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A friend on Palmchat is in a diliemma. He is about o get married to a girl that has the same Genotype with him(AS). He says that there is a certain prophet whom he visited and paid money to for revelation from God assured him that the union has been ordained by God. He seems to be so in love now but when the trouble of having a sickle cell(SS) child sets in, all of the love will fade away and be replaced with regret and guilt. I have been trying my best to talk him out of making this mistake, as i have a first hand experience of being around a sickle cell anemia friend who has now lost her life in this battle. I also told him that it was possible that the prophet was a fake, but he has refused to listen to me. So i decided to bring this matter here, this is my opinion though. Am i just being paranoid or is he truly making the biggest mistake of his life. Please i need your opinion as it can influence his or my decision.

Op. If truely u hv talk some sence into ur friend nd he remian adamant pls let him be GOD has seen u hv done what u could do as a friend well dey migth not hv (ss) children if truely God is involved.

As + As, shey dey say na automatic SS children be dat? Na wa oo. Tell your guy to forget about what that fraudulent prophet told him & call off the relationship. Yeye love shouldn't supersede common sense. They will have children with sickle cells, they will spend enormous money on those children(thanks to buying drugs and sleeping in hospitals everyday).

I know what sickle cell is & I won't wish for anybody to be confronted with that kinda horrible, incurable disease. Guy should just let the gurl go, simple. But if he wants to suffer with her in the nearest future, then he should go ahead & marry her.

flakkybaby:
Op. If truely u hv talk some sence into ur friend nd he remian adamant pls let him be GOD has seen u hv done what u could do as a friend well dey migth not hv (ss) children if truely God is involved.

You *believers* are funny. So there are miracles Jesus can perform in a case like this? Lmao @ gullible people who have been fed with lies in the name of religion

like i said, my friend too suffered from this before she died. She was only 17 years old. And i know the pain and guilt that her parents suffered for so many years.

Love......Hmmmmm
Trust me marriage is more of PATIENCE than LOVE. Although some motivational speakers might say the latter helps increase the former.
I am product of an AS-AS marriage and my parents gave birth to SS-AA-SS-AA in that order. I'm d second and we've lost the 3rd, who as at then happened to b s smartest and suffered lesser crisis session that our eldest who is still alive an infact married with a child.
This is one version, my uncle also made a careless mistake all in d name of LOVE and now has 5 children 3 of which are sickle cells, a week barely goes by without visiting d hospital esp during rainy season and harmattan, I'm sure members with SS or relatives with it can testify
There's no version of this where it has a fairy tale ending.
Many realists are mistaken for pessimists because the truth is bitter.
So-Called men of God have a way of telling desperate followers what they want to hear just to patronise them.
Do not get it wrong, I try my best to be very religious, but I also try as much as I can to be very reasonable.
When getting married, there are certain risks one can afford to take with the knowledge available to us in this generation.
Trust me, this is one u don't want to take.
Although I have read in places where one can tell the genotype of a foetus so the pregnancy can be terminated if it happens to b SS, but from the way u sounded your religious beliefs will tag that as Abortion (murder).
Bros I'm only telling u a story Oooh, don't go and say yakbauer said I should call off my marriage prep oh

Thanks for sharing.

Great advice so far from the posts above me.
Op tell your friend that" love do no ill to its neighbor"
If you really love somebody,you would rather let her go than see her suffer.Just imagine what the SS sibling of one of the posters above would have gone before dying.

Op there's no sweet ending to this o!!! All that needs to be said, have been said by yakbauer.

They should better call off the wedding. Noff said.

fake mog

do you still need another opinion after a self storied view by yakbauer? that advice should meet your curiosity now

how they unborn kids...will look like...matters....wetin be love ...who go like to born cyclop

love always fades.

EllaNkay:
A friend on Palmchat is in a diliemma. He is about o get married to a girl that has the same Genotype with him(AS). He says that there is a certain prophet whom he visited and paid money to for revelation from God assured him that the union has been ordained by God. He seems to be so in love now but when the trouble of having a sickle cell(SS) child sets in, all of the love will fade away and be replaced with regret and guilt. I have been trying my best to talk him out of making this mistake, as i have a first hand experience of being around a sickle cell anemia friend who has now lost her life in this battle. I also told him that it was possible that the prophet was a fake, but he has refused to listen to me. So i decided to bring this matter here, this is my opinion though. Am i just being paranoid or is he truly making the biggest mistake of his life. Please i need your opinion as it can influence his or my decision.

pls I strongly advise against it,I nursed a family that lost 4 kids this year and d painful part is that d crisis kills when they are abt to graduate.I watched and saw d agony on d mothers face and she kept verbalizing how she killed all her kids n right now its only d son who is AA that is still alive.To be frank with u d struggle is for real.My cousin is also SS n I know d millions we have spent on her.Anyway I hv a colleague in nursing who is still alive and strong,But why put innocent kids through all this suffering just becos u let ur emotion becloud ur judgement .SMH