Liftedhands:
Why the thought?
And why post it here
Are you looking for encouragement or discouragement

well the thread totally discouraged me.

bibeetee:

I really don't understand why ppl can b so insensitive. I wish u d best in ur quest...

insensitive? how?

An elephant and a dog became pregnant at same
time. Three months down the line the dog gave
birth to six puppies. Six months later the dog
was pregnant again, and nine months on it gave
birth to another dozen puppies. The pattern
continued.
On the eighteenth month the dog approached the
elephant questioning, _"Are you sure that you are
pregnant? We became pregnant on the same
date, I have given birth three times to a dozen
puppies and they are now grown to become big
dogs, yet you are still pregnant. Whats going
on?"._
The elephant replied, _"There is something I want
you to understand. What I am carrying is not a
puppy but an elephant. I only give birth to one in
two years. When my baby hits the ground, the
earth feels it. When my baby crosses the road,
human beings stop and watch in admiration,
what I carry draws attention. So what I'm
carrying is mighty and great."._
Don't lose faith when you see others receive
answers to their prayers.
Don't be envious of others testimony. If you
haven't received your own blessings, don't
despair. Say to yourself "My time is coming, and
when it hits the surface of the earth, people
shall yield in admiration."
Enjoy the rest of our weekend.God bless you

Liftedhands:
Why the thought?

And why post it here

Are you looking for encouragement or discouragement

Pls help me ask madam Toniaamaka, Maybe she wants us to clap for her. Pple can be very insentitive sha because dis a faceless forum u think u can just type anything that enters ur brain *hiss*

olamitie:
Just did a uirne test and got two lines(BFP), Im not excited, so scared of miscarrying again, i can't even tell DH.

Congratulations Olamite on ur bfp. You shall carry safely and put to bed successfully in Jesus name, Amen and pls don't entertain fear b'cos GOD has done it.

Ayauche:


Pls help me ask madam Toniaamaka, Maybe she wants us to clap for her. Pple can be very insentitive sha because dis a faceless forum u think u can just type anything that enters ur brain *hiss*

okay

Toniaamaka:
You guys should stop misinterpreting what I said earlier.
I discovered I was pregnant last week and since then I haven't been my self so many things were running through my mind like suicide, running away from home,abortion etc I thought my life has just been ruined. but last night I found this thread and read it from the first page to the last.it brought tears to my eyes to imagine I want to "kill" what some people are dying to have. I didn't mean to be insensitive nor rude.

Which kain pikin be this....babe you miss road,your tears are not needed,check the next thread.

Toniaamaka:

If you need my advice I will suggest you keep the pregnancy
I kw it is not easy and can never be easy dear just believe that God in heaven will provide for you and the baby when he or she comes.
Don't do what u will liv to regret in future. Take care n I wish u make the right decision.

chigirl45:

Which kain pikin be this....babe you miss road,your tears are not needed,check the next thread.

then don't quote me again if I don't make sense to you.

Mama's pls be cool with her,
Toniaamaka , Don't do what you will regret later,
God will give you wisdom , on how to go about it.

4realwoman:


If you need my advice I will suggest you keep the pregnancy
I kw it is not easy and can never be easy dear just believe that God in heaven will provide for you and the baby when he or she comes.
Don't do what u will liv to regret in future. Take care n I wish u make the right decision.

thanks that's my decision too.

Omoyeni360:
Mama's pls be cool with her,
Toniaamaka , Don't do what you will regret later,
God will give you wisdom , on how to go about it.

getting pregnant at 18 won't be easy but I have decided to keep the baby.

Toniaamaka:
getting pregnant at 18 won't be easy but I have decided to keep the baby.

Keep your baby dear.
God would provide.

Don't let keeping your baby be dependent on the father accepting or not.
Just be strong.

Keep in touch.

iomoge2:

Keep your baby dear. God would provide.
Don't let keeping your baby be dependent on the father accepting or not. Just be strong.
Keep in touch.

No he won't even be a part of the baby's life.

Toniaamaka:
thanks that's my decision too.

God will see you through dear. Stay bless.

mama pls lets all cool down for jesus lolzz. i no ttc hurts but i believe jehovah will make all things beautiful in his own tym.
toniaamaka, sorry u got attacked, im sure u dont no ttc is a very sensitive issue. when i first read your initial message, i know you were lost as to wheter to kep the child or not, pls keep the baby, u dont wanna know the pains ttc moms go through, ttc is not smtin u wish your enemy. pls keep the child since the mistake has been done.
mamas pls just my 2cents, i no ttc makes sm1 bitter, take it from sm1 who ttced for years, but lets try and keep an open mind and be accomondating, you dont know who ur words may help or hurt.
may jehovah grant us all our heart desires.

Toniaamaka:
No he won't even be a part of the baby's life.

Inform your mother or elder sister or aunt. They will be upset , they may ask you to leave the house! Plead with them and ask for forgiveness.
You need them for you and for your baby! If you know the guys family have them informed as well, if they care to assist please let them, if they don't all well and good.
The guy is scared even some married men sef shiver when they learn that their wife have conceived give him time he will come around.

Prepare your mind for the task ahead! My dear it won't be easy but you will pull through! Friends will desert and make mockery of you, but if you persevere you will come out a winner and some of them few years from today will wish they were you.

Eat right and rrest well, take your prenatals folic acid is very essential! Don't miss it.
Locate a good hospital and register for ante natal so you and your baby will be properly monitored and taken care of.

Finally come over to the pregnancy thread and identify with your team mates

There's a girl who was also contemplating abortion , she ran away from home! She cried out on the preggy thread mamas there myself included encouraged her and today she is so happy and proud of her baby boy! The road wasn't easy for her she still struggles but keeping her baby and going back home was one of the best decisions she has made! She is still active and one of us on the preggy thread.

Gud evening mamas presently in tears right nw, just coming back frm home cell and the host whois a minister in my church(lfc) was preaching and used me as example, am d only 1 still waiting der. His words: " a woman married for 4 yrs witout issue and is thinking of her past sins, maybe she was even a prostitute can give birth if she stops thinking of her numerous boyfriends and have faith cos old things are passed a way behOld all things have become new, der is nO wOman dat cannot give birth" dis is actually d second tym I hav bin used as example. I wonder why he chose 2 use a woman still believing God as his example for his topic "faith". Are der no Other challenges in life? I don't knw if am wrong being affected but its painful. Can't stop crying, I was never a prostitute. O lord hav mercy.

@ mumchristine; I wouldn't wanna quote your post so I chose to respond without quoting you. I was also crying with you while reading what your minister said... It hurts when pastors make mockery of our situation. The same people that we are suppose to run to for comfort are the same people that are hurting us.
I remember when a pastor got tired of my situation and he told me that God said I am disturbing Him with my prayers.. (LOL) Why won't I pray? No job, ill health, have an MSC, no hubby etc. My dear I cried my heart to the point that I became hopeless. This same thing he told me almost led me to commit suicide.
I stopped attending his ministry and decided to stay home and pray myself, no more going to church or any prayer meeting.. One day I spoke to myself that God said "we should not give Him rest". So I got up and started attending RCCG, I refused to get close to the pastor, elders, members etc.
Not long after I got married. Now I am still trusting God for a job, children and sound health. This same pastor that was making example of me and even saying God is angry with me for been faithless and that's why my situation has refused to change. This is the man that today met my parents and was fuming that I did not inform him of my wedding.. Why would I?
My dear sister, pls wipe away your tears cos God has heard your prayers. Remember the story of Hannah and Eli the priest. Remember how he mocked her of been a drunk. God will do it for you but pls if that home cell or church is not giving you peace, leave it and go to where you can find peace.

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Calm down sis, he may not be talking about you & even if its intentional leave him for God you weren't a prostitute remember so kip calm. God is never too late & he's thought towards us is for peace to give us an expected end, wipe your tears kpele

olamitie:
Just did a uirne test and got two lines(BFP), Im not excited, so scared of miscarrying again, i can't even tell DH.

@Olamitie congratulations. This has come to stay no doubt. I sent you PM please reply.

Hello darling mamas,
It's been a while I dropped a comment,i've been on peeping mode. This ttc journey hmmmm who never experience am no go know. I pray the Lord answers us speedily because it's not an easy journey. I just thought to hail all the wonderful ttc mamas. I pray that the Lord gives us strength while waiting. Congratulations to all the mamas that have gotten their BFPS you will carry to full term and your joy will never be cut short in Jesus name, please preggy mums endeavour to pray for us. I want to make a suggestion can we pair ourselves in twos or threes so we can bond better( this ttc thing can be a lonely journey)but I recommend we be in the same location/state. What do u think lovely mamas? Love y'all and God bless you.

mumchristine, pastors are humans too. They are not God that can never reveal ur secrets. Most men of God use examples of people and incidents to preach. But few are not discreet. He may or may not have been referring to you. Many of us feel the way u feel if we have told the pastor our challenges before. Dont worry about it. Focus on God and other ways the pastor is helping u in. Nevertheless, like a mama said, if u are no longer comfortable there, leave. But I will implore u to continue except u see/hear more concrete evidence that he is using u to preach subsequently.

@mumchristine, pls don't cry. Please bear in mind that he may actually not b talking abt u and for God's sake no man, prophet, Alfa, pastor or imam is God. No one can play God. So pls relax n smile
TTC can b a rollercoaster of emotions that if we r not careful we myt became paranoid. Remember always that God test the best of us. All is well.

mumchristine:

My sister cry no more you hear cos I kw how u feel now.
The host may not mean it like that b'cos he hasn't bn in our shoes so he will never now how it feels to use someone condition as example @aall.
Don't cry so that you will not have headache. Instead cry to the Lord with praise in your mouth for keeping you till today sis and for you to be alive means that God will bless you with that which is seek from him.

Just like whn AF showed last weekend and I just tried not to be upset or angry cos I brought one new pad that I was going to try didn't even kw whn I started singing praises to God just to make me feel that all is well but along the line I broke down in tears why am I saying dis to you b'cos I want you to be strong n kw dat with God all things are possible.
My point is that anyone not in the shoe will never understand what ttc women go through in life. Be strong ma.

walks into thread,sees @mumchristine's post and maamas replies,oya maamas let's join together and give mumchristine a e.group hug..oya dear pele,take face towel wipe ur tears.
One thing i av come to know about men of God is that most of them in Nigeria have categorized people into different problems..e.g a young man of say between 25-35 problem wud be no job,a young lady of 23-30 wud have a problem of no job and no husband,a married woman of say 25-40 without signs of children is prolly barren,the classification is endless but it makes us as religious people fall into one of their category.In essence,what i am trying to say is that the pastor might have just used that as an example,we tend to get touchy cos of ttc.God sees the heart of man and if he was referring to u then you are at the end of ttc journey as God will look down and open your book of remembrance.furthermore,if he keeps making inference statements to u,then i think you should look for another centre cos,u will soon start feeling resentment towards him and u know what Amos3:3 says....all these will end one day..

Greetings...... Pls, I have been here last year. Been ttc for years, scared of counting years rather mention. I'm depressed, confidence lost, self-esteem in the floor. But, I'm hopeful. I just want to ask, does anyone herevknow about oosa herbal drugs?. Went they, I was told endometriosis and non ovulation . I was given drugs. Though I'm taking them, but, skeptical as I haven use herbal before, only wanted trying something new.Pls, help. Thanks and God blessed.

Gazelle510, welcome dear. E-hugs. All will be well. I dont know of that particular herbal drug. Yes some herbs are good and effective. God crown ur efforts.
@Omoyeni360, why I go gree? lolz. Lai lai. Keeping hope alive till it happens. Thanks dear. I love ur new positive spirit!
@ Pweetymii (mumi ConfessionBringsConception) thanks too. Those our dreams/visions & prophecies will all come to pass soon in Jesus name.

Hhmm! Hw I 4 do? Thank u all mamas 4 ur kind words, my hubby had already concluded dat I wil stop d cell meeting, he doesn't hav a particular cell, he goes around as d zonal leader so I choosed to attend d 1 in my compound instead of goin out. D same pastor had sed it wen I 1st came into d compound as a new wife dat he doesn't knw why a woman will be married and won't hav children? He has never prayed 4 me for the past 3 yrs day hav bin in dat compound, sha, am nt holding it against him, I hav forgiven him already. 6yrs of marriage and he has 5 children so he will never understand cos he was never trying, I pray God use dis medium to show me mercy.

@MamaTB, I appreciate. I'm glad you're back,better and stronger...you'll definitely overcome TTC.

@Mumredeemer, don't mind dem o. I sprained my ankle some years back so I visited one of those women. B4 I knew what was happening she had worn gloves and somehow slid her hand inside me and then the verdict was that my enemies womb was down....very low and until she massaged or jerked it up conception would be impossible. She billed me, I think 175k back then but I told her I didn't believe her. Without scan, how could she be so sure? Meanwhile, my friend that took me to her had been under her care for months...seeking cure for "twisted intestine that used to drop to his anus" after what she told me, I started doubting her ability to actually cure anything. So I told my friend casually to take worm tablets and try deworming himself. Lo and behold immediately he took the worm medicine, he stopped having the symptoms of "his intestines dropping all the way down to his anus" so there was no need to return back to the Ijaw mama to help him massage it up anymore.
Most of those women are fake and demonised, I'm 9ja Delta and what Mama TB said is true. Majority of them serve olokun.