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I'm an American college student and I've met a Nigerian man he is 36 and I'm 27. I found out that he's married I'm going through my own situation with my husband and getting a divorce after 3 kids and a 6 year relationship. I just wanted to have fun but I want to know should I pursue anything with him since I've been single and he's the only man that I have connected with. He lives in Nigeria so we video chat and I just feel this connection to him he says that he doesn't disrespect his wife but in Nigerian culture is pretty common for a man to have multiple wives am I crazy for even considering it I am a Christian I I tried to live by the Bible as much as I can but since this situation with my husband I feel sick and alone. I haven't had sex since my husband and my new friend understands I don't want sex but now I always think about sex with him.

The commandment of God almighty, maker of heaven and Earth..



Thou shall not commit adultery!

Why go for a married man, when there are many single guys out there, just like me

Trouble they sleep

Lemme get this straight...so you want to be edible catering

I believe you think you care more about this person than you actually do because you're in a vulnerable state at the moment & as admitted, lonely. Maybe it's the attention he gives you. However, woman to woman & as a married person yourself, how would you feel if your spouse was making advances to other women behind your back? He doesn't sound trustworthy to me & I don't think you need his kind of baggage with a wife & God knows how many other mistresses. Be good to yourself. Deal with the current situation & hopefully a good man will come your way once you've healed.

I am my brother's keeper!!! the comments that will be posted here, will confuse you even more!!! it's quite normal u connect instantly with some fellows without 2much hassle.. but in anything u do... carry ur sense along... since ur mind is made up on ur present hubby, y not finish with him 1st!! do not complicate an already volatile situation.

PunkyV has said it all.

You are in a vulnerable state, don't give in to the thought in your head.
Maybe you're feeling like, you don't have many options b'cos you've had 3 kids with your husband already, but trust me a married man is not the solution to your Loneliness...

Who knows maybe the man is just after you for some personal gains, he may have a hidden agenda.

PureWays:
PunkyV has said it all.

You are in a vulnerable state, don't give in to the thought in your head.
Maybe you're feeling like, you don't have many options b'cos you've had 3 kids with your husband already, but trust me a married man is not the solution to your Loneliness...

Who knows maybe the man is just after you for some personal gains, he may have a hidden agenda.

Hmmm...I like suspicious people. Dead on!

PunkyV:
Hmmm...I like suspicious people. Dead on!

Really? I bet you can't handle some.

Suigeneris93:
Lemme get this straight...so you want to be edible catering

Buhahahahaha!

PureWays:
Really? I bet you can't handle some.

Handle what? Suspicion? I get it because I'm the most suspicious person I know

PunkyV:
Handle what? Suspicion? I get it because I'm the most suspicious person I know

Lol..
Crazy past huh?

Well, mystery is Hot..

PureWays:
Lol..
Crazy past huh?

Nature or nurture, I can't say for sure. All I know is that I don't take things at face value, ever. I'll be a fool to do that imo. I'm like a mole, I dig. Unlike a mole, I don't dig for bugs

PunkyV:
Nature or nurture, I can't say for sure. All I know is that I don't take things at face value, ever. I'll be a fool to do that imo. I'm like a mole, I dig. Unlike a mole, I don't dig for bugs

Lol..

Ooh! My
Like a Mole?

You can be dangerous, but if your motives are good, then you're cool.
I hope you are cool?

PureWays:
Lol..

Ooh! My
Like a Mole?

You can be dangerous, but if your motives are good, then you're cool.
I hope you are cool?

Man, people lie so much, so it's hard not to wanna interrogate & investigate...just to be on the safe side. I'd hook them to a lie detector if I could

I'm cool. It's all about protecting the big ole boombox (heart) in my case

PunkyV:
Man, people lie so much, so it's hard not to wanna interrogate & investigate...just to be on the safe side. I'd hook them to a lie detector if I could

I'm cool. It's all about protecting the big ole boombox (heart) in my case

Yeah.. True.

Seems you are always on the defensive side ..
Maybe you need to gut up and offend a little then watch how vulnerable people can be.
This is a sure way of protecting your "big ole boombox"... Lol..


A good offence is a good defence.

PureWays:
Yeah.. True.

Seems you are always on the defensive side ..
Maybe you need to gut up and offend a little then watch how vulnerable people can be.
This is a sure way of protecting your "big ole boombox"... Lol..


A good offence is a good defence.

Lol, you're trying to corrupt me. I'm not good at that sort of thing, preying on others. My only interest is my own safety & when it's threatened, that's when I become the predator Other than that, the world is a safe place with me in it

PunkyV:
Lol, you're trying to corrupt me. I'm not good at that sort of thing, preying on others. My only interest is my own safety & when it's threatened, that's when I become the predator Other than that, the world is a safe place with me in it

Lol.. I'm not trying to corrupt you. I just think it's better to be a Predator than being preyed.

But I like your Orientation though, it's cool.. You will make a good gf.

PureWays:
Lol.. I'm not trying to corrupt you. I just think it's better to be a Predator than being preyed.

But I like your Orientation though, it's cool.. You will make a good gf.

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You have a point, but if it's not in your nature, then..I prefer the guilt-free bloodbath of self-defense. The innocent killa, feels good

Awwww @ the last part. I huge part of me thinks I make a fantastic GF too However there's a Ms Jerkyll to this Hyde & it's all other people's fault she exists. LMAO

Honey it's "an" amazing Nigerian man not "a" amazing Nigerian man

PunkyV:
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You have a point, but if it's not in your nature, then..I prefer the guilt-free bloodbath of self-defense. The innocent killa

Awwww @ the last part. I huge part of me thinks I make a fantastic GF too However there's a Ms Jerkyll to this Hyde & it's all other people's fault she exists. LMAO

Ooh! Yeah... Ms Jerkyll is necessary.. Lol.

This right here, Guilt-Free, is a matter of one's perception.
Sometimes, we close our eyes so dirt won't enter it. We fumigate the land so pest won't flow.

It's a matter of how best to handle things.

Anyways, I get you.
I'd bet my last cash, you are a good gf already. Right?

PureWays:
Ooh! Yeah... Ms Jerkyll is necessary.. Lol.

This right here, Guilt-Free, is a matter of one's perception.
Sometimes, we close our eyes so dirt won't enter it. We fumigate the land so pest won't flow.

It's a matter of how best to handle things.

Anyways, I get you.
I'd bet my last cash, you are a good gf already. Right?

I concur. You sound very smart, btw A point on that So which category do you fall in, predator or prey?

No comment on the last part How about you? Good?

PunkyV:
I concur. You sound very smart, btw A point on that So which category do you fall in, predator or prey?

No comment on the last part How about you? Good?

I'm Ofcourse a Predator, though I don't go about preying on people but I've designed my own algorithm for getting what I want.

Yeah, I'm good.
And incase you're throwing me the question I asked you, well, maybe you should find that out via pm.

PureWays:
I'm Ofcourse a Predator, though I don't go about preying on people but I've designed my own algorithm of getting what I want.

Yeah, I'm good.
And incase you're throwing me the question I asked you, well, maybe you should find that out via pm.

Hahaha. The list just grew- smart, sleek & swift
All I can say is "Hmmmm" @ the 1st part. Sounds intriguing & jackal-like

It's nice & easy talking to you, what's your sign? I mean astrological/zodiac sign.

PunkyV:
Hahaha. The list just grew- smart, sleek & swift
All I can say is "Hmmmm" @ the 1st part. Sounds intriguing & jackal-like

It's nice & easy talking to you, what's your sign? I mean astrological/zodiac sign.

Hmm.. You are pretty crafty with words too, and now you are being swift with this one.. You are gonna get me a little here..

Alright then, I'm July Cancer. You?

P.S: Experience and Will to be better have done a lot to me.. i.e Zodiac sign can't predict me perfectly, but of course it goes a long way..

PureWays:
Hmm.. You are pretty crafty with words too, and now you are being swift with this one.. You are gonna get me a little here..

Alright then, I'm July Cancer. You?

P.S: Experience and Will has done a lot to me.. i.e Zodiac sign can't predict me perfectly, but of course it goes a long way..

I'm an Aquarius.

Indeed @ the last part. You're bags of fun chatting to. Nice meeting you. Hope to see you around

PunkyV:


I'm an Aquarius.

Indeed @ the last part. You're bags of fun chatting to. Nice meeting you. Hope to see you around

Woow Wow! Easy....
You aren't getting off me that easy... Atleast not without a pm from me... Aye?

PureWays:
Woow Wow! Easy....
You aren't getting off me that easy... Atleast not without a pm from me... Aye?

What's that animal that likes to sniff & circle others before getting to know them? Can't remember it now. But that routine sounds like a GREAT idea....for now

Sniff you around, PW

PunkyV:
What's that animal that likes to sniff & circle others before getting to know them? Can't remember it now. But that routine sounds like a GREAT idea....for now

Sniff you around, PW

Loool...

Okay.. I can wait.

PureWays:
Loool...

Okay.. I can wait.

Good.

Where are you from in Nigeria? Just curious.

PunkyV:
Good.

Where are you from in Nigeria? Just curious.

I'm from the West (Yoruba).
You?