₦airaland Forum

PureWays:
I'm from the West (Yoruba).
You?

Oh. The tribe of the reputable men *sarcasm* I'm South African.

PunkyV:
Oh. The tribe of the reputable men *sarcasm* I'm South African.

Lol... It's just a stereotype. Trust me.... I know you are South African. I want to know where you base in SA. I would have loved to keep this going but I've got to go now. I will shoot you a pm, you can reply whenever you want. In the mean time you can do the sniffing... Lol.. You seem pretty smart and I like smart.

PunkyV:
I believe you think you care more about this person than you actually do because you're in a vulnerable state at the moment & as admitted, lonely. Maybe it's the attention he gives you. However, woman to woman & as a married person yourself, how would you feel if your spouse was making advances to other women behind your back? He doesn't sound trustworthy to me & I don't think you need his kind of baggage with a wife & God knows how many other mistresses. Be good to yourself. Deal with the current situation & hopefully a good man will come your way once you've healed.

This is the best advice given. I hope she heeds it.

jbamerican27:
I'm an American college student and I've met a Nigerian man he is 36 and I'm 27. I found out that he's married I'm going through my own situation with my husband and getting a divorce after 3 kids and a 6 year relationship. I just wanted to have fun but I want to know should I pursue anything with him since I've been single and he's the only man that I have connected with. He lives in Nigeria so we video chat and I just feel this connection to him he says that he doesn't disrespect his wife but in Nigerian culture is pretty common for a man to have multiple wives am I crazy for even considering it I am a Christian I I tried to live by the Bible as much as I can but since this situation with my husband I feel sick and alone. I haven't had sex since my husband and my new friend understands I don't want sex but now I always think about sex with him.

What made you divorce from your husband?

PureWays:
Lol... It's just a stereotype. Trust me.... I know you are South African. I want to know where you base in SA. I would have loved to keep this going but I've got to go now. I will shoot you a pm, you can reply whenever you want. In the mean time you can do the sniffing... Lol.. You seem pretty smart and I like smart.

I'm based in Pretoria. Lol, see you around

[quote author=UyiIredia post=45487874]What made you divorce from your husband?

He wasn't supportive of my dreams his family didn't like me and he was abusive

Hustlerlomo:
Why go for a married man, when there are many single guys out there, just like me

I didn't know he was married and I've met a couple people but he's the only one that I connected with

Suigeneris93:
Lemme get this straight...so you want to be edible catering

I don't even know what that is

Suigeneris93:
Lemme get this straight...so you want to be edible catering

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I don't even know what that is

PunkyV:
I believe you think you care more about this person than you actually do because you're in a vulnerable state at the moment & as admitted, lonely. Maybe it's the attention he gives you. However, woman to woman & as a married person yourself, how would you feel if your spouse was making advances to other women behind your back? He doesn't sound trustworthy to me & I don't think you need his kind of baggage with a wife & God knows how many other mistresses. Be good to yourself. Deal with the current situation & hopefully a good man will come your way once you've healed.

I feel like I'm healing well but I haven't had sex and it's making me crazy. I feel that way about the marriege thing and if this was years ago I wouldn't even consider it we talked about him having other mistresses and he said he doesn't but I guess why would he tell me considering he wants to have a relationship I suggested a one night stand but he wants us to have this relationship with feelings. We text all day and he is happy to see me it's like we are made for each other. I'm not desperate and we haven't did anything yet

PureWays:
PunkyV has said it all.

You are in a vulnerable state, don't give in to the thought in your head.
Maybe you're feeling like, you don't have many options b'cos you've had 3 kids with your husband already, but trust me a married man is not the solution to your Loneliness...

Who knows maybe the man is just after you for some personal gains, he may have a hidden agenda. I have a Haitian guy who wants to be with me plus 3 other people. It's just something about this man. He is a capricorn I'm a scorpio

What could be his agenda? I don't want a relationship right now only friends he knows this

jbamerican27:
I feel like I'm healing well but I haven't had sex and it's making me crazy. I feel that way about the marriege thing and if this was years ago I wouldn't even consider it we talked about him having other mistresses and he said he doesn't but I guess why would he tell me considering he wants to have a relationship I suggested a one night stand but he wants us to have this relationship with feelings. We text all day and he is happy to see me it's like we are made for each other. I'm not desperate and we haven't did anything yet

Lol, maybe you're just his new shiny toy of the moment. Look, I don't wanna be a wet blanket here, but just tread with caution, OK? He's married!

PunkyV:
Lol, maybe you're just his new shiny toy of the moment. Look, I don't wanna be a wet blanket here, but just tread with caution, OK? He's married!

Yeah I feel that way too! Maybe after he gets sex he will ignore me or something idk but I actually prefer that since we have no future. He insist on having some kind of relationship this is so wrong I feel crazy how did this happen to me

PunkyV:
I believe you think you care more about this person than you actually do because you're in a vulnerable state at the moment & as admitted, lonely. Maybe it's the attention he gives you. However, woman to woman & as a married person yourself, how would you feel if your spouse was making advances to other women behind your back? He doesn't sound trustworthy to me & I don't think you need his kind of baggage with a wife & God knows how many other mistresses. Be good to yourself. Deal with the current situation & hopefully a good man will come your way once you've healed.

I felt this way that's why I don't depend on his affections but he is so funny and mysterious it's crazy that out of everyone I choose him

PunkyV:
I'm based in Pretoria. Lol, see you around

Yes Ma'am!

jbamerican27:
Yeah I feel that way too! Maybe after he gets sex he will ignore me or something idk but I actually prefer that since we have no future. He insist on having some kind of relationship this is so wrong I feel crazy how did this happen to me

Well, enjoy it while it lasts. After all he could be the one like you say-I can't discount your feelings on that. Time will tell. Just leave room for disappointment, just in case.

jbamerican27:
I felt this way that's why I don't depend on his affections but he is so funny and mysterious it's crazy that out of everyone I choose him

Awwww, deedums All the best. I hope he is not just leading you on for your sake.

jbamerican27:
What could be his agenda? I don't want a relationship right now only friends he knows this

You stay in America, right?
He lives in Nigeria and prolly has a plan of settling Overseas (Most likely USA) one day, which that can only be achieved if he scores a green card.

Deduce that ma'am.

PureWays:
You stay in America, right?
He lives in Nigeria and prolly has a plan of settling Overseas (Most likely USA) one day, which that can only be achieved if he scores a green card.

Deduce that ma'am.

Hey stays at 1700 apartment in one of the nicest part of town plus he said he doesn't want to live here

UyiIredia:
What made you divorce from your husband?

He doesn't want me to reach my goals his family hates me and he is abusive

[quote author=jbamerican27 post=45505524]Hey stays at $2500 a month apartment in one of the nicest part of town plus he said he doesn't want to live here he has a view of lagos in from his office in Nigeria

PureWays:
PunkyV has said it all.

You are in a vulnerable state, don't give in to the thought in your head.
Maybe you're feeling like, you don't have many options b'cos you've had 3 kids with your husband already, but trust me a married man is not the solution to your Loneliness...

Who knows maybe the man is just after you for some personal gains, he may have a hidden agenda.

Could he be using me for ritual material

jbamerican27:
Hey stays at 1700 apartment in one of the nicest part of town plus he said he doesn't want to live here

And how are you so sure he's telling the truth? And even if he is, I think no responsible man will make advances at other women when nothing is wrong in his marriage.
I think you feel strongly about him, and it's clouding your reasoning.

It's your choice ma'am, there is a reason you are doubting him. Maybe you are holding something back, come clean so people can really advice you. I think there is something you aren't telling us.

jbamerican27:
I felt this way that's why I don't depend on his affections but he is so funny and mysterious it's crazy that out of everyone I choose him

one quality he obviously has is honesty, very few men who are married actually tell you that they are married.. he may be worth it.. whats life without taking risks..

jbamerican27:
Could he be using me for ritual material

Lol..

Nah, I don't think so.

PureWays:
And how are you so sure he's saying the truth? And even if it's the truth I think no responsible man will make advances at other women when nothing is wrong in his marriage.
I think you feel strongly about him, and it's clouding your reasoning.
It's your choice ma'am, there is a reason you are doubting him. Maybe you are holding something back, come clean so people can really advice you. There is something you aren't telling us.

When I first met him I dropped him off at that apartment and since he came back to America he's been at that apartment his wife is nigerian and its her apartment he did show me his house in Nigeria on video chat and everytime we chat he's at the house I don't know what else to tell but maybe its something he's not telling me I asked him straight up an honest why he was cheating on his wife and he said that he just want something else plus they are friends he told me he likes conservative women so I'm guessing she is not meeting his needs then he say he has a 6 month old baby

jbamerican27:
When I first met him I dropped him off at that apartment and since he came back to America he's been at that apartment his wife is nigerian and its her apartment he did show me his house in Nigeria on video chat and everytime we chat he's at the house I don't know what else to tell but maybe its something he's not telling me I asked him straight up an honest why he was cheating on his wife and he said that he just want something else plus they are friends he told me he likes conservative women so I'm guessing she is not meeting his needs then he say he has a 6 month old baby

Ooh! Okay.

Where do you think your relationship with him heading to?
I suppose you don't think he will leave his wife for you.

PureWays:
Ooh! Okay.

Where do you think your relationship with him heading to?
I suppose you don't think he will leave his wife for you.

I actually suggested a one-night stand but at this point I don't want anything I just came out of my marriage and I Just Want to Have Fun he is the one that's trying to make it about feelings and I don't know why since most men who are married would just take it as the one night stand but he wants us to have some kind of relationship I don't know if he's lying or just telling me that its very strange I don't want him to leave his wife because I'm not at this point where I could be invested in him like that anyway it's just bleeped that he is ma5