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OP? That numb is a lie except u don't love each other from the On set, u can be with her with out being physically present

Those are mere words.......No one can fulfil the promise

firstking01:
I will never cheat on you :-XI :-XI...ifa hear say there has been any man that has kept to this promise

firstking01:
I will never cheat on you :-XI :-XI...ifa hear say there has been any man that has kept to this promise

firstking01:
I will never cheat on you :-XI :-XI...ifa hear say there has been any man that has kept to this promise

BY THE GRACE OF GOD I HAVE DON THAT FOR 2 YEARS NOW.

kinwhite:
[color=#990000][/color] BY THE GRACE OF GOD I HAVE DON THAT FOR 2 YEARS NOW.

My brother, in due course, you certainly will.

no human can keep all those promises.

well i tell people i dont like to make promises that would commit me cos a promise is a depth, and no one is promised tomorrow, so in this note every man who is in the act of making promises is a blatant liar. this is my note as i rest my case.

We will only have 3 children.

Festivalofholi:
Dont mind d op, e no sabi say clients dey wait 4 u to service by dis time of d day.

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Easier said than done

Can't remember seeing this in any marriage vow

I enjoyed reading this op, kudos for that!

In many ways it demonstrates thee intention is always "good" within that promise, but the follow through is very hard to maintain, unless you're perfect lol...but we are very flawed in human nature.

I like the tips mentioned with both parties contributing to a successful Union.

As a woman I also understand my role in the social structure of things, I grew up the old school way by my grandmother, so I'm very practical n conventional in manner.

Nothing comes easy, we all must work our share of the load, and I'm cool with that

JeffreyJamez:
Seriously?........ who takes those words literally?!

my thoughts exactly. especially number 1. who's actually expecting someone to literally be there every single minute

mmmmmm where thing is God.. we need the help of GOD and even wisdom........... ow i wish i would not make any promises.... but i guess that girl of our time wnts to hear frm us...... women knows who loves them but all they want is who they love... dats why dey thing don't work for dem.......learn to forgive will save many things.....

Laveda:
Will read at dawn!

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Better read am nw o laveda
But laveda how is lavezzi the argentine doing

Awesome write up......so on point
But I tink the "I will always be there for you" promise is not literal, it doesn't all have to do with just physical presence but been there in good n in bad times.....except the pesin gat supernatural power

lord knows am gonna have an unorthodox marriage.

unapapadeycraze:
MARRIAGE: 4 PROMISES GUYS CAN’T KEEP


The word promise is one of the most occurring words in marital relationships. Promise means to tell someone that you will definitely do something or something will happen.


For a courtship to lead to marriage, a promise must be kept. Even a lasting Marriage is a promise well kept.
In courtship, guys make several promises to ladies who make them happy and eager for wedding but there are some of these promises that cannot be kept by men in marriage. Is it becoming a puzzle to you? Read on and get the clarifications.


1. I WILL ALWAYS BE WITH YOU: Being together as husband and wife is one of the most treasured times in marriage but it is not possible to be together for 24 hours in 365 days in a year. He can’t always be where you were all the time. There are times both of you will be in two different places. For instance when you go to your various offices or when one of you is on official assignment out of your locality. What matter most is faithfulness ­though you may be out of sight but not out of heart. Don’t play a fast game against one another. Let there be re-assurance and constant phone calls echoed with this magical trio i.e. “I love you”.


2. I WILL NEVER HURT YOU: It is not possible for two people to live together without offending one another. He will definitely offend you while you too cannot but offend him.
Though it may not be deliberate even in courtship, expect it. If he’s keeping a clean sheet in courtship ­beware! He must be pretending and he will later explode in marriage. Certain actions of his will hurt you but you must be ready to forgive without nursing its wound. Expect mis-understanding, it is the pathway to understanding. No matter what happens, friendliness should be a hallmark of a Christian home because ­marriage is a union between two imperfect people working towards perfection.


3. I WILL D0 EVERYTHING FOR YOU: He must have turned this to lyrics that is sang to your hearing almost every time you meet but the truth is you will be disappointed in marriage, If this is your expectations because he can’t do everything for you. He may teach you how to drive, pay the house rents, bought clothes for you but consider when he will be down without physical ability to do anything even machine, breakdown atimes. He can’t carry the pregnancy for you, it’s exclusive for ladies, and he can only demonstrate care during the period. He can be in the labour room with you during delivery but can’t experience the pain in the process of delivery. But the real man will stay with his wife in hospital duringdelivery while careless men will neglect their wives at this period.


4. I WILL PROVIDE FOR ALL YOUR NEEDS: Don’t go into marriage with the aim of having all your needs met lest you lose passion for the man you married. There atimes when something are not within his reach which may be due to financial inability. Of course, he can’t give you what he didn’t have. You don’t have to be offended for marriage is not just about receiving alone, you too have to give something in return-contribute your own quota towards the development of that union. Complement one another’s effort. Don’t look for what to get rather seek for what to give. He can’t provide for all your needs, only God can do this. Get this into your mind and don’t be offended while he falls short of this.

Y'all can add yours.




source: http://bisiadewale.com/marriage-4-promises-guys-cannot-keep/

I have never seen or heard anyone make marriage vows and say these things. All these must be a figament of the writer's imagination if s/he truly means these are marriage promises. The only time you hear these kind of words is when a guy is "toasting" a babe and trying to express his affection. Anybody who goes about believing these are marriage promises is deluded aka living in dreamland.

rita25:
and no 1 should have been " I will never cheat on you"

Dis one is a very obvious lie, no need putting it here.

why say it when u cant keep to it...itz as gud as telling lies

Hmmm, who you epp?

5. I will never cheat on you.
Most men will cry foul, only to say, she tempted me or I don't know what came over me.

I never promised any one of those! what will the woman give the man to keep those promises. sometimes it is the woman that makes the man not to keep the promises.

Laveda:
Okay lol I'm not good at it.
Tho I got a thing for hip hop.

We got so many of them tho, you just haven't met.

Pls dont be offence.

People are calling ur name and talking about olosho.

What is the difference ?

Jamean:
Really?

Who says these things, when you are not God. It's only God that can't disappoint.

I think what is essential is letting your partner know that you want your relationship to work and you will play your role as much as God empowers you to.

Please what are we going to do about the excessive demand nature of Nigerian ladies ?

I was about to question the OP's state of mental health and maturity status, but a look at his/her username said it all.


It is a pity.

Y'all should chill na, this is a religious write up, dats the reason for the number one explanation. Saying you will always be there is a lie. Sometimes, work will occupy your mind, you will even forget that you have a darling. It's when your mind is settled, that's when you will have time for her. So, my number one is realistic.

Jerryolumide:
do you rap?

That could be a poet....
Poets are smarter than rappers. Not everyone who can rhyme ends up as a rapper

haryomikun:
That could be a poet....
Poets are smarter than rappers. Not everyone who can rhyme ends up as a rapper

Very true

JeffreyJamez:
Seriously?........ who takes those words literally?!

white people only