What is wrong ? Am engaged to this guy thou we are in distance relationship .He hardly spend his money on me. Nothing i have was bought by him expt my Tab.I work anyways but in q private firm.Last night we had little argument concerning it and he ended up saying am sorri ,i qv many projects at hand.Now my questions are: Is it normal,Why is he acting that way? How do I handle this issue?

Very Smart. The best thing to do in a relationship is to invite strangers to give their opinions. DUMBO

Elegantdiva:
What is wrong ? Am engaged to this guy thou we are in distance relationship .He hardly spend his money on me. Nothing i have was bought by him expt my Tab.I work anyways but in q private firm.Last night we had little argument concerning it and he ended up saying am sorri ,i qv many projects at hand.Now my questions are: Is it normal,Why is he acting that way? How do I handle this issue?

Little argument say ihn no buy anything for you.. ask ya self wat is wrong.. he bought tab for you....




Mtcheeeew ah no get any thing to talk self

Op: just 2 questions..
1: How Old are u
2: Is ur interest more about what and how much he spends on u
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*Sighs* so your own orientation toward relationship is based on the material benefits? Shm shame on you. You said it's a distance R/ship and you expect him to buy heaven and earth for you? This is a case of exibiting dimwitted attitude. I have already decipher the type of specie that you are. I know he calls at intervals but u won't say it here. Anyways my advice is, despise not humble beginning the latter will be greater than the former he might be puting you to a test. There are other issues that needs his attention. Be patience
#BEanINDEPENDEnTlady
#caLLmeBERG

He is seeing some One else, am sure that's what you wanna hear.

He bought u a tab... U both are in a distant relationship... For Christ sake distant relationship don't need much gifts or outings that's Y its called distant!


Ur even working... Have u bought anything for him? Ur not even grateful.






Some guys shaa... I blame them

My dear, he's not your ATM machine. Don't expect much from him, you have a job so why not take care of yourself. I know, we have different ideologies of 'spending' in a relationship but you should free him.

You can ask him for money if the need arises but don't make it look as if its your birthright. I think, it's a bit early to start having issues with money.

Why must you be expecting someone to buy something for you?
Don't you work?
Why can't you buy what you need by yourself?
Are you in relationship with him because of material gains?
And to think he has even bought you tablet before, you still want more, if he can't, then he doesn't love you, abi...........



And I'm sure you also will be shouting "gender equality" up and down..........
Mtcheeew

is he your father ? NO.
is he your president? NO.
is he your GOD/maker? NO.
does he benefits from you? NO.
if he buys tab for a prostitute instead you, will he get benefits ? YES.
these are only a few questions that you can use to judge for yourself.
if you need more, quote me, I won't dissapoint you.

Nawa

U make Brain

ammyluv2002:
My dear, he's not your ATM machine. Don't expect much from him, you have a job so why not take care of yourself. I know, we have different ideologies of 'spending' in a relationship but you should free him.

You can ask him for money if the need arises but don't make it look as if its your birthright. I think, it's a bit early to start having issues with money.

U too make Brain!!

Monalisa185:
what have you bought for him? or is it just the guy that's meant to be spending in a relationship?

don't be selfish and self-centered

One thing I will be sure to do is to train my daughter not to think/ reason the way most girls reason. It's sickening!

yvelchstores:
One thing I will be sure to do is to train my daughter not to think/ reason the way most girls reason. It's sickening!

Honestly o! God willing

Elegantdiva:
What is wrong ? Am engaged to this guy thou we are in distance relationship .He hardly spend his money on me. Nothing i have was bought by him expt my Tab.I work anyways but in q private firm.Last night we had little argument concerning it and he ended up saying am sorri ,i qv many projects at hand.Now my questions are: Is it normal,Why is he acting that way? How do I handle this issue?

Listen
1- No picture of you or your man so no advice for you.

2- You never ready, na when better babe wey get money snatch am u go know say man wey ready for marriage scarce

3- Common sense go let u know say this is a sensitive topic no be wetin 2 ear dey hear.

4-Big eye go make u lose that guy, bet

5-U better get your acts right and stop thinking the dude owe you shiiii

yvelchstores:
One thing I will be sure to do is to train my daughter not to think/ reason the way most girls reason. It's sickening!

Babe 1,000,000 LIKES for you abeg

Pls before you guys eat me raw, get my plight first. I av a mind of my own and I av been taking care of my needs even before I met him. My issue here is,why he does not like spending on me not like weekly or monthly thing. @lst,we av xams,val,birthday .is it bad for your man to get gift forhis woman? ..don't forget when we go outing,I do pay up our bill sometimes ,i equally mark his birthday . And for the record, he is not cheating on me. I can vow for that. All I want is to see a day I will look back and say 'ha!this thing I av was bought by my man'

Elegantdiva:
Pls before you guys eat me raw, get my plight first. I av a mind of my own and I av been taking care of my needs even before I met him. My issue here is,why he does not like spending on me not like weekly or monthly thing. @lst,we av xams,val,birthday .is it bad for your man to get gift forhis woman? ..don't forget when we go outing,I do pay up our bill sometimes ,i equally mark his birthday . And for the record, he is not cheating on me. I can vow for that. All I want is to see a day I will look back and say 'ha!this thing I av was bought by my man'

Blood of Zachariah!
So after all the responses you've read so far, you still typing this? What about the tab na? Lol...

Abi you be witch?

yvelchstores:
One thing I will be sure to do is to train my daughter not to think/ reason the way most girls reason. It's sickening!

You a bloody misogynist

greatgod2012:
Why must you be expecting someone to buy something for you?
Don't you work?
Why can't you buy what you need by yourself?
Are you in relationship with him because of material gains?
And to think he has even bought you tablet before, you still want more, if he can't, then he doesn't love you, abi...........



And I'm sure you also will be shouting "gender equality" up and down..........
Mtcheeew

Of course.

crackhaus:

You a bloody misogynist

I can't possibly be that...I too am a woman u knw...

yvelchstores:
I can't possibly be that... I too am a woman u knw...

Uhh, that was kinda the point...

Nairalanders are wicked!!! @op don't mind them forming what they are not. Who doesn't like being spent on by her man. Tomorrow now if you marry this kind of guy and complain about him not taking care of you and the kids, they will be the first to ask if you didn't notice all that during courtship. In relationships there are little things that matters, it mustn't be expensive gifts and all that but most times it's good to show your partner you care. Don't nag him about it because it might just be his nature, teach him how to by buying him gifts once in a while.

Elegantdiva:
And for the record, he is not cheating on me. I can vow for that.'

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luciouscookie:
Nairalanders are wicked!!!

They have finished her off


Elegantdiva
Its very normal to be that way
Just express yourself more loving
No one wants a stingy man
Not even me

Elegantdiva:
Pls before you guys eat me raw, get my plight first. I av a mind of my own and I av been taking care of my needs even before I met him. My issue here is,why he does not like spending on me not like weekly or monthly thing. @lst,we av xams,val,birthday .is it bad for your man to get gift forhis woman? ..don't forget when we go outing,I do pay up our bill sometimes ,i equally mark his birthday . And for the record, he is not cheating on me. I can vow for that. All I want is to see a day I will look back and say 'ha!this thing I av was bought by my man'

well since he is got all these quality except he is nt a giver u shd b grateful. U cnt hv all in one man. No one is perfect so accept he like dt or continue teaching me example. Teaching him d meaning of luv frm John3:16. Giving is living he shd no dt.

And u guys don't want to be taken as sex objects. Women would only get the respect they crave for when they start showing self respect.

I honestly don't understand why everyone is lashing out at this lady. To me its not too much to ask for a little gift here and there from your spouse. I didn't see anywhere she stated that she wanted the guy to feed her or pay her bills, but all of yall are pounding on her like you're so perfect. All these oversabi people sef

I remember my husband was like this during our dating days. Sebi OP got tab, I can count on one hand the number of things I got from him in our 7 years of dating. But I didn't really bother him because my parents my meeting my financial needs in school. Even after he graduated 2 years ahead of me and he got a well paying job, he still wasn't so giving. He knew I had well to do parents so money was hardly my problem. But sometimes just a little gift, doesn't have to be so expensive, can make a person's day. It started to become annoying when he'll tell my to use my money to run errands for him then won't pay back . He did that till we got married in 2010. I practically had to empty my account so he can pay for the flat we'll stay in( he loaned someone the money he intended to use). Note gain that I wasn't working at the time o.

Fast forward to 5 years plus of marriage, there's hardly anything I ask for that he doesn't give. Because of his prudence with money and my getting of good job along the line, we were able to complete and move into our own place last year. So my dear hang in there and be patient. The projects he's working on are most likely to secure a wonderful future for the both of you, so let that be your focus not the petty things he's not getting for you fight now. Cheers

yvelchstores:
One thing I will be sure to do is to train my daughter not to think/ reason the way most girls reason. It's sickening!

You're so right. We need to train our daughters that they're not any man's responsibility even after they're married. The crop of ladies we have these days and their over-dependence on men is so annoying. They feel its their birthright.God forbid my daughter grow to be like that.

The saddest part is that this OP is not a small girl o.