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foolinlove:
When you don't want date someone anymore, you should always show respect. Even when you dislike someone so much your stomach turns, you still have to show respect.

No excuses:
Just dropping someone and not talking to them with no explanation is not only disrespectful, it shows how much of a coward you are. It can be uncomfortable to break up with someone, but if that is what you want then you can at least have courage to tell them.

With no explanation, the other person will be harmed - it can send people crazy! They might always harrass you, stalk you, talk bad to your mutual friends and family. They will always wonder what they did wrong or what happened to you.

It may seem like a mean thing to do, but a break up provides someone with a down point from which everyone can grow and learn.

How it's done:
Communicate properly. Be precise.

The three key things to say are:
1. The relationship is over!
Do not be vague. Say you are not dating them anymore and that you will date other people. Say you do not love them truly. That you hope they will date other people too.
2. There is no hope for the future!
Do not give a false hope. This is very cruel and keeps the person hanging on to you for no reason. They will think they still have a chance with you and pray on it. Give the person CLOSURE.
3. Thanks!
Even when you are not thankful, you should be. This person spent their time on you (and possibly more was spent than just time). So say thank you always.

If you've only dated that person for a short while, or even only just one date, they still deserve respect. A text message saying "it isn't going to work" is good enough (but not good enough for something longer than 3 dates).

Why:
Because how can you respect yourself if you don't respect others? If you give a good close to the relationship the other person can start to move on properly instead of waiting and wondering all the time.

Difference between a relationship break and a break UP:
Taking a break from relationship committments is different to ending relationships. If you need a break from the committments for some reason be careful and precise. If you want to take a break to taste other people, and leave the other person hanging and waiting around for you, you are disrespectful and a coward. Let the person go before you cheat.

It is important to be respectful when you take a break too.

How to communicate a relationship break:
1. Tell the person you need a break for whatever reason. That you are not breaking UP, you just need some time away from relationship committment (for study, work, family etc.)
2. Tell them you still love them and will come back in a decided amount of time. Make sure you tell them how much time it will take before you contact them again.
3. IMPORTANT!!! Tell them you won't date or sleep with another person during the break.

You need them to be confident in your partnership so they honour your need for a break. Likewise, they won't find someone else because they have no confidence in you or your words.

EVERYONE DESERVES RESPECT.

Imakeherdrip:
IMHO, to end it without much pain,I'll simply paint myself black for her to see no good in me.
This is how:
Give her a killer smile ending it with tears; tell her that you do not deserve a lady like her, that's it's best you guys part ways(hold her close before she loses her wit)...wetin you go tell her when she ask why you think say you no deserve her? That one no konsain me o my guy, cook up something.

foolinlove:
When you don't want date someone anymore, you should always show respect. Even when you dislike someone so much your stomach turns, you still have to show respect.

No excuses:
Just dropping someone and not talking to them with no explanation is not only disrespectful, it shows how much of a coward you are. It can be uncomfortable to break up with someone, but if that is what you want then you can at least have courage to tell them.

With no explanation, the other person will be harmed - it can send people crazy! They might always harrass you, stalk you, talk bad to your mutual friends and family. They will always wonder what they did wrong or what happened to you.

It may seem like a mean thing to do, but a break up provides someone with a down point from which everyone can grow and learn.

How it's done:
Communicate properly. Be precise.

The three key things to say are:
1. The relationship is over!
Do not be vague. Say you are not dating them anymore and that you will date other people. Say you do not love them truly. That you hope they will date other people too.
2. There is no hope for the future!
Do not give a false hope. This is very cruel and keeps the person hanging on to you for no reason. They will think they still have a chance with you and pray on it. Give the person CLOSURE.
3. Thanks!
Even when you are not thankful, you should be. This person spent their time on you (and possibly more was spent than just time). So say thank you always.

If you've only dated that person for a short while, or even only just one date, they still deserve respect. A text message saying "it isn't going to work" is good enough (but not good enough for something longer than 3 dates).

Why:
Because how can you respect yourself if you don't respect others? If you give a good close to the relationship the other person can start to move on properly instead of waiting and wondering all the time.

Difference between a relationship break and a break UP:
Taking a break from relationship committments is different to ending relationships. If you need a break from the committments for some reason be careful and precise. If you want to take a break to taste other people, and leave the other person hanging and waiting around for you, you are disrespectful and a coward. Let the person go before you cheat.

It is important to be respectful when you take a break too.

How to communicate a relationship break:
1. Tell the person you need a break for whatever reason. That you are not breaking UP, you just need some time away from relationship committment (for study, work, family etc.)
2. Tell them you still love them and will come back in a decided amount of time. Make sure you tell them how much time it will take before you contact them again.
3. IMPORTANT!!! Tell them you won't date or sleep with another person during the break.

You need them to be confident in your partnership so they honour your need for a break. Likewise, they won't find someone else because they have no confidence in you or your words.

EVERYONE DESERVES RESPECT.

Breadmaker:
Look a calabar babe in the eye and tell her that you're done with her.












And that will be the last words you will say in your life. You will be in coma for 9days and die on the 10th.

enygmababe:
Looool. I see you have experience in this matter

IndecentStar:
i want a break up with my bea,but the problem is i know emotional she get she can kill us both and i dnt want that,she thinks her life envolve around mine but i want he to see the bigger piture i dnt want her to loose the opportunity of meeting the man of life by tieing her down.
My prob nw is hav cut all contact betwing but allas she stil went ahead to report me to my family and friends.
And i cnt look her in the eyes and say its over them no born me well,

Antina:
Well said. Some people will just stop talking to u and would want u to decode they are no more interested in the relationship. Its doesn't give respect to their personalities also. Do they care? Shm.

torqque7:
:oAre you confirming what he said?pls educate us more so we dn't become victims..interesting dp by the way..

enygmababe:
Actually I am not in a position to confirm or deny what he said. Just made an observation.

The dp is cute right? Wonder why you went to check it out.

torqque7:
Ehnn dp cute in a naughty naughty way..just wanted to see the face of the calabar girl il be taking lessons firsthand from that's why I went to check ,and just as I suspected she is naughty naughty naughty .

enygmababe:
Oh! Thank you for bringing your observation about the dp to my notice. It took me a couple of minutes to identify what made you feel it was naughty.

It's been rectified now. You can get your mind out of the gutter.

Oliviaarims:
Makes a whole lot of sense... Honestly, I would appreciate it if anyone intending to break up with me does so properly as would I to him...

People should learn to do things the proper way.

SHOCK7:
're you Kidding me!!! when you ignored my calls after all that time & finance I spent trying to care 4 u.Esp d way u did it, up till now hurts like hell!

chronique:
For real? Sure it's not a case of mistaken identity? Everyone here knows her to be a good girl and not the type who would do such. Check the moniker you quoted properly.