Hello Nairalanders....I been dating this guy for almost 2 months now...He been acting strange since i knew him...I was d one to ask his number.He is Nigerian from Igbo..I had sex with him 1 months after our dating.Even i rejected in beggining 3 times sex with him..After we had sex he started asking me some small things to do for him..He doesnt have a job right now..To buy him some food in supermarket etc..Is not big amount of money..It was my pleasure to do it..When i see him i always spend all day with him..He tells me he likes me alot and enjoys spending time with me..But me i was never sure if he takes me serious..Because when we are out he behaves as my friend..and when we r inside he behaves as my bf..We are seeing every 2. Or 3 days..Me i saw on his fb that is writing that he is single on his profile...Pls Nairalanders should i let him know that i know he is playing me?He is very good in pretending...I still cannot believe he is pretending to me this way...The guy is very good looking n handsome..

So why that caption "The worst guy ever" and you still need advice?

You met a guy in less than two months and you want him to change his Facebook status from single to engaged or married......have!!!!! Fear God now!

You met a guy and in less than two months you have already opened your borehole for him to drill. Plus you are always stucking him every 2 or 3 days and you want him to take you serious........Are you APC?

Why would he take u serious when u sound begging to be in a r/ship with him plus giving into sex just within 1 month. Dear, he can never take u serious cos he considers u a cheapo. When next u find a guy who u like say no to sex till marriage, he may nt be hapi but he'll respect & value u & will most likely propose marriage if u possess good qualities.

How old are you and how old is he? Do you think people consider you beautiful, average or ugly?

ronald4lif:
How old are you and how old is he? Do you think people consider you beautiful, average or ugly?

I am 25....People consider me beautifull..why?

ronald4lif:
How old are you and how old is he? Do you think people consider you beautiful, average or ugly?

So you think any lady will ever accept to be average or ugly?

histemple:


So you think any lady will ever accept to be average or ugly?

.....No but i know i am not average or ugly

Europija:
I am 25....People consider me beautifull..why?

How old is he? I'm asking the age coz it's possible that he's feeling ashame if you were way older than him. I was thinking you could be older. And if you perceive as not good looking perhaps he could also be shy to express his affection publicly coz of what people may think, like why is this cute (if he's cute) guy dating this ugly lady.

If he likes you he won't feel shy to express it openly, I think he doesn't. About Facebook that one is nothing. I have never changed my relationship status from single there all my life even as I have been in numerous relationship. Who cares?

ronald4lif:


How old is he? I'm asking the age coz it's possible that he's feeling ashame if you were way older than him. I was thinking you could be older. And if you perceive as not good looking perhaps he could also be shy to express his affection publicly coz of what people may think, like why is this cute (if he's cute) guy dating this ugly lady.

If he likes you he won't feel shy to express it openly, I think he doesn't. About Facebook that one is nothing. I have never changed my relationship status from single there all my life even as I have been in numerous relationship. Who cares?

U r right...But me i am.good looking...So means he doesnt like me...And about me giving him sex after 1 months...Even before we had sex he was behaving strange to me...Didnt show any much interest...So i think me spreading legs for him after 1 months has nothing to do with it if he wil take me serious or not...dont u think ?

I don't think this guy is the right guy for you. Only two months in, but just look at the amount of threads you've created over the issues you've been having with him. That's a sure sign something is not right somewhere. The "relationship" seems one-sided from the outsider's view point.

It could be because his focus now is finding his feet in this new country, you mentioned he doesn't have a job just yet. Could be why he's so-so. Or he could be using you. Either way, something is off & I think you need to back away. No more groceries either! I'm surprised that didn't even turn you right off him from the bat, the fact that he's already treating you like a cash cow in such a short amount of time of knowing each other.

Who cares how handsome he is. You're beautiful too & can do so much better than him imo. You've wasted enough time already beating a dead horse. Just move on.

Europija:
U r right...But me i am.good looking...So means he doesnt like me...And about me giving him sex after 1 months...Even before we had sex he was behaving strange to me...Didnt show any much interest...So i think me spreading legs for him after 1 months has nothing to do with it if he wil take me serious or not...dont u think ?

No, it has nothing to do with the sex. Whether you gave in easily or not wouldn't have changed anything. But why do you have to spend your money on him? Doesn't he work?

ronald4lif:


No, it has nothing to do with the sex. Whether you gave in easily or not wouldn't have changed anything. But why do you have to spend your money on him? Doesn't he work?

.....No he doesnt work...

Young lady, run for your life.. He doesn't necessarily need to change his fb relationship status to show his love for you. But his attitude towards your relationship is not right..

Europija:
.....No he doesnt work...

What then does he do and how does he survive? It's he a student? What do you know about his residency status? Does he have right to work there? This is Europe and here everyone must work to survive. You're not supposed to spend on him.

bqlekan:
Young lady, run for your life.. He doesn't necessarily need to change his fb relationship status to show his love for you. But his attitude towards your relationship is not right..

.....Which attitude exactly?

I need this type of lady.. I will be using her to brush my rod anytime i feel like i wanna do it..

Lol, See Comedy

Europija:
.....Which attitude exactly?

Going by your act up, you said he doesn't act like a boyfriend when you guys are outside, he acts like a friend, he is not proud of you.
This is a big sign of a cheat. Have you stopped spending on him and see his reaction?

Bonnywest:
Why would he take u serious when u sound begging to be in a r/ship with him plus giving into sex just within 1 month. Dear, he can never take u serious cos he considers u a cheapo. When next u find a guy who u like say no to sex till marriage, he may nt be hapi but he'll respect & value u & will most likely propose marriage if u possess good qualities.

Thanks for your opinion,but the truth is that how long a lady took before surrendering her body to a guy does not necessarily determine how cheap,or serious the guy will be with her.Some guys has it in them to punish and hurt ladies if you like take 1 year or more to sex them they will still hurt u.

Sex after marriage is not even a guarantee that a man will respect you,a man that values you will still respect and marry you even after sex on the first ever meeting not to talk of 1 whole month.I have witnessed that as well,one of my guy's wife today is someone we all meet on board on our way back to Nija we all lodged in the same hotel and everything happened so fast and today they're happily married with a son.

I am not saying girls should start sleeping around anyhow No No No,I am rather trying to inform you that a serious man is a serious man whether sex on the first day or 2 years later.

You don't know a poor person's real character and attitude until they become rich,so as some ladies will know a guys real seriousness after sex,then you will see a guy that calls a lady 10 times everyday before sex will automatically change,to the extent the lady will even be begging for ordinary flashing.

I really don't get this.


U met a guy barely 2months,

U are even the guy that collected his number.

U had sex with him in less than 3weeks.

He is very handsome and sharp.


So, what else do u want from us?

He is not interested in u in d 1st place, more reason why he didn't collect ur number.

U cannot put sugar in someone's mouth and expect that person to spit it out.

Europija:
Hello Nairalanders....I been dating this guy for almost 2 months now...He been acting strange since i knew him...I was d one to ask his number.He is Nigerian from Igbo..I had sex with him 1 months after our dating.Even i rejected in beggining 3 times sex with him..After we had sex he started asking me some small things to do for him..He doesnt have a job right now..To buy him some food in supermarket etc..Is not big amount of money..It was my pleasure to do it..When i see him i always spend all day with him..He tells me he likes me alot and enjoys spending time with me..But me i was never sure if he takes me serious..Because when we are out he behaves as my friend..and when we r inside he behaves as my bf..We are seeing every 2. Or 3 days..Me i saw on his fb that is writing that he is single on his profile...Pls Nairalanders should i let him know that i know he is playing me?He is very good in pretending...I still cannot believe he is pretending to me this way...The guy is very good looking n handsome..

hope u ain't referring to me?

See babe,, you re the one forcing urself on the dude, the guy is not interested in you, even before and after having sex with him, he is just dating you on mere pity

So if you want a serious relationship look elsewhere but not with this guy , he gat no atom of feelings for u

you ve successfully bagged the award for posting the dumbest posts here on romance section from the month of may-june and still counting. even a person with d tiniest IQ knows d guy just dey use u pass time. that said I must add this too u r very cheap borrow some dignity no of fence intended tho.

Nne you are just dumb, try and get some sense

slyrone:
you ve successfully bagged the award for posting the dumbest posts here on romance section from the month of may-june and still counting. even a person with d tiniest IQ knows d guy just dey use u pass time. that said I must add this too u r very cheap borrow some dignity no of fence intended tho.

......What makes u say that i am very cheap??

The last seven words describe why you are in the relationship...
U got his number first because u were attracted to his handsomeness....
You are willing to undertake all humiliation just so u can flaunt a fine boyfrnd and brag to your frnds about how handsome your boifrnd is....
I dont blane him, i blame you... U dont want more than a handsome boifrnd so he is not being anything more than a handsome boyfrnd.
Enjoy your handsome boyfriend... G. Luck

ronald4lif:
How old are you and how old is he? Do you think people consider you beautiful, average or ugly?

I never thought you would be easily deceived by a dude operating a female account

So you mean even before then he's been acting strange and u tot twas OK to av sex with him..#sighz#

Europija:
U r right...But me i am.good looking...So means he doesnt like me...And about me giving him sex after 1 months...Even before we had sex he was behaving strange to me...Didnt show any much interest...So i think me spreading legs for him after 1 months has nothing to do with it if he wil take me serious or not...dont u think ?

Europija:
......What makes u say that i am very cheap??

let's not go there okay. and I apologize if my statements offended you in anyway, my apologies ok. but one thing is clear DAT guy nor love you

tosyne2much:
I never thought you would be easily deceived by a dude operating a female account

but whats in it for guyz who parade themselves in female accounts? makes no sense na. I tot as much y would a naija girl be this dumb going by d op's story

All men are The Worst. Drop his a$$, if you're beautiful you can find man to shower you. Then when he showers you with everything, you can drop him too

foolinlove:
All men are The Worst. Drop his a$$, if you're beautiful you can find man to shower you. Then when he showers you with everything, you can drop him too

just hear yourself out"all men are the worst"

don't forget your love ones inclusive....

meanwhile the op na man!