drn she is the breadwinner!

EfemenaXY:
It's none of your business how they decide to run their marriage. As long as no one is getting hurt, you should respect yourself and stay clear. Leave them alone. Don't be a home wrecker.

Oyind17:
I went to my elder brother's house for a visit and I lost my peace due to what I saw there.
I didn't call him on phone before going, I knocked and their first son opened the gate for me, when I entered they were eating. Normally the woman was supposed to dish food if they needed more but to my greatest surprise she asked him to dish more, like an obedient servant he went to the kitchen to get more.

About 30 minutes later her younger sister arrived and the wife started sending him all manner of errands, she started with bring yam for Mercy( the name of the girl), he brought the yam and she sent him again to tie the yams together for the girl, I was pissed cos I couldn't believe my brother was doing that.

She later send him to their shop to bring some stuffs for the girl, I left immediately cos I couldn't bear it any longer. The girl is above 20

To the men,would you accept such from your wives and to the wives would you treat your husbands as errand boys.

Oyind17:
I went to my elder brother's house for a visit and I lost my peace due to what I saw there.
I didn't call him on phone before going, I knocked and their first son opened the gate for me, when I entered they were eating. Normally the woman was supposed to dish food if they needed more but to my greatest surprise she asked him to dish more, like an obedient servant he went to the kitchen to get more.

About 30 minutes later her younger sister arrived and the wife started sending him all manner of errands, she started with bring yam for Mercy( the name of the girl), he brought the yam and she sent him again to tie the yams together for the girl, I was pissed cos I couldn't believe my brother was doing that.

She later send him to their shop to bring some stuffs for the girl, I left immediately cos I couldn't bear it any longer. The girl is above 20

To the men,would you accept such from your wives and to the wives would you treat your husbands as errand boys.

Oyind17:
Your head dey there, if it is our eldest brother I won't have problem with it but martins? there is something wrong somewhere

boboLIL:
Mind ur business...or she will also turn you to housegal cos you reason like one