LOL

Did you date him because of emotions?

mysticgal:
Please what do I do;I just really broke up with my boyfriend and he is not taking it funny, he's been crying, refusing to eat for days and now he is threatening to kill himself. I feel guilty for leaving him though he was the architect of the problems which we both reacted to childishly.
If I go back, it will be because of pity which will deprive me of my happiness. I don't want him to commit suicide because me as it will hang on for the rest of my life. Please advise me sincerely, like you would a friend or sister

Ugh, the 'ol suicide attempt threat.

OP, it's a diabolical ploy to manipulate you into staying with him. He's distraught, but it's highly unlikely that he's actually suicidal. Don't play into it, and realize that as the source of this ploy, you cannot possibly be the one to comfort him! Inform his friends and relatives, and cease all contact. The sooner you stop contacting him, the sooner he can get a grip on himself.

Do NOT do this.

dhardline:
I dont think he'll kill himself though but he might feel really bad. You could make up with him and let the relationship be on no sex basis. [s]If he truly loves you he'll stay if not the feeling will gradually fade then he'll cheat then you can then break up AGAIN.[/s]

Reyginus:
Just send a text explaining why you can't be together even if you still feel something for him. We must not necessarily date everyone we love. Don't reconcile if you've lost that happiness you previously had around him. You are helping him be a better person.

This... nice

mysticgal:
Please what do I do;I just really broke up with my boyfriend and he is not taking it funny, he's been crying, refusing to eat for days and now he is threatening to kill himself. I feel guilty for leaving him though he was the architect of the problems which we both reacted to childishly.
If I go back, it will be because of pity which will deprive me of my happiness. I don't want him to commit suicide because me as it will hang on for the rest of my life. Please advise me sincerely, like you would a friend or sister

Lol!

Your boyfriend (sorry ex) will not kill himself.

If he does, you'll mourn him and at most until he's buried. After which you'll look for another boyfriend and this boyfriend will make you forget your ex.

You'd move on and life will continue....of course without your ex.

So you better talk sense into him. If he dies, life continues.

OR

He wants you to come around. He'll cry again to make you believe. You'll feel pity for him. Then you'll assure him that you'd be with him again. Then you two will shag yourselves. And in the interim, you'll become lovers again.

Then shortly, something worse would happen again and he'll threaten to commit suicide and the cycle will continue over and over again.

mysticgal:

Explain better

it's either u school in Keffi or u stay in Jos

[quote author=mysticgal post=42803903]Please what do I do;I just really broke up with my boyfriend and he is not taking it funny, he's been crying, refusing to eat for days and now he is threatening to kill himself. I feel guilty for leaving him though he was the architect of the problems which we both reacted to childishly.
If I go back, it will be because of pity which will deprive me of my happiness. I don't want him to commit suicide because me as it will hang on

That is what u get when u date a kid..he might even be 30yrs and still be a kid,any guy that tries to manipulate any girl with suicide is not well upstairs and u need to take ur leave ASAP..what an embarrassment he is to manhood,u should be concentrating on ur exams now not this,look this so called relationship is very unhealthy for u.
P.s he is just bluffing about the suicide, tell his relative about it and move on.

Thank you guys, but I have got update
All through out today, I have just been thinking, even when I was writing my exams. He called me and said we should do an open relationship or even till I get married, he will continue calling me and following me, till I say yes. that's not all.
He's friends are telling me that I will not find a man like him. I know that is mediocrity /mediocre but I can't just stop rummaging over it......

mysticgal:
Thank you guys, but I have got update
All through out today, I have just been thinking, even when I was writing my exams. He called me and said we should do an open relationship or even till I get married, he will continue calling me and following me, till I say yes. that's not all.
He's friends are telling me that I will not find a man like him. I know that is mediocrity /mediocre but I can't just stop rummaging over it......

Ul get over it..u can still be friends sha but no sex except ur not ready to move on..btw the friendship ends when u start dating someone else.. Good luck

I can die for a woman. But I can't die because of a woman. No woman worth dieing for. Respect to my girlfriend.

Go read for your exams first.....thank me leta

Never dates on the ground of pity.

mysticgal:
Please what do I do;I just really broke up with my boyfriend and he is not taking it funny, he's been crying, refusing to eat for days and now he is threatening to kill himself. I feel guilty for leaving him though he was the architect of the problems which we both reacted to childishly.
If I go back, it will be because of pity which will deprive me of my happiness. I don't want him to commit suicide because me as it will hang on for the rest of my life. Please advise me sincerely, like you would a friend or sister

Let him kill himself that will make the breakup easier out of sight out of mind.

@op...babe,u can see from the "update" that if he truly cares he wouldn't suggest an "open relationship"... Wetin be dat one sef?

As per 'killing himself'...he's just bluffing!... Girl be strong and face ur studies...glorious things lies ahead!

If he dies...he dies!....and life goes on!

mysticgal:
Please what do I do;I just really broke up with my boyfriend and he is not taking it funny, he's been crying, refusing to eat for days and now he is threatening to kill himself. I feel guilty for leaving him though he was the architect of the problems which we both reacted to childishly.
If I go back, it will be because of pity which will deprive me of my happiness. I don't want him to commit suicide because me as it will hang on for the rest of my life. Please advise me sincerely, like you would a friend or sister

Same bf you break up and make up,cos he is good on bed? You will surely go back because you too like prick.

mysticgal:
Thank you guys, but I have got update
All through out today, I have just been thinking, even when I was writing my exams. He called me and said we should do an open relationship or even till I get married, he will continue calling me and following me, till I say yes. that's not all.
He's friends are telling me that I will not find a man like him. I know that is mediocrity /mediocre but I can't just stop rummaging over it......

Hey girl, be wise! I'd break down some things to you. First and foremost,sex messes up your head in relationships. It doesn't make you think straight. However,it is a great tool in bringing couples closer in marriages. So here is my take, do not attach sex to any relationship you are in,it doesn't allow you make rational decision. This is because there is something released during sex(will make research on it) that gives satisfaction, hence you wouldn't want to drop such satisfaction.
Secondly, don't ever ever let anyone bring down your self esteem because I'm sorry to say you are battling with self esteem issues. What do you mean by you couldn't help but agree when your ex friends says you wouldn't get someone like him. That's a big fat lie. There are countless men waiting to worship the ground you walk on. So, cancel that notion from within you.
In addition to all these, I notice you aren't someone to make a decision and stand by it. It's quite evident from the updates in your diary. What's with the on and offthingy? The guy knows your mumu button,he knows you are indecisive in your decision making and that sex weakens your resolve. Work on yourself girl& men will come crawling at your feet. You are still young and still have awesome days ahead of you. Take a decision today and stick by it.#imout#

Sapphiredamsel:

Hey girl, be wise! I'd break down some things to you. First and foremost,sex messes up your head in relationships. It doesn't make you think straight. However,it is a great tool in bringing couples closer in marriages. So here is my take, do not attach sex to any relationship you are in,it doesn't allow you make rational decision. This is because there is something released during sex(will make research on it) that gives satisfaction, hence you wouldn't want to drop such satisfaction.
Secondly, don't ever ever let anyone bring down your self esteem because I'm sorry to say you are battling with self esteem issues. What do you mean by you couldn't help but agree when your ex friends says you wouldn't get someone like him. That's a big fat lie. There are countless men waiting to worship the ground you walk on. So, cancel that notion from within you.
In addition to all these, I notice you aren't someone to make a decision and stand by it. It's quite evident from the updates in your diary. What's with the on and offthingy? The guy knows your mumu button,he knows you are indecisive in your decision making and that sex weakens your resolve. Work on yourself girl& men will come crawling at your feet. You are still young and still have awesome days ahead of you. Take a decision today and stick by it.#imout#

Thanks, you hit it right on

mysticgal:
Please what do I do;I just really broke up with my boyfriend and he is not taking it funny, he's been crying, refusing to eat for days and now he is threatening to kill himself. I feel guilty for leaving him though he was the architect of the problems which we both reacted to childishly.
If I go back, it will be because of pity which will deprive me of my happiness. I don't want him to commit suicide because me as it will hang on for the rest of my life. Please advise me sincerely, like you would a friend or sister

Is the foolish boy dead yet?

BuddhaPalm:

Is the foolish boy dead yet?

Lol, for now no. God did you really have to go through all this

mysticgal:
Please what do I do;I just really broke up with my boyfriend and he is not taking it funny, he's been crying, refusing to eat for days and now he is threatening to kill himself. I feel guilty for leaving him though he was the architect of the problems which we both reacted to childishly.
If I go back, it will be because of pity which will deprive me of my happiness. I don't want him to commit suicide because me as it will hang on for the rest of my life. Please advise me sincerely, like you would a friend or sister

make e kill e sef Na..who send am

Jarizod:
make e kill e sef Na..who send am

It was a moment of weakness, believe me till today I still laugh over the situation at least we both moved on with our lives

mysticgal:

It was a moment of weakness, believe me till today I still laugh over the situation at least we both moved on with our lives

oh

I thought it was something that happened recently

Jarizod:
oh
I thought it was something that happened recently

Yes, from the time of the post till now

Pathetic baby, just because of one pusy.

u guys should discuss at an open place about everything,either make or break. u know some guys can get violent we know the trend nowadays

dhardline:
I dont think he'll kill himself though but he might feel really bad. You could make up with him and let the relationship be on no sex basis.If he truly loves you he'll stay if not the feeling will gradually fade then he'll cheat then you can then break up AGAIN.

Guy you should be like 800years old. U make 8 centuries sense, I swear down.

Maximus85:


Guy you should be like 800years old. U make 8 centuries sense, I swear down.

now thats funny.thanks though

mysticgal:
refusing to eat for days and now he is threatening to kill himself.

No Ob's ni , seems like he dint kill himself afterall

Funny dude.

ChynoBEATS:


No Ob's ni , seems like he dint kill himself afterall

Funny dude.

Nope.... He's still alive and well
I look at this thread and laugh hard at how I fell for that scheme

mysticgal:
I feel like going to beg him but I have exams tomorrow morning. I am confused. Help me now

What led to the break up??

firstking01:
What led to the break up??

He insulted me by insulting my parents... God, who does that, I am not even married to you..