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Re: My Wife Doesn't Work Yet Dinner Is Never Ready Before 9pm by fortunejum: 9:32am On Sep 19, 2016 |
I thank God for my wife. I don't need to instruct her twice. |
Re: My Wife Doesn't Work Yet Dinner Is Never Ready Before 9pm by fpeter(f): 9:36am On Sep 19, 2016 |
It's not laziness...these are habits. habits stick to people especially ladies tend to continue what they saw their mums do. I went to the Christian bookstore around me this weekend and saw a book titled "HELP, I THINK I AM TURNING INTO MY MOTHER" The flat above me, most nights i hear them pounding away when am in bed and i wonder why they would be cooking at that time Just make up your mind not to eat after 8pm, she will adjust. Also spend a weekend with her and both of you should do a cooking Competition with a set time. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Doesn't Work Yet Dinner Is Never Ready Before 9pm by CaraJewel(f): 9:36am On Sep 19, 2016 |
She get luck shez not wit d kind of pson my dAd is...if she is making breakfast shez also preparing for tinz for lunch..tell her to do it like dat..wen preparing lunch too also prepare tinz for dinner..she should prepare and tink of food for d nxt day a day before..xo she doesn't start tinking early morning wat to cook..stews and soup should be stored xo itz easy for her..also try cookin or helpp her out sometyms |
Re: My Wife Doesn't Work Yet Dinner Is Never Ready Before 9pm by ADUKKY(f): 9:37am On Sep 19, 2016 |
@ Op, you need to sit your wife down and explain to her the essence of time management. I work but I ensure dinner is ready between 6 to 7. My saturday is for bulk cooking of all I need for the week including stew and beans for the children. On my way home on Fridays, I pick all I need to cook and run the house for a week like potato, plantain, egg, fish, beef e.t.c and I wake up ASAP on Saturday to start cooking and store in the freezer. A flexible timetable for the week should also help cos the woman might be burdened with what to cook. |
Re: My Wife Doesn't Work Yet Dinner Is Never Ready Before 9pm by kally90(f): 9:37am On Sep 19, 2016 |
Huston1:She can't have it all.Please you have to endure.From what you said,both of you really love each other.So,sit down and liaise together. Sometimes, if you are back from work early, assist her in the kitchen and make sure that dinner is served early that day.She will learn from that and appreciate you the more. On the issue of untidiness, some ladies are like that especially extroverts.But talk to her,I believe she will adjust. |
Re: My Wife Doesn't Work Yet Dinner Is Never Ready Before 9pm by achieverme(m): 9:37am On Sep 19, 2016 |
Re: My Wife Doesn't Work Yet Dinner Is Never Ready Before 9pm by Richy4(m): 9:45am On Sep 19, 2016 |
Walexsammy: Before i comment, I always read through...and from page 0-1, there was no place he made such comment... Maybe you should read it again... |
Re: My Wife Doesn't Work Yet Dinner Is Never Ready Before 9pm by larrybee2017(f): 9:52am On Sep 19, 2016 |
So good to read this piece but won't make my judgement until I get answers to these question(s). The first is what foes your wife cook with, stove or gas? If its gas cooker, how many face burner? Before you got marry to her did you ever visit the family at night? If yes when was dinner serve then? Also, have you at any point join her in the kitchen to know what exactly is keeping her? Is she a phone addict, by phone addict I mean does she love to chat while working? Do you have a TV set in your kitchen? When I get the answer to this then I'll know what to say. But in the mean time I must say you are not at all discipline yourself, or should I say you are not in control. If you want to eat by 7 and food is not ready go out and buy snack. I'm a woman but most women love a strong will man. Help your wife to be on time by insisting on what you want. At first she will find this too strange but be sure she will thank you later. The future of your children depend on this as she happen to be their first blackboard while you are the chalk. From now start written 'on time' on her board. If its time to go out and she is not ready, go once you are. Waiting for her is not truly the best option, she is the one to wait for you. Be a man and take bold step. Make your wife what you want and be prayerful about it. God will give you a way out but most often FORCE is required. Be bless in your home 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Doesn't Work Yet Dinner Is Never Ready Before 9pm by grafixdon: 10:15am On Sep 19, 2016 |
Huston1: You better thank God for the kind of woman God gave you. Nobody is perfect, you ain't either, others are facing more bigger issues in their marriage, there you are complaining about little thing. You never sleep with empty stomach, the issue is that you always eat late. Stop reporting your precious wife to strangers, they'll help you chase her away, you never appreciate what you have until you loose it. |
Re: My Wife Doesn't Work Yet Dinner Is Never Ready Before 9pm by mofy1(f): 10:18am On Sep 19, 2016 |
This got me laughing real hard. She is a wife and not a home keeper. In between am married okay.i wake up 5am put the food on the fire, perform wuduh(ablution) and pray, then go back to the kitchen to complete my cooking because hubby must take food to work and it's not only white rice o, it can be coconut rice, jollof, yam vegetable, Irish and plantain or bean porridge and still he leaves the house b4 6:30am and as for night food,it's always waiting for oga to come. From bathroom straight too dining. Although it all bowls down to training. In my parent house if u visit us by 9am we must av finish eating. Infact they wake u to come and it so that it won't get cold. |
Re: My Wife Doesn't Work Yet Dinner Is Never Ready Before 9pm by Walexsammy(m): 10:19am On Sep 19, 2016 |
Huston1:cc Richy4 |
Re: My Wife Doesn't Work Yet Dinner Is Never Ready Before 9pm by deity: 10:36am On Sep 19, 2016 |
princeohiku: I live in a place where there isn't electricity at all we bought a digital inverter fridge that even a small generator can power, I work, so that return late in the evening,this has made my cooking easier |
Re: My Wife Doesn't Work Yet Dinner Is Never Ready Before 9pm by glingev(m): 10:59am On Sep 19, 2016 |
Huston1: Bros I will advice you to buy groceries during th weekend and cook the meal yourself. If you can cook that is |
Re: My Wife Doesn't Work Yet Dinner Is Never Ready Before 9pm by Nobody: 11:06am On Sep 19, 2016 |
Huston1:hope she is not fat,guys need to court like one year b4 marriage...look for an househelp or better still eat out n stop eating her food that wld reset her brain. |
Re: My Wife Doesn't Work Yet Dinner Is Never Ready Before 9pm by glingev(m): 11:09am On Sep 19, 2016 |
Many ladies are not prepared for marriage abeg. |
Re: My Wife Doesn't Work Yet Dinner Is Never Ready Before 9pm by bellenornor(f): 11:19am On Sep 19, 2016 |
ucsparks:Ah! That's too harsh na |
Re: My Wife Doesn't Work Yet Dinner Is Never Ready Before 9pm by TheMatrix3: 11:36am On Sep 19, 2016 |
Huston1:Who told you she doesnt have a job yet? Do you know that being a house wife (esp if one is a graduate) is a FULL time job of its own without pay, salary increase, break or annual leave? I do not make excuses for her but you need to remove your mind from her not working. She works. However me thinks its a family habit, work with her to strike a compromise, else count your losses and eat out till she gets the message or make your food for yourself. I'm even trying to thread that path sef. As for those air heads asking you to get a divorce, y'all need to get married first, this gist is PG28 (marrried commentors only!) 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Doesn't Work Yet Dinner Is Never Ready Before 9pm by Nobody: 11:51am On Sep 19, 2016 |
Anextin: Are we to start tracing d problem to her ancestors? where do most of u NL ppl come from sef?I grew up anyhow is no excuse she's married to him and should know what he likes n how he likes it btw she is not in her parents house anymore..those r just silly excuses.I grew up in a polygamous home Where all the women where working..each woman took turns to cook for popsy and each woman cooked for her kids every day house helps only served the foods and prolly cooked a part of the lunch and dinner plus other house hold chores.Breakfast is served @ d most 6:30 am cos the driver took us all to school before 7:30..so the fact that she is not working and prepares me dinner by midnight wtf is dat?? i should blame her mother for d laziness abi? who will blame her grand ma and so on... abeg call a spade a spade SHE IS TOO LAZY !! I wont blame any one but herself.. According to u Any woman who cleans while cooking and after cooking is damn neat n strong Is that work?? to clean while and after cooking....khai!! so its extra ordinary to cook and clean lolsss...u must b living in a Pigsty.I smell u must be a dirty n lazy girl too smh for u |
Re: My Wife Doesn't Work Yet Dinner Is Never Ready Before 9pm by obeuno(m): 11:55am On Sep 19, 2016 |
What are the things that makes her not to be up and doing? find out, is it telemundo/Nollywood, visitors, what apps chatting etc. investigate then curtail any. 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Doesn't Work Yet Dinner Is Never Ready Before 9pm by Nobody: 12:29pm On Sep 19, 2016 |
bellenornor:[size=15pt] Am sorry dear,, bitter truth always unpleasant to the ear [/size] |
Re: My Wife Doesn't Work Yet Dinner Is Never Ready Before 9pm by bigerboy200: 12:38pm On Sep 19, 2016 |
oyomii:hmmm... |
Re: My Wife Doesn't Work Yet Dinner Is Never Ready Before 9pm by samuelchimmy(m): 1:11pm On Sep 19, 2016 |
some people aren't just fast at cooking, my mum can prepare a pot of soup in just 15minutes and the food tastes amazing, so is my older sister, but my junior sister has to cook longer hours, even if we complain about her late cooking, she apologizes but still cooks late, conclusion some people are not just fast at cooking...... bear with her and if you have time see if you can find why she cooks late, and offer a solution thank u..... Happy New week guys |
Re: My Wife Doesn't Work Yet Dinner Is Never Ready Before 9pm by nautybride: 1:19pm On Sep 19, 2016 |
Re: My Wife Doesn't Work Yet Dinner Is Never Ready Before 9pm by VaginaTerrorist(m): 1:21pm On Sep 19, 2016 |
(sigh) you see, most times in life we sit back and expect people act like we wish forgeting we are from diffrent background. There are some family who have no eating time table, the food is always there for who ever wish to selfservice. Pls Oga I dont know you but I am begging you in the name of what ever you worship. DO NOT make dat lady feel like she is a slave. Dont ever carry your house matters to public cux dey would always have a way of hunting you back. If she has a job, she would have been more more faster in geting tins done. But you can still assist her in kitchen. Dont just see yourself sharing duties! All dat matters now is saving your home, so if helping out in cooking is wats gonna save your home. Pls do it. I can bet u there are thins on her mind dats pulling her down, be more than a friend to her. When I was a kid my Dad useto cook for us and still drop us in school, before going to his office where he was d director tthen, until we took over and our mom useto cook too.. We grew to become old men now who sees cooking as no bodys sole business but hubby. so I feel bad when I see some men trying to tag cooking to a womans business. As 4ur potbelly: go get for yourself some jim kit ans stay fit! STOP BRINGING UR INSIDE MATTER OUTSIDE. BYE BYE. Gudbye. Huston1: |
Re: My Wife Doesn't Work Yet Dinner Is Never Ready Before 9pm by crackhaus: 1:31pm On Sep 19, 2016 |
Odunharry:Everything is good bro, thank God. Are you with Zenith now? |
Re: My Wife Doesn't Work Yet Dinner Is Never Ready Before 9pm by Kassidy90(m): 1:35pm On Sep 19, 2016 |
Na wa oo, wey my wife dey always disturbing me to eat before 7pm once I get back from work and I go dey hala say until after ishai prayers before I go eat.. Hmmmm Alhamdulilahi.. Abi @ op make we switch? Just kidding. As others have said stick to ur warnings and make sure u always have bread n butter with tea at home or start bringing takeaway frm work if she no enter reset under one week na him be say Nigeria flag no be GWG |
Re: My Wife Doesn't Work Yet Dinner Is Never Ready Before 9pm by ibietela2(m): 1:54pm On Sep 19, 2016 |
oyomii: Hmmmm |
Re: My Wife Doesn't Work Yet Dinner Is Never Ready Before 9pm by ziga: 2:23pm On Sep 19, 2016 |
If she doesn't cook your food till 10pm, then when does she serve your food? What time does she bathe you? Does she even have time for $ex or time for the children you gave her? How about massaging your back? I doubt that she will have enough time to wash your clothes. You are in deep sh|t. Better fast and pray for 30 days and read Psalm 23, 24!!! |
Re: My Wife Doesn't Work Yet Dinner Is Never Ready Before 9pm by ako1tse: 2:43pm On Sep 19, 2016 |
In this context, i guess the woman is not really the type that likes cooking, OR SHE iS JUST LAZY. AND WILL LIKE TO KNOW IS THAT THE INITIAL BEHAVIOR OF THE GIRL. because na something go trigger the girls behavior. but if its that shes just being naughty. will advice. the guy allows someone else to cook for him from outside. it will resharpen the lady . cus action speaks better than words |
Re: My Wife Doesn't Work Yet Dinner Is Never Ready Before 9pm by sholaroz(m): 3:17pm On Sep 19, 2016 |
Huston1: Please,exercise patience with her. Kindly join her in the kitchen and see things for yourself to understand her very well before you take any drastic action. And please, don't let her feel she's jobless. Staying at home can be more challenging many atimes than going to the office. |
Re: My Wife Doesn't Work Yet Dinner Is Never Ready Before 9pm by Pylony(m): 3:19pm On Sep 19, 2016 |
I know that some TV stations has led to food getting burnt up by ladies this days. She could be addicted to TV shows on channels such as Telemundo / Televista etc that she do not have the time to cook earlier, or she use's a cooking book or a recipe note to prepare every of her meals in the kitchen. Or she's just lazy in the kitchen but active in bed. (Jokes apart) In a nut shell, staying home alone could be depressing for many people, being ideal for some one who thinks positively about how to better one's self is a lot of Job, but joblessness for some one who just wants to be spoon fed every day, check your wife's emotional level and better still, take her out on a date and have a calm one on one discussion about what is bugging her. You may be amazed at what you could discover at the end. And check your self, are you really giving her your time when she needed it the most or all you wanted is for her to make you dinner on time, eat and sleep?? |
Re: My Wife Doesn't Work Yet Dinner Is Never Ready Before 9pm by Cutehector(m): 7:52pm On Sep 19, 2016 |
bigerboy200:why do I need to do light work out wen my belly is flat already? 1 Like |
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