4C2215131:


So Mote It Be.

Better i dont change my mind easily wen im hurt

I am ready to b loyal to mysef i av been loyal to humans

Now its time to b loyal to myself

halfricanadian:


Better i dont change my mind easily wen im hurt

I am ready to b loyal to mysef i av been loyal to humans

Now its time to b loyal to myself

Maybe that's where you erred. There has to be a balance of sort. While losing yourself in the whole love experience thingy, you must also consider yourself also. It puts things in focus. Anyway I can't say much more as I don't know the nature of the bee in your bonnet. Until I find out what really went down through the years to turn you to a hag of sorts, I wouldn't know how to tailor my comments.

You must have really been hurt, I understand but you need to love yourself again. That way u can see beauty all around u again and who knows...find love again. The bitterness will only hurt u more...no friends, bad health etc. Try and pick up a skill if u're not working or enrole in a department in church (if Christian). Give it a try, pls.

halfricanadian:


I will never let d bitterness go

I will not love ever again

I av gained nothing loving

To hell with love

Nothing will make me love

Those i sacrificed for selflessly snitched me ditched me treated me like a piece if rag made me feel less human fuvk all!!!!!

Who ever is seeking love from me will just b stunged painfully i am ready to pass d pain around !!!!!!!!!!

Dare me and see they broke my heart i removedd pieces i av nothing to give

I will b bitter nd b a serpent with venom to man

Better not a soul love me cos im an extremist i will hurt to d extremy

Dont love me i beg humanity!!!!!!!

4C2215131:


Maybe that's where you erred. There has to be a balance of sort. While losing yourself in the whole love experience thingy, you must also consider yourself also. It puts things in focus. Anyway I can't say much more as I don't know the nature of the bee in your bonnet. Until I find out what really went down through the years to turn you to a hag of sorts, I wouldn't know how to tailor my comments.

I have been burned hurt bruised mocked laughed act destroyed i have been made to feel dirty all because i am a woman i paid d price for anoda woman's sins i was forced to love who caused my bad sight to get worsen i av been destroyed disrespect all because i am a woman and i was assumed to be weak

Cos im nt rich they thought i was suffering yet wat i had put a smile on my face

They allowed my peers to mock me they brought me little to existence any body can attack me

They gave dominion to people to hurt me yet for a man who is evil every one applauded him supported him

But he never knew God is greater dan wat he is nd will ever b


God has made me stronger nd to survive i traded my love to gain strength by the help of the blessed HOLY SPIRIT AND HOLY GHOST

I will never till rapture nd eternity love any one

Even mysef i dont love

I will only help human if i will gain from it

momoftheyear16:
You must have really been hurt, I understand but you need to love yourself again. That way u can see beauty all around u again and who knows...find love again. The bitterness will only hurt u more...no friends, bad health etc. Try and pick up a skill if u're not working or enrole in a department in church (if Christian). Give it a try, pls.

Tank u i will find something to do

I appreciate dont tink i will love nor care except i will gain from it

If i giv d hopeless it will b cos i want something from God

I am done till eternity with selfless love

I am happy without love

I av d natural ability now to survive without love

It will be well.

halfricanadian:


Tank u i will find something to do

I appreciate dont tink i will love nor care except i will gain from it

If i giv d hopeless it will b cos i want something from God

I am done till eternity with selfless love

I am happy without love

I av d natural ability now to survive without love

Thanks @momoftheyear16

momoftheyear16:
While we are waiting for responses from the 'elders' based on your question, I would say dealing with anger first starts with you. You must first resolve you dont want to be that way anymore. Then there are ways to manage it depending on what works on your spouse. Be mindful that either the devil or your spouse may want to test that resolve so you need to be committed to it. I used to be short tempered before but thankfully with the encouragement of my spouse i found ways to manage it.
First, whenever my husband made me so angry, i would quietly go and vent by writing down how i felt. I noticed when i did that the feeling disappeared...no words were spoken, no confrontation. Then i was able to address that issue with a better approach. So you need to find what works for u so u dont do/say what u'll regret.

iGazelle:
Hello. Just came across this topic and it really relates to me. My marriage is not up to a year and it's about to be seperated due to irreconcilable differences. We were friends for some years before we decided to get married because we thought we knew each other but now i see our personalities and ideologies are totally different. I have compromised for peace but he doesn't. I feel so so lonely and pained but still trying to resolve this but he doesn't want to be reasonable. I don't want to bring the family into it because I don't want it to be a routine. Pls I need sincere advice because I feel.so vulnerable. The details are so long I don't know where to begin. Just confused.

Your marriage is about to end, right ? And you dont want to bring family into it because you dont want it to be a routine ? Doesnt make sense if the marriage is about to end, there will be no routine if it does. Marriage is a box and sometimes we need third-parties to help us see outside the box. Except you want out, marriage is where you deploy arsenals meant for war, to fight a battle.

Ok..following

Hello everyone, I am not married yet but planning to do my introduction/engagement this year, I have been courting my fiancee for 3years now but the issue is he works in the north and rarely comes home to South west. He is so much inlove with his work to the extent that he doesn't talk about anything else on phone except work and been busy all day. It's getting boring with him and I am worried wat will happen if we get married. Pls kindly advice

iGazelle:
My husband is the vulnerable type so most times I try to protect him but I think it's doing more harm. He says he wants freedom, he wants to still communicate with his ex, do whatever he wants without reprieve. Frankly it's hurting to hear this because I feel he ought to know his boundaries. I just don't understand.

Just sent you a pm dear.

momoftheyear16:
While we are waiting for responses from the 'elders' based on your question, I would say dealing with anger first starts with you. You must first resolve you dont want to be that way anymore. Then there are ways to manage it depending on what works on your spouse. Be mindful that either the devil or your spouse may want to test that resolve so you need to be committed to it. I used to be short tempered before but thankfully with the encouragement of my spouse i found ways to manage it.
First, whenever my husband made me so angry, i would quietly go and vent by writing down how i felt. I noticed when i did that the feeling disappeared...no words were spoken, no confrontation. Then i was able to address that issue with a better approach. So you need to find what works for u so u dont do/say what u'll regret.

It works for me too

smileeey:
Hello everyone, I am not married yet but planning to do my introduction/engagement this year, I have been courting my fiancee for 3years now but the issue is he works in the north and rarely comes home to South west. He is so much inlove with his work to the extent that he doesn't talk about anything else on phone except work and been busy all day. It's getting boring with him and I am worried wat will happen if we get married. Pls kindly advice

Have you guys always had a long distance relationship or was he transferred? Can you deal with the fact that after marriage you may not see him for weeks/months due to demands of his job? Do you know what his job entails and maybe how it really takes it's toll on him? Have you talked to him about how you feel as well? If he talks about his work excitedly often,it's because he loves that job and will always talk about it...if you try to stop him from doing so,he may also see you as not being on the same page with him...you need to know how to bring up the issue in a way that won't make you come out as being selfish.

I have been married for 6 years now,and I can't say I've not had the worst of it,but i can say I have learnt so much from being married and living with my husband,i have learnt to be more respectful,tolerant,patient, i decided about two years into my marriage that my marriage is for better and for worse, and i have worked hard,I learnt how important communication is,how important friendship is between spouses, i have also taught my husband to respect me,it is important to respect each other,it is important to know that huge fights and misunderstanding will occur,but when you are prepared for it,when you know that it's a stage that will pass,you become stronger....i have got so many stories to share ....

Fiwasayo:
I have been married for 6 years now,and I can't say I've not had the worst of it,but i can say I have learnt so much from being married and living with my husband,i have learnt to be more respectful,tolerant,patient, i decided about two years into my marriage that my marriage is for better and for worse, and i have worked hard,I learnt how important communication is,how important friendship is between spouses, i have also taught my husband to respect me,it is important to respect each other,it is important to know that huge fights and misunderstanding will occur,but when you are prepared for it,when you know that it's a stage that will pass,you become stronger....i have got so many stories to share ....

In simply words u are lucky nd
you have bern blessed with marital favour

So dont indulge people to b in a toxic marriage just cos heaven stood by u

Many are dead from toxic marriages

Marriage is simply management. No one knows it all. Whoever treats a woman as a piece of rag is not human . Women are to be respected and adored. Women makes the world spin round . Virtuous women loves unconditionally and they should be loved beautifully in return .women are indeed awesome.

My friend has a fiance whom they are planning to get married later this year, him and his woman work in different States, the problem now is she hardly calls or pings and she was a little better at it when they started dating but somewhere along the line she became worse. If she is asked she either says she doesn't have credit and she could stay for almost a week and won't bother calling or pinging and would only reply when she is messaged. But yet she says she still loves him dearly even though she hardly initiates communication. My friend is really confused whether he should proceed with the marriage because his desire for love and affection through communication is being dashed by his fiancee

babs50g:
Marriage is simply management. No one knows it all. Whoever treats a woman as a piece of rag is not human . Women are to be respected and adored. Women makes the world spin round . Virtuous women loves unconditionally and they should be loved beautifully in return .women are indeed awesome.

Tank u God bless u

A man like wat u av just written is every woman's dream man and always will be

tommysparks:
My friend has a fiance whom they are planning to get married later this year, him and his woman work in different States, the problem now is she hardly calls or pings and she was a little better at it when they started dating but somewhere along the line she became worse. If she is asked she either says she doesn't have credit and she could stay for almost a week and won't bother calling or pinging and would only reply when she is messaged. But yet she says she still loves him dearly even though she hardly initiates communication. My friend is really confused whether he should proceed with the marriage because his desire for love and affection through communication is being dashed by his fiancee

If she aint cheating

It all depends on how he is treating her wen a woman stops her former ways u might av hurt her

A broken woman cant breed happiness

Wen a woman is happy nd feel loved she wud go to extremes to communicate nd make ur frnd d happiest man ever

No body can eat their cake and still have it

Your frnd must av hurt het if d lady is nt cheating

All dis love stress sef feel for her nt den love is an illusion

Hello @Fiwasayo. Replied your pm. I admire your marriage values. In my case, he can't handle pressure. If we have an issue, he avoids talking about it which becomes frustrating. I'm trying to be patient but he simply is just being unreasonable. It's demoralizing. How can I teach him to respect me and our marriage if we manage to scale through this?

Fiwasayo:
I have been married for 6 years now,and I can't say I've not had the worst of it,but i can say I have learnt so much from being married and living with my husband,i have learnt to be more respectful,tolerant,patient, i decided about two years into my marriage that my marriage is for better and for worse, and i have worked hard,I learnt how important communication is,how important friendship is between spouses, i have also taught my husband to respect me,it is important to respect each other,it is important to know that huge fights and misunderstanding will occur,but when you are prepared for it,when you know that it's a stage that will pass,you become stronger....i have got so many stories to share ....

halfricanadian:


In simply words u are lucky nd
you have bern blessed with marital favour

So dont indulge people to b in a toxic marriage just cos heaven stood by u

Many are dead from toxic marriages

Where did I write that anyone should indulge in a toxic marriage you're quite bitter,you've made it obvious enough,but don't take it out on me....cheers.

It sounds like she is losing interest already or not yet decisive or there may be another competition. He needs to bring his feelings to her notice and discuss about it so they can ascertain if the marriage would go on so as to avoid heartaches in future.

tommysparks:
My friend has a fiance whom they are planning to get married later this year, him and his woman work in different States, the problem now is she hardly calls or pings and she was a little better at it when they started dating but somewhere along the line she became worse. If she is asked she either says she doesn't have credit and she could stay for almost a week and won't bother calling or pinging and would only reply when she is messaged. But yet she says she still loves him dearly even though she hardly initiates communication. My friend is really confused whether he should proceed with the marriage because his desire for love and affection through communication is being dashed by his fiancee

iGazelle:
Hello @Fiwasayo. Replied your pm. I admire your marriage values. In my case, he can't handle pressure. If we have an issue, he avoids talking about it which becomes frustrating. I'm trying to be patient but he simply is just being unreasonable. It's demoralizing. How can I teach him to respect me and our marriage if we manage to scale through this?

Bless you dear,not seen your reply,I will really like to talk to you....

I sent another pm.

Fiwasayo:


Bless you dear,not seen your reply,I will really like to talk to you....

iGazelle:
I sent another pm.

Yes,seen,network is crazy tonight. Thank you.

smileeey:
Hello everyone, I am not married yet but planning to do my introduction/engagement this year, I have been courting my fiancee for 3years now but the issue is he works in the north and rarely comes home to South west. He is so much inlove with his work to the extent that he doesn't talk about anything else on phone except work and been busy all day. It's getting boring with him and I am worried wat will happen if we get married. Pls kindly advice

You will end up ogling boys on NL because you will not only be bored, you will be frustrated. If you aren't coping well with the distance now, you can't cope with it later. You will fight and nag until there is nothing left in you to fight with. I won't advise my enemy to marry an absentee head of house hold. I don't need to tell you that you will regret if you do because you know that already.

100Cents:


My God and Father in heaven.

iGazelle is a newly wed. You built the institution called marriage. She says she is your daughter and has confessed thee openly. Lord, it is thy desire and ours that what God has joined together, no man should put asunder. Father, standing on your word which says that if we ask with faith, that we shall receive whatever we ask for, Lord we make a demand that you heal her marriage and establish their love permanently in Jesus mighty name.

And the Church of God says Amen.

Amen!!!!!!!!!!!!!

halfricanadian:


I have been burned hurt bruised mocked laughed act destroyed i have been made to feel dirty all because i am a woman i paid d price for anoda woman's sins i was forced to love who caused my bad sight to get worsen i av been destroyed disrespect all because i am a woman and i was assumed to be weak

Cos im nt rich they thought i was suffering yet wat i had put a smile on my face

They allowed my peers to mock me they brought me little to existence any body can attack me

They gave dominion to people to hurt me yet for a man who is evil every one applauded him supported him

But he never knew God is greater dan wat he is nd will ever b


God has made me stronger nd to survive i traded my love to gain strength by the help of the blessed HOLY SPIRIT AND HOLY GHOST

I will never till rapture nd eternity love any one

Even mysef i dont love

I will only help human if i will gain from it

No disrespect, but I'm trying really hard here to make sense of your post what with your abbreviations, writing style and whatnot. You keep speaking in circles and riddles. Well, you're definitely not under any obligation to disclose what went down in public. Hit me up privately and we we could talk about it maybe? You do not love yourself? Quite a nihilistic view of life you've. Can't say more til I know what went down. Keep ya head up.

4C2215131:


No disrespect, but I'm trying really hard here to make sense of your post what with your abbreviations, writing style and whatnot. You keep speaking in circles and riddles. Well, you're definitely not under any obligation to disclose what went down in public. Hit me up privately and we we could talk about it maybe? You do not love yourself? Quite a nihilistic view of life you've. Can't say more til I know what went down. Keep ya head up.

Tank u

momoftheyear16:
It sounds like she is losing interest already or not yet decisive or there may be another competition. He needs to bring his feelings to her notice and discuss about it so they can ascertain if the marriage would go on so as to avoid heartaches in future.

tnx I will pass the info. Though I suspected cheating, but I will pass the loss of interest or indecision thing to him. Marriage just has too many. Angles to look at mehn....

halfricanadian:


Tank u

You're welcome.

halfricanadian:


Tank u

just say u are not going into any romantic relationships anymore but u cant shut out love, that's the greatest gift of God.