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My Brother Is Too Lazy. by Nobody: 12:27am On May 06, 2018
Dear Nairalanders,
I don't even know where exactly to start from, as the issue is so pressing.
I have a brother who is 38 years old now but his behaviours seem to be too inferior to that of a normal under 18 guy. Almost everyone in our family (nuclear) seems to have had enough of his foolish & childish attitudes. As Yoruba adage would say, “Ọmọ ẹni kì í burú títí, ká fi fún ẹkùn pajẹ ” – “One’s child cannot be bad to the extent of throwing him/her to the Leopard to devour”. They now let him be; only praying to God for divine & better transformation. Listed below are some things about him:

1. He is still living with our mother in a house which was built by our elder brother. Although the owner does not live there. He was living at his rented place before the completion of the building & he turned a deaf ear to every advice given to stop him from moving into the house. We all know he'd become more lazy if he does not have to pay for rent any longer.

2. He does not take his job (panel beating) so serious at all. This brother could be so funny; as he would prefer staying home & watching TV shows whenever there's light. On his way to shop, he would sometimes return home if he hears "Up Nepa". He gives customers different excuses on phone.

3. People regret helping him to secure any job as his attitude towards the job would look as if you are only forcing the job on him. I think one's commitment to the work helps to keep the job. How do people help you to keep your job?

4. He has no plan for marriage at all. Well, I have started pitying his future wife because he's not disciplined at all. None of my sisters prays to have his like as a husband. I strongly pray he changes for better before getting married.

5. His eating habit is so disgusting. He lacks table manner too much. Imagine a person of that age licking a leaf after unwrapping moimoigrin. Does being an artisan take manners away? No

6. He loves attending parties. He's the only one, among the siblings, who loves social life beyond normal. He has no savings. Some of his friends are also sick of his unruly attitudes to work. I know many of his friends (co-artisans) who have made it from same work.

Just to mention few,,,,
They have seated him down & talked sense into his ears but he would not heed.
And to himself, he's so wise. What grieves me so much is that he does not seem regretful at all. Apart from people who do not really know him, I think he only has my respect as my elder brother. Please,,,, how do we save him from self-destructive habits?

Maybe PMB is referring to this brother of minecheesy

GrammarNazi1, I hope you do your work here too,,,,grin

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Re: My Brother Is Too Lazy. by consultancy: 12:38am On May 06, 2018
This elder brother na Agbaya ooo grin... I'm sorry, but at 38 years, there is little to nothing anyone can do to make him want to be useful to himself

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Re: My Brother Is Too Lazy. by Nobody: 12:43am On May 06, 2018
Abeg! Panel Beating na work for Nigeria? I personally don't consider that as a job except if I'm misunderstanding what he does for a living.

@38, and that he hasn't done anything meaningful with his life has made him complacent at the level he's at. He's got nothing to loose and cares less about giving meaning to his life. Your bro lacks purpose, motivation, and drive. There are people like him who came to escort others in the world.

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Re: My Brother Is Too Lazy. by IamD18: 12:45am On May 06, 2018
He's a chronic masturbator.

I'll advice you to get him a female friend, so that he'll start comporting and pretending to be sensible whenever he's with the lady.

He has lost focused.

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Re: My Brother Is Too Lazy. by Nobody: 12:50am On May 06, 2018
consultancy:
This elder brother na Agbaya ooo grin... I'm sorry, but at 38 years, there is little to nothing anyone can do to make him want to be useful to himself
If he desires to change, and is motivated, he could change in a space of 5 years and that would put him at 43. Shebi, they said "Life begins at 40". grin

I know he isn't the reading type but who knows; he might decide to read if something captures his attention on the book. I'll suggest op buys him motivational books, get written biography of great minds who started life late and above all, pray for him.

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Re: My Brother Is Too Lazy. by consultancy: 12:59am On May 06, 2018
kimbraa:
If he desires to change, and is motivated, he could change in a space of 5 years and that would put him at 43. Shebi, they said "Life begins at 40". grin

I know he isn't the reading type but who knows; he might decide to read if something captures his attention on the book. I'll suggest op buys him motivational books, get written biography of great minds who started life late and above all, pray for him.
let me start by laughing grin grin.. you need to go bk n read all the OP has written about this his brother. I know people like him, what they wish for is to be landlords, danfo or taxi owners, den sit at home daily while their returns come to them

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Re: My Brother Is Too Lazy. by edoman2016: 4:37am On May 06, 2018
If your 38 years old brother does not work and always stay at home to watch TV, then how does he feed and cloth himself? Definitely, your family is supporting his laziness by providing food, shelter and money for him. Deny him food in the house and he will be forced to work due to severe hunger.

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Re: My Brother Is Too Lazy. by Nobody: 6:58am On May 06, 2018
Brain needs rewiring.


His dopamine exposure levels are alarmingly high. He could beating his JT like every 5 minutes. No reward for actual activities.

Your brother is at risk of becoming as useless as PMB. For now, him and GEJ are at the same spot.
So try to talk to him, boldly, about quitting PMO.

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Re: My Brother Is Too Lazy. by Nobody: 7:21am On May 06, 2018
Those are signals that ones virtues has been used. You may say I'm too spiritual but believe me, that's how he'll continue to be nonchalant about everything in life. He'll be happy all about but nothing tangible will come out of his life until something is done.

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Re: My Brother Is Too Lazy. by Nobody: 7:35am On May 06, 2018
He needs a life changing event to rewire his brain...

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Re: My Brother Is Too Lazy. by Blonchilli(m): 7:53am On May 06, 2018
They say a fool at 40 is a fool forever, 2 years remaining and it's going to be forever. The first step is throwing him out of the house. Nothing like when a man has that sense that he's responsible for his rent and bills because if he stays there he will never help himself and if you guys don't do this he will soon bring a pregnant woman for you people to take care of and a child. Act fast Adegbenro7643

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Re: My Brother Is Too Lazy. by daviesblaze(m): 8:23am On May 06, 2018
make him a bus owner. you can thank me later grin grin

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Re: My Brother Is Too Lazy. by Nobody: 1:22pm On May 06, 2018
Blonchilli:
They say a fool at 40 is a fool forever, 2 years remaining and it's going to be forever. The first step is throwing him out of the house. Nothing like when a man has that sense that he's responsible for his rent and bills because if he stays there he will never help himself and if you guys don't do this he will soon bring a pregnant woman for you people to take care of and a child. Act fast Adegbenro7643
My people are just being cautious so that it won't look as if we all hate him. And you know people can be funny in making rash judgment at times.

Thanks so much for the advice

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Re: My Brother Is Too Lazy. by Nobody: 1:31pm On May 06, 2018
edoman2016:
If your 38 years old brother does not work and always stay at home to watch TV, then how does he feed and cloth himself? Definitely, your family is supporting his laziness by providing food, shelter and money for him. Deny him food in the house and he will be forced to work due to severe hunger.
Nobody feeds him daily, although he has access to kitchen & we aren't that rich to think all is readily provided in the kitchen, so he goes hungry at times. He's a person whose interest is making money for just his daily bread, party & nothing more. No plans for future.

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Re: My Brother Is Too Lazy. by Nobody: 1:33pm On May 06, 2018
daviesblaze:
make him a bus owner. you can thank me later grin grin
Lol,,,,clubbing tinz

That would be the last thing to do for him.

Considering his habits, he could just give the bus out on installmental payment. All will be over when he finally spends the cash.

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Re: My Brother Is Too Lazy. by Nobody: 1:52pm On May 06, 2018
consultancy:
let me start by laughing grin grin.. you need to go bk n read all the OP has written about this his brother. I know people like him, what they wish for is to be landlords, danfo or taxi owners, den sit at home daily while their returns come to them
You are so right.


Na only great great grandparents remain to advise him.
Uncountable family meetings just because of him alone. He would pretend to be changing for better & few weeks later, he returns to his vomits.

I wish he were my younger brotherundecided, I would have enough to say. As it is now, I try to accord him some respect.

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Re: My Brother Is Too Lazy. by Nobody: 1:56pm On May 06, 2018
consultancy:
This elder brother na Agbaya ooo grin... I'm sorry, but at 38 years, there is little to nothing anyone can do to make him want to be useful to himself
You needn't to be sorry. That is what he is. I wish I could say it to his face but it'd be disrespectful because he is not near to slowpokegrin

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Re: My Brother Is Too Lazy. by daviesblaze(m): 2:03pm On May 06, 2018
Adegbenro7643:
Lol,,,,clubbing tinz

That would be the last thing to do for him.

Considering his habits, he could just give the bus out on installmental payment. All will be over when he finally spends the cash.
better still, a 6 month vacation in kikiri prison might help reset his memory grin grin

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Re: My Brother Is Too Lazy. by Nobody: 3:03pm On May 06, 2018
daviesblaze:
better still, a 6 month vacation in kikiri prison might help reset his memory grin grin
Kirikiri bawoundecided

God forbid

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Re: My Brother Is Too Lazy. by sisisioge: 3:44pm On May 06, 2018
grin grin grin grin grin

Who pays the bills in the house? NEPA, food and other maintenance? If he is at least able to pay bills, leave him alone. One day, he would consciously decide once he sees the need for a change.

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Re: My Brother Is Too Lazy. by QuietHammer(m): 4:24pm On May 06, 2018
I'm afraid there is nothing you can do. Some people are just like that.
The only dignifying thing left for him to do is move out of your brother's house.

I'm sure Mahatma Ghandii is his role model

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Re: My Brother Is Too Lazy. by LordKO(m): 5:20pm On May 06, 2018
kimbraa:
Abeg! Panel Beating na work for Nigeria? I personally don't consider that as a job except if I'm misunderstanding what he does for a living.

@38, and that he hasn't done anything meaningful with his life has made him complacent at the level he's at. He's got nothing to loose and cares less about giving meaning to his life. Your bro lacks purpose, motivation, and drive. There are people like him who came to escort others in the world.

We de make arrangement to see if we go appointment you even if na special adviser to the president on charity mata.

Happy Sunday.
Re: My Brother Is Too Lazy. by Nobody: 6:13pm On May 06, 2018
LordKO:


We de make arrangement to see if we go appointment you even if na special adviser to the president on charity mata.

Happy Sunday.

LOL, don't mind me. grin
Happy Sunday too.
Re: My Brother Is Too Lazy. by dominique(f): 10:51pm On May 06, 2018
Some people are naturally like that, nonchalant and without ambition. I'm afraid there's not much you can do about it. Even if he marries and starts the family, all the financial burden wil be on the wife and she won't able to do anything about it except exit the marriage.

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Re: My Brother Is Too Lazy. by oshe11: 10:53pm On May 06, 2018
He has just 2years remaining to become a FOOL AT 40



A wise man once said.....


"No matter how hard or long you shake you diick, the last drop of your piss is for your boxer"

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Re: My Brother Is Too Lazy. by oshe11: 10:53pm On May 06, 2018
OP the way You are complaining ehn......


Are you dragging the house with your elder bro?

Well, he try small to even learn work......
He just needs serious advice from your elder bro(if the probs isnt spiritual)

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Re: My Brother Is Too Lazy. by ipobarecriminals: 10:53pm On May 06, 2018
sad the village pipu want to render him hopeless,worthless,useless,irresponsible .He need help/prayer.take him to CAC Agbara olorun ni gba ni @Egbeda,CCC .

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Re: My Brother Is Too Lazy. by Olukokosir(m): 10:54pm On May 06, 2018
Buhari was right..


One lazy Nigerian youth spotted

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Re: My Brother Is Too Lazy. by linda190(f): 10:54pm On May 06, 2018
Shift abeg........let me faint!! grin grin grin

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Re: My Brother Is Too Lazy. by DIKEnaWAR: 10:55pm On May 06, 2018
This your brother, is his name by any chance Muhammad? ...Muhammad Buhari?

Or Yusuf?...Yusuf Buhari?

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Re: My Brother Is Too Lazy. by Jalubarika(m): 10:55pm On May 06, 2018
Maybe dem don comot him pistil from Village

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Re: My Brother Is Too Lazy. by Deltayankeeboi: 10:55pm On May 06, 2018



COOL STORY BRO

I THINK I REMEMBER THIS STORY FROM A PARTICULAR MOVIE AKI AND SAM
LOCO FEATURED IN.
SAM LOCO WAS A MECHANIC, WAS VERY LAZY AND A SKINNY GLUTTON. .

AKI WAS HIS SON.

BUT IN THIS CASE, I GUESS SOME NOT SO CREATIVE MODIFICATIONS WERE DONE IN THE OP'S SCRIPT.

IMAGINE. . . A MAN LEAVES HIS WORK TO GO WATCH TV AT HOME JUST AT THE SOUND OF "UP NEPA". . .

REALLY NIGGA WAS THAT THE BEST YOU COULD DO, USING YOUR FAMILY MEMBER AS OBJECT OF FUN JUST BECAUSE OF SOME COUPLE OF LIKES AND FRONT PAGE.


WHO ELSE DOES NOT BELIEVE THIS CRAP OR IS IT JUST ME


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