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I met diz guy abt 4 years ago thru my roomie in school.we started dating. I got pregnant for him 2014. he insisted I shld abort it but I said no.eventually I tld my parent my mom came 2 Ilorin.she discussed with him n he tld her 2 give him tym 2 tell his parent himself so my mom gave him so time n returned home.after my mom left he ask me 2 go n abort it again.eventually I tld my boss cos we were very close he tld his wife n his wife insisted we must go 2 their place on getting there.we d not meet his parent at home.he came 2 my place dat day n tld me he has given birth to a girl b4,he tld me d people he is living with are not his really parent after he has bin telling me they are.
he came 2 akr DEC 2014 my mom has already welcome him as her child it even caused wahala btw my mom n dad.he was asked 2 go n bring his family he did not. my mom even asked him 2 com 4 introduction b4 my pregnancy start show 2 prevent myself n my family 4rm disgrace he did not answer them. wen he was unable 2 pay his school fee my mom borrowed him since last year Feb he has not pay up till 2day. wen eva I throw up or fall sick he doesn't act as if he cares.

as tym go on I started buying my baby things myself den he was in his final year in school.whenever I complain he tells me am d 1 dat want to be a mother dat is y i kept d pregnancy he got a part time job in school.after a while he tld me there is no job again. he stayed in school wit his friends while I was starving @ home. even wen he was still working he did not give me 1kobo 2 buy my baby stuff.it is my mom dt bought d remaining tins.there was a day he looked sad n I asked him wat is wrong he TLD me he nid money 2 buy clothes 4 himself while I was lukn 4 money 2 buy wt our child ll nid.after dat I went home 2 give birth.I saw his father 4 d 1st tym 9days afta I gave birth he did not come 2 meet my family wen I got pregnant. after I gave birth he came wit his father d ninth day.he was writing exam wen I gave birth. we got a job 4 him in akr.after he started working he tld me they r not paying his salary.so my mom got anoder job 4 him in my aunt place DAT is wen we realized he has bin lieing.since d day his father came ve not set my eye on any of his family again n my baby is now 7mths.since d day his sis call my mom 2 ask abt d child sex,she has not call again.none of his family call me after I gave birth till 2dy.after I gave birth I realized dt I ve ulcer due 2 d starvation I went thru wen I was pregnant. d prob is he is a liar, he cares abt himself. I broke up wit him last year.he has bin begging me 2 4give him.but my parent doesn't wnt me 2 ve anything 2 do wit him again.he is a quiet person at tyms am d one DAT tell him d right thing 2 do n am thinking abt my son I don't wish or want him 2 ve a step dad.he said he ll change my parent believe he ll not change.n I don't want 2 disobey my parent n get hurt eventually n I still ve a little feeling left 4 him. wat shld I do. pls I don't want any insult o.

My Dear, you are a sincere and kindhearted person as well as your mother. In other words, you and your mother are enduring and considerate in dealing with your fellow humans. But sin of the flesh has left a sore wound on you. He has proven to you that he is a congenital liar. The tendency for such a person to turn a new leaf is so low. I passionately hate the incidence of baby-mama or baby-father. I also hate having a step parent, except in a situation whereby the biological parent died before the emergence of the step one. But amid two evils, the lesser one is chosen. Is better that your son has a step father and you live happily and long than for you to get yourself entangled in his hell-like world to either die young or live long in agony. He wants you back and promises to change for good simply because you will have the impression of marriage and therefore offer him frequent and free sex. He has also seen that you and your mother can willingly take almost or all of his own responsibilities. Be wise! Your prayer point should be that your son will not become the replica of his father. Sexual immorality is not just a sin, it in one way or another tortures whoever practices it.

Some men are just good as sperm donors understand that pick up your pieces and move on

Got one question 4 u...Is this the kinda man u wanna spend a life time with?

If going by all you said, this is the situation of things, then forget the man totally and move on.

he's not ready for life! He still wants to flex and enjoy and he must be thinking you were trying to tie him down with a baby! If you find another man that would accept you with your child wholeheartedly pls move on cos that guy is somewhat immature and you may grow old waiting for him to grow up!

that thing called condom can save lot of stress u know. or he pullsout.no matter how close u re wit a man use condom if u aint married,sombody who is yet to figure himself, u want him to realise he has a responsibility.. How Epic! anyways ur palaver givebirth nd learn to be a single mom for now ..while praying your baby daddy comes to his senses!

StPete:
If going by all you said, this is the situation of things, then forget the man totally and move on.

wat abt my son.

Steer clear of tis bloke bae...he might freak out n kill yhu if yhu marry him....even if he doesn't yhu'll both be miserable....What ppl will say will hurt for sometime...But isn't it better than ruining yhu life n his as well...Leave him be FATe will fvck him in the asss ....quite unfortunate

d way u n ur family hunt ds guy into becoming baby father eh na wah! person no ready to b daddy u na jst d try all means to make him d man u want him to be! haba

yaqq:
d way u n ur family hunt ds guy into becoming baby father eh na wah! person no ready to b daddy u na jst d try all means to make him d man u want him to be! haba

yaqq:
d way u n ur family hunt ds guy into becoming baby father eh na wah! person no ready to b daddy u na jst d try all means to make him d man u want him to be! haba

wat do u mean by dat

Are you waiting for him to come for you, then you get married and have more children?.. .. . If yes, you are in a very huge shit.... .... Firstly he thinks you trapped him with the pregnancy, 2ndly he knows you are cool likewise your parents. If you marry him he won't stop having the feeling that you trapped him.... nd that's hurting. So, get back on your feet, takia of yourself and your baby that he'll be wowed. 7mnths is too early to try a new guy....... This is the time to return to your table.

I love ur mom. She really tried for you, please stop talking about the feelings you have left for him, you have made a mistake, accept it as one and move on. Not wanting your child to have a step dad is not enough reason to have a useless father, a responsible stepfather is better than an irresponsible father.
Take care.

Now, this is a very irresponsible man.

My sister focus on your baby. Remember the love and care your parents have shown you throughout pregnancy even till now. Don't ever forget them.

However, kindly forget that figure head father that you once called a boyfriend. He is lucky you don't have violent brothers that would have rearranged his face for him. After weaning your child, try to push your career well ahead. Don't relent on your dreams. Do this for your baby and your parents.

OP, I am the first commentator on this your topic. I want you to read my first comment again because I modified it. Sorry for the stress this redirection might cause you.

immortalcrown:
My Dear, you are a sincere and kindhearted person as well as your mother. In other words, you and your mother are enduring and considerate in dealing with your fellow humans. But sin of the flesh has left a sore wound on you. He has proven to you that he is a congenital liar. The tendency for such a person to turn a new leaf is so low. I passionately hate the incidence of baby-mama or baby-father. I also hate having a step parent, except in a situation whereby the biological parent died before the emergence of the step one. But amid two evils, the lesser one is chosen. Is better that your son has a step father and you live happily and long than for you to get yourself entangled in his hell-like world to either die young or live long in agony. He wants you back and promises to change for good simply because you will have the impression of marriage and therefore offer him frequent and free sex. He has also seen that you and your mother can willingly take almost or all of his own responsibilities. Be wise! Your prayer point should be that your son will not become the replica of his father. Sexual immorality is not just a sin, it in one way or another tortures whoever practices it.

tanks 4 ur comment

Enna96,face your future.Have you finished school?Work towards graduating from school while your mum assists with the baby.
Forget about this guy for now.He is nit even sure of what he wants to do with himself for now.He could grow and come back to you or not.What matters now is you making something out of your life.

thorpido:
Enna96,face your future.Have you finished school?Work towards graduating from school while your mum assists with the baby.
Forget about this guy for now.He is nit even sure of what he wants to do with himself for now.He could grow and come back to you or not.What matters now is you making something out of your life.

tank u so much. u are all a blessing 2 me

enna96:
wat abt my son.

Your son has the support of his grandparents - your parents, and you so he'll do very well with their support