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OP....pele...

People like you is one reason ladies don't feel comfortable having husband's relatives around. Did the husband complained to you. Beside, what are you doing in ur brother's house that made you stayed for a week?.

Askseek:
Lovely, your wife derives joy in doing it does not mean others will. There are probably a few things your wife will not do for you that another man's wife will do for him. The issue for me is not whether she kneels, bends knee or not. The issue why won't you guys mind your business? It's not your home so mind your business. When you get to your house then do what you want with your wife or husband. Is that too hard?

When normality becomes abnormal, it becomes everyone business...

Stop using "mind your business" as smokescreen...

All the issues that has been discussed on this forum since inception has never been any one's business..

Has all the issues u have commented on any of your business?
Why the sudden mind your business on this one?

So even if the uncle is killing his wife he should also mind his business, right?

The young man saw something unusual from his own perspective, the least u should do is to make constructive input, cause u and I know that all the issues that has discussed on this forum has never been our business...

So why the mind your business thing...
This is a public forum, designed for issues of all sorts...

johnson232:
When normality becomes abnormal, it becomes everyone business...

Stop using "mind your business" as smokescreen...

All the issues that has been discussed on this forum since inception has never been any one's business..

Has all the issues u have commented on any of your business?
Why the sudden mind your business on this one?

So even if the uncle is killing his wife he should also mind his business, right?

The young man saw something unusual from his own perspective, the least u should do is to make constructive input, cause u and I know that all the issues that has discussed on this forum has never been our business...

So why the mind your business thing...
This is a public forum, designed for issues of all sorts...

Yes mind your business is applicable in this instance. How a husband and wife interact is not your business. If it bothers him that much with no eyeservice involved why did he not ask his uncle or say something to his uncles wife. No the best way is to put it out here. If he was also talking about his personal business then with all pleasure let's break it down. However he like the other person are just tojubole eyeservice peeps. So when you chase the non-kneeling wife who cooks and makes him happy away, who will he bring to marry his uncle. For a young man that is not married, isn't it cheeky to determine what should or should not occur between husband and wife? And those who are married know one thing, and that is that no two marriages are alike. Lets mind our business when we should and make things that should be our business our business.

Askseek:
Just when you think you have heard it all, another one comes from left field. The other day it was one complaining that her brother was a houseboy because he was helping out his wife, today this one say the woman no kneel down serve food. Y people poke nose in other people's homes I don't know. Mind ya business.

This one is just making up his own stories for attention.

Onegai:


But why is it that people who are holding cap in their hands for favour always want to lord it over others? It's like the more humble your station in life is, the more you feel the need to stand on top of someone's head so you can feel better about yourself. Truly King of the Lions in Ajegunle mentality.

I have a feeling this OP was fuming inwardly that the piece of meat in the meal his uncle's wife gave him was not "befitting", so he also noticed her "disrespect" as well.

Hey I have copyright to that line @ bold
Pay me

Op u kidding right?

This op is high...you better gerrout of that house..and mind your business...

cococandy:
This one is just making up his own stories for attention.

The thing can be annoying, someone will be living in peace with her husband and an agent of the devil will come from nowhere to pour sand in the garri the person is enjoying because the way they live their lives does not meet this imaginary standard they have created. I truly don't blame them. I wonder where they find women with zero self esteem that pander to all their needs without getting anything back beyond "I paid your bride price".

Askseek:
Yes mind your business is applicable in this instance. How a husband and wife interact is not your business. If it bothers him that much with no eyeservice involved why did he not ask his uncle or say something to his uncles wife. No the best way is to put it out here. If he was also talking about his personal business then with all pleasure let's break it down. However he like the other person are just tojubole eyeservice peeps. So when you chase the non-kneeling wife who cooks and makes him happy away, who will he bring to marry his uncle. For a young man that is not married, isn't it cheeky to determine what should or should not occur between husband and wife? And those who are married know one thing, and that is that no two marriages are alike. Lets mind our business when we should and make things that should be our business our business.

What has ever been our business on this forum if I may ask, that we can't resolve within the family and associates unit?

U simply don't support a woman serving her hubby on her kneels without reservations...

Why not disclose your reservations, that is how courageous women act. instead of hiding behind the mind your business wall, while u subtly portray your points...

Because u know most of the issues u have commented on has never been your business..

johnson232:
What has ever been our business on this forum if I may ask, that we can't resolve within the family and associates unit?

U simply don't support a woman serving her hubby on her kneels without reservations...

Why not disclose your reservations, instead of hiding behind the mind your business wall, while u subtly portray your points...

Because u know most of the issues u have commented on has never been your business..

Said it before, she serves on her toes, head I don't really have an opinion on that. It's her husband, her home and that is not really a big deal in my opinion. What is a big deal is people thinking they visit someone for one day, week or two and think they know the home and start to make judgements about whether they are good or bad wives hence the mind your business particularly when the man who married her did not complain. Your wife enjoys doing it does not mean your neighbors wife will love doing it. Stop thinking that all women should be what you want. Not all men also want someone kneeling to give food. Some men serve themselves, some don't. Different strokes and as long as it is not hurting them, MIND YA BUSINESS

Well the OP is obviously looking for who to annoy so don't let it be you.
though there are still foolish people everywhere, I don't think there are those who are still foolish enough demand to be served food while being knelt down to. Not even from their housemaids let alone wives.
Nor do we have wives who have nothing better better to do than kneel down to serve food breakfast lunch and dinner. Odiegwu.
What you see here is his imagination waking up from sleep after a long while being dormant.
Read the bolded.

I can tell you he doesn't even have a girlfriend much less one that kneels down to serve him food and apologizes immediately if she forgets.

donpata:
I knw i will be bashed. Still yet, i no sen. Someone reminded me that this is 21st century; of coz, it is. Thats y marriages struggle to last this days. These are little spices that add beauty to marriages.. My girl does it and the day she 4gets, d kind eye i go look her go make her apologize sharply. Trust me, it's fun. I never meant she shld hit her knee on d ground but just bend am low a bit. many bashing me grew to c their mums doing it. Guys bashing me, una miss Road

Askseek:
The thing can be annoying, someone will be living in peace with her husband and an agent of the devil will come from nowhere to pour sand in the garri the person is enjoying because the way they live their lives does not meet this imaginary standard they have created. I truly don't blame them. I wonder where they find women with zero self esteem that pander to all their needs without getting anything back beyond "I paid your bride price".

cococandy:
Well the OP is obviously looking for who to annoy so don't let it be you.
though there are still foolish people everywhere, I don't think there are those who are still foolish enough demand to be served food while being knelt down to. Not even from their housemaids let alone wives.
Nor do we have wives who have nothing better better to do than kneel down to serve food breakfast lunch and dinner. Odiegwu.
What you see here is his imagination waking up from sleep after a long while being dormant.
Read the bolded.

I can tell you he doesn't even have a girlfriend much less one that kneels down to serve him food and apologizes immediately if she forgets.

True talk, boredom for work dey do me. Usually a silent person on this forum. Thanks

cococandy:
Well the OP is obviously looking for who to annoy so don't let it be you.
though there are still foolish people everywhere, I don't think there are those who are still foolish enough demand to be served food while being knelt down to. Not even from their housemaids let alone wives.
Nor do we have wives who have nothing better better to do than kneel down to serve food breakfast lunch and dinner. Odiegwu.
What you see here is his imagination waking up from sleep after a long while being dormant.
Read the bolded.

I can tell you he doesn't even have a girlfriend much less one that kneels down to serve him food and apologizes immediately if she forgets.

My dear, it still happens ooo.. my roommate during my nysc told me women from their side (urhobo, Delta) serve their husbands food kneeling down. .

Na them sabi..

johnson232:
Why are woman all over this thread....

Are they all scared of kneeling down....

It's simply a sign of respect, not slavery...
My wife derives joy in doing it....
Don't know why those here are grumbling....

Can you please shut up?

Wife ko wife ni

PresVA:
My dear, it still happens ooo.. my roommate during my nysc told me women from their side (urhobo, Delta) serve their husbands food kneeling down. .

Na them sabi..

Each to their own I guess.

daretodiffer:
Can you please shut up?

Wife ko wife ni

How can this ever make a good wife?

No modicum of diplomacy...

I'm proud of my wife, she is decent and respectful, not as abusive, arrogant, disrespectful and senseless as u are...

Silly thing...

johnson232:
How can this ever make a good wife?

No modicum of diplomacy...

I'm proud of my wife, she is decent and respectful, not as abusive, arrogant, disrespectful and senseless as u are...

Silly thing...

You don't have a wife

Yes, I am all of the above

Why are you wondering whether I would be a good wife or not? Do you want to propose to me?

daretodiffer:
You don't have a wife

Yes, I am all of the above

Why are you wondering whether I would be a good wife or not? Do you want to propose to me?

How I wish u can meet her...

My wife is a true definition of pure humility and what a virtuous woman should be and act like...

I recently developed great respect for her when I saw comments of some married women on this forum, most especially comment like yours, devoid of respect and sanity...

I'm not wondering, I know u won't make a good wife, unless u drop this attitude...

Characteristics modesty and diplomacy are part of every good woman, which u obviously lack...

johnson232:
How I wish u can meet her...

My wife is a true definition of pure humility and what a virtuous woman should be and act like...

I recently developed great respect for her when I saw comments of some married women on this forum, most especially comment like yours, devoid of respect and sanity...

I'm not wondering, I know u won't make a good wife, unless u drop this attitude...

Characteristics modesty and diplomacy are part of every good woman, which u obviously lack...

bla bla bla

you do not have a wife

]People like you is one reason ladies don't feel comfortable having husband's relatives around. Did the husband complained to you. Beside, what are you doing in ur brother's house that made you stayed for a week?.[/quote]Walahi,God go butter your bread this year IJN

Pls when you get married, have your wife serve u food carrying the tray of food on her head in kneeling position while u eat off her head. If na absence of kneeling or bending to serve go make the food no digest. Wetin person no go hear for nairaland sef?

To the "mind ur bizness" crew, of coz, i did mind my business and thus never interfered by telling him anything. But this is a discussion forum and anyone can come here to express sentiments. Some claim their husbands prefer going 2 the kitchen to carry their food. To such men, i say "pele". Most of us in this whasapp generation act as if its a new thing in our society. We see elderly men bow a bit as they shake/greet their elders and women bow their knees a bit in like situations.


These extends to situations where u take or give something to an elder or superior/head.. These are things deeply rooted in not just nigerian societies but Africa and the world at large. So ladies, if its so much a problem for u 2 simply bend that stiff knee 2ru some 5° when taking or giving something to your husband or bf, i think u got some humility iss. Id understand if u say its not done in ur place. But that u wont do it cos we ar in d 21st century or cos its "slavery" needs u to rethink. Doing that is another medium of Expressing respect to your hubby/bf. Try it. plus except he says STOP that, which is less likely, keep doing it cos you've just added a spice to the relationship. It's done even in many cultures d world over. "Curtsey" or "knee bowing"-google is our friend.
PS, my visit was to their benefit, not mine. am no parasite. :S
herboshedhe, daretodiffer, cococandy and co, Learn!!

Darling, wait until u are old enough to get married and have gotten married before you speculate on how wives should serve their husbands.

PresVA:
My dear, it still happens ooo.. my roommate during my nysc told me women from their side (urhobo, Delta) serve their husbands food kneeling down. .

Na them sabi..

HIAN!! Forreals?? Papa Baby E just said it's true o! Abeg make I curtsey for Le Hubbs o, I want to go to Antigua or Maldives for holiday this year

I think I've heard of it in traditional Ijebu culture (at least my hopeless sister deployed it when she found out how much her FiL was worth and her hubby yabbed her that she should stop doing eye service )

cococandy:
Hey I have copyright to that line @ bold
Pay me

Did you file copyright documents at the Nigerian Association of copyrights protections? If not, I owe you on N0.50k!

Send me your account details so I can give you your kobo

donpata:
So we were at the parlor discussing and my uncle's wife dropped the food b4 him without bending her knees-yeah u understand how ladies do it nah. i first tot it was an oversight but its over a week naw ive been at their place and i dont c her do that. I believe is wrong as thats a sign of honor to the husband. Ladies of the 21st century, bash me if u like but its wrong to serve a man food without giving him that honor especially if he's older or simply ur husband.

Did he report to you?
Mind your business

Onegai:
Did you file copyright documents at the Nigerian Association of copyrights protections? If not, I owe you on N0.50k!

Send me your account details so I can give you your kobo

i did o. Let me go find the paperwork. So you can pay me in dollars.

cococandy:
i did o. Let me go find the paperwork. So you can pay me in dollars.

My lawyers will be contacting your lawyers shortly

donpata:
So we were at the parlor discussing and my uncle's wife dropped the food b4 him without bending her knees-yeah u understand how ladies do it nah. i first tot it was an oversight but its over a week naw ive been at their place and i dont c her do that. I believe is wrong as thats a sign of honor to the husband. Ladies of the 21st century, bash me if u like but its wrong to serve a man food without giving him that honor especially if he's older or simply ur husband.

My dear op, please when you get married, you can tune your wife to serve you on her knees, remain on her knees till you finish eating and release her, just as you like it.

But for now, kindly mind your business and leave your Uncle and his Wife in peace. Do not cause trouble in another man's home.

Cheers!

donpata:
So we were at the parlor discussing and my uncle's wife dropped the food b4 him without bending her knees-yeah u understand how ladies do it nah. i first tot it was an oversight but its over a week naw ive been at their place and i dont c her do that. I believe is wrong as thats a sign of honor to the husband. Ladies of the 21st century, bash me if u like but its wrong to serve a man food without giving him that honor especially if he's older or simply ur husband.

I pity the women that will end up marrying some of these men here..

So...in this age and time men are still going uppanddaann looking for another full grown adult to kneel and feed them all in the name of marriage and submissiveness to her man?

Are you a child that she has to kneel to feed you? Are you her grandfather or a handicapped man that cannot help and look for ways to make your woman's life easier??

What does any man who loves his woman wholeheartedly wants to do with her kneeling down to feed him every day??

Did any of your younger sisters at home kneel down to feed you as a show of honour to you being their elder brother??

I did not marry my grandfather or father....why do I have to kneel to feed my husband, my friend, my partner in life, the father of my children?

Please you people should reduce the display of stupidity on this site, it's getting too much.

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these girls' eyes are just watching God, na for him hand dem dey.

Nigerian women!