For those who have their mothers-in-law living with them , how comfortable are you with her living with you guys . Doesn't she intrude especially in your sex lives or during altercations . Does she complain about your spouse ? Please I need answers .

Would she be in the bedroom with them while they have sex? Or would the couple be so senseless to have their squabbles openly in front of her?

I won't be comfortable living with my MIL, she can visit anytime she likes but not live with us. This is to avoid unnecessary misunderstanding, maybe she starts finding fault in one or two things I do and vise versa.

An arrangement where a mother-in-law is living with her son-in-law is not common.
They usually visit for a short period.

However, if you find yourself in the situation you describe, treat her like your mother.
Mothers know their boundaries and when not to interfere.

I don't see how she will interfere in sexual matters; it's between you and your wife in the bedroom.
But that does not mean you should go ultra-conservative and stop acceptable public displays of affection because she is there.

Pleas note that you cannot hide obvious misunderstandings from her...
After keeping quiet for a while, she may one day deem it obligatory to ask questions - as an adult and as a mother.

in most cases mother in laws visit a wife should accomodate her MIL For then issue of interupting sex I ask "how"?

Mrsprof:
I won't be comfortable living with my MIL, she can visit anytime she likes but not live with us. This is to avoid unnecessary misunderstanding, maybe she starts finding fault in one or two things I do and vise versa.

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KingEbukasBlog:


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Does this apply to men and their mothers in law? I thought only women had issues.

Muafrika2:

Does this apply to men and their mothers in law? I thought only women had issues.

Some men maybe uncomfortable with their mothers-in-law presence in their house.

My mother in law stays with us weekdays and returns to her house on weekends because we live in the same city. To be frank at first I was not comfortable with the arrangement but when I asked the price of day care near my office and it was way too much (40k monthly), I began to appreciate the favour she is doing us by staying to take care of the baby while I go to work monday through friday.
Now we are really really close, We watch Zee world together after I get back from the office and she even assists to make dinner on the days I return late.
If I were to choose all over again, I would still prefer her to stay with us because her presence has been a blessing and a stress reliever.

Op the choice is yours, weigh it well!

Muafrika2:

Does this apply to men and their mothers in law? I thought only women had issues.

We men are used to bottling things or we simply just spend time in a place where she's not bound to be around. I would have a room as office for times like this.

My wife's mother or siblings can't live with me until my marriage is 5 to 8 years old like wise my mother or siblings... We have to face our formative years alone.
Cos by then we could av grown to the level of handling our altercations codedly and I should have a big enough house that their presence won't be noticed much.. .

Nyceguy92:
An arrangement where a mother-in-law is living with her son-in-law is not common.


I don't see how she will interfere in sexual matters; it's between you and your wife in the bedroom.

Why limit it to the bedroom? Don't tell me you'd have all that space in the house and limit the action to just one corner of the pitch.

Temporary stay O.K

Permanent stay is a NO NO for me.

Note: Even that Temporary stay will be strictly looked into in terms of the number of days....

Fabulocity:
Would she be in the bedroom with them while they have sex? Or would the couple be so senseless to have their squabbles openly in front of her?

Young couples without kids may want to have sex anywhere in the house

Mrsprof:
I won't be comfortable living with my MIL, she can visit anytime she likes but not live with us. This is to avoid unnecessary misunderstanding, maybe she starts finding fault in one or two things I do and vise versa.

My dear, i beging to wonder why some girls hate their mother in laws and forbid them to visit their matimonial home after marriage not knowing that they too would be mother in law one day.... Only those who wear the shoes knows where it pinches most

Is that reason good enough? That they won't have the chance to have sex indiscriminately?

eph12:

Young couples without kids may want to have sex anywhere in the house

Muafrika2:

Does this apply to men and their mothers in law? I thought only women had issues.

men do, just that they don't voice it, and most times they fall back to work to placate the discomfort of having her around

Fabulocity:
Would she be in the bedroom with them while they have sex? Or would the couple be so senseless to have their squabbles openly in front of her?

wud u stay in ur bedroom all tru weneva U're home? pls try & understand OP's point of view

My mother in law is uber racist and a b*tch too. I been trying to get along with her, and my wife's been trying to get us along too. There's this one time she visited and cooked for just my wife and our miscreant doggy. Yeah she pretended not to know I was home lol. She now visits whenever I am away on a business trip. The bonding process seems to be taking more time than I expected.

I think these things vary from couple to couple... And it is largely dependent on the kind of relationship the individuals formed with their respective in-laws before marriage.

Naturally, it shouldn't be so much trouble having in laws around now and again... As long as the couple are mature enough to handle day to day issues.

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I don't think I'll ever be comfortable with any of my parents living with me in the same house.

Fabulocity:
Is that reason good enough? That they won't have the chance to have sex indiscriminately?

Indiscriminately? Two married adults? Why does this sound funny?

Is it only MILs who come to stay like forever?

I don't have problem with my MIL staying with me.
What matters is respect and understanding which is the primary any other thing na secondary

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Even my own mum visits n stays for sum days n she's crying she wants to go to her house....Omor I no dey for MIL staying for more than a WK o...maybe when I born ehennnn ....and even at dat Abeg do come go Abeg....if she stays with me she wld frustrate me to be too nice....I'd have to away plate immediately after eating instead of whenever I feel like,sweep daily....i wldnt b free in ma house .....can't even move around naked.....pls I b boss for ma house but once she's around...over good girl mode activated....but God blessed me with a good mil sha but Abeg dey call me for phone from ur house ehnnn

She doesn't disturb or intrude in our disagreement or privacy. But to be honest with you, I smell you have a bad character and looking for who would help you chase her out ;but remember laws of karma

Berbierklaus:
Depends on the type of mother-inlaw she is,some MIL are very accomodating and fun to be with,but some are just too strict and a pain in the neck.


If you ask me,I will appreciate the presence of my mother inlaw no matter the attitude she has,coz I have been trained to withstand situations like that.




PS. i'm not married,just thinking aloud

hello sweetie, nice one there. Just d kind of woman am looking for