If you can't have your own or if you have enough resources to take care of a child in need.

I ll adopt a kid or two in the future but that will depend on my financial status ..... My wife must have stopped giving birth n my last child shld be up to 5yrs old...... I ve already settled this in my mind but one ve to get married first
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drberry:
I'll bear my own children however I'll adopt under the following circumstances.
1. If after 5 years of marriage without children.
2. When my 3 children are done with higher institution.
3. When my money is so much and I have little responsibility to carry out.

same here.

Miami11:
In six years I will,
I have three of my own but want one more to help
So yep, I will adopt some day.
Hubby is fine with this

I like ur reason for adopting one more baby.just to help. Can you be more specific abt what u meant by help. Do you mean to help u like a slave in the house or u mean u wanna help the adopted child? Can you pls come and adopt me cos am looking for a new home with plenty of money to takecare of me. Can adults be adopted?

Sleekyshuga:
Adopting a child/children comes with different processes, and individuals involved..

• Couples who have been married for a long time without any child..

• A single woman who feels she cannot be married again but would want a child to bear her name..

• Gay couples who would want a child/children..

• Married couples who already have children but want more, and wouldn't want to go through the stress of getting pregnant again or those who would want to help a child/children have a better life.. Madonna & Angelina Jolie comes to mind..


E taya me oo .. I know a friend, and course mate whose dad has eight children (4 of them are already married, with the last in level 100 in the university) and yet, he adopted two beautiful daughters (his reason was, the others were older, and leaving the house, and at such, he needed kids to grow with him).. Trust me when I say I couldn't differentiate between the adopted kids from his as they all looked good, and well taken care of..

If I find myself in a situation where I can't have my own kids, I would definitely adopt, and that child would be treated right..

I agree with you.my uncle and his wife both have three children of their own;when the children(my cousins) started getting married,my uncle's wife had to go and adopt a girl from "little saints orphanage" at palmgrove. Now the girl in question is in her 300 level in unilag. She doesn't know she was adopted,she speaks our native language which is delta ibo even much better than us and she's also a model.

maryhaam:
I feel one need to adopt to help a child out there,i can too when I get married,just to help.

I don't mind adopting you, what is going to cause me to be your adopted parent ?

Kachisbarbie:
If I found myself in a situation where I can't have my own kids, I would definitely adopt.

For now,no special circumstance, my hubby suggested we adopt one and I bought the idea_ to give the child a "family" and better standard of living. The child would be the baby of the house , probably in the next 4-6yrs, we would take that step.

I don't know if I should go for a boy or girl, before then I would definitely decide...lols.

Same here, want a girl so my daughter can have a play mate.

Going to start the process in august.

I have 4 of my own
3boys and a girl

To give him/her a better environment...

Miami11:
In six years I will,
I have three of my own but want one more to help
So yep, I will adopt some day.
Hubby is fine with this

I love u ma for DX comment....even if u xtill av urs,u still wanna help...heart of gold

I will definitely adopt a child when my last biological will be 5 or 6. I have already named the baby sef. That's my covenant baby.

jesuspikinjp:


I don't mind adopting you, what is going to cause me to be your adopted parent ?

lool,my folks are alive you can seek there consent thou, you are funny.

Pidggin:
I am a bit surprised at the above responses. If you have your own kids why do you want to adopt? Is it to treat the child as a second class person or what? Many of these kids adopted by people who already have kids are treated very poorly most times even by their so called siblings.

OP, I would like to adopt kids, if I end up not having mine.

You nailed it!

it has always been on my mind right from my school days when I render voluntary services in motherless babies home and I am very sure I would adopt one later in life, we would play together and I would nuture him/her well to be a great woman/man. So help me God

RoyalBlak007:
Matured Response Please..ThankYou

You don't need any circumstance to pertronise adoption. I and my wife agreed on this even before we approached the alter, we will have 3 children, of the 3, one will be adopted.

Adoption is not an escape route of childlessness, it is a blessing of taking responsibility over the orphans.

Maybe I should also use this opportunity to add that childlessness is not a curse as most Christians even pastors will have us believe.

Every woman is fruitful even without a child, there are several areas of productivity, If God doesn't give a child, don't try to manipulate one. Rather look at everyone around you as your child, and do to them what you would have done for your child.


One of the questions God will ask us when we go back to him is " how many have you won for me" not how many you begot for me.

kenonze:
I can only adopt for my lonely aged parents.
As for myself, i love my dance space.
I Don't need people to start monitoring how i treat a child.

That's not adoption,that's hiring house help or maid for your parents,

Adoption is taking a child and treating he/r like your flesh and blood.

There are other areas such as fostering aswell.i see a lot of people here thinking of adoption as going to a pet shop.

People need to understand what adoption is first.

udumosam23:
Maybe I should also use this opportunity to add that childlessness is not a curse as most Christians even pastors will have us believe.

Every woman is fruitful even without a child, there are several areas of productivity, If God doesn't give a child, don't try to manipulate one. Rather look at everyone around you as your child, and do to them what you would have done for your child.


One of the questions God will ask us when we go back to him is " how many have you won for me" not how many you begot for me.

O God! my heart is melting on this your comment. I'm 101% in agreement of what you've just said.


Having a sister who has been childless for about ten years,and seeing how happy and content they(she n hubby) has been all the way; has made my to see life in a different n better light. This couple had trained,nuture n cater for kids that are not their biological children from childhood to adulthood out of love.Indeed they are fruitful!



Now on the topic adoption, an adopted child is BORN FROM THE HEART while a biological child is from the womb!...If anyone can relate to this.God is not a fool...we need to understand that anyone can have a child.No one is Barren!

If I can't have mine, or if after I've had mine I see a child that needs a family & can afford to care for him/her

She said the truth....its better to adopt when you don't have urs cos the begotten children might claim more legitimacy in d course of time

Kachisbarbie:

As usual, you guys tend to know only the evil side of it all_ marriages that are failing, adopted kids that are treated badly, women that are lazy, men that are philanderers...and the list goes on.

Miami11:
In six years I will,
I have three of my own but want one more to help
So yep, I will adopt some day.
Hubby is fine with this

Are you for real? you want to adopt a child that will help you with what exactly? Women! make una dey fear God oo. If u need a house keeper, dem full ground.

I jst pray am very comfortable.......I will adopt a boy even if I have my own kids

greggng:

I like ur reason for adopting one more baby.just to help. Can you be more specific abt what u meant by help. Do you mean to help u like a slave in the house or u mean u wanna help the adopted child?

Desdemona:

Are you for real? you want to adopt a child that will help you with what exactly? Women! make una dey fear God oo. If u need a house keeper, dem full ground.

A baby to help. She wants to help a baby not a baby that would help her.

English language is really difficult

@HomeOfMe
I liked your post, cos of your uncle's nice gesture,
However, your post is disturbing...too revealing
What if your cousin was on here.... dont you think she could find out if she was astute or the like? You revealed her level, tribe, occupation...
I am all for honesty and tell alls, but in this scenario, where you said she does not know she is adopted? It is a tad too inappropriate IMO
Cheers

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merahki:
@HomeOfMe
I liked your post, cos of your uncle's nice gesture,
However, your post is disturbing...too revealing
What if your cousin was on here.... dont you she could find out if astute or something? You revealed her level, tribe, occupation...
I am all for honesty and tell alls, but in this scenario, where you said she does not know she is adopted? It is a tad too inappropriate IMO
Cheers

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if I didn't know my cousin like the palm of my hands I wouldn't have put this post up in the first place. She's not a social media freak talk less of nairaland!

I can only adopt a child if I find out I can't have my own biological children..

If the fault is from my husband,No to adoption...I divorce him and remarry

If the fault is from me,No to adoption while married.i divorce my husband for him to remarry and have his own kids

and adopt a child on my own

MrLouisVanGaal1:
I wish i could adopt all the homeless kids in the world!

Awwww

I really wish I could adopt but my hubby is so adamant about it. I'm still praying he accept. I need a baby girl. we've been married for a while now and our only son is 14yrs. I can't wait to adopt my daughter. We are building a 3 bedroom apartment and I have shared it I keep saying the master is for us, this room is for my son and this one will be painted pink and lilac and it's for my daughter. I can't wait to have that baby girl. if possible I want the one from 6months that I can nurture and feel the pain and joy of a mother again.

So many good people here. I love you all.

DMerciful:
She said the truth....its better to adopt when you don't have urs cos the begotten children might claim more legitimacy in d course of time

If that's the case don't bother to adopt. So if the person later now has kids nko By your logic they will then start treating the adopted child badly

Real love is irrespective of if it's a biological child or an adopted one. A person with real love in their hearts will live both the same. The minute you adopt the child he / she become your child fully. Being a real parent goes beyond DNA or the process of giving birth

For me... It's not a question of 'if' rather a question of how many I'll adopt. Imagine every home adopting one kid.... I'm pretty sure there will be none left in the orphanage

@benedicta
You can take him on a visit to an orphanage , see if that him click with one of the children and change his mind. If that doesn't change his mind then sorry but you need need let it go. You can pray and leave it, let him be the one to approach you if he wants it's after that. The last thing an adopted child needs is one parent whose heart is not in it