hello @ all, kindly share your opinion on strategies one could employ to catch a cheating wife.

Pls mature contributions.

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even if she hasnt cheated, the fact that you are suspicious is enough to conclude that there will never be peace again in your union (the worm is in the apple).... so why dont you just divorce that woman that you dont TRUST, and be merry?

also, i hope that you want proof f cheating in order to DIVORCE her, because what would be the point of doing all this nonsense to "possibly" catch her, and then at the end forgive and stay with her cheating behind?

MRBrownJ:
even if she hasnt cheated, the fact that you are suspicious is enough to conclude that there will never be peace again in your union (the worm is in the apple).... so why dont you just divorce that woman that you dont TRUST, and be merry?

also, i hope that you want proof f cheating in order to DIVORCE her, because what would be the point of doing all this nonsense to "possibly" catch her, and then at the end forgive and stay with her cheating behind?

The fact that there are issues with trust which was once very solid is enough to try and find out the reason for my fears and I couldn't just divorce her without being very certain of my suspicions.


...and of course, she'll have to leave if i found out my suspicions are confirmed to be the truth. The point is being very sure I'm not making any mistake.

BioTeck:


The fact that there are issues with trust which was once very solid is enough to try and find out the reason for my fears and I couldn't just divorce her without being very certain of my suspicions.


...and of course, she'll have to leave if i found out my suspicions are confirmed to be the truth. The point is being very sure I'm not making any mistake.

come on bro, you actually believe that life is gonna be the same if/when you realise that she wasnt cheating?! that would only be the beginning as the suspicion will NEVER go away.... whenever she will be out, or a bit late, you will suspect her, every time she would be on the phone with a stranger, you will suspect her. whether you catch her or not is irrelevant, the damage has been done.

btw what makes you even think she is cheating?! have you tried COMMUNICATE with her about your trust issues?

MRBrownJ:


come on bro, you actually believe that life is gonna be the same if/when you realise that she wasnt cheating?! that would only be the beginning as the suspicion will NEVER go away.... whenever she will be out, or a bit late, you will suspect her, every time she would be on the phone with a stranger, you will suspect her. whether you catch her or not is irrelevant, the damage has been done.

btw what makes you even think she is cheating?! have you tried COMMUNICATE with her about your trust issues?

No, it won't be like that with me...I'm in full control of my mind...I can easily switch my mind back to what it used to be once I have confirmed my suspicions to be negative.

What makes you think COMMUNICATION will make her tell you the truth if truly she is cheating? Every woman will deny it even to the point of death.

BioTeck:


No, it won't be like that with me...I'm in full control of my mind...I can easily switch my mind back to what it used to be once I have confirmed my suspicions to be negative.

What makes you think COMMUNICATION will make her tell you the truth if truly she is cheating? Every woman will deny it even to the point of death.

bwaaah what a funny post!!! so you "supposedly" trusted your wife but due to some issues, you wont communicate with her about your suspicions or the "now" lack of trust?! what kind of BS trust did you guys have that you cant even communicate openly about such issues?! at least let her have her say on the issue before you judge her in such a negative manner.

you say being in control of your mind yet cant even give this woman a fair hearing, and use that mind to judge her.

again, as i have stated, the worm is in the apple and nothing can fix your suspicious state of mind. the above statement in bold is a confirmation that whatever happens, you will never believe the findings and instead believe whatever you want to believe... aka she is cheating and will do everything (even die) to keep that secret.

whatever this lady says OR does is irrelevant here, as you have already judged and sentenced her as an unfaithful woman.

MRBrownJ:


bwaaah what a funny post!!! so you "supposedly" trusted your wife but due to some issues, you wont communicate with her about your suspicions or the "now" lack of trust?! what kind of BS trust did you guys have that you cant even communicate openly about such issues?! at least let her have her say on the issue before you judge her in such a negative manner.

you say being in control of your mind yet cant even give this woman a fair hearing, and use that mind to judged her.

again, as i have stated, the worm is in the apple and nothing can fix your suspicious state of mind. the above statement in bold is a confirmation that whatever happens, you will never believe the findings and instead believe whatever you want to believe... aka she is cheating and will do everything (even die) to keep that secret.

[b]whatever this lady says OR does is irrelevant here, as you have already judged and sentenced her as an unfaithful woman.[/b]

Absolutely wrong assertion. I'll find out the truth and act accordingly. nothing more, nothing less. You want to investigate someone and you want the principal subject to play a leading role during the investigation? I won't ask her. All i need is to find out what the truth is and lay it bare before her. I'll only act on incontrovertible evidence.

BioTeck:
Absolutely wrong assertion. I'll find out the truth and act accordingly. nothing more, nothing less. You want to investigate someone and you want the principal subject to play a leading role during the investigation? I won't ask her. All i need is to find out what the truth is and lay it bare before her. I'll only act on incontrovertible evidence.

dont know what YOUR idea of trust is, but my definition of trust is to COMMUNICATE with your spouse when such stuff happens, and let her tell HER side of the story. trust is about telling your partner openly abut such worries (innocent until proven guilty). men like you, who suspect their partner yet cant even face her openly about these suspicious, will always fail. you have made up your mind about this issue and SOLELY wanna "catch" her. your failed state of mind can never fix this issue, unless she is caught cheating (one way or the other).

how can you even talk of TRUST in the same sentence as INVESTIGATING your wife?! you are the one with issues here, you are the one who should voice your concern to her, and only if her answers aint right, should you take it further. not even ONCE did you mention that she could be innocent, your whole state of mind is that she is CHEATING, yet you tell me you are in control of your mind?! highly laughable!

MRBrownJ:


dont know what YOUR idea of trust is, but my definition of trust is to COMMUNICATE with your spouse when such stuff happens, and let her tell HER side of the story. trust is about telling your partner openly abut such worries (innocent until proven guilty). men like you, who suspect their partner yet cant even face her openly about these suspicious, will always fail. you have made up your mind about this issue and SOLELY wanna "catch" her. your failed state of mind can never fix this issue, unless she is caught cheating (one way or the other).

how can you even talk of TRUST in the same sentence as INVESTIGATING your wife?! you are the one with issues here, you are the one who should voice your concern to her, and only if her answers aint right, should you take it further. not even ONCE did you mention that she could be innocent, your whole state of mind is that she is CHEATING, yet you tell me you are in control of your mind?! highly laughable!

Well, it might be laughable to you but that's your opinion. I don't understand why you think asking her will make her tell you the truth except you find out the truth from other sources. maybe you live in Uranus where women simply own up to being a cheat when you ask her...my wife, I'm suspecting you are cheating on me, pls confirm?...and she'll open her mouth to say 'yes, I have bn cheating on you dear'

BioTeck:
Well, it might be laughable to you but that's your opinion. I don't understand why you think asking her will make her tell you the truth except you find out the truth from other sources. maybe you live in Uranus where women simply own up to being a cheat.

thats because before i remotely ACCUSE her of any wrongdoings and/or investigate her, i would ask her about it openly (thats what trusting and honest people do) so that she can have a say about it. if she gives me an explanation that is satisfactory then so be it, case closed.... and if she doesnt then i would now be suspicious and possibly investigate... thats what TRUST means to me.

sadly, you have already assumed that her answers wont be satisfactory to you, without even asking her or letting her know about your worries. what a sad r/ship where trust can go out the window so quick, thanks to some misplaced ego!

btw: as much as you may avoid the question, it still remains.... WHAT MAKES YOU EVEN THINK SHE IS CHEATING?

Still available.

MRBrownJ:


thats because before i remotely ACCUSE her of any wrongdoings and/or investigate her, i would ask her about it openly (thats what trusting and honest people do) so that she can have a say about it. if she gives me an explanation that is satisfactory then so be it, case closed.... and if she doesnt then i would now be suspicious and possibly investigate... thats what TRUST means to me.

sadly, you have already assumed that her answers wont be satisfactory to you, without even asking her or letting her know about your worries. what a sad r/ship where trust can go out the window so quick, thanks to some misplaced ego!

btw: as much as you may avoid the question, it still remains.... [b]WHAT MAKES YOU EVEN THINK SHE IS CHEATING?[/b]

She lies frequently about her whereabouts and when asked, she takes to self defense instantly...now when she picks her calls, she walks away if i was around. She doesn't behave this way before now.

BioTeck:
She lies frequently about her whereabouts and when asked, she takes to self defense instantly...now when she picks her calls, she walks away if i was around. She doesn't behave this way before now.

come on bro, these are some lame excuses.
- what about if she was preparing a surprise party for your next bday?
- what about asking her why she's changed? and pointing to these above points that are worrying you when she asks how/why?
- what about asking her why she needs to make that call private?
- what about asking her who was on the call?

MRBrownJ:


come on bro, these are some lame excuses.
- what about if she was preparing a surprise party for your next bday?
- what about asking her why she's changed? and pointing to these above points that are worrying you when she asks how/why?
- what about asking her why she needs to make that call private?
- what about asking her who was on the call?

My next birthday indeed...are you a brother to Ali Baba or Basketmouth? Your comedy is what I call 'comedy factorial'
I have asked her severally why she changed, why she now walks away when her phone rings...i have asked here so many questions but she takes to instant self defense...this is why i decided to find out.

BioTeck:


My next birthday indeed...are you a brother to Ali Baba or Basketmouth? Your comedy is what I call 'comedy factorial'
I have asked her severally why she changed, why she now walks away when her phone rings...i have asked here so many questions but she takes to instant self defense...this is why i decided to find out.

that was to show you that it could be anything.... so you mean you have never gotten a reply to the above in bold? if that is indeed the case then why do you still wanna be married to this woman who turned into a stranger. quicky divorce due to irreconcilable differences, et voila!

MRBrownJ:


that was to show you that it could be anything.... so you mean you have never gotten a reply to the above in bold? if that is indeed the case then why do you still wanna be married to this woman who turned into a stranger. quicky divorce due to irreconcilable differences, et voila!

No, not that fast...i'll see to it that i have incontrovertible evidence before that. this evening, i just installed a stealth spy app on her phone...i'll listen to every of her phone calls and read every message that comes in.

BioTeck:

No, not that fast...i'll see to it that i have incontrovertible evidence before that. this evening, i just installed a stealth spy app on her phone...i'll listen to every of her phone calls and read every message that comes in.

beware of what you wish for, you may unearth stuff that you may not be able to handle....

MRBrownJ:


beware of what you wish for, you may unearth stuff that you may not be able to handle....

Thanks. Nothing can be too big to handle.

Install tracker inside her pekus.

BioTeck:


No, not that fast...i'll see to it that i have incontrovertible evidence before that. this evening, i just installed a stealth spy app on her phone...i'll listen to every of her phone calls and read every message that comes in.

pleaseeee how did you get to install it?? You are right on one thing,when a spouse all of a sudden changes her normal pattern, she is definitely distracted by something or someone. No doubt!