So there is this girl I met around November last year ..and since then things have been going on fine between us. We are so fond of each other .She told me about her exboyfriend too and how he neglected her.There was a day I even brought up her ex's issue,which made her angry.
Fastforward to last week .I popped the big question (u shud know now) But she said she still thinking about it. Just yesterday she confessed to me that the reason behind her not tell me Yes is because She still loves her ex. She even showed me their chat where she was even telling him she love him. Whereas she never even told me for once that she likes me.Even though she can't do without me for a day.
Now the oroblem is am seeing dat guy as a threat .Because she even told me they have agreed to become bestie sef..
Pls sm1 shud help me
Xxxtedyxxx pls come to my aid
Cc: lalasticlala

ayim coming to comment

Chaiii i dey come mah baff first...

Thats a red flag bro.....thank ur stars she's even being sincere with you.

Loving someone who loves another...


Nobody deserves this

If she's still in love with her Ex, that's a bad sign, it means u will have to compete with him truout d relationship, just let her be

Bosville:
Thats a red flag bro.....thank ur stars she's even being sincere with you.

But its like she loves me too .Cos there was a day we had a fight and I ignored her for just two days..she had to beg her friend to talk to me ..when she couldnt contain it again..

iceberylin:
Loving someone who loves another...


Nobody deserves this

Honestly, to me i ll term it "worst feeling ever"

OlufemiOAP:
But its like she loves me too .Cos there was a day we had a fight and I ignored her for just two days..she had to beg her friend to talk to me ..when she couldnt contain it again..

Dont mistake like for love bro....or maybe am wrong though, she might be reserving u for the not so good days.

SMH... una go see sign post of FRIEND ZONE but one nonsense LOVE go push una enter the zone, thinking all is well.
Op the earlier u show her u can't be used, the better. She's using u to PASS TIME.

Make her see reasons to let go...tell her if gee loved her so much like you so he would never have left her...And that she's the only one fighting for what is not there when you two can build something up.

Make her see reasons to cut of the link.

IamLEGEND1:
E be like say na me be that ex.

Bt jst so we're clear,I have no business with that hoe anymore. u fit take over.

lol..ur full name pls..

I dont get why would you choose to be in a loveless relationship?
The girl doesnt want you and even if she marries you she cant love you
and she will be miserable
God give us the strength to walk away

slap her like 20times her head will reboot den u re free to restore urs inside her own


byeee

IamLEGEND1:
E be like say na me be that ex.

Bt jst so we're clear,I have no business with that hoe anymore. u fit take over.

Irony of love. Frndzoning knocking at ur door

Op u cant help her forget
She has to do it when shes ready .. TIME heals
But if u force it ....

Even though she gets with u she will definately cheatn not that her ex would take her back no he prolly do it cuz he can lol
N then wt will happen to u
Very soon she will send u to beg him on her behalf u berra leave her jejely ..

Y don't u talk to her

Ask her wat she really want, cos d way i see it she really loves her ex, nd u r just a friend to her

Nd even though she agrees to go out with you, she might run back to her ex if he comes calling

I won't even advise you to date a girl dat is best friend with her ex, cos deep down in her heart she still have a place for him

myfantasies:
Y don't u talk to her

Ask her wat she really want, cos d way i see it she really loves her ex, nd u r just a friend to her

Nd even though she agrees to go out with you, she might run back to her ex if he comes calling

I won't even advise you to date a girl dat is best friend with her ex, cos deep down in her heart she still have a place for him

u ryt..I even teased her 1 day about going back and she was like she can't go begging him.and all that.but if he likes..

Its very difficult to make someone forget her ex she loved.just continue been sweet,continue been her loving friend,with time she would fall for u.talking from experience.

"If you can't be with the one you love, then, love the one you're with." She's not, so stop messing with her and let her come to you when she's good and ready. When you cut off your attention, she'll crave it even more. Then, hopefully, you'll occupy her thoughts more than the other dude and she'll come after you. If not, good riddance.

quiinnBee:

"If you can't be with the one you
love, then, love the one you're
with."
She's not, so stop messing with
her and let her come to you when she's good and ready. When you
cut off your attention, she'll crave
it even more. Then, hopefully,
you'll occupy her thoughts more
than the other dude and she'll
come after you. If not, good riddance.

The funny part too is dat she complains at any female friend's picture I upload...She gets jealous

OlufemiOAP:
The funny part too is dat she complains at any female friend's picture I upload...She gets jealous

she doesnt want you,yet doesnt want others to have you behaviour of a typical selfish girl.

First things first....
1. Forget about this one particular chick and her hang ups regarding her ex bf.
2. Vow to never get so caught up in any one woman that you feel her presence is necessary.
3. Start focusing on you and your life.
4. Start making your life one that is fun, adventurous, interesting and full of excitement.
5. Notice that while you are living this amazing life people are naturally attracted to you. Especially women.
6. Also notice that all these silly problems regarding Interest level, LJBF, ex bf's, flakiness, magically dissappear. Everyone wants to be in your presence and suddenly YOUR interest level is the sole factor determining your relationships with people.
7. Get out there date more women.
8. Keep them all at a distance until you decide you've found someone REALLY unique and you are ready for a relationship.

OlufemiOAP:
u ryt..I even teased her 1 day about going back and she was like she can't go begging him.and all that.but if he likes..

But if he likes...

Can u imagine such statement, wat makes u think she is not begging him

OP please look for someone else, d sign is already dere dat she is not into u, save urself the heart ache

OlufemiOAP:
lol..ur full name pls..

no be play oh!

Just know say I don teleport from the girl matter.....

bt make I advise you small,just leave that girl coz she go bore the life out of you.

#DazAll

wash her brain with ur blood .and all she will remember is YOU

OlufemiOAP:
But its like she loves me too .Cos there was a day we had a fight and I ignored her for just two days..she had to beg her friend to talk to me ..when she couldnt contain it again..

No she dont she is just confused (knowing ure ready but dont knw if d oda guy wants somtin more dan besties)..my brother pick ur prada pans tip toe comot 4 d relationship oo its very obvious that gal wil accept that guy if he coms back for make up. My bro she get wetin she take they rem dat guy(maybe lovean care,money,or gud bleep(no offense) look for a more serious one not a confused one..hapi new year

It won't be easy but you have to give her space. Tank God she was even truthful to you,just find someone dat luvs u back.
I just hope it won't be when you are over her and find someone that luvs you,she will come and start telling you she wants you back.

Hmmm