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excellentmomma:
Which one passes repugnancy test?

Killing innocent pple to bury one pagan of a king (abobaku things) abi Oro festival rampage,

Killing innocent people everywhere? Answer

This one they are telling you to be responsible or we might make you responsible one day, so you want free wife and free children? Look elsewhere for that abeg.

Madam stop trying to justify it whIle condemning others. The Oro, Abobaku, Osu, Eating of human beings and Sleeping with a corpse none can be considered proper in this modern day (my opinion though).But if you think it is good for your people so be it; but do not justify it and at the same time condemn other people's culture.

I don't believe there is proper definition for GOOD or BAD as what I consider GOOD you may consider it BAD.And your BAD may also be my GOOD.

Life to you is the way you view it and this affect what you consider as GOOD or BAD.

Seems now that the tables are turned and we are not talking celebrities, many are unanimous in their speaking against the baby mama thing.

NOT RIGHT, WHETHER YOU ARE RICH OR OTHERWISE.

That notwithstanding, i think this issue of marrying a corpse is ridiculous, fetish n demonic not to talk of unforgiving on the part of the woman's family in regards to 'what they were to make' in bride price while she was alive.

I think the dead should not kill the living. He should go n bury the corpse ( that's no longer who she is anyway, its but a body). If they object n take d corpse release it.

Bitter pill, but I know she will rather have him pay attention to her children than bickering over such issues with her family.

For those willing to crucify me: Don't forget she was party to this arrangement while alive. She obviously thought little of this BRIDE PRICE COLLECTORS.

Ebonyi and Abia States with their fetishes. I stay far from their ladies.

ckmayoca:
If this is the case then it's wrong? Why wld guys just pick a lady and put at home and then keep fucking morning and night and bearing children, I think this is like a punishment for his foolishness. Boys of now adays with couples life.

And wht are U Boyz or Men of B4 days endtime comment

@ckmayoka

Sware if you dont have a girlfreind or u never Bleep another man's daughter b4?and u r yet to marry. Its this our igbo brothers you will see every club ,even in the village doing other peoples daughter kongi.only to come and justify ur stupid traditions here no wonder the beauty gift of God has turn to business. When u come to our own tradition and u collect bride price money from us .that your yeye daughter Automatic turns our slave ok.not wife again she is our slave and has no entitlment so far in the property or belongings of the man. Mtweeeeew Idiomatic traditions!

SIRKAY98:
Lets assume the woman was alive? And the marital rights are yet to be fulfilled and the children are grown up to become great.will this kind of mess happens ? What i can say is that this is another generation race are mixing with race .your traditions should be adjusted and stop old fashions of traditions ok? How much is the money? I want to pay for the man.but i bet you .that is the last friut you guys will eat of that woman because after all this am rellocation with the children to usa. .

And mind you never call any children bastards .God creats all things in perfectness we only see it as bastards in our own eyes, When the pharises brought that woman that was caught in adultery to Jesus and they were expecting Jesus to castigate the woman .he only said go and sin no more. Love is the Deifination of the 10commandments. That brings all this tradition we are talking about

I cannot argue with you because you seem to think like "a small boy." yes, I can categorically say you are NOT married yet. This is because NO man will be happy living with a lady he has not paid her dowry. It is better to do part of it and not complete it rather than not do at all. A lady will always remind you that you have not paid her dowry because by not paying her dowry it means you have no regards for her self-esteem as a woman, her people, and her convictions.

Back to your assumptions, no man will have "rich kids" and not take money from them to pay his wife's dowry; which man would ever want to be having quarrels with his in-laws? So that assumption CANNOT hold.

Take my advice, don't ever get into this mess...always do the right thing. I love that tradition because it keeps our youths SANE. Well, you can only have a problem with it if you want to marry a woman "free of charge" which does noy happen in Igbo land.

I will leave you here.

SoNature:
I cannot argue with you because you seem to think like "a small boy." yes, I can categorically say you are NOT married yet. This is because NO man will be happy living with a lady he has not paid her dowry. It is better to do part of it and not complete it rather than not do at all. A lady will always remind you that you have not paid her dowry because by not paying her dowry it means you have no regards for her self-esteem as a woman, her people, and her convictions.

Back to your assumptions, no man will have "rich kids" and not take money from them to pay his wife's dowry; which man would ever want to be having quarrels with his in-laws? So that assumption CANNOT hold.

Take my advice, don't ever get into this mess...always do the right thing. I love that tradition because it keeps our youths SANE. Well, you can only have a problem with it if you want to marry a woman "free of charge" which does noy happen in Igbo land.

I will leave you here.

I am married with 3kids but when am to pay my wife's dowry i did pay what was required me .but inwas returned the money aspect as i was told their daughter is not for sale.!,,, what a brilliant family and traditions.

SoNature:
I cannot argue with you because you seem to think like "a small boy." yes, I can categorically say you are NOT married yet. This is because NO man will be happy living with a lady he has not paid her dowry. It is better to do part of it and not complete it rather than not do at all. A lady will always remind you that you have not paid her dowry because by not paying her dowry it means you have no regards for her self-esteem as a woman, her people, and her convictions.

Back to your assumptions, no man will have "rich kids" and not take money from them to pay his wife's dowry; which man would ever want to be having quarrels with his in-laws? So that assumption CANNOT hold.

Take my advice, don't ever get into this mess...always do the right thing. I love that tradition because it keeps our youths SANE. Well, you can only have a problem with it if you want to marry a woman "free of charge" which does noy happen in Igbo land.

I will leave you here.

I am married with 3kids but when am to pay my wife's dowry i did pay what was required me .but the father of my wife called me and returned the money aspect as i was told their daughter is not for sale.!,,, what a brilliant family and traditions.

kelechiodo:
Please sir, they are not overated and dont ever toy that line. The wife's family actually own all the kids as no dowry has been paid. What they did to him was just to give him the leeway to claim the children. Without dowry and no wedding of any sort, then the man is just absolutely childless.

So na 35,000 naira come be bride price. Why can't they ask for amount reasonable considering the plight of the man. They are not even morning their lost daughter, all they are interested in is the money to drink ogogoro and cola nut. The bride price is symbolic, they can as well ask 20,000 naira just to fulfil all righteousness.

mbolajide2010:
Madam stop trying to justify it whIle condemning others. The Oro, Abobaku, Osu, Eating of human beings and Sleeping with a corpse none can be considered proper in this modern day (my opinion though).But if you think it is good for your people so be it; but do not justify it and at the same time condemn other people's culture.

I don't believe there is proper definition for GOOD or BAD as what I consider GOOD you may consider it BAD.And your BAD may also be my GOOD.

Life to you is the way you view it and this affect what you consider as GOOD or BAD.

Olajide, you are the one talking, and I reminded you worse things that your pple do: KILLING innocent pple in the name of culture. Dazzol. These pple don't kill for culture, so you can go ahead and suggest better ways to keep the men in check to make sure they do the right things.

As for me: Tell ur guys to remove killing in their culture, then you repeat your repugnancy test.

If I hadn't reminded you and put this info out in the public, some pple might read all u ofe nmanu comments and think u guys are the saints and others are bad. That's how you commit the worst yet want to label better people as bad. Even in Lagos, they still kill in the name of ORO.

Imagine the trauma he must be facing. That's why its always safer to fulfill ur wife's traditional marriage rites obligations before taking her in than not doing any even if you can't afford expensive church wedding not jus to go with the parents blessings but to avoid such scenario. Though some igbo marital tradition demands alot but its an obligation that must be observed.

Gkemz:
Imagine the trauma he must be facing. That's why its always safer to fulfill ur wife's traditional marriage rites obligations before taking her in than not doing any even if you can't afford expensive church wedding not jus to go with the parents blessings but to avoid such scenario. Though some igbo marital tradition demands alot but its an obligation that must be observed.

My dear, all the things in that list are all shakara, 90% of the men or more don't do all, just take your people as a mark of respect to your inlaws, do the much you can, and go and wed, court wedding is cheap and the most legal sef, even if there is no wedding at all, but so far you went with your pple to her place and did the essentials, nobody will say u didn't marry her. But it's quite irresponsible to cohabit all through. That's what brings up this kind of mess.

olumide81:
Nigerians with cruelty, always taking advantage of a man's problem, while some political aspirants are using the opportunity to sell their candidacy, some family members want to enrich themselves not putting into consideration, the new born babies, the children she left behind , may God bless her soul.

The man started having kids with the woman without paying her bride prize.. Now she is dead through child birth he will pay double if not triple,its a tradition in some Igbo community..next time if he want to remarry he will try and pay the pride prise of that lady ..

SIRKAY98:
@ckmayoka

Sware if you dont have a girlfreind or u never Bleep another man's daughter b4?and u r yet to marry. Its this our igbo brothers you will see every club ,even in the village doing other peoples daughter kongi.only to come and justify ur stupid traditions here no wonder the beauty gift of God has turn to business. When u come to our own tradition and u collect bride price money from us .that your yeye daughter Automatic turns our slave ok.not wife again she is our slave and has no entitlment so far in the property or belongings of the man. Mtweeeeew Idiomatic traditions!

You've been ranting since, I hope your people are not the ones that kill innocent people in the name of culture? Abobaku killing and ORO killing, I think you should start with the condemnation of the Barbaric culture b4 you talk of ones that don't kill to satisfy one pagan culture but says do the right things by marrying our daughter or you may be punished, if the unthinkable happens.

You guys are quick to condemn whereas you commit atrocities in the name of culture and uphold it. Mtcheeeew

This samething happened, it happens to a man in my neigbourhood, the man Was arrested, made to perform some rite n pay some dues then the corpse was released to him. The second case happens to my step brother, the woman died during labor, he was arrested,made to pay huge amount of money, sleep with corpse but his mother step in pay huge money so he will not sleep with corpse. After the rite the spirit of the woman became jealous, interfering in the guys life that they have to perform rite to disengage the spirit from the man. NB never marry a woman from the East without paying her bride price or else it will be a sorry case especially if u re non ibo.

BaddieKay:
How can u carry someone's daughter and keep for ursef without paying bride price?That's the consequences for such Action.

n what's abysmal about that? U carry person pikin dey nack am without marriage. Oya go do am for yoruba land. Rubish.

The truth to this matter is,he did not fufill the traditional rights of marraige....its very important. He should thank his stars that his inlaws are nicer...there are more terrible inlaws...last bullet...when you are ripe for marraige do the right thing please and that includes everything.

Cohabiting with the woman,without performing marriage rites. Now he has the guts to complain abi? Please this is Africa! He should go and do the right thing. shikena!

Cutehector:
Like one female nairalander told me, always know the customs of d wife's hometown before getting married to her

F that, it's EgunMogajis doctrine that matters. They can keep their daughter. I ain't playing that shyte.

excellentmomma:
Olajide, you are the one talking, and I reminded you worse things that your pple do: KILLING innocent pple in the name of culture. Dazzol. These pple don't kill for culture, so you can go ahead and suggest better ways to keep the men in check to make sure they do the right things.

As for me: Tell ur guys to remove killing in their culture, then you repeat your repugnancy test.

If I hadn't reminded you and put this info out in the public, some pple might read all u ofe nmanu comments and think u guys are the saints and others are bad. That's how you commit the worst yet want to label better people as bad. Even in Lagos, they still kill in the name of ORO.

What about the innocent people who are being killed and eaten too in the east ? Are you saying those who are being eaten in the east are criminals? Or are you not aware that human beings are eaten in Igboland?

In all the point is to respect other's people way of life every culture has one or two things other will definitely consider barbaric.

Thank you

ckmayoca:
Was that suppose to be a second marriage or what? Cos the writer started it with husband and wife? Why another marriage after d woman's death?

He was drilling her well without permission. They were not married before she died so they want him to do the needful. Sadly in some cultures too, the man will be denied access to the children cause they belong to the woman's family!
Double wahala for dead body if you ask me.

mbolajide2010:
What about the innocent people who are being killed and eaten too in the east ? Are you saying those who are being eaten in the east are criminals? Or are you not aware that human beings are eaten in Igboland?

In all the point is to respect other's people way of life every culture has one or two things other will definitely consider barbaric.

Thank you

Lolzz, who eats people in the name of culture apart from the olajides? Eh, a prominent ruler like Ooni will die, the abobaku will have to run if not the elders will gather and kill him! Nobody eats humans in the name of culture in Igboland. Criminals kill pple everywhere, but in Igboland our culture doesn't kill anyone so face your barbaric culture first, Abobaku and Oro killings in the name of culture b4 you condemn a culture that merely fines pple for doing the wrong things. Now tell me what has the abobaku done wrong apart from serving his master diligently, at the end his reward is death? I bet you didn't think about this huge log in your eyes b4 you jump out to castigate a pple just living their lives.

If you had known I will expose you like this you would have closed ur mouth.

amicable09:
The adding money is for cutting short the life of their daughter. If she were to remain alive, they know the joy that will feel having their daughter bury them not necessarily to be alive to give them money. The lady should have buried both parents and not die while cohabiting with a man somewhere.

are you saying that the life of the woman was cut short by the man cus he did not perform marriage rites? what an excuse! The woman would have died! married or not!

donbenie:
A wise man does not pass judgement on a case until he hears the two sides of the story..jumping to pass judgement based on a man's version of a story is juvenile in my opinion..
Like every other Nigerian we twist the Bible to suit our purposes,am sure the Holy Book is strongly in support of proper marriages before procreation but it doesn't suit your needs does it..

what's proper marriage, if the man and the woman had registered their marriage at the registry, is that not proper marriage!

herbie27:
the bible said "give to ceaser what belongs to ceaser". That is why even church advice you do traditional marriage first and pay bride price b4 any other.

from the man's story, you should have seen that the bible is not their source of guidance, likewise the wife's family.
The man's poverty status is the reason for all these yawa. If the guy where rich and powerful, he will just bury the woman and continue with his life and nothing will happen!

Its a culture marry properly, all these yoruba's judging the igbo tribe you people should learn, you can only do this disgusting act in yourba land not with other tribes. give girl belle nur mean say you don marry ooooo. A word is enough for the wise. To the man in question sorry to say it serves him right because am well sure the lady must have reminded him oftentimes about dowry or paying homage to her family. Igbos don't joke with that no matter how illiterate the person may be. Am not an igbo girl tho so no insults please.

Without him paying the bride price, those children can't be his. #Igbocustom#Omenala

ODVanguard:
Omo, forget. The couple obviously eloped or something. If they chose to marry without her family's consent (which isn't unusual) why is he giving himself headache? Where was her family all through their marriage prior to her demise? And why are they not mourning the woman, instead they are asking for bride-price? The man should just go and bury his wife and move on with his life. All these stvpid customs are way overrated.

your comment makes me laugh. My advice to you is this. Do same to ur girl and bury her wen she dies without marrying her. Then be ready to spend the rest of ur life in jail for committing murder. Cheers.

harmony940:
The truth to this matter is,he did not fufill the traditional rights of marraige....its very important. He should thank his stars that his inlaws are nicer...there are more terrible inlaws...last bullet...when you are ripe for marraige do the right thing please and that includes everything.

bros you know your tradition. God bless you. Some bigots here are encouraging cohabition because they are involve in it. May God help them.

Amireel:
Its a culture marry properly, all these yoruba's judging the igbo tribe you people should learn, you can only do this disgusting act in yourba land not with other tribes. give girl belle nur mean say you don marry ooooo. A word is enough for the wise. To the man in question sorry to say it serves him right because am well sure the lady must have reminded him oftentimes about dowry or paying homage to her family. Igbos don't joke with that no matter how illiterate the person may be. Am not an igbo girl tho so no insults please.

yorubas too dnt condone such acts, but they wunt cut the man or woman's neck cus of his or her mistakes. its solution you look for and not punishment, cus innocent lives are now involved!

someone who gives a woman belle and does not marry her in yorubaland knows he will not be able to fully participate in the community. A woman's case is worse, but both are allowed to live their lives. and in case they want to get married, they can do so with minimal difficulty! The difficulty of the marriage will be deliberately adjusted to the condition of the couple.

kingsarch2000:
bros you know your tradition. God bless you. Some bigots here are encouraging cohabition because they are involve in it. May God help them.

most posts I've read are not encouraging cohabitation, but are condemning the method used in punishing such Co habitation. marriage should not be made difficult if two individuals agree to marry each other.
A lot of people can marry igbo girls legally and not pay bride price and anybody from anywhere can do nothing about it!