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johnson232:
lol....
really?
keep on draining your husband self esteem and self worth with your silly attitude, until he becomes empty...

oloboro wife...

NL1960:
Hmmmmmmmmmmm. Don't you think this is where the problem is coming from?. Some men are actually not comfortable with certain types of work that their wives do. Has he ever complained of this job or told you to drop it?.

divalishis:
I want to say thanks to everyone who had a positive advice to give. While cooking, he came to me and laughingly told me that I'm angry with him, abi. Then after eating, he sat me down and said he actually just made the statement out of anger, due to the fact that I always act defensive when he tries to query me.
Its just a case of once bitten, twice shy. Things were so bad at a point as he was so controlling. I just don't want things to go back to that so I toughened up.

Thank you all.

divalishis:
I want to say thanks to everyone who had a positive advice to give. While cooking, he came to me and laughingly told me that I'm angry with him, abi. Then after eating, he sat me down and said he actually just made the statement out of anger, due to the fact that I always act defensive when he tries to query me.
Its just a case of once bitten, twice shy. Things were so bad at a point as he was so controlling. I just don't want things to go back to that so I toughened up.

Thank you all.

pucelle:
This is the problem with ladies...we soften up once he acknowledges us and apologize, then a repeat happens,and we complain again.


I will advice you let him know your stand on the issue and let him know you can't tolerate such anymore....firmly please,so he will see the seriousness in you.


You Marriage will not crash by God's grace

Jahblessme:
@OP,
You are quite fiesty

Now,i believe when someone who has been immoral starts policing someone over the same immorality,they may be feeling very guilty or they may be indulging in it and also trying to cover up by being hypersensitive over the issue and paranoid in order to deflect attention from themselves.I'm glad you are taking a stand for yourself cos if you cave in and swallow accusations,it opens doors for more severe forms of giving in just to prove your 'innocence'.

There really isn't any cure for a man who feels insecure purely based on his own failings.He should be scraping the floor begging for your forgiveness and you outlining ways to move forward,not using reverse psychology on you.
You should make it 100% clear what you will tolerate and what you will not.Feeding his paranoia will not help you so the best is to nip it in the bud sharply by asking him never to accuse you for no good reason or embarrass you.There shouldn't b querying,you both should be able to discuss the friends in your lives and say who and who you both aren't comfy with then decide what to do about them.NOTE that i mean on both sides,not you getting rid of your friends while his flourish.

Now you've made up,i hope you have had a talk not merely laughed and glossed over things.The cycle will repeat itself and you will be back here.Deal with it now or you will keep having problems.

GOODLUCK MA.

divalishis:
I used to be very open with my phone till he took my phone and called my friend of so many years and accused him of dating me. A guy I don't talk to anymore as we've all grown up and are busy with our various lives. Just because he sent me an innocent birthday text message. He embarrassed me through and through with that singular action. My friend was shocked and was very sorry for me.

kaziblake:
I went through your other threads you are so hilarious pls don't waste this talent
Enjoy your marriage bikonu

fem29:
Wow.

Please since you guys can afford it you need to go for marriage counselling to get to the bottom of what is wrong.

divalishis:
I think so too.
However I can't drag him to the counsellor for that unless something similar comes up again. Because the other incident happened a long time ago.