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WHICH ONE ARE YOU?
WRITTEN BY JEROME YAOVI ONIPEDE
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I meet people everyday who are genuinely interested in making new friends, and I will like to stress "GENUINELY" here, because they are all SINCERE about it. The only thing that DIFFERENTIATES everyone is the MOTIVE behind it.

For Example, there are People that are SINGLE, WANTS TO MINGLE, and there are the SINGLE AND SEARCHING. The immediate difference here between the two is, though BOTH ARE SEEMINGLY SINGLE, the Former is seeking for the AUDIENCE OF MANY, while the later is seeking for the AUDIENCE OF ONE.

The "Single, wants to Mingle" wants to make FRIENDS, while the "Single and Searching", is looking for that ONE SINGLE FRIEND that can make an Eternal Difference in the Story of his or her life. Both of them are in order, provided they remain focused and true to their search.

It will be a MISMATCH though for the "Single wants to Mingle" to get into a Relationship with the "Single and Searching". Both may not find peace, because their INTENTIONS are not the same.

Let me warn you here that this has NOTHING TO DO WITH AGE. We have 40 year old Men who are Single, and just wants to Mingle, now if you are a Lady who is Single and Searching, and you meet a Man like that, please don't say, because he is 40, he MUST settle down, and then you spend 5 more years of your life waiting for him, getting Frustrated complaining about his escapades with other Women. Don't forget BOTH OF YOU ARE NOT ON THE SAME PAGE, and you can't force him to be. Why don't you look for someone on the same page as you?

In the same way a guy may be 24 years old who is actually Single and Searching and meets a girl, his age mate that he falls in love with and he just can't understand why she keeps partying, has loads of Social Media Contacts, and receives calls from scores of Men, but has not said she doesn't want to be in a Relationship with him. The truth is he is the one setting himself up, and may develop high blood pressure in the process. He has to come to terms with the fact that settling down now for this girlfriend of his is alien to her lifestyle. She just wants to Mingle, and so when she meets the next guy, she will let him know she is in a Relationship, but can hangout with him.

THE DIFFERENCE is while the SINGLE AND SEARCHING is looking for a PERSON to complement his or her life, the SINGLE WANTS TO MINGLE is just looking for FUN!

At JEROMEMATCHMAKER, because we know the difference, we always investigate this. We know that sometimes people don't even know what they want anymore. Imagine a 33 year old lady who wants to just Mingle for now, and not ready to settle down, because to start with she doesn't even believe in Marriage, but is forced to come to Consult with Jerome on being Matched for the purpose of getting Married, because her Family and Friends are on her Case. WE SET SUCH A LADY FREE. A Lady or Man who doesn't want to get Married shouldn't be forced into Marriage. Marriage is an institution you look forward to, because THAT'S WHERE YOU WANT TO BE, it's not a place you dread so much, and yet have to be, not because you want to, but for the sake of your Family and Friends who say you must be there. Haven't you noticed some people get Married and both Partners BLOSSOM, because they both love it there, while others get married and begin to wither, with all doors closing to them. Well, should both of them be in that Marriage? Marriage has been built by God to BLESS, and not to curse.

Let's stop forcing People to get Married, after all, NOT EVERYBODY WAS BORN TO MARRY! There are people that are BETTER OFF NOT BEING MARRIED, and the Value of their life NEVER depreciates, as they keep moving from Glory to Glory. Why must we then make them feel something is missing in their lives, when they don't see it that way.

I have been with My Friend Lawrenta Omono Okosun for 30 Years (2016), SHE IS MY WIFE, and I love being Married to her, and so does Lawrenta too. I know "it's not good for Man to be alone", and I agree absolutely that "two are better than one". I have also encouraged people to get Married, and helped many to find Life Partners, but I have NEVER forced anyone to get Married, because I know NOT EVERYONE WILL GET MARRIED, and not everyone WILL WANT to get Married.

So next time you meet Someone who is SINGLE AND JUST WANTS TO MINGLE, and you have Marriage on your mind, DON'T PUSH IT, DON'T FORCE, LET IT HAPPEN NATURALLY. IT WILL HAPPEN IF IT'S MEANT TO BE! Who knows, someone who was never thinking Marriage before may change his/her mind, because YOU ARE TOO PRECIOUS TO LOSE.

DON'T FORGET:
STOP FORCING PEOPLE TO MARRY YOU!
Stop forcing someone to stay Married to you too.
There are better ways to use your Energy. There are better ways to go about the Affairs Of Your Life.

ARE YOU DUE FOR A PAID RELATIONSHIP/MARRIAGE COUNSELING SESSION?

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Wow! Now, I know the difference between the two statements.
It's better I say; I'm single and searching henceforth.
And I'm not just 'searching', searching for the right person (they call it 'spec') that I will build my world around.
Never gonna marry for marrying sake bcs na the person I go dey wake up and sleep with everyday for the rest of my life be that.

missvera:
Wow! Now, I know the difference between the two statements.
It's better I say; I'm single and searching henceforth.
And I'm not just 'searching', searching for the right person (they call it 'spec') that I will build my world around.
Never gonna marry for marrying sake bcs na the person I go dey wake up and sleep with everyday for the rest of my life be that.

Am also searching o.....how fa

Who is Jerome? I don't thint i like his job

Ab025:
Am also searching o.....how fa

lol... So, which way ?

missvera:
Wow! Now, I know the difference between the two statements.
It's better I say; I'm single and searching henceforth.
And I'm not just 'searching', searching for the right person (they call it 'spec') that I will build my world around.
Never gonna marry for marrying sake bcs na the person I go dey wake up and sleep with everyday for the rest of my life be that.

U can always divorce if u get tired of him..

Chrisrare:
U can always divorce if u get tired of him..

Nah, I rebuke that in my life. When and if I'm married, divorce is never going to be an option for me.
So, it's better to get into that institution late than to rush in and rush out.

i feel my girl is not yet ready to settle down. love her so much but i'm thinking of ending it

missvera:
Wow! Now, I know the difference between the two statements.
It's better I say; I'm single and searching henceforth.
And I'm not just 'searching', searching for the right person (they call it 'spec') that I will build my world around.
Never gonna marry for marrying sake bcs na the person I go dey wake up and sleep with everyday for the rest of my life be that.

Have been searching for you to tell you this....

Nice Dp concept ...

BiafraBushBoy:
Have been searching for you to tell you this....

Nice Dp concept ...

thanks.

missvera:
lol... So, which way ?

Na ur way o...

missvera:
thanks.

So how you doing?

Guess you are having a blast

Ab025:
Na ur way o...

BiafraBushBoy:
So how you doing?
Guess you are having a blast

I'm doing fine, Thanks.

missvera:
I'm doing fine, Thanks.

I sent you a package... hope you reply it...
Holla...