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| I Need Some Advice...i Need To Change. by Ifakiland(op): 8:23am On Jun 17, 2016 |
hi y'all...am in a relationship of 3yrs+ now and am a quick to anger, verbally abusive guy. I insult peeps at d slightest provocation (dudes or babes) and after am done, all anger is gone. I do it in my relationships in d past and it really affected d gals alots. with my present gf I do it a lot, esp tru text or pings...wen she starts been irritating I just go nuclear explosion on her and yab/insult her, and den after am calm I apologise. I'm not happy am hurting my gf with my words, I'm always calm wen angry in person, but wen we apart I start pouring out my mind in hurtful words. I don't wanna hurt her anymore, can someone pls tell me how to "scold" a gal without been insultive or verbally abusive. (NB: I've neva Eva hit her Eva before nor abuse her in person, always tru text) pls help a brother. |
| Re: I Need Some Advice...i Need To Change. by vizkiz: 8:25am On Jun 17, 2016 |
Very simple. Take anger management classes. You should be back to normal in 3 months |
| Re: I Need Some Advice...i Need To Change. by Ifakiland(op): 8:29am On Jun 17, 2016 |
vizkiz:where and how to I register...patience has always been my flaws. am not patient atol....I'm so quick to jumping to conclusion. wen u say A I've read ur mind to Z. which is so wrong |
| Re: I Need Some Advice...i Need To Change. by vizkiz: 8:35am On Jun 17, 2016 |
Ifakiland:You can pretty much get these on YouTube...then you register for a group therapy |
| Re: I Need Some Advice...i Need To Change. by Nobody: 8:41am On Jun 17, 2016 |
Verbally abusive?
That's A new one! ![]() Like what exactly do You say? Usual "God punish You'' crew? |
| Re: I Need Some Advice...i Need To Change. by Ifakiland(op): 9:12am On Jun 17, 2016 |
Estharfabian:more like "ure stupid, useless, selfish, get out of here, u always say sillu things, etc....dos kinds...it's crazy I swear and after exploding...I can't even recall all cos I always delete dem afterwards. |
| Re: I Need Some Advice...i Need To Change. by iPrevail(m): 9:39am On Jun 17, 2016 |
Like Vizkiz mentioned already, take Anger management classes. That should help. But one really simple thing to always do is this.. Think before you act. Don't give in to your reflexes. Always remind yourself of the consequence of any action you're about to take and how it would affect you and the people around you. Finally, always remember that's nothing is ever worth the anger. You don't stand to gain a thing. I used to be like you.. easily angered. But now I simply don't give a fvck. If my GF offends me the 1st, 2nd and 3rd time, I warn her but she keeps doing it.. She doesn't hear from me or see me for weeks.. When we talk again, if we do, she never does it again. |
| Re: I Need Some Advice...i Need To Change. by Ifakiland(op): 10:27am On Jun 17, 2016 |
iPrevail:Thanks sir...uve been very helpful. I'll try and cultivate dis virtues of urs...a crate of origin sir. |
| Re: I Need Some Advice...i Need To Change. by Nobody: 10:32am On Jun 17, 2016 |
For people like you @ Op is best if you make use of counting numbers when you are angry. It works like this, start from 1 and count to 100 by the time you get to 100 you must be exhausted and it would slow you down a bit and prevent the hurtful words you would have said. |
| Re: I Need Some Advice...i Need To Change. by Nobody: 10:39am On Jun 17, 2016 |
Doxie69:do u mean it this way Like Mr macaroni ridding on his bicycle, blablablabla then 123 follows after the chorus ![]() |
| Re: I Need Some Advice...i Need To Change. by oodua1stson: 10:51am On Jun 17, 2016 |
Maybe you don de mad small small ![]() Abeg no abuse me ooo
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| Re: I Need Some Advice...i Need To Change. by Ifakiland(op): 10:59am On Jun 17, 2016 |
lolzzz...funny peeps I've pushed my gf so much to d wall...I've apologised so much...she just mite snap someday and kick me out. |
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That's A new one! 
