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MzPecs:
Dear OP, don't waste your curse because it won't even have any effect on him!

Sometimes we create our own heartbreak through expectations. What were you expecting to see when you went ahead to check his phone? A saint or what?
You even went ahead to set him up! For what nah? Ladies should always try and trend carefully with men nah..

On the guy's part, he only took advantage of your predicament and I feel sorry for you. You've got to accept your fate!

He's done with you so just take your curse far away from him and move on with your life!

Shikena!

Kondomatic:
Curses are not expensive, so free her.


BTW, why not ask her what led to their first break up?

Who dumped who?


The answer to the question will help us to understand the guy a little.

MzPecs:
Dear OP, don't waste your curse because it won't even have any effect on him!

Sometimes we create our own heartbreak through expectations. What were you expecting to see when you went ahead to check his phone? A saint or what?
You even went ahead to set him up! For what nah? Ladies should always try and trend carefully with men nah..

On the guy's part, he only took advantage of your predicament and I feel sorry for you. You've got to accept your fate!

He's done with you so just take your curse far away from him and move on with your life!

Shikena!

Moppsys:
Hi guys, I just want your honest advice as I am new here

My boyfriend recently broke up with me, I really love him (deeply) and he claimed he loved me too. we dated before 4years ago and we got back together in June 2015. Things has been going well between us, he introduced me to all his family and extended and marriage plans were on the way.He promised me marriage ( Don't get me wrong he did not propose) but we talk marriage everyday, future plans, we have planned the wedding and even started looking at venue. We were already planning on getting our first house together, deposit etc.. and things are all in place.
unfortunately he caught me checking his phone (He has been flirting with other girls) and I set him up, even though he played right into my hands he found out that set him up and he got really annoyed and told his family about it and said he needs time to think about the relationship because I invaded his privacy and set him up and for that reason he is not safe with me.

few days later he came back saying he owe me an apology that when we got back together last year it was not genuine, he was bored, he was pressured to get married and he saw that I was available at the time based on my predicament (I came out of an hurtful marriage) so he felt like he should just be with me since we have dated before.

I felt really hurt and used, even though it was my fault for checking his phone I begged him to take me back but he refused, I have been struggling to deal with the pain as I do not want to lose him.
I have been cursing him everyday ( as long as he lives unless he comes back to beg me, he will never experience true love from a woman every again) because he failed in his words and I felt like he used me for those reasons he gave.

please am I right in cursing him or should I just leave him and let him be, I really love him and I am hurting, because he failed to address the fact that he was flirting and his family are so biased as well

Moppsys:
Hi guys, I just want your honest advice as I am new here

My boyfriend recently broke up with me, I really love him (deeply) and he claimed he loved me too. we dated before 4years ago and we got back together in June 2015. Things has been going well between us, he introduced me to all his family and extended and marriage plans were on the way.He promised me marriage ( Don't get me wrong he did not propose) but we talk marriage everyday, future plans, we have planned the wedding and even started looking at venue. We were already planning on getting our first house together, deposit etc.. and things are all in place.
unfortunately he caught me checking his phone (He has been flirting with other girls) and I set him up, even though he played right into my hands he found out that set him up and he got really annoyed and told his family about it and said he needs time to think about the relationship because I invaded his privacy and set him up and for that reason he is not safe with me.

few days later he came back saying he owe me an apology that when we got back together last year it was not genuine, he was bored, he was pressured to get married and he saw that I was available at the time based on my predicament (I came out of an hurtful marriage) so he felt like he should just be with me since we have dated before.

I felt really hurt and used, even though it was my fault for checking his phone I begged him to take me back but he refused, I have been struggling to deal with the pain as I do not want to lose him.
I have been cursing him everyday ( as long as he lives unless he comes back to beg me, he will never experience true love from a woman every again) because he failed in his words and I felt like he used me for those reasons he gave.

please am I right in cursing him or should I just leave him and let him be, I really love him and I am hurting, because he failed to address the fact that he was flirting and his family are so biased as well

Richy4:
I hate to say this to you......but you are a lucky girl to discover his true nature now before the so called marriage plans

Assuming you married him, he would have been cheating on you....and there's no way out for you considering the fact that you have married before....The society will never spare you...they will say all the failed marriages were your fault...it will be like what the first man saw and ran away, the second has equally seen it and ran......

Biko stand up take a shower and relax, God has just saved u and you were busy feeling as if the battle he fought for u was nothing....Chill a good guy will come along very soon. Not the one with empty promises that was feeling sorry for u...

The problem with your write up was that the whole thing echos a desperate woman....If you keep cursing yourself and crying all day, u will soon develop HBP. U have to be alive before u talk about marriage. assuming u married him, u would have been answering MRS and still dying in silence because u can't live the marriage for the second time....

AfroKnight:
You set him up to fail and you feel justified to curse him for leaving you? Come on! You knew his weaknesses and used it against him until he fell. What a dangerous woman!

No guy is safe dating or being married to a manipulative person.

Let me inform you that he said those painful words to get back at you for setting him up. If a guy is using a lady, he has no reason to tell her even after the break up. Also, no one actually sets out to waste time introducing a lady to his people if he only plans to use her. He was the real deal.

Continue cursing him if it makes you sleep at night. Just be informed that you will witness his progress (in love, marriage and career) in spite of your vile curses.

I888:
the desperation is because age isn't on her side.

Richy4:
Thank God I am not a woman..... But assuming I was one, I will not take any nonsense from any chewing gum boy.... when I am pushing 35, I will just storm lnto a motherless babies home, Adopt a baby girl or two.... give her/ them the best training in life..... and relax for the fruit of my labor.

I don't know why ladies go through all these pains just for the society to recognize them...as doing well..... many are just simply not happy....

Moppsys:
Hi guys, I just want your honest advice as I am new here

My boyfriend recently broke up with me, I really love him (deeply) and he claimed he loved me too. we dated before 4years ago and we got back together in June 2015. Things has been going well between us, he introduced me to all his family and extended and marriage plans were on the way.He promised me marriage ( Don't get me wrong he did not propose) but we talk marriage everyday, future plans, we have planned the wedding and even started looking at venue. We were already planning on getting our first house together, deposit etc.. and things are all in place.
unfortunately he caught me checking his phone (He has been flirting with other girls) and I set him up, even though he played right into my hands he found out that set him up and he got really annoyed and told his family about it and said he needs time to think about the relationship because I invaded his privacy and set him up and for that reason he is not safe with me.

few days later he came back saying he owe me an apology that when we got back together last year it was not genuine, he was bored, he was pressured to get married and he saw that I was available at the time based on my predicament (I came out of an hurtful marriage) so he felt like he should just be with me since we have dated before.

I felt really hurt and used, even though it was my fault for checking his phone I begged him to take me back but he refused, I have been struggling to deal with the pain as I do not want to lose him.
I have been cursing him everyday ( as long as he lives unless he comes back to beg me, he will never experience true love from a woman every again) because he failed in his words and I felt like he used me for those reasons he gave.

please am I right in cursing him or should I just leave him and let him be, I really love him and I am hurting, because he failed to address the fact that he was flirting and his family are so biased as well

I888:
it's tradition things bro.

To be candid, they are often the cause of their own predicament in many instances.

I know how many times, while growing up, that I have been turned down, the ones that dated me abused me one way or the other.

Yet, I have one of the most understanding, loving and accommodating personality with truer intentions.

After the break up, they often want me back.

I got tired of the whole BS and just decide not to be serious with any of them anymore. Right now, I have as much as 5 side chics no main chic.

I have my plans and there is something I am chasing which if accomplish, I would just go off and buy one of them, even though she has a guy. After all someone did same to be which one of these girls dump my asss for.

But I don't care, life is never fair and it's the way we just have to live till death.

The OP can't say while she was younger there wasn't truly a guy who really loved her, that's where the regrets set in, the desperation get worse as time ticks.

One of my ex is now a Church goer, gentle and submissive but in her younger age, she was so uncouth, rude, deceptive.

Fork it bro... I have chosen to be ruthless and a mafia with life.

Moppsys:
Hi guys, I just want your honest advice as I am new here

My boyfriend recently broke up with me, I really love him (deeply) and he claimed he loved me too. we dated before 4years ago and we got back together in June 2015. Things has been going well between us, he introduced me to all his family and extended and marriage plans were on the way.He promised me marriage ( Don't get me wrong he did not propose) but we talk marriage everyday, future plans, we have planned the wedding and even started looking at venue. We were already planning on getting our first house together, deposit etc.. and things are all in place.
unfortunately he caught me checking his phone (He has been flirting with other girls) and I set him up, even though he played right into my hands he found out that set him up and he got really annoyed and told his family about it and said he needs time to think about the relationship because I invaded his privacy and set him up and for that reason he is not safe with me.

few days later he came back saying he owe me an apology that when we got back together last year it was not genuine, he was bored, he was pressured to get married and he saw that I was available at the time based on my predicament (I came out of an hurtful marriage) so he felt like he should just be with me since we have dated before.

I felt really hurt and used, even though it was my fault for checking his phone I begged him to take me back but he refused, I have been struggling to deal with the pain as I do not want to lose him.
I have been cursing him everyday ( as long as he lives unless he comes back to beg me, he will never experience true love from a woman every again) because he failed in his words and I felt like he used me for those reasons he gave.

please am I right in cursing him or should I just leave him and let him be, I really love him and I am hurting, because he failed to address the fact that he was flirting and his family are so biased as well

Smartguy001:
Your DP got me laughing really hard....

Lol
am glad it served it's purpose

Richy4:
I understand the situation... I was insulted about three years ago by a girl I was falling for... due to the fact that there were no African girls, the ones available were simply acting up.....And the white ones just wanted to experiment the black, They are not serious into relationship.... if u know what I mean....so I approached this girl, we went on a date like 4 times.... and she never told me she was still into the Ex that was treating her like trash.... she told me she wanted to relocate to another state so that she will not see the guy..... I tried to discourage her from doing that and she agreed...

One day she called that she was coming to my house for the first time... ...I asked what she would like to eat, she said any thing.... so I rushed to African market at 9am bought egwusi with goat meat.... that was where I discovered that a packet of maggi cost $11 .....
I even got a speeding ticket on my way back..... I cooked soup, Rice and stew that Saturday.....As a bachelor doesn't have much time to cook

I wasn't the clubbing type so I invited my friends over so that they might tell me if they have seen her before or if any of our country guys has dated her....I did that because I wanted something serious...and it will be so demeaning if someone I know has been with my "wife to be" my opinion though....

The girl did not show up.... her phone switched off......I waited till 10pm nothing...... my friends left..... the next day she called that she was making her hair....She totally forgot.....That was the first time I smashed my phone on the wall....Immediately I did that, that was it....It was as if I have smashed her... I ended it there......I later heard in 2 months time that she organised a surprised birthday party for that same boy friend and invited everyone..... Including those friends of mine... but she never knew they know me.....

So some girls could be funny....not that they deserve the bad treatment but I wish those ones that doesn't act write should deserve the harsh treatment from guys but unfortunately the good ones are the one having the bad treatment.....

Speechless3:
Love is an expensive joke if you ask me

Moppsys:
Hi guys, I just want your honest advice as I am new here

My boyfriend recently broke up with me, I really love him (deeply) and he claimed he loved me too. we dated before 4years ago and we got back together in June 2015. Things has been going well between us, he introduced me to all his family and extended and marriage plans were on the way.He promised me marriage ( Don't get me wrong he did not propose) but we talk marriage everyday, future plans, we have planned the wedding and even started looking at venue. We were already planning on getting our first house together, deposit etc.. and things are all in place.
unfortunately he caught me checking his phone (He has been flirting with other girls) and I set him up, even though he played right into my hands he found out that set him up and he got really annoyed and told his family about it and said he needs time to think about the relationship because I invaded his privacy and set him up and for that reason he is not safe with me.

few days later he came back saying he owe me an apology that when we got back together last year it was not genuine, he was bored, he was pressured to get married and he saw that I was available at the time based on my predicament (I came out of an hurtful marriage) so he felt like he should just be with me since we have dated before.

I felt really hurt and used, even though it was my fault for checking his phone I begged him to take me back but he refused, I have been struggling to deal with the pain as I do not want to lose him.
I have been cursing him everyday ( as long as he lives unless he comes back to beg me, he will never experience true love from a woman every again) because he failed in his words and I felt like he used me for those reasons he gave.

please am I right in cursing him or should I just leave him and let him be, I really love him and I am hurting, because he failed to address the fact that he was flirting and his family are so biased as well

Moppsys:
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I did not go back to him, and I dated someone else after him before getting married, he came back to me and this was way after my divorce. (I thought I'd just point that out) nothing used about it as we were both young divorcees.

prettysassygirl:
curses work,do not be deceived, I am a living example,

Moppsys:
Hi guys, I just want your honest advice as I am new here

My boyfriend recently broke up with me, I really love him (deeply) and he claimed he loved me too. we dated before 4years ago and we got back together in June 2015. Things has been going well between us, he introduced me to all his family and extended and marriage plans were on the way.He promised me marriage ( Don't get me wrong he did not propose) but we talk marriage everyday, future plans, we have planned the wedding and even started looking at venue. We were already planning on getting our first house together, deposit etc.. and things are all in place.
unfortunately he caught me checking his phone (He has been flirting with other girls) and I set him up, even though he played right into my hands he found out that set him up and he got really annoyed and told his family about it and said he needs time to think about the relationship because I invaded his privacy and set him up and for that reason he is not safe with me.

few days later he came back saying he owe me an apology that when we got back together last year it was not genuine, he was bored, he was pressured to get married and he saw that I was available at the time based on my predicament (I came out of an hurtful marriage) so he felt like he should just be with me since we have dated before.

I felt really hurt and used, even though it was my fault for checking his phone I begged him to take me back but he refused, I have been struggling to deal with the pain as I do not want to lose him.
I have been cursing him everyday ( as long as he lives unless he comes back to beg me, he will never experience true love from a woman every again) because he failed in his words and I felt like he used me for those reasons he gave.

please am I right in cursing him or should I just leave him and let him be, I really love him and I am hurting, because he failed to address the fact that he was flirting and his family are so biased as well