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Re: Is Marriage A Goal And Dream Killer? by AVRecruit: 8:29pm On Mar 21, 2016
women should pay 50% of wedding costs so that they can maintain their independence in the marriage union.
Re: Is Marriage A Goal And Dream Killer? by Vinshu(f): 8:32pm On Mar 21, 2016
smileysmiley:
[s] I shouldn't be helping you clarify your statement but I don't mind helping you anyways. Sorry about the MSc. statement, I've clarified myself on that. You clearly said that a woman's employment status in a relationship doesn't matter. Says whohuh Why wouldn't it matterhuh Yh the guy should bear the bulk of the weight but the woman should not be left idle. I went to a provision store one day to get something and a woman came to get two packs of noodles, she said and I quote "I'll bring the money when my husband gets back". If you are a lady and that statement doesn't irritate you then I can welcome you to the association of liabilities, like seriouslyhuh Whyhuh Why should your employment status be of no importancehuh I repeat if the guy doesn't want you working then by all means enjoy being a housewife but if its the other way round, get your lazy ass up and get a job. Some women even get married to rich men who keeps them as housewives and gives them lots of cash yet if a problem is encountered in the marriage they are left broke, its because of this mentality. Some of them lose their husband along the way and they begin to suffer with the innocent children because of this mentality. You should even feel cheated being a housewife cause while the guy is out there building a career, future security and total independence you are busy breastfeeding Junior at home and increasing your level of dependence. I agree with kramfonos, if a woman decides to be a stay at home [s] I shouldn't be helping you clarify your statement but I don't mind helping you anyways. Sorry about the MSc. statement, I've clarified myself on that. You clearly said that a woman's employment status in a relationship doesn't matter. Says whohuh Why wouldn't it matterhuh Yh the guy should bear the bulk of the weight but the woman should not be left idle. I went to a provision store one day to get something and a woman came to get two packs of noodles, she said and I quote "I'll bring the money when my husband gets back". If you are a lady and that statement doesn't irritate you then I can welcome you to the association of liabilities, like seriouslyhuh Whyhuh Why should your employment status be of no importancehuh I repeat if the guy doesn't want you working then by all means enjoy being a housewife but if its the other way round, get your lazy ass up and get a job. Some women even get married to rich men who keeps them as housewives and gives them lots of cash yet if a problem is encountered in the marriage they are left broke, its because of this mentality. Some of them lose their husband along the way and they begin to suffer with the innocent children because of this mentality. You should even feel cheated being a housewife cause while the guy is out there building a career, future security and total independence you are busy breastfeeding Junior at home and increasing your level of dependence. I agree with kramfonos, if a woman decides to be a stay at home [/s] I shouldn't be helping you clarify your statement but I don't mind helping you anyways. Sorry about the MSc. statement, I've clarified myself on that. You clearly said that a woman's employment status in a relationship doesn't matter. Says whohuh Why wouldn't it matterhuh Yh the guy should bear the bulk of the weight but the woman should not be left idle. I went to a provision store one day to get something and a woman came to get two packs of noodles, she said and I quote "I'll bring the money when my husband gets back". If you are a lady and that statement doesn't irritate you then I can welcome you to the association of liabilities, like seriouslyhuh Whyhuh Why should your employment status be of no importancehuh I repeat if the guy doesn't want you working then by all means enjoy being a housewife but if its the other way round, get your lazy ass up and get a job. Some women even get married to rich men who keeps them as housewives and gives them lots of cash yet if a problem is encountered in the marriage they are left broke, its because of this mentality. Some of them lose their husband along the way and they begin to suffer with the innocent children because of this mentality. You should even feel cheated being a housewife cause while the guy is out there building a career, future security and total independence you are busy breastfeeding Junior at home and increasing your level of dependence. I agree with kramfonos, if a woman decides to be a stay at home pest sorry wife without your permission, you are allowed to treat her like trash. *drops pen* sweetheart you don't have to be defensive, we learn everyday... As for the "likes from guys" statement, I'll take that as a slip cause I don't want to believe that you do something that lame "it takes a crook to spot a crook" [/s]
Re: Is Marriage A Goal And Dream Killer? by smileysmiley(f): 9:20pm On Mar 21, 2016
Tallesty1:
You're a feminist right?
If you knew about feminism you wouldn't call her a feminist. A feminist will never choose to sit at home and fold her hands while the man go to work, a feminist instead will strive to be given the opportunity to work alongside her husband. A feminist fights for equal rights with the man and its appalling to see that so many ladies choose a role that makes them super comfortable and tag themselves as feminists.
Re: Is Marriage A Goal And Dream Killer? by smileysmiley(f):
Vinshu:
In your bid to get likes from some men you have made no sense.

Where in my comment did I mention it that it doesn't matter if a woman has an Msc and not have a job? I said her employment status doesn't matter in marriage because it's a man's job to cater for the family financially. So what's the ish? I never mentioned that she should put her personal bills on the man.
I shouldn't be helping you clarify your statement but I don't mind helping you anyways. Sorry about the MSc. statement, I've clarified myself on that. You clearly said that a woman's employment status in a relationship doesn't matter. Says whohuh Why wouldn't it matterhuh Yh the guy should bear the bulk of the weight but the woman should not be left idle. I went to a provision store one day to get something and a woman came to get two packs of noodles, she said and I quote "I'll bring the money when my husband gets back". If you are a lady and that statement doesn't irritate you then I can welcome you to the association of liabilities, like seriouslyhuh Whyhuh Why should your employment status be of no importancehuh I repeat if the guy doesn't want you working then by all means enjoy being a housewife but if its the other way round, get your lazy ass up and get a job. Some women even get married to rich men who keeps them as housewives and gives them lots of cash yet if a problem is encountered in the marriage they are left broke, its because of this mentality. Some of them lose their husband along the way and they begin to suffer with the innocent children because of this mentality. You should even feel cheated being a housewife cause while the guy is out there building a career, future security and total independence you are busy breastfeeding Junior at home and increasing your level of dependence. I agree with kramfonos, if a woman decides to be a stay at home pest sorry wife without your permission, you are allowed to treat her like trash. *drops pen* sweetheart you don't have to be defensive, we learn everyday... As for the "likes from guys" statement, I'll take that as a slip cause I don't want to believe that you do something that lame "it takes a crook to spot a crook" wink
Re: Is Marriage A Goal And Dream Killer? by Tallesty1(m): 10:20pm On Mar 21, 2016
smileysmiley:
If you knew about feminism you wouldn't call her a feminist.
I saw where she commented that's she is a feminist. She even confirm it on this thread.
smileysmiley:
A feminist will never choose to sit at home and fold her hands while the man go to work, a feminist instead will strive to be given the opportunity to work alongside her husband.
She's working, she just doesn't want to help her man.
smileysmiley:
A feminist fights for equal rights with the man and its appalling to see that so many ladies choose a role that makes them super comfortable and tag themselves as feminists.
Feminists fight to usurp power completely from men not equal right.
Re: Is Marriage A Goal And Dream Killer? by MUVA(m): 10:45pm On Mar 21, 2016
kramfonos:
Yeah right, you weren't checking. cheesy

Mail this account directly.
Done..
Re: Is Marriage A Goal And Dream Killer? by smileysmiley(f): 12:49am On Mar 22, 2016
Tallesty1:
I saw where she commented that's she is a feminist. She even confirm it on this thread.
She's working, she just doesn't want to help her man. Feminists fight to usurp power completely from men not equal right.
Do your research again... A feminist only fights for gender equality, although most ladies have redescribed feminism. Anything that doesn't relate to gender equality is just a lame lady trying to adjust everything to how it'll suit her and hide under the term "feminism"... And mind you feminism comes up mostly in situations that have been affected by culture. A feminist is more likely to come and say "Why should I be relegated to house chores while my husband goes to work? I want to be given the opportunity to work too" but Vinshu here is claiming that "as the head of the house, the man must take care of all the expenses while the woman should probably sit at home and breastfeed Junior". She is a culturist and not a feminist.
Re: Is Marriage A Goal And Dream Killer? by Josephamstrong1(op): 7:42am On Mar 22, 2016
Mods and super mods, watsup naa?
Re: Is Marriage A Goal And Dream Killer? by ogorwyne(f): 12:34pm On Mar 23, 2016
Josephamstrong1:
Let's Discuss Marriage... Please share your views.
Was on a diatribes over this with a friend which went on for hours.
He said..."Dare I call it an interruption or a junction on ur road 2 de goal"
I was like..."U talk like u scared of marriage"
He said... Yep..am scared. Scared of making a lifetime mistake cos its a lifetime institution.
Don't really get it. More reason I brought it here.
My questions are:
1. Why do most men marry late even with their affluence? Are they scared or not just ready?

2. At what age do you think is good enough for a man to get married?
With or without income.

3. At what monthly income do you think as a man...you'll be assured that you can confidently run a home?

4. What's your opinion about getting married to a lady with Msc but not working. Do you think it's better to marry her unemployed or wait till she's employed or underemployed or better still have something doin'.
Maybe fear of becoming a house wife...I guess.

I know we have mature men and ladies on NL. Please, would kindly appreciate your opinions.
#peace

cc: mods
Lemme help u scream Lalasticlala 's name. LALASTICLALA. Wetin be dat e native name again sef, ehen, Oghenetega, abeg come carry dis thing go up. My wand has stopped working
Re: Is Marriage A Goal And Dream Killer? by Josephamstrong1(op): 12:42pm On Mar 23, 2016
ogorwyne:
Lemme help u scream Lalasticlala 's name. LALASTICLALA. Wetin be dat e native name again sef, ehen, Oghenetega, abeg come carry dis thing go up. My wand has stopped working
Hahaha...lol,
bae, I lie if I say I neva tire.
Hw'z d' PhD program goin'?
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