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missyge:
I understnd how u feel...
Does ut mean he lives with his mum? If a guy isnt treating u d way he suld, simple bkos wateva may be his reason,
I think u suld dump his silly ass.. Some1 better would come knocking @ ur door...

naijaboiy:
[color=#1980BC]This one is just plain silly!

So because one man is using your head and taking advantage of your kindness you are generalizing it on every man in Nigeria.

Secondly, how are we sure you are the only one who is spending on him. You mean since the both of you started dating he has not done anything for you financially?

Why I'm askin is because sometimes you women tend to be quite greedy and stingy when it comes to your money in a relationship or marriage. When a guy spends on you and gives you money you see it as nothing but when you are the one who manages to help him a little you expect that he pays you back.

I am not going to support you fully because I don't believe that your man is just in that relationship and has not spent a dime on you.

What is 2k that you are complaining of upandan like this? [/color]

ClitRaider:
Sorry, maybe you should just ditch men, love yourself and fvck yourself.

Enahi:
Don't get it twisted the reason why I posted this here is because I have been through this before, it's not about the money but it's the fact that he doesn't even care.

And yes I am proud to say he has never spent a dime on me and nothing stops him from doing that even if I sont ask him for anything.

naijaboiy:
[color=#1980BC]Okay...if he has not spent anything on you then I'll understand and in my opinion that's very bad of him. No matter how broke a man is he should be able to cater for some basic needs of his woman. I don't think that's too much to do.

So from indications it seems he's taking advantage of your kindness, I feel you should let him know that you won't condone it anymore and that the door is not far from you to walk out.

Nevertheless please desist from generalizing things like this. I'm a young man and I know I don't and can't totally depend on my woman financially in any relationship.[/color]

missyge:
I understnd how u feel...

Does ut mean he lives with his mum?
If a guy isnt treating u d way he suld, simple bkos wateva may be his reason,

I think u suld dump his silly ass..
Some1 better would come knocking @ ur door...

Stupedinluv:
Honey there are better and bigger reasons to be tired of Nigerian men/black men in general.

I can understand what you passing through. Many guys out there are coded golddiggers. The moment they notice you earning, they start looking for a way to leech you dry. Thats why i dont let any of them know am earning, those parasites that is. And i try to keep a very low profile too. I advice you to do same if you wish.

Dating a guy who is not workingwould most times lead to heart breaks and disappointments.

Enahi:
Why me? Why are you men very manipulative?
I am tired, tired and irritated.

It hasn't been up to Two months I met my new boyfriend and he keeps asking me for little money that at the end of the day he won't pay back. The other time he had a little problem with his car I had to fix it since d cost was very little.
The other time he called me to give someone 2k on his behalf and that he would pay back, that one entered voicemail I didn't even bother to ask him to refund it wanted to see if he would like he said.

Just 2 weeks ago he came complaining about some stuff that has to do with him not having money and asked he wish I can borrow him 3k. Thank God for my friend that has met him and told me my man looks like a user and that I should be careful.

Painful thing is he doesn't care about me neither does he ask about my welfare, he wants me to cook for him always because he enjoys my meals and has even asked me to cook and bring to his house when he has a mom that's cooks for him always.

I think he is taken advantage of the fact that I am a nice person, I have made efforts to call off the relationship several times because it got to a point i was now the only one doing all the calling and communicating, he keeps saying he is sorry.

I am tired.

Europija:
......I understand how u feel...I am.girl frok Europe been with igbo guy for 5 years...what he did was use me for money n to be there for him when he was broke n when noone been there for him!I cook clean n wash for him i travel.to another country just for him to see him...24 hours i wil be inside bus just to go to see him...he wil.not even show up on time to come.to pick me..He beat me n throw me.out of house in midle.of night coz i didnt bring him amount of money that i said i wil.bring...he wil humiliate me n insult me.make.me.feel as i am.d most teriable girl in world...he almost destroyed my self esteem...I gave my.life to that guy...My energy .my everything...i was always stressing myself.how.to help.his life to the point i forgot about my own life...and he was using my.love for him to get help from.me...and after all my effort for him n after that i forgave him everything.he was the one to dump.me.coz he couldnt gain no documents from.me for staying forever in Europe...What i wil.tel u is...leave that guy i beg u...he is beggining u to come back.coz he needs u as in using u...when he comes on feet again he wil not even remember u...Pls u wil.feel.better without him.trust me

Enahi:
Why me? Why are you men very manipulative?
I am tired, tired and irritated.

It hasn't been up to Two months I met my new boyfriend and he keeps asking me for little money that at the end of the day he won't pay back. The other time he had a little problem with his car I had to fix it since d cost was very little.
The other time he called me to give someone 2k on his behalf and that he would pay back, that one entered voicemail I didn't even bother to ask him to refund it wanted to see if he would like he said.

Just 2 weeks ago he came complaining about some stuff that has to do with him not having money and asked he wish I can borrow him 3k. Thank God for my friend that has met him and told me my man looks like a user and that I should be careful.

Painful thing is he doesn't care about me neither does he ask about my welfare, he wants me to cook for him always because he enjoys my meals and has even asked me to cook and bring to his house when he has a mom that's cooks for him always.

I think he is taken advantage of the fact that I am a nice person, I have made efforts to call off the relationship several times because it got to a point i was now the only one doing all the calling and communicating, he keeps saying he is sorry.

I am tired.

Strahovski1:
Dear come over here In India we have lots of men who are responsible and take care of you.

And they have light skin

Enahi:
Why me? Why are you men very manipulative?
I am tired, tired and irritated.

It hasn't been up to Two months I met my new boyfriend and he keeps asking me for little money that at the end of the day he won't pay back. The other time he had a little problem with his car I had to fix it since d cost was very little.
The other time he called me to give someone 2k on his behalf and that he would pay back, that one entered voicemail I didn't even bother to ask him to refund it wanted to see if he would like he said.

Just 2 weeks ago he came complaining about some stuff that has to do with him not having money and asked he wish I can borrow him 3k. Thank God for my friend that has met him and told me my man looks like a user and that I should be careful.

Painful thing is he doesn't care about me neither does he ask about my welfare, he wants me to cook for him always because he enjoys my meals and has even asked me to cook and bring to his house when he has a mom that's cooks for him always.

I think he is taken advantage of the fact that I am a nice person, I have made efforts to call off the relationship several times because it got to a point i was now the only one doing all the calling and communicating, he keeps saying he is sorry.

I am tired.

sinaj:
. Wot has light skin got to do with diz?

Enahi:
Thank you so much I guess you are just like me I put in so much energy when it comes to relationships and family.
Sorry to hear about your experience and I believe your ex will have so much regrets because of the way he treated you and thank God you didn't allow him get his papers through you, most of them already have girlfriends back home in Nigeria.

Europija:
......I understand how u feel...I am.girl frok Europe been with igbo guy for 5 years...what he did was use me for money n to be there for him when he was broke n when noone been there for him!I cook clean n wash for him i travel.to another country just for him to see him...24 hours i wil be inside bus just to go to see him...he wil.not even show up on time to come.to pick me..He beat me n throw me.out of house in midle.of night coz i didnt bring him amount of money that i said i wil.bring...he wil humiliate me n insult me.make.me.feel as i am.d most teriable girl in world...he almost destroyed my self esteem...I gave my.life to that guy...My energy .my everything...i was always stressing myself.how.to help.his life to the point i forgot about my own life...and he was using my.love for him to get help from.me...and after all my effort for him n after that i forgave him everything.he was the one to dump.me.coz he couldnt gain no documents from.me for staying forever in Europe...What i wil.tel u is...leave that guy i beg u...he is beggining u to come back.coz he needs u as in using u...when he comes on feet again he wil not even remember u...Pls u wil.feel.better without him.trust me

Europija:
....Yes is ok...no.worries..Anyway is also.my fault coz I allowed him.to treat me that way...Ur case with that ur guy is not so that teriable as my case...But when money is included then hmmm...u have alot to think..n yea igbos r most of them selfish...all they think is themselfs n money is very very importhant to them. Btw i dont think this my guy wil ever regret his actions or he wil see that i was angel to him.... coz al he sees is money n documents.if person canot give him that then the person is worthless..Even him.himself told me that he didnt come.to Europe for love but for papers

captianfreeman:
Your boyfriend is a miner , he is just mining your gold.

DeeTus:
Oh! Oh!! Where are you from really?

Stupedinluv:
Honey there are better and bigger reasons to be tired of Nigerian men/black men in general.

I can understand what you passing through. Many guys out there are coded golddiggers. The moment they notice you earning, they start looking for a way to leech you dry. Thats why i dont let any of them know am earning, those parasites that is. And i try to keep a very low profile too. I advice you to do same if you wish.

Dating a guy who is not workingwould most times lead to heart breaks and disappointments.

Enahi:
Don't worry he will come back to beg you for forgiveness or second chance, trust me most men know a good woman when they see one. They always want to come back after they have realized their mistakes.

I don't think all igbo men are selfish, haven't really dated Igbos anyway. I just think they are too money conscious I heard they take Care of their women well.

Europija:
.....ya ur right..well.not all.but most.of them from what i saw n heard...I really dont think this my guy wil ever see me worthy...But what i know n i am sure of is that very few women wil.be with guy that is broke as such n giving him everything in d same time...someone as me.he wil.hardly.find...most girls go after money..But he is now in Germany...German women r rich n luv blacks so they wil.not mind staying wih someone that is broke

Enahi:
Wow his case is pathetic, he should better get a job for himself or else he is going to end up useless in life.
It's not about German women been rich trust me someday they are going to throw his stuffs out on the street and if he ever makes it back to Nigeria he is going to be a nuisance to the Society.

Europija:
....East Europe..why?

Tabh:
Broke ass niccur, 2k,3k in naira? Why stoop so low to date such guy? Ayanma Point of correction, there are generous naija men.

Tabh:
Broke ass niccur, 2k,3k in naira? Why stoop so low to date such guy? Ayanma Point of correction, there are generous naija men.

Enahi:
I didn't know he was so broke its not written on the forehead is it?