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No,I don't think so.research has shown that people who get married just because they feel they are in love usually don't last.there is more to marriage than mere attraction.first of all you have to consider what makes the person ideal.secondly there should be alignment of vision.You also have to check for compatibility in terms of values,believes, medical and then check for habits because they never change after marriage-they get worse. love is not enough.What do you think

You are right. Marriage is the test of a person's endurance and due to constant change, many couples failed to keep up their marriage. I hope one day when I am ready, the man is perfectly tailored for me.

There's more to the word LOVE itself than just mentioning... Only those who have a deep understanding about love will take full responsibilities and not just that but will also act it in

Marriage is all about love.

You get married because you love someone.

Period.

Sometimes, but mostly all about having kids, running out of time, just because its the norm, money, sex, and companionship

Marraige is not just about love hon,when you love someone and you envisage that your union will yield positivies in all ramfications then you can marry but if not abeg pass.marraige should also be like snergy of 2 companies to become one company better,stronger than as they were before they merged,it should be a symbiotic and not a parasitical thingy........my contribution tho.

lyndachidex:
No,I don't think so.research has shown that people who get married just because they feel they are in love usually don't last.there is more to marriage than mere attraction.first of all you have to consider what makes the person ideal.secondly there should be alignment of vision.You also have to check for compatibility in terms of values,believes, medical and then check for habits because they never change after marriage-they get worse. love is not enough.What do you think

all these things constitute Love. A successful marriage iss more of Love. But its not all about Love.

ForeverYoung197:
You are right. Marriage is the test of a person's endurance and due to constant change, many couples failed to keep up their marriage. I hope one day when I am ready, the man is perfectly tailored for me.

perfectly tailored? if there is perfection in any of the partners then your first sentence is utterly untrue!!!!

ogbevireo:
perfectly tailored? if there is perfection in any of the partners then your first sentence is utterly untrue!!!!

Then you we're blind or you may be living in the forest. You dont know what's the real deal in your surroundings.

Op, it all starts with what we humans think is love, then later it has to do with coping with one another.
For example, a mam will marry a woman cause to him, he loves her. When asked what he loves about her, he says she is loving, caring, slim and sexy, etc.
Fast forward to 10 years time and 4 children.... Most of these "sexy" qualities change. Her shape is disfigured by constant child birth (most don't excersise to stay fit), she doesn't give the husband the much needed affection anymore cause she struggles with working and taking care of the children. When the husband wm touch am for night, she is tired.....and the husband is like this woman no love me anymore.
Also, the woman married the man cause she "loved" him....if you ask why, she says he is tall, handsome , funny, has a good job and sexually satisfying .
20 years later, he doesn't have that juicy job anymore, years of heavy drinking and bad habits has affected his sexual health. The stress of not being to providing a much needed financial support to the family plus the fact he can't go more than 1 round which is 10seconds affects him psychologically and he is withdrawn and aggressive..... No longer the funny guy you married.
In these two scenario, the things we "loved" about our partners are no longer there, it now takes patience and understanding to cope, if not friction between the couple kicks in.