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AuroraB:
I'm even guilty of your charge . Cos, that's not a film but my pic on the system

Offence don increase

1. Watching computer screen as if it is film

2. Uploading personal thing on official thing

3. Sitting dan and not working

4. Backing the camera to obfuscate and interfere with evidence with a view to jeopardize investigation

Roger me fas fas...and we forget these ever happened.

when u view the situation from another angle,you will change your perception of your friend and the situation.Think of a situation exchange where your own lot in life becomes that of your friend and you also need an accommodation to such an extent as he apparently needs.

what may never occur to you but which im telling u right now,is that friend who on the basis of childhood friendship sees you as a an avenue of succor may later on in this life be your "saviour".

what 20years down the line,this your friend you dragged on the floor is md of nnpc or a governor and you have lost your job?.

i now tell u a true story.20years ago,someone offer less that 20NIARA to a friend who is now the most important commissioner in a state cabinet.Every now and then for the last months he gets credit alerts .He said when he offer the 20 naira to the friend met in the middle of a market then knowing what situation he was in,having had to become a dad while they were on nysc,the friend did not even ask him.

AS u beef that guy with u cus he has need of your roof over his head for a period of time longer than he himself wished for,u are beefing your future.By coming here to naked your friend,the blessings that GOD intended for u to have for helping your childhood friend is being lost.

What have u got,that u did not first receive?. you are helping him today,do u know the extent to which he will have to help u tomorrow on the account of being childhood friend.Dont mistake me for a pastor.im a lawyer.The yorubas say ore a pe,ika a pe(kindness pays,wickedness pays) and those who sow in tears reap in joy..

hmm

Hedonistically:
How come we have the same grandma and I don't know you? Wonders never end. Ma'abasi.

did I mention 'no damn use' when she's fed up? . Then, I didn't know what it means. Now I know .

achieverme:
Offence don increase

1. Watching computer screen as if it is film

2. Uploading personal thing on official thing

3. Sitting dan and not working

4. Backing the camera to obfuscate and interfere with evidence with a view to jeopardize investigation

Roger me fas fas...and we forget these ever happened.

That number 3 though . Chai! Funny something

AuroraB:
That number 3 though . Chai! Funny something

Oya roger fas fas, madam Lol. Or else......

@op..
When last did u see ur parents or siblings? Oya tell him you are travelling this weekend to see them and need to lock up the house. You also don't know when u ll return. It's an emergency.

If he is a truly good friend..He might offer to go with you. But I doubt it...Once he hears emergency..He ll want to stay far away from any inconvenience or trouble. It's called Fairweather character.

Good luck!!

DAVE5:
It's not abt rich kid... I've always loved my personal space.. I can't imagine leaving in a house wit som1 else, I'll get married and that's a different thing entirely... Even girlfriends Neva stay pass one night for my house except the one wey travel com from far... I use d opportunity well

im sure nobody tells u this fact before,your personal space is actually ur 6ft grave and sooner or latter u will still have your personal space.so why hurry?.

achieverme:
Oya roger fas fas, madam Lol. Or else......

Na

You should just open a guest house for them . If it was a female from your village you would not be complaining, but as na man you are now crying over a piece of spaghetti You make me sick. You are very mean.

Chuksemi:
I will look bad. Won't I?

thats the problem, you don't want to look bad. He should have told you before coming how long he intends to stay.

AuroraB:
Na

Hmmmm... Wetin I go do nah?

Oya name yah price

arimahoseloka:
what are friends for then?

Abegi, this friend thing is highly over rated. It is completely wrong to come to someone's place with the impression of staying for just one week and decide to stay for more than a month because there's enough room for more than one. That person already has a lifestyle and then you fly in to suffocate and inconvenience them. Wasn't it enough that he allowed the guest come in the first place? Must the individual stretch his visit? A guest is a guest and should leave at the agreed time...Most of these people who stretch visits and inconvenience people wouldn't allow it if the reverse was the case. I like my personal space...crowding isn't allowed.

achieverme:
Hmmmm... Wetin I go do nah?

Oya name yah price

Lol. Nothing of such.

OP
I Feel you pain,
Reminds me of a lady friend of mine that overstayed in my parents house she promised to stay for 2 weeks she stay for over 6 months.
I pressed my foot on the ground and sent her packing

And she's exactly how you describe you friend too.
I developed tough skin since then, nonsense

After I got married this same girl called me to congratulate me and told me she has a wedding gift
For me ,I should text her my address
So she go come be permanent occupant for my house
Abi na second wife kpa kpa

I sharply told her I was staying that weekend at my inlaws , she quickly got the message
She called back at another time I told her still that I was not available, from then on I stopped picking her calls

Mtseww

AuroraB:
Lol. Nothing of such.

You may be missing out of the world's most exciting exposition!

achieverme:
You may be missing out of the world's most exciting exposition!

Maybe

Bagehot:
Lol. These squatters are a very persistent bunch. When I moved out of my parents' house, I got a 2 bedroom apartment in a high profile estate cos I didn't like the idea of being cramped up in a tiny one bed. A friend of mine told me his uncle would be coming in from America, ad he would have to come put up with me, since his uncle would be occupying his room. I said 'no wahala. let me know when the time comes''. Suddenly starts calling me around 10pm one night that he is at my gate with his mattress. I was a little embarrassed, cos I was already sleeping over elsewhere + he was supposed to give me prior notice.

Anyways, we start living together, I had no qualms. 3 days in, I woke up to him off-loading one humongous mattress which he had gone to pick up from his brother's house. I was stunned! He had made it sound like he ws only going to be at mine for a couple of weeks! I stylishly asked when his Uncle was going back to America, Baba replied coldly 'Why do you ask? Any problem?' Ha! By evening he had relocated my wardrobe and other odd items from my second room to my living room, and turned the spare room to his room!

I kept trying to stylishly get him to reassure me that his stay was temporary, he was first cold, then later became over friendly. Made friends with my Landlady's maids, always trying to help with stuff around the house. I kept praying for wisdom to handle the situation. Then one day while visiting his parents' house, I was falling asleep on the couch, and his cousin asked me to go and sleep in their room. I was like 'what room?' He was like 'you no sabi our room again?' All this while I thought the visiting Uncle had taken over their room! At that point it clicked that wait, his cousin is still staying in this house ooo + they have a bq that my friend has a studio!!!

Na so I tell my padi that I wanted to set up a home office in my 2nd room and was worried cos the table I was buying was humonguous, and so might disturb him. Shebi you said you are moving out this weekend, he said no wahala. I sharply contacted my carpenter to construct a sturdy 5 feet long office desk for me, and started counting down to friday. On thursday evening, I again casually mentioned that my carpenter was bringing my table the next day. Baba stutters 'I didnt know you were serious'. there and then, I gave him 48 hours to leave my house. The following morning on my way to work, I locked my room, bathroom, kitchen and living room in anticipation that this would be a clear enough message to him. By noon, the estates'security called me to inform me he had moved out of my house.

Did I forget to mention that his folks live a walking distance away just outside the estate?

The Nerve!! Just imagine. I've never had the habit of staying with people..i like my space, I'm a very meticulous person as such untidiness and inconvenience makes me anxious and fussy then someone will come and rearrange my home?? Really?! Say na me and you pay the rent nii..some people don't know their limits. He even tried helping around the house..some will come and want to boss you around without lifting a finger, they'll tell you want they want for dinner and remind you when items are getting finished so you can buy/restock..story of my life. I was a really nice person but not ANYMORE!

AuroraB:
Maybe

Some would say "seeing is believing". "Personal experience better than ordinary narration"

Chuksemi:
Lol. Brother. It have tey. You remember me right?

Lol. sure now. but which thread, or event online e don try true true. Your piece is hilarious o.

Forwetinnah:
Abegi, this friend thing is highly over rated. It is completely wrong to come to someone's place with the impression of staying for just one week and decide to stay for more than a month because there's enough room for more than one. That person already has a lifestyle and then you fly in to suffocate and inconvenience them. Wasn't it enough that he allowed the guest come in the first place? Must the individual stretch his visit? A guest is a guest and should leave at the agreed time...Most of these people who stretch visits and inconvenience people wouldn't allow it if the reverse was the case. I like my personal space...crowding isn't allowed.

if u are sensitive enough to the plight of others u will not be saying this. Do u think someone will just be happy squating. He is surely trying to stand on his own but he needs time and help from you. Learn to love and your eyes will open

leechy friends will always remain pest till eternity, no matter how long and how much you help them.
i'm having the same situation here though not indirectly. my brother's friend has been squatting with him for 3years now.
he had issues with his uncle who had employed and accommodated him for more than 10years, my brother was his neighbour then. so my brother took him in, help introduce him into the business he is doing and by God's grace he has something doing and making some money.
they issue is that the guy is not making any attempt to move and my brother is the one catering for everything ,food etc.
my brother asked me and my sibling to come and stay with him after nysc to search for job.
the place is kind of crowded cos 5 people in one bedroom self con is not funny.
I'm thinking of not cos I have my accommodation where I'm serving and will stay back there instead of joining them. I like my personal space.
he has been told to find accommodation but he keeps bringing up excuses and anytime I or any of my siblings visits my brother, you turn into his cook.
he doesn't contribute anything but saving money to buy a car.
it is good to help cos God says we should help those in need but when the person you are helping wants to show how smart he or she is, I think even God in heaven will laugh at your stupidity!

Mann11:
Dear, tell him to his face, without mincing words, that he has to leave. What you cannot abide, you discard. However, it will be expressly unfair of me if I fail to tell you to your own face too that you are very stingy and disgustingly unaccommodating. Imagine how you criticize every bit of his stay, na wao. And you ladies, I have just confirmed one conception about you. It is widely said that you are intolerant and hardly can you put up with a friend for just a week without making life miserable for her. Although not all of you, but see how you are making a mountain out of a mole hill. NA WA O.

Hello brother, I am sorry I have to respond to your request here as I do not want to keep posting on the other topic but would respond to only those who I feel it is very important to respond to them.
Do you intend to go look at something maybe land, building or so with people you may know or strangers anytime soon?

The art of being a good guest is knowing when to leave.

I've vowed never to squat someone again after leaving two different apartments for different squatters.


My elder brother who wants to stay with me for sometime got a cold shoulder from me because i love my privacy and i don't like sharing my toilet with anyone

A friend told me of how a temporary visitor ended uo living for 2 years in his house, and he had to pack to a new residence unknown to teh squatter before he got his space back. Another told me of how the original squatter in his apartment brought another squatter who brought another squatter until eight squatters later, even the later squatters did not know who was the original owner of the house. Eventually, he just packed his clothings when rent expired and left the agents to flush out the squatters.

Oh please! We understand that some friends need help however this situation is different from that. You are not a friend if you cannot be upfront with that your friend. We have all had people living with us for weeks even months. What is not acceptable is not acceptabl, don't try to use ‘avenue of succour' to downplay a foxy attitude.

josite:
when u view the situation from another angle,you will change your perception of your friend and the situation.Think of a situation exchange where your own lot in life becomes that of your friend and you also need an accommodation to such an extent as he apparently needs.

what may never occur to you but which im telling u right now,is that friend who on the basis of childhood friendship sees you as a an avenue of succor may later on in this life be your "saviour".

what 20years down the line,this your friend you dragged on the floor is md of nnpc or a governor and you have lost your job?.

i now tell u a true story.20years ago,someone offer less that 20NIARA to a friend who is now the most important commissioner in a state cabinet.Every now and then for the last months he gets credit alerts .He said when he offer the 20 naira to the friend met in the middle of a market then knowing what situation he was in,having had to become a dad while they were on nysc,the friend did not even ask him.

AS u beef that guy with u cus he has need of your roof over his head for a period of time longer than he himself wished for,u are beefing your future.By coming here to naked your friend,the blessings that GOD intended for u to have for helping your childhood friend is being lost.

What have u got,that u did not first receive?. you are helping him today,do u know the extent to which he will have to help u tomorrow on the account of being childhood friend.Dont mistake me for a pastor.im a lawyer.The yorubas say ore a pe,ika a pe(kindness pays,wickedness pays) and those who sow in tears reap in joy..

Your elder brother?
You get wahala no be small. Your own case no be here at all

lovat:
I've vowed never to squat someone again after leaving two different apartments for different squatters.


My elder brother who wants to stay with me for sometime got a cold shoulder from me because i love my privacy and i don't like sharing my toilet with anyone

I am quote sure there re many emn in this thread ho have also expressed disgust on this issue. It seems like you are one of those squatters who enjoy lying to their friends and putting them in discomfort

Mann11:
Dear, tell him to his face, without mincing words, that he has to leave. What you cannot abide, you discard. However, it will be expressly unfair of me if I fail to tell you to your own face too that you are very stingy and disgustingly unaccommodating. Imagine how you criticize every bit of his stay, na wao. And you ladies, I have just confirmed one conception about you. It is widely said that you are intolerant and hardly can you put up with a friend for just a week without making life miserable for her. Although not all of you, but see how you are making a mountain out of a mole hill. NA WA O.

I've vowed never to squat someone again after leaving two different apartments for different squatters.


My elder brother who wants to stay with me for sometime got a cold shoulder from me because i love my privacy and i don't like sharing my toilet with anyone.

daretodiffer:
Your elder brother?
You get wahala no be small. Your own case no be here at all

I advised him against leaving his former abode but he refused because he belived he can always put up with me.


I love being alone at home. i work from home so most times i ll be indoors for 3 days straight without seeing the sky

Here's an interesting article that explores the psychological ramifications of the issue. Squatters might want to read it to understand why a host's hostility (pun intended) is inevitable.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/presence-mind/201307/the-trouble-houseguests