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Harbioollah:
Ma'am, I feel no reason to be frustrated.

If I come back home and hear my wife has been in a dispute with anybody, I'll be annoyed even if she was the victim. That's why I always give strict instructions to my partner never to get involved in a fight, dispute or whatever No matter what happens. It's better to walk away.

About the Mother, you asked in a bad way. Such things are asked at leisure time playfully or stylishly like someone above said. With the way you said, you made if feel unwelcoming.

The last one is laughable. Did you even bother to check the mood he was in at that moment?

You remind me of someone I refused to date because of behaviours like this. Always wants to be pampered and supported even when she is wrong.

byvan03:
What is this age long excuse about a man being under pressure each time they screw up, for any pressure a man is going through, a woman goes through it double. Being under whatever kind of pressure is no excuse for meanness.

femmefetale:
Hian! !
Prayer for this kind mumu character again?
I tire for una oooo, to get common sense again need prayers again? ?
That woman need to give her husband a break! Jesus! !!

A new wife already quarrelling with a neighbor already? ? Na only she don marry? SHIORRRR! !!!

thorpido:
Some men can't stand the pressure.When there's no money,they start throwing tantrums.If they don't get kpekus,they start sulking.
It's an inexcusable excuse but many young husbands are that way.

byvan03:
Young husbands? I doubt if it has to do with age. I believe that attitude will definitely belong to a certain category of irresponsibility.

JustHere2Observ:
Sorry to say ma, you married an egoistic man who doesn't care about your opinions. But all is not lost, talk to him calmly and suggest couple therapy.

byvan03:
What is this age long excuse about a man being under pressure each time they screw up, for any pressure a man is going through, a woman goes through it double. Being under whatever kind of pressure is no excuse for meanness.

thorpido:
It's a man's attitude most importantly but I tend to see it more with younger married men.

Owliver:
it is my dear and there's nothing that's gonna change that. but the good news is there's always a better way out. psychological approach. humans are very predictable. social animals. winner instinct. so with these you can sometimes play the chill part after all marriage is about sacrifice. but then sometimes nothing works. some purple are just total irredeemable jerks, at that point we'll only Blame the devil or probably label it "destiny"

ronald4lif:
I'm still trying to figure out what will irk me more than a woman that will revolt or question my decision of my mum or any relative coming to live with us, whether short or long term basis. Except if I'm not the one offsetting the rents of that house. The man did well to ignore you, I'd do likewise.

You women always find it appropriate for your relations to come over but once it's the man's you rebel. And when the man insist and his relatives moves in you start creating non-existing problems. Nonsense.

ronald4lif:
I'm still trying to figure out what will irk me more than a woman that will revolt or question my decision of my mum or any relative coming to live with us, whether short or long term basis. Except if I'm not the one offsetting the rents of that house. The man did well to ignore you, I'd do likewise.

You women always find it appropriate for your relations to come over but once it's the man's you rebel. And when the man insist and his relatives moves in you start creating non-existing problems. Nonsense.

Acidosis:
Stop lying jare...


You're simply compiling unnecessary defensive issues just because his mom is coming over. I bet if his mom calls to postpone the visit or cancel it outrightly, the so called issues would die naturally.


Frankly, your attitude is disturbing. First, you opened a thread because you felt the decision is "sudden", what is sudden about a week notice? Secondly, she hasn't even arrived, you've already began to plan her exit. Unless her son is a bas.tard, he will never take your actions lightly.

No matter how much we fight our parents, we cannot stand others insult or degrade them. You married a man with a mother, your marriage with him doesn't change the fact that he has a mother. Leave the poor woman alone, she has done you NO harm!


Wouldn't you love to visit your son someday? Stop this wicked, selfish and hypocritical way of life. It won't help you.
How could you even get married to a man, and expect his family to stay away?

SAMBARRY:
like seriously is it a crime to ask for how many days will you be staying? Is that one too a reason for anyone to feel offended?

Isn't it a question


Op you married a man that can't stand up for you so just tread softly and let things go if not you'll just be fighting him every day and before you know it you'll have become contentious and overbearing

If mama come stay on your lane.just keep giving her the fake smile

johnson232:
wouldn't u love to visit your son or daughter someday.... hope u will be fulfilled when they give u the same fake smile...

SAMBARRY:
I don't go to people's house uninvited and without first informing them even if I want to come
I believe in mutual respect and respecting other's space. If he wants me to come I'll have to ensure he has informed the wife and she's cool with it because obinrin lonile

Part of courtesy is informing them of your visit

johnson232:
didn't the woman informed her son?

SAMBARRY:
for the wife to be asking when she's leaving it's apparently she just bumped into their home

mrssho:
I dont know why you guys are jumping down her throat. You dont know what happened with the neighbour that led to the quarrel, the husband should have asked her and its very normal for neighbours to quarrel especially if you have nosey neighbours that cant mind their business. If she was stranded he should have at least empathized with her if he didnt have money to send to her for him to start shouting is wrong the man seems like an impatient person. There is no reason why she cannot ask how long the mom is staying for, i ask my husband that when his people come to stay so i can make proper arrangements after all I am the one that buys food in the house so i need to know how many mouths i will be feeding and for how long. Even if i am not the one buying food, and i dont contribute financially someone is going to be in my personal space i need to know for how long so i can prepare my mind. When my people are coming i inform my husband and i let him know for how long. Marriage is not a master slave relationship where one person barks orders at the other and the other person is supposed to take it and not say anything or offer a contrary opinion. A true leader carries everyone along and strives to get the buy in of all affected parties and if they cant agree they reach some form of compromise. So pls leave her alone. Madam I feel your pain. I think your husband might be under alot of pressure, try and find something doing to relieve him of some of the financial burden he has

CircleOfWilis:
Why will u fight with ur nebo? Its embarrassing , always mind ur business...u are a trouble maker, fight ur husband, fight ur nebo, soon u will fight ur MIL