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Re: My Brother-in-law Beat My Sister This Morning. What Should I Do? by seunajia: 3:15pm On Mar 28, 2016 |
daretodiffer: Advice him to stop drinking? Men aren't wired like that. In the first place they're probably not buddies and he'll never stop drinking, neither will he stop abusing her emotionally and physically. It takes a lot of contempt to actually beat sb up. The moment he feels that much contempt for her... I admit getting him beat up may not totally solve the problem. It may in fact bring more animosity. But damn, I'll reset his brain first for even trying then call truce later. Before the weakling kills my only sister 1 Like |
Re: My Brother-in-law Beat My Sister This Morning. What Should I Do? by TolaniLuv: 3:17pm On Mar 28, 2016 |
@OP You are asking us what should you do? What would you do @op? Make you ansa us too |
Re: My Brother-in-law Beat My Sister This Morning. What Should I Do? by worshipdevice(m): 3:18pm On Mar 28, 2016 |
Thank God I don't have a sister and I don't pray to have a female child.
I can kill because of this type of nonesense.
Pls OP kindly make use of the gøod advice here, am sure u are matured. |
Re: My Brother-in-law Beat My Sister This Morning. What Should I Do? by Amberon11: 3:21pm On Mar 28, 2016 |
if you have nothing sensible to say, kindly hush it. Domestic violence is such a serious issue has cost women their lives and in saner climes that man would be in jail and all you can say is that it is none of his business? ATMC: 1 Like |
Re: My Brother-in-law Beat My Sister This Morning. What Should I Do? by repogirl(f): 3:22pm On Mar 28, 2016 |
Bimpe29:seriously? He should Pray, encourage and keep advising his sister as she keeps enjoying beating everyday? Seriously? So she is doing things which do not promote her marriage, hence she deserves beatings and being cheated upon, seriously? Why did you bother to comment sef? OP, for now, what you can do is talk calmly to the husband and make him see the error of his ways, but if he continues to do this, your sister needs to get her ass out of that house. 1 Like |
Re: My Brother-in-law Beat My Sister This Morning. What Should I Do? by leoblacky: 3:23pm On Mar 28, 2016 |
This kind thing never happen before nd ur sister would have gone to their pastor or their sponsor not u pls don't listen to those that's telling u to confront ur in law. |
Re: My Brother-in-law Beat My Sister This Morning. What Should I Do? by Nobody: 3:25pm On Mar 28, 2016 |
johnson232: Divorce after 2 kids? Nah fam, na 'till death do us part' by hook or by crook. No divorce in my books. 1 Like |
Re: My Brother-in-law Beat My Sister This Morning. What Should I Do? by rotimi2016: 3:27pm On Mar 28, 2016 |
Seek for your Pastor's counsel & Elderly pple in both families before taking any decision on ur own! If d beating persists, both sides shld let both of dem go on-break! God bless you! |
Re: My Brother-in-law Beat My Sister This Morning. What Should I Do? by Nobody: 3:27pm On Mar 28, 2016 |
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Re: My Brother-in-law Beat My Sister This Morning. What Should I Do? by noblegrex: 3:34pm On Mar 28, 2016 |
daretodiffer:Nonsense,which Yeye family meeting is that.. If you're the one invole you'll know how it is.the first and last guy that did that to one of my sister was so unfourtunate that I was around when he came to our house that my sister should follow him back home after beating her. Although,I wan unable to reach him due to some interventions but in his entire life. The rage he saw from me that God rescued him that people were around to stop me will never,I mean never allow him to say or do anything to her again. He sent people to beg the family and me expecially. But I told them the only apology I'll accept from him is not to ever in his LIFE lay his hands on my sis again.Now,my sis is Living like queen in the house cos anytime we talked,she do mention it and glad she's happy.. I don't know the guys' ability but I'll never take that from any man.even if he's a soldier. then everyone will have to display his POWER and connections.shikena. I don't know you're this weak sef. |
Re: My Brother-in-law Beat My Sister This Morning. What Should I Do? by qreem231(m): 3:37pm On Mar 28, 2016 |
9jacrip:Correct talk, the beating would restore his factory settings, I like the flashing gun aspect...he go piss 4 body tire. |
Re: My Brother-in-law Beat My Sister This Morning. What Should I Do? by ozoemenafn: 3:38pm On Mar 28, 2016 |
The truth is that if you confront him you would definitely make things worse. For anybody telling you to confront him is trying to make matters worse besides it may result one of you killing each other and after that had I known and Satan would be blamed. Try talk to the man when he is in right state of mind and talk to your sister to be prayerful about it and avoid whatever that could cause problem between them. |
Re: My Brother-in-law Beat My Sister This Morning. What Should I Do? by Nobody: 3:39pm On Mar 28, 2016 |
Bolade005: Eran. This has nothing to do with the fraternity. It is family business that has to be attended to. You can't batter my sister, that is not going to slide. Talks and diplomacy won't stop it, the ball is already rolling and beatings will continue except force is used. Never had to lay a hand on anyone, even a female. I treat my ladies as equals and not subordinate, anything different to my sister will be met with proper man to man resistance. 1 Like |
Re: My Brother-in-law Beat My Sister This Morning. What Should I Do? by noblegrex: 3:40pm On Mar 28, 2016 |
daretodiffer:Nonsense,which Yeye family meeting is that.. If you're the one invole you'll know how it is.the first and last guy that did that to one of my sister was so unfourtunate that I was around when he came to our house that my sister should follow him back home after beating her. Although,I wan unable to reach him due to some interventions but in his entire life. The rage he saw from me that God rescued him that people were around to stop me will never,I mean never allow him to say or do anything to her again. He sent people to beg the family and me expecially. But I told them the only apology I'll accept from him is not to ever in his LIFE lay his hands on my sis again.Now,my sis is Living like queen in the house cos anytime we talked,she do mention it and I'm glad she's happy.Nonsense.I don't know the guys' ability but I'll never take that from any man.even if he's a soldier. then everyone will have to display his POWER and connections.shikena. I don't know you're this weak sef.well, family meeting is neccessary but not until I might have disfigured his face and legs and also made sure my sis never goes back there to take care of him until he bares the pain himself.. 2 Likes |
Re: My Brother-in-law Beat My Sister This Morning. What Should I Do? by Nobody: 3:43pm On Mar 28, 2016 |
seunajia: When it comes to family, I love the carrot and stick approach. Dare him to do it a second time, no one would blame the OP if he puts the man in hospital for the rest of his life. You don't have to worry about murde because I don't think his second attempt will escalate that fast Ermmm...what do you mean by men are not wired like that? |
Re: My Brother-in-law Beat My Sister This Morning. What Should I Do? by Nobody: 3:45pm On Mar 28, 2016 |
Rotab4life: Get thugs to do the job for you Getting hands on him will create fear in him. Most mem who beat women are generally whimps when faced with equal or superior manly strength anyways. 2 Likes |
Re: My Brother-in-law Beat My Sister This Morning. What Should I Do? by Nobody: 3:47pm On Mar 28, 2016 |
noblegrex: Family meeting means he will bring his family to the Op's and he would sit down and issue them a collective warning. This is not weakness but strength. It is a matter of setting him up and justifying whatever comes after. Give him a carrot and hide the stick. Let him mess up again and you have my permission to kill him. |
Re: My Brother-in-law Beat My Sister This Morning. What Should I Do? by Nobody: 3:50pm On Mar 28, 2016 |
9jacrip: That would be true if the wife's family are made up of losers. For example, I have seen a situation whereby they asked the wife to beg the husband after everything. However if he knows that you will literally kill him and your sister is not afraid of leaving and dealing with him, there is no way he would continue. Also having a family or friends or a strong personality would deter him. Domestic abuse is all about power and control. and you do not need violence to show him what you are capable for |
Re: My Brother-in-law Beat My Sister This Morning. What Should I Do? by easternguy: 3:53pm On Mar 28, 2016 |
@OP Please don't listen to most of these foolish and childish advice here. I have been married for eleven years now and have never, and will never beat my wife despite her sins. Your in-law is entirely wrong for beating your sister (but note that he was in stupor then), but your sister is very very wrong to have confronted him like that at such stupor condition and making unproved assertions about his boxers. There could be so many reasons a man could UnCloth his undies away from home. You are not in any right position to confront the guy for whatsoever reason, your dad is in the best position to do that, but if he's not around you can go with matured married man to go and talk with him as family matters and not as fight-back. Condemn your sister's reaction in his presence, then ask your sister out so you and the elder can talk to the guy and caution him NEVER to beat her again for any reason whatsoever, instead he should report to your family first if any issue he felt he cannot handle arises. Then call your sister back and caution the man in her presence finally and ask your sister to embrace and kiss him right there, then ask the man to promise your sister right there that he will never never raise his hand against her again. Chikeena. |
Re: My Brother-in-law Beat My Sister This Morning. What Should I Do? by macho44(m): 3:53pm On Mar 28, 2016 |
BUTCHCASSIDY:Na so. |
Re: My Brother-in-law Beat My Sister This Morning. What Should I Do? by seunajia: 4:00pm On Mar 28, 2016 |
daretodiffer: There's a danger in toeing a conciliatory path with a brute like him. This is becoming too rampant. I'll take the stick and carrot approach. He'll probably go and challenge and beat her up again. And his sister may be too embarrassed to confide in him again. DSFDF though. Edit for "Men are not wired that way". As a man, you don't just walk up to another man that way, you'll be at a disadvantage. There has to be some spark, you know... |
Re: My Brother-in-law Beat My Sister This Morning. What Should I Do? by bigsmoke2(m): 4:06pm On Mar 28, 2016 |
9jacrip:u make sense die 1 Like
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Re: My Brother-in-law Beat My Sister This Morning. What Should I Do? by Bolade005: 4:09pm On Mar 28, 2016 |
9jacrip:Baalu. Eye for an eye makes the world go blind and they should teach you that in your fraternity. What if the thugs are careless and they kill him, isn't it possible if he was fighting back and they just decide to silent him? Your advise is good but it's too early to resort to that on a first beating. |
Re: My Brother-in-law Beat My Sister This Morning. What Should I Do? by Nobody: 4:10pm On Mar 28, 2016 |
seunajia: Well, I disagree. Why would she be embarrassed? He must ask her to tell lhim. |
Re: My Brother-in-law Beat My Sister This Morning. What Should I Do? by Nobody: 4:12pm On Mar 28, 2016 |
Bolade005: If you have a problem with BAN, www.alorasealords.com, drop a petition to relay whatever your problem is. Everything you have said are based on what ifs. Clear directives, touch him a bit and make sure he fears for his life. |
Re: My Brother-in-law Beat My Sister This Morning. What Should I Do? by seunajia: 4:14pm On Mar 28, 2016 |
daretodiffer: We've had this happen a lot of times. Women wearing make up to cover up assault by supposed better halves. Better safe than sorry. |
Re: My Brother-in-law Beat My Sister This Morning. What Should I Do? by Nobody: 4:19pm On Mar 28, 2016 |
daretodiffer: I don't subscribe to this but it is cool. As long as it stops him from ever repeating it. |
Re: My Brother-in-law Beat My Sister This Morning. What Should I Do? by Bolade005: 4:26pm On Mar 28, 2016 |
9jacrip:Do I have a problem with a mimic, pseudo-fraternity? Naaah. I'm just trying to educate you and if your fraternity has done it's own job I wouldn't be needing to school you again that violence should never be an option or atleast not the first option. Touch him a bit?, brother, people have died from just "pushing" them. And hey bro, I got a million problem and your fraternity ain't one. Safe. |
Re: My Brother-in-law Beat My Sister This Morning. What Should I Do? by LoveJesus87(m): 4:28pm On Mar 28, 2016 |
halfricanadian:Correct 1 Like |
Re: My Brother-in-law Beat My Sister This Morning. What Should I Do? by Nobody: 4:28pm On Mar 28, 2016 |
Bolade005: I hope someone doesn't have to batter your sister and not kill her in the process or in the long term before you understand instilling fear in the head of women beater is the key. Enjoy. 1 Like |
Re: My Brother-in-law Beat My Sister This Morning. What Should I Do? by Nobody: 4:29pm On Mar 28, 2016 |
seunajia:Read my post again It starts bit by bit. This is first time The second time is not going to be that serious...that is if there would be a second time. |
Re: My Brother-in-law Beat My Sister This Morning. What Should I Do? by jayAjoku(m): 4:44pm On Mar 28, 2016 |
Guy warn am seriously make him eye clear first then talk to his mum about it then go back and make him apologize to your sister |
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