united we stand,divided we fall...one love please

Onegai:


Ozycy,thanks for your kind words a few days ago. I would have replied but I actually couldn't spell your moniker properly

I didn't know my moniker is hard o, thought it's as easy as A B C .

BellaElla:
Mama's please there is something happening here I don't like about Jumayins post I don't like.
She asked a question and was answered appropriately. And I quote her "don't read and pass", a lot of mama's read and passed but a few took it upon themselves to answer her vividly. Why did other mama's not reassure her before she complained about the answers. What if everyone had kept quiet.
Jumayin mama no mama here derives pleasure in making u feel bad but experience and practice have taught plenty mama's here. The truth remains that the first reason u gave for opting out of VB is frivolous at best and mama's here answered you based on ur first post. No one knows what u discussed with your DH. If all mama's start treating serious posts with kid gloves or sugar coating the truth, I wonder if this thread would be as helpful as it has been.

Thanks for your unbiased honesty.

God bless you

pintoxx:

Am so happy,seems d real deal is here o,bin leaking small amounts of fluid all day,just saw d bloody show now,no pain n no contractions yet,think will try n catch sum sleep b4 Mrng n head 2d hospital at d 1st break of dawn,can't wait 2 meet my lil 1.

Your baby does not want to miss the August train

The Lord will be with you and grant you safe delivery; you shall know no sorrow in child bearing.

Iroyin Ayo o. (Good news only)

Good morning mamas.please let's rest our case on mama Jumayins question please.Let's llallow peace,love and serenity reign once again.
mum jumayin if you feel bad please we are so sorry.cheer up please We love you.
e-hugs to you

olamitie:
Congrats to the mommas dat just put to bed.
How is the waddling ministry? Abeg i need help, what can i use to curb this excess salivia and heartburn? Its affecting my work O , i can still handle the early morning vomitting, have tried tomtom but it spoils my appetite.

green garden egg helps me a lot with salivation. I also keep a tiny piece of bitter kola in one corner of my mouth also. u don't need to chew it. it really helps me. for d heartburn a tablespoon of apple cider vinegar(braggs) in a glass of water will help. kpele

@ Kittana and Liftedhands, u guys just said what's on my mind. As far as am concerned we all have the right to decide any birth method we want. And making CS look so bad is uncalled for, ppl av been doing it successfully so why ll her own be an exception.
It is well sha.

Morning Mama Ekene,

How do i reach you? do i send a PM thru NL? Thank U

Liftedhands:
She also said and I quote"WE DECIDED" that statement instantly swayed me away from trying to discourage her! If her and her DH have decided to tow that route irrespective of the dangers inherent in Cs(even VD sef get pros and cons too) we just have to respect their decision. Rather than painting her husband like a beast or insecure person for saying no body will chook hand inside his wife's jajaina and thus must be Cs, it's THEIR DECISION for Christ sake.

Cs was made to look like a death sentence yesterday and honestly that wasn't good! One or two mamas minds may have been discouraged from ever considering CS by the way it was portrayed by mama helovesme(unintentionally). I had a Cs and got a damn life threatening complications from it but I'm still going to be Belle sliced again whenever I get preggos and it's MY choice.

Jumayin asked us a question which was when is it ok to have Cs? The answer to that question was all she needed and not some lecture, she also wasn't seeking for discouragement.

I try very much this days to avoid confrontations here based on a past experience where some mamas read a totally different meaning to what i wrote and lashed out at me(someone even had to go dig out their dormant moniker to diss me) which was why I didn't react to the posts yesterday as I saw that many mamas here seemed to be in agreement with the horror of Cs so I just chilled and waited for Jumayin to come online and say how she received the many "advice" she got before I go drink panadol for person headache and be jumped on again.

Jeez i don join the epistle bandwagon

Good morning house

Enkaydewdrop Ekene is fine dear thanks for the shout out

XX01:
Sometimes this thread can be so tasking. Those of us that have no choice but to go for CS have to read through various horror stories of traumatic CS births and how babies will be scarred and whatever. This is on a pregnancy thread. I now understand why my MIL keeps saying that i should stop reading about other people's BS that it might cause me to be afraid.

After reading the past couple of pages, i have been very afraid. Only that i hold on to the word of God that says that I will give birth like the Hebrew women, there shall be no lose in my household, I am an overcomer. All these stories can make someone run away from a hospital if the doctor insists that CS is the only option. For what? To win an argument.

I will take a brief hiatus from this thread and probably return to share my BS (if at all). Wish everyone the best.

For me, I feel it is better to be prepared. You see, I have quite a few medical people in my house (seriously, if you need to talk to a specialist, come to my house. Whichever type of doctor you want, with plenty experience, they are there). And those doctors, when they were treating me, always sounded harsh. I used to resent it and think "why can't you guys be nice?". So I said it to them and they allowed me go and experience Nigerian Healthcare system without the benefit of their protection. I am the one that carried my medical results back to them with tears in my eyes, begging.
The same thing happened when I gave birth: because they were not there, I was left to the mercy of strangers who had to do a job. And I was unprepared because I didn't ask the tough questions and didn't know what to expect because I didn't want to alarm myself. I found myself in postnatal depression after birth. My mum had to get them on the phone to talk to me and help me.

Don't be afraid. Yes, this all sounds scary but now you know. And you can be prepped. If I were you, I'd start working out, eating well. Surgery needs a healthy body to bounce back faster. Now, you can say you want to speak to the surgeon or OB going to do your CS, share your concerns, ask questions. I assure you he/she will appreciate it (my siblings are much nicer to patients who come in knowing something) and you can even ask your instinct "do I trust this doctor, is he sounding capable and experienced?"

During antenatal, my Gynae prescribed Lexotan (a sleeping pill) for every mother who complained they couldn't sleep. 6 out of them swallowed it without even knowing the name or checking. I was the only one who said "this is a Category D drug, please could you review my file, because I'm not sure I should". 4 hours later she called me and asked me not to take the meds. That's the difference between Ignorant Bliss, Giving into Fear and Armed with Knowledge.

You can do all you can to be prepared beforehand and pray to God. Or you can avoid knowing anything

ozycy:

I didn't know my moniker is hard o, thought it's as easy as A B C .

You that you used SOOOOO many consonants! Only one vowel!! Finding your moniker was like writing JAMB, even to pronounce it I couldn't

proudmom38:



Sorry to quote u ma'am.... I want to apologise to every mama involved in this matter, e jor e ma binu. We are one big family and I belive we have the interest and well being of each mama at heart... So please let's not give room to the devil please. Mamas that commented on the ish meant well as sisters and mothers... Oya all of una chop kisses!!!





Pheeww! Na me type dis one? Ayaf try gan ooo...



Goodmorning mamas!

Why are you calling my moniker! I say why are you calling my moniker!! Oya let's fight!! I'm supposed to be cooking stew today but I will leave it and fight you!! Oya remove your wrapper and throw blow!!!!!

I think the best thing to do is avoid answering monikers you don't know so well. When I started doing that, there was much less room for offending anyone.

XX01:
Sometimes this thread can be so tasking. Those of us that have no choice but to go for CS have to read through various horror stories of traumatic CS births and how babies will be scarred and whatever. This is on a pregnancy thread. I now understand why my MIL keeps saying that i should stop reading about other people's BS that it might cause me to be afraid.

After reading the past couple of pages, i have been very afraid. Only that i hold on to the word of God that says that I will give birth like the Hebrew women, there shall be no lose in my household, I am an overcomer. All these stories can make someone run away from a hospital if the doctor insists that CS is the only option. For what? To win an argument.

I will take a brief hiatus from this thread and probably return to share my BS (if at all). Wish everyone the best.

It has not gotten to that sis. Pls dnt go

Onegai:


Why are you calling my moniker! I say why are you calling my moniker!! Oya let's fight!! I'm supposed to be cooking stew today but I will leave it and fight you!! Oya remove your wrapper and throw blow!!!!!

I think the best thing to do is avoid answering monikers you don't know so well. When I started doing that, there was much less room for offending anyone.

E gbami o! Abeg I no wear pant ooo... No vex ma'am. I wanted 2 make peace no be fight!

Onegai:


For me, I feel it is better to be prepared. You see, I have quite a few medical people in my house (seriously, if you need to talk to a specialist, come to my house. Whichever type of doctor you want, with plenty experience, they are there). And those doctors, when they were treating me, always sounded harsh. I used to resent it and think "why can't you guys be nice?". So I said it to them and they allowed me go and experience Nigerian Healthcare system without the benefit of their protection. I am the one that carried my medical results back to them with tears in my eyes, begging.
The same thing happened when I gave birth: because they were not there, I was left to the mercy of strangers who had to do a job. And I was unprepared because I didn't ask the tough questions and didn't know what to expect because I didn't want to alarm myself. I found myself in postnatal depression after birth, confused, crying and refusing to pick up Baby E, refusing to talk to anyone. My mum had to get them on the phone to talk to me and help me.

Don't be afraid. Yes, this all sounds scary but now you know. And you can be prepped. If I were you, I'd start working out, eating well. Surgery needs a healthy body to bounce back faster. Now, you can say you want to speak to the surgeon or OB going to do your CS, share your concerns, ask questions. I assure you he/she will appreciate it (my siblings are much nicer to patients who come in knowing something) and you can even ask your instinct "do I trust this doctor, is he sounding capable and experienced?"

During antenatal, my Gynae prescribed Lexotan (a sleeping pill) for every mother who complained they couldn't sleep. 6 out of them swallowed it without even knowing the name or checking. I was the only one who said "this is a Category D drug, please could you review my file, because I'm not sure I should". 4 hours later she called me and asked me not to take the meds. That's the difference between Ignorant Bliss, Giving into Fear and Armed with Knowledge.

You can do all you can to be prepared beforehand and pray to God. Or you can avoid knowing anything

You've said majority of the things that have been on my mind. God bless you.

I remember being upset that nobody on this thread at the time had discussed the pain experienced after c-section. I had read so many birth stories and I had not seen anywhere the recovery pains were mentioned.

If there was anything, i really wish i was prepared before I had my CS. I wish i had discussed that birth option with my consultant/midwife to at least have an idea of what to expect should emergency CS come in. Instead i was fixated with water birth, music in the room, birthing positions, etc. I wish i had asked for a copy of the CS consent form and read it thoroughly before hand rather than being handed the consent form seconds before the surgery to ''sign here''.

Anyways, I hope mamas with VBAC or consecutive CS will come here and share the honest experience. I'm keen to read/learn.

Enkaydewdrop darling ...... My Itsekiri President is kicking fine....How's bobo Jay Hope he don chill a little from molesting your bweast

Sweetie Mitchyy.....I know my sins are piling ooo but abeg no vex. I can't coman visit a prince without bearing gifts and my pocket is 'Buhari- ED' these past weeks. Na God we dey pray to.


Ozycy baby....How body?? How my babies I miss you small

Zaynie my luff.....Oti peju o! How's Atinuke & Moyo & DH?? Kisses

Jumayin..... Don't be sad, sometimes you get beyond what you bargained for but I all you have learnt. Just do what's right by you and be at peace coz its all about YOU.

Liftedhands.... Mama Ekene toh special. How's my bobo?? Hailings from the President + kisses for Ekene

Helovesme ..... You sabi write epistle gannnn You suppose to be English teacher....#iHail

Tipsyjules....Pregnancy looks good on you

Big salutes to all mama that has dropped and those still elephant walking

iomoge2:


I dont know if its clear o.....
N the answer to ur second question is in d text u quoted....

ok meaning you haven't used them yet.

i saw one new scan center yesterday that claimed they do 4D. i entered and they collected my money, but i was shocked.
it was pure black & white, images distorted, jumpy & even worse than the usual 2D's ive been doing before.
i couldn't even make out anything from the screen. The sonographer was just fumbling & fidgeting with the whole thing & couldn't make out anything. i was so angry eh;it really pained me. i just wasted my time & money in vain.

He then told me the pregnancy is too early to see any clear image. Imagine!

And that sex can NEVER be detected till at least 27 weeks. Mogbe!!! I lost it at that point. i couldn't hold it again.
ARRANT NONSENSE!

Am sure they'll close down after my episode with them, go back and do their home work well before opening again to swindle people.

Onegai:

I understand what you mean but there are better ways of passing across the message than painting CS to be the devil's option. I have gone through CS and was very depressed when my doctor told me that i am not a good candidate for VBAC. I still try to be upbeat about it.

But for someone to come here and castigate someone else for considering a CS for what appears to be cosmetic reasons but be willing to carry out a cosmetic procedure on a child for something that the doctor says is totally unnecessary is mind boggling. I can as well post pictures, videos and news clips of kids that have had traumatic experiences to drive home my point. But that can discourage people that their kids actually need such procedures but they will become too scared to let their kids go through it with the attendant consequences.

Whyterose:


Children can b funny with dia actions atimes. I Jst Wana knw if d rate at which my dd falls on my bump while playing if it's safe 4my lo in there. She must also fall asleep on my bump b4 I place her properly on d bed else no sleep 4 I n Dh dat Night O. Noting my hubbydoes can make her leave my bump. I Jst wonder what wud happen wen my bump increases in size. Abeg mamas, na Luv she d show her sibling? Naso her Luv go d choke mumy? I Jst d pity my Lo wey she d worry inside belle. My hubby Don warn us tire,say make we no disfigure him baby with our gymnastic. And too think dat if I refuse her or hide my bump ,she would jst cry 4africa like say I b her play mate. Motherhood sef... my mumsy too try abeg. One gbosa 4 mamas cos u guys r irreplaceable gems.

Teamie good morning. Same issue am experiencing with my dd but I try as much as possible to stop from hitting or lying directly on my tummy. She is gradually getting the message that baby is inside there. God will help us all and bless every mother. All our labour and sacrifices will not be in vain in Jesus name, Amen.

Pls, it's morning already, ND stil trashing d same issue.

Pls mama's involved, peace is d only way forward.....

I remember my beginning in dis thread, yeti havnt left, pls dos threatening to go Mia, can u pls b calm a bit??

How Wil dis thread b alive wif out u all??

I say to d storm in dis thread,... Peace be stil in Jesus name.

Good morning to all mama's, hav a blissful day ahead

Enkaydewdrop you don chop overfeeding this morning abi?

sugah:



Omvial.
That's where I did my 4D scan. Its very clear and you can ask for s video for an additional 1k or so.
Scan was 5k.

Cc iomoge2

Thanks a lot Sugar.
Thanks iomoge2 too.

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A wonderful thread I must say. This is a great e family. I have a lot to say but don't know where to start from.

Pls mamas, let it end here pls. Its not everything that I read online I take into account, i agree with some, i discard some. Pls let bygone be bygone. Lets move forward.

enque:
Morning Mama Ekene,

How do i reach you? do i send a PM thru NL? Thank U

Yes please PM.


Tyconcepts mummy presido Mofe we are good sis how's you and "the boyz"?

Haaaaaa Zaynie kilode? Your awoof WiFi don finish? abeg show face o its been days.


The house is getting heated mbok let all frayed nerves be calm! We make mistakes, we take correction, we move on! Case close sefini!(I can see swords being drawn like in Game of Thrones ) abeg bikonu it yaff do.

Today is Wednesday what can we do today to make the house bubbly again? Any suggestions?

Pls let's all forget about this issue on ground. 

Ma'am Jumayin, mamas that answered your question meant no harm. Pls don't take offense. Biko. Mbok. Ejo. Dan Allah. Ya kuri ko?

We are all here to learn and show love and support to one another. 

Pls forgive us if we have offended you 


We are very sorry. 

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helovesme:

I hear you. It is easy to point fingers at others but can't stand it pointing back at you.

So, let's get back to the purpose of the thread.

hello mamas, goodmorning to u all. been a while
its good to be back.
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Mama jumayin, na u start dis oo, oya com ND end it biko.

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Congratulations on the arrival of your lo! May God bless and keep him.
Have a blessed day!

Cheers

Amen! Thanks mama