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Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by mekuxiani(m): 8:05am On Oct 04, 2016

It is well nothing good comes easy just keep having faith and stop thinking of it so it doesn't affect you clear your mind seek God's face you'll be ok believe me

Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by comos: 8:23am On Oct 04, 2016

seizethaBae:
I don't even know where to start or how to explain what my problem is, hopefully i get lucky for the 'problem' to be 'diagnosed'. I'm a 27yrs old lady, finished university very very early and i've been extremely lucky with almost everything in life, but to get a suitor and settle down na palava. Friends/family members keep saying I'm too choosy or not serious.

Honestly, I AM NOT choosy. When the one thing i fast/pray for is for God to link me with the bone of my bone very soon, I even gave up my travelling plans in order to increase my chances of finding a future patner (i know you can meet ur patner anywhere, but na just to shut up people wey don tink say i no dey serious), a close friend even suggested i pend my 'work-from-home business', look for job so i can be leaving the house, and i got lucky within a month or two of dusting my CV i got a fantastic high paid job with no connection (honestly i've always been so lucky when i ask God for anything but i have no idea why he is delaying this). I just dont know how to explain it, the ones i like doesnt like me and the ones i dont have single feelings for will do anything to wife me. I'm not desperate or something, i just want to reach out if I'm the only one having this problem.

There was even a time i made up my mind to accept an ex proposal even tho i have no single feeling for him, i kept hoping/fasting/praying for a miracle to happen so i can at least like him (even if its 20%) bcus hes just too PERFECT, but it didn't just happen. My type of man doesnt need to be extremely rich, tall, handsome like most ladies dream man. He should just be neat, God fearing and have something upstairs biko (i love intelligent guys). Back to the main reason why i created this post; Married women/mature lady out there, has this ever happen to you? I really envy people that love their partners and they are loved back equally. Married women, please, I'm waiting to hear from you.

And for most people that will think I'm looking for a rich guy, believe me i once met a guy that was willing to sponsor my M.Sc in UK if i can be his Mrs, but i will never engage in anything that will bring curse on my head. So my problem is not even money. I'm so sick and tired

you got your dream man in me

can we meet to finalized things

Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by Dshocker(m): 8:26am On Oct 04, 2016

seizethaBae:
if u guys no d level of my seriousness walah iu wont take it as a joke. shams040 im not here to look for patner/husband but to find experience pple to diagnose what could be wrong with me or if it happens to most ladies before they settle down. Experience pple pls respond plsssss

Don't undermine the power of social media.... Shams040 might really be interested in settling down as well.

Besides who knows.probably this was the move God wanted you to make,by coming online to voice out & you get located by him.

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Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by susuces4all(m): 8:27am On Oct 04, 2016

Patience is all you need & still keep on praying . I have female friend who was also undergoing same , we both graduated at same time almost at the point of graduation that the incendent happened, I know words of advice I gave to her that still make her not to see it the other way round. I read a book that said " Everyone an issue" yours might not be same with me. So many graduated without having / finding a job not that their not praying. I almost fall in your group but am not yet worried because God time remains the best, that is while so many people went into marriage out of rush & their regretting their action. My dear keep praying

Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by yetseyi(f): 8:27am On Oct 04, 2016

Martin124:
5. Good Christian men know their worth too
and don’t want to settle either: Yea ladies…men
are understanding their worth a bit more
too.Christian men are getting more and more
comfortable attending relationship seminars and
getting information about seeking God’s face for a
wife. They are realizing how powerful of an impact a
wife has on the outcome of their lives and ministry,
and they are spending more time trying to see what
is beneath the surface. They know that a woman can
make or break everything. They realize that a
woman’s desires can accelerate him towards purpose
or derail him.
They are praying more and they are realizing that
while you still remain a prize, they too are precious in
God’s eyes and want to do right by him. They are
realizing that a wife can make or break a man.
Yes they are praying for a Ruth but they are also
praying against Delilah as well.
The Boaz, David or Joseph kind of man knows his
worth too.
6. Many Christian ladies have no testimony
with men: A few years ago, an older friend (a
number of years older than me) came up to me after
a church program and asked me about a lady in my
church. Who she was and what she was like as a
person.
I didn’t stop talking for minutes. They were married
about a year later.
Same thing happened to Ruth. (Ruth Chapter 2 from
Vs 3) Boaz came back from a trip, saw Ruth and
asked his Foreman “Who is that and who does she
belong to”, to which the foreman answered and gave
a fantastic testimony of her character. (See Boaz’s
response in Vs 11)
Here is a secret ladies, you know how you like a guy
and try to keep it to yourself until your girlfriends
force a confession out of you? We guys don’t do that.
The moment we think we are interested in you, we
are telling someone and we are asking around about
you….and we are asking our MALE friends/mentors.
Because we know they will tell us like it is and of
course won’t spread it all around church and make
things suddenly awkward or cause all the sisters to
start giving the dirty eye next Sunday. Bro code.
The truth is that even Christian ladies can be toxic
sometimes when it comes to how they treat men who
they don’t consider a prospect. You forget that when
the real prospect comes and is interested in you, he
will ask other men…some who may never have
approached you but who have watched you from
afar, and yes some who may have had an interest in
you but you didn’t like. How did you handle those
situations? (You totally need to read that article link
above…especially the 2nd part of that series)
The Boaz, David or Joseph kind of man looks deeper
than the surface beauty. They look for testimonies of
the woman’s character
7. Many Christian women want a Proverbs 31
Man: That’s not a typo. Pick up your Bible and read
Proverbs 31 again with fresh eyes… from the
perspective of the character of that woman…and you
will see that those qualities are the ones that many
women are looking for in a man when they should be
busy developing those qualities themselves.
Single Christian men are reading that passage
looking for those qualities in a woman, and women
are putting that passage down and instead looking
for those qualities in a man.
The Boaz, David or Joseph Kind of man has read
Proverbs 31 and wants her.
8. Many Christian ladies want to be married
but they are not truly ready to be led: They
want to marry a boyfriend but not a husband. They
want only a partner but not a leader. They want an
emotional prenup that things will always be 50:50.
They say they will concede authority to God himself
but in their heart, they are not willing to be led by his
representative in the home. What I am about to say
next I say with the utmost respect to women.
Men were created to lead at home. Now, with that
leadership comes accountability to God meaning that
God holds him accountable and will punish him first
for bad leadership. But a man cannot be accountable
for a woman he can’t lead….and a Christian man
does not want to be over anything he can’t be
accountable to God about.
The Boaz, David or Joseph kind of man is a great
servant leader like Jesus Christ…but he is a born
leader and he knows it
9. Many young married Christian women are
painting a fairytale picture of marriage to their
single ladies
Many young married women are doing a major
disservice to single women. These young married
women create a fairytale picture of weddings and
marriage to their single friends. They love being the
center of attention and talk up how dreamy it is.
Perfect Instagram photos, perfect wedding photos,
expensive glamorous weddings, perfect Facebook
updates, photos and so on. Is there anything wrong
with that? No. It would just help a lot more when
married young women keep it real with their sisters
and tell them that the wedding day does not make
the marriage. It would help a whole lot more if they
sit their single friends down and talk about the
importance of a praying wife, a strong wife, a
submissive wife (to a Godly man) and how contrary
to popular opinion, the faith of a wife is both a
weapon for the family and its defense as well.
Instead, they get their single sisters all dreamy eyed
and waiting for a perfect story and a perfect man…
waiting for KalEl from planet Krypton with the big “S”
on his chest and a red cape, when they should look at
Clark Kent from Planet earth.
The Boaz, David or Joseph kind of man knows that
the wedding is not the marriage and doesn’t want to
create an impression he can’t maintain.
Sisters, God has a beautiful story of love written for
you. Am I saying settle? No way. But I am saying look
at these men through the eyes of Christ. Get your
pride out of the way. Don’t define your marital
success by how well your wedding day or “lifestyle”
stacks up with other women. Most importantly, start
seeing yourself as a true (not just perceived) gift
from God that can bring God’s favor and blessings
into your husband’s life because that’s what you are.
So work to BECOME that and I truly truly wish you a
love-filled, Christ centered happy marriage when it
does happen.
You can add me up on whatsapp @ 09095009511 or email me @ martinenui461@gmail.com if you find it difficult to understand what I ve said or still having more issue contact me,and again invite me on your wedding day coze I know it coming soon.have a good nyt.

Like this
I also had to quote you too

Are you a counsellor?

Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by sdavirus: 8:34am On Oct 04, 2016

seizethaBae:
if u guys no d level of my seriousness walah iu wont take it as a joke. shams040 im not here to look for patner/husband but to find experience pple to diagnose what could be wrong with me or if it happens to most ladies before they settle down. Experience pple pls respond plsssss

The truth of the matter is there are more women than me, statistically.... and then finding a quality guy is another ball game all together!
Nowadays, men are looking for a woman to foot their bills.... I get shocked when I hear some guys talk.

You aren't alone, I have so many amazing female friends that are single....and a sister about your age as well.

But when I was kinda searching? Just kinda o, I met like 6, 7 ladies. Easier for guys.

Just be patient, keep an open mind and keep praying.

Nothing is wrong with you. Sometimes, you can even meet him through unconventional means, so be open to every possibility

P.S: I'm with someone I met as a friend on NL, and for one, not being a believer in such. It's amazing.

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Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by eodavids(m): 8:42am On Oct 04, 2016

seizethaBae:
I don't even know where to start or how to explain what my problem is, hopefully i get lucky for the 'problem' to be 'diagnosed'. I'm a 27yrs old lady, finished university very very early and i've been extremely lucky with almost everything in life, but to get a suitor and settle down na palava. Friends/family members keep saying I'm too choosy or not serious.

Honestly, I AM NOT choosy. When the one thing i fast/pray for is for God to link me with the bone of my bone very soon, I even gave up my travelling plans in order to increase my chances of finding a future patner (i know you can meet ur patner anywhere, but na just to shut up people wey don tink say i no dey serious), a close friend even suggested i pend my 'work-from-home business', look for job so i can be leaving the house, and i got lucky within a month or two of dusting my CV i got a fantastic high paid job with no connection (honestly i've always been so lucky when i ask God for anything but i have no idea why he is delaying this). I just dont know how to explain it, the ones i like doesnt like me and the ones i dont have single feelings for will do anything to wife me. I'm not desperate or something, i just want to reach out if I'm the only one having this problem.

There was even a time i made up my mind to accept an ex proposal even tho i have no single feeling for him, i kept hoping/fasting/praying for a miracle to happen so i can at least like him (even if its 20%) bcus hes just too PERFECT, but it didn't just happen. My type of man doesnt need to be extremely rich, tall, handsome like most ladies dream man. He should just be neat, God fearing and have something upstairs biko (i love intelligent guys). Back to the main reason why i created this post; Married women/mature lady out there, has this ever happen to you? I really envy people that love their partners and they are loved back equally. Married women, please, I'm waiting to hear from you.

And for most people that will think I'm looking for a rich guy, believe me i once met a guy that was willing to sponsor my M.Sc in UK if i can be his Mrs, but i will never engage in anything that will bring curse on my head. So my problem is not even money. I'm so sick and tired

There are certain things you will need to put in place and guard them, that way you will not fail to find a good suitor in months. Are ready for the lectures?

Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by Nobody: 8:46am On Oct 04, 2016

My dear! i am a guy of 28, working and am facing exactly what u are facing. I find it difficult to hook up with the girl of my choice!! dey will like me soo much but wont want to go further, i believe God will deliver me from this. My prayer for you is that you should not relent when it comes to prayers. May God grant you your heart desires.

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Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by oluxy(m): 8:47am On Oct 04, 2016

To take a step when God have not is dangerous...
Still be prayerful n trust in God as u said, he always gives u anything u asked for. Also be praying for ur man u HV not meet DT God shud preserved him for u n he should make a mistake. God should strengthen him until u guys meet.

Everyone has it own cross. I also have mine n asking God day n night for mine rib n flesh of flesh. Mum n everyone insisting I bring a lady home but no one. Pressure everywhere, etc.

What I fear most in my life is God, to do anything outside his will.

So be strong n patience, ur man is already nigh u.

Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by martinlooter(m): 8:48am On Oct 04, 2016

poik:
[quote author=seizet

I don't have any feelings for him because HE IS JUST TOO PERFECT..
When will we understand women?

I think you misunderstood what she meant by the perfect statement, she probably meant the guy wanted every thing to be perfectly done, too rigid, hence, leaving no space for some mistakes and indiscretions. I don't think she meant that the man was too good for her. The man was probably a "Mr. Perfect" and no woman likes that kind of man.
BTW op, what you're experiencing is normal and I like the fact that you're raising the alarm at this age, cos after now, when you're probably in your 30s, that's when the real desperation sets in, for me, I don't think you should relax and have fun, cos soon aunty bells will start ringing, rather, pray about it, ponder over it, work towards it and try your best to be open to guys who are corky and intelligent.
I wish you all the best.

Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by oluxy(m): 8:49am On Oct 04, 2016

Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by gidjah(m): 9:00am On Oct 04, 2016

iRepNaija1:
So you're basically telling the OP that she should get with someone she has no feelings for, on the hope that she will develop feelings later for that person, and if not, she'll be 40 and unmarried and depressed, abi?

I don't understand why women are always the ones who need to lower their standards, be less choosy, always accommodate. God forbid you tell a man he should marry a woman he has no feelings for and let the love grow.

OP, I know marriage is important to you but you need to relax. What do you do socially? Do you go to events where men and women can mingle?

I hope you do not have a problem with comprehension sir, please read my post and get the dig, she seem to be quite choosy by my view, abi you no comprehend her post?, she is still young and needed to be cautioned, you can't find a perfect partner any where,she seem to be a perfectionism and searching for a man without flaws...na so e dey take start oooo!!a beg read to comprehend next time and stop been picky!

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Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by Nobody: 9:08am On Oct 04, 2016

I can perfectly understand your thoughts, and it's not bad to think that way. You have a description of the "man" you wish to marry,please don't settle for less. Don't push it,don't be so hard on yourself, just do the things you love, make yourself happy not minding people's thoughts. You will marry your "dream man" and if you need a word, ask yourself "after marriage, what next"? My sister nothing gives a continous "wow" feeling. What goes around your world doesn't happen outside,it happens within. Your happiness is what counts,that's your world. Force nothing and believe in what you believe.

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Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by Blackfire(m): 9:14am On Oct 04, 2016

@op this is the problem.... many years ago, a guy fell in crazy love with u... but u treated the guy's love like leprosy.. it was so painful the guy cried every night..but here is the problem the guy is a possessed unknowingly... they are the kind of people u should not hurt, something about them will always fight back... the guy mistakenly cursed u.

anyway the guy is married now, he didn't even know the effect of what he said that night in tears.

anyway there is or are solutions, if u will swallow your pride... yes you are proud..

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Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by OldEagle: 9:21am On Oct 04, 2016

Black fire Abeg send me ur watsap this matter u dey talk e dey like say I dun enter I dey suspect one Babe fit dun do d same o huh

Blackfire:
@op this is the problem.... many years ago, a guy fell in crazy love with u... but u treated the guy's love like leprosy.. it was so painful the guy cried every night..but here is the problem the guy is a possessed unknowingly... they are the kind of people u should not hurt, something about them will always fight back... the guy mistakenly cursed u.

anyway the guy is married now, he didn't even know the effect of what he said that night in tears.

anyway there is or are solutions, if u will swallow your pride... yes you are proud..

Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by Ejimaa: 9:26am On Oct 04, 2016

sisisioge:
Oh baby...I should buy you a drink! Whew! My story isn't far from yours o.

But relax...it will happen.

For someone not an eye sore, my case is freaking funny. The A loves B but B loves C story is just too real. And they say I'm doing shakara, some even say I'm an intentional bachelorette ( I no fit spell am jare) wetin we go do nau? Finding the One is an herculean task!

Here is my advice: try to live more and not think too hard about it. Treat yourself to some feel good therapy dear...expensive hair(no apologies, trust me it feels goooood to wear them) , nice perfumes (my sis just got the bottle of Marc Jacob that looks like a purse...been stealing it), lovely shoes and put on some lipstick! Ogbeni, live a little by enjoying your spinsterhood while it last. You will soon be responsible for plenty people

By the way, I no be your mate for age o...my mama dey presently confused about my status sef. My bestie is married to a guy she met within a year! They met here on NL o( they just saw each other and knew straight up) I never fail to point out their luck to them. No be say guys aren't coming, we just no dey jive ni. A particular Nairalander has turned it to fight for me after I told him straight up its a nono for me after an exchange of about three emails. Wetin person go do nau...we owe ourselves the responsibility of finding the One lest we create dysfunctional homes. I miss the companionship, I miss the sense of being a team mate, I seriously can't wait to procreate, I envy my friends with those wonderful kids mehn...but I want a man who would light me up like a bulb. waoh my case is not far from yours sis,my 2 close are married with kids and I visit them,u can imagine that! I believe someday,our testimony will flag off,,God over all

You will find... Just relax.

Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by max1234: 9:30am On Oct 04, 2016

seizethaBae:
if u guys no d level of my seriousness walah iu wont take it as a joke. shams040 im not here to look for patner/husband but to find experience pple to diagnose what could be wrong with me or if it happens to most ladies before they settle down. Experience pple pls respond plsssss

I must appreciate you for being bold and brave, you are indirectly help other women, I appreciate your courage. This is very sensitive and serious, I will tell you something, a girl in my church has a guy she respects so much but ignores and most times disrespect every other guy, the guy she likes and respect came to me and said that he is not interested cos the girl is pretending. Please look inward, have ridiculed any person? Ask yourself some serious and important questions, God will surely answer your prayers Amen.

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Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by nkemdi89(f): 9:30am On Oct 04, 2016

amunkita:
Marrying a police lady
The man needs gut...

Who is police lady?.

Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by eghexs76: 9:35am On Oct 04, 2016

Send me a mail with your phone number.....eghexs76@yahoo.com

Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by olisa32(m): 9:37am On Oct 04, 2016

My dear feeling will not come over night,there must be something u wil like in every person that come ur way,I.g the way he/ she talk or the way he/she dress or walk.I mean there must be something start from there feeling wil come God wil see u through

Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by Flawlessangel(m): 9:39am On Oct 04, 2016

seizethaBae:
if u guys no d level of my seriousness walah iu wont take it as a joke. shams040 im not here to look for patner/husband but to find experience pple to diagnose what could be wrong with me or if it happens to most ladies before they settle down. Experience pple pls respond plsssss

if u dey complain, what will linda ikeji do? She's got all the wealth in the world but no husbad and she's in her mid 30's

Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by PierreDeFermat(m): 9:41am On Oct 04, 2016

seizethaBae:
I don't even know where to start or how to explain what my problem is, hopefully i get lucky for the 'problem' to be 'diagnosed'. I'm a 27yrs old lady, finished university very very early and i've been extremely lucky with almost everything in life, but to get a suitor and settle down na palava. Friends/family members keep saying I'm too choosy or not serious.

Honestly, I AM NOT choosy. When the one thing i fast/pray for is for God to link me with the bone of my bone very soon, I even gave up my travelling plans in order to increase my chances of finding a future patner (i know you can meet ur patner anywhere, but na just to shut up people wey don tink say i no dey serious), a close friend even suggested i pend my 'work-from-home business', look for job so i can be leaving the house, and i got lucky within a month or two of dusting my CV i got a fantastic high paid job with no connection (honestly i've always been so lucky when i ask God for anything but i have no idea why he is delaying this). I just dont know how to explain it, the ones i like doesnt like me and the ones i dont have single feelings for will do anything to wife me. I'm not desperate or something, i just want to reach out if I'm the only one having this problem.

There was even a time i made up my mind to accept an ex proposal even tho i have no single feeling for him, i kept hoping/fasting/praying for a miracle to happen so i can at least like him (even if its 20%) bcus hes just too PERFECT, but it didn't just happen. My type of man doesnt need to be extremely rich, tall, handsome like most ladies dream man. He should just be neat, God fearing and have something upstairs biko (i love intelligent guys). Back to the main reason why i created this post; Married women/mature lady out there, has this ever happen to you? I really envy people that love their partners and they are loved back equally. Married women, please, I'm waiting to hear from you.

And for most people that will think I'm looking for a rich guy, believe me i once met a guy that was willing to sponsor my M.Sc in UK if i can be his Mrs, but i will never engage in anything that will bring curse on my head. So my problem is not even money. I'm so sick and tired

don't worry honey. You're still young at 27,don't let anybody pressurize you into marrying someone you have no feelings for. I see you getting married soon. And don't forget a lot of people get married at 22 and still haven't had a child till date and husband's family are on her neck. Just be patient,the right man of your choice will find you and come to you

Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by lanreni: 9:47am On Oct 04, 2016

seizethaBae:
I don't even know where to start or how to explain what my problem is, hopefully i get lucky for the 'problem' to be 'diagnosed'. I'm a 27yrs old lady, finished university very very early and i've been extremely lucky with almost everything in life, but to get a suitor and settle down na palava. Friends/family members keep saying I'm too choosy or not serious.

Honestly, I AM NOT choosy. When the one thing i fast/pray for is for God to link me with the bone of my bone very soon, I even gave up my travelling plans in order to increase my chances of finding a future patner (i know you can meet ur patner anywhere, but na just to shut up people wey don tink say i no dey serious), a close friend even suggested i pend my 'work-from-home business', look for job so i can be leaving the house, and i got lucky within a month or two of dusting my CV i got a fantastic high paid job with no connection (honestly i've always been so lucky when i ask God for anything but i have no idea why he is delaying this). I just dont know how to explain it, the ones i like doesnt like me and the ones i dont have single feelings for will do anything to wife me. I'm not desperate or something, i just want to reach out if I'm the only one having this problem.

There was even a time i made up my mind to accept an ex proposal even tho i have no single feeling for him, i kept hoping/fasting/praying for a miracle to happen so i can at least like him (even if its 20%) bcus hes just too PERFECT, but it didn't just happen. My type of man doesnt need to be extremely rich, tall, handsome like most ladies dream man. He should just be neat, God fearing and have something upstairs biko (i love intelligent guys). Back to the main reason why i created this post; Married women/mature lady out there, has this ever happen to you? I really envy people that love their partners and they are loved back equally. Married women, please, I'm waiting to hear from you.

And for most people that will think I'm looking for a rich guy, believe me i once met a guy that was willing to sponsor my M.Sc in UK if i can be his Mrs, but i will never engage in anything that will bring curse on my head. So my problem is not even money. I'm so sick and tired

you are very very normal. you have a charming and magnetic personality with a good sense of fashion and humour. what again is a guy like me...sorry..like them looking for?
i believe you should stop being desperate. i have neverseen any good decision taken in desperationj that turns out right. i am interested you know, but i don't want someone that would jump at me without looking properly. hope you get my point.
God who blessed you everyother way knows you need a good husband. He put d desire in you, not to make you desperate, but to trust in Him. When worried, pray about it and get peace about it.
you are very secretive, but coming to a public forum to express ur mind shows you can overcome that. the right guys may just be around you.just make sure you don't unnecessarily flaunt your achievements or possessions and soon, he will come knocking! cheers.

Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by Flawlessangel(m): 9:50am On Oct 04, 2016

gidjah:
You will some day get married bae,you just need to get a lil bit more less strict and reduce your yard lines drawn.i wanna believe fine men come close,but your feelings ain't there,would you want the kind of person you will have feelings for or vice versa?,
Iife is not most times how we want it to get played,love grows with time too, the person you tend not to have feelings for today,might b d one your feelings gets strongest for with time ,that's how love grows .if it grows with time, it will stay permanent,you will have to let your love grow with some nice guy out there,watch it ,tend it,water it and watch it grow to stay forever.you are pretty young,that's why you are still feeling this way,but mind you ,age is never on your side,you grow old daily,watch it,I pray it does get better with you.gat an older sis who was just
LIke you,she started like you,finished her school very young ,na so we talk to her,she go say,'this one ,I don't have feelings for,''that one he is not minding me'..bla bla bla..to make the short story long,my older sis works with the accountant general of the federation as the head,she is well over fourty today but guys have stopped coming!,she is still there with all the comforts she has,was with 'aunty'few days ago, age no be here o, she told me she gets depressed dail over how she has been,and how she has treated guys,..with all the cars and affluence,na only married guys dey show for her side!.her pastor even asked her to keep her cars at home and start trekking may be boys will show up,...for were !!??

can i talk to her and invite her for a programme?

Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by fxskye: 10:06am On Oct 04, 2016

Chubhie:
You place premium on intelligence.Has it occurred to you that your ideal husband could be too busy locked away with passion in putting his intelligence to work?

Paths MUST be crossed either through angelic orchestration or self-help.

Dont appear desperate cos an intelligent dude can spot such from one mile radius.

Look for locations or places you feel your ideal intelligent dudes congregate and adapt to such environments.

Iron sharpens iron.you MUST first become that which you desperately seek.

It must be a give and take situation with that which you seek or you end up bored and miserable with them.

Can you be comfortable with a Seun sitting in front of his computer all day and coding in alien languages without having his bath?

You talk of an ex being all perfect yet you can't love him? You must understand that love is a fleeting sensation and barely enough to see you through marriage.

If that your ex ticks all the other boxes why not work on yourself and reconsider him?

You can not have everything on a plater of gold else that's rigging from your maker.

Perhaps,your maker is looking up to you to make this one decision.Such a wise God!

Well Said.....Thank you

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Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by Flawlessangel(m): 10:11am On Oct 04, 2016

sexymoma:
Op i must confess as a lady it possible for you not to get married to the person you love
buh the person who loves you....
let me tell you the truth here... person wey we dey always run after nor dey run after us ooo ooo...
leave that lil space for love to exist in your heart..
it happened to me too... i was busy running after lies, nd my boo been begging me for almost a year, i nor gree.

so you later accepted because the grass wasnt greener on the other side like you thought.... right?

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Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by masterp24: 10:14am On Oct 04, 2016

God's time is d BEST yes we no and every body knows that!
Now d question are:
have u prepared and position urself waiting for God's time?
are ur incentives sensitive enough to hear when He speaks?
Pls take this from me it is 0.001% possible to get ALL dat one wish and want in a partner...
u can Neva c d right partner till u come out from ur dreams and face reality that is to say that no man is perfect and ur wish might not be God's wish for ur life...
consider ur want in a partner and pick d closest to u want and like and make d necessary adjustment....my lovely advice for u as a guy that I am.. pick someone dat love u so much than u do and stop waiting and wishing...time waits no man!

Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by Flawlessangel(m): 10:18am On Oct 04, 2016

sisisioge:
Oh baby...I should buy you a drink! Whew! My story isn't far from yours o.

But relax...it will happen.

For someone not an eye sore, my case is freaking funny. The A loves B but B loves C story is just too real. And they say I'm doing shakara, some even say I'm an intentional bachelorette ( I no fit spell am jare) wetin we go do nau? Finding the One is an herculean task!

Here is my advice: try to live more and not think too hard about it. Treat yourself to some feel good therapy dear...expensive hair(no apologies, trust me it feels goooood to wear them) , nice perfumes (my sis just got the bottle of Marc Jacob that looks like a purse...been stealing it), lovely shoes and put on some lipstick! Ogbeni, live a little by enjoying your spinsterhood while it last. You will soon be responsible for plenty people

By the way, I no be your mate for age o...my mama dey presently confused about my status sef. My bestie is married to a guy she met within a year! They met here on NL o( they just saw each other and knew straight up) I never fail to point out their luck to them. No be say guys aren't coming, we just no dey jive ni. A particular Nairalander has turned it to fight for me after I told him straight up its a nono for me after an exchange of about three emails. Wetin person go do nau...we owe ourselves the responsibility of finding the One lest we create dysfunctional homes. I miss the companionship, I miss the sense of being a team mate, I seriously can't wait to procreate, I envy my friends with those wonderful kids mehn...but I want a man who would light me up like a bulb.

You will find... Just relax.

wow babe!!! you seem fun to be with. So are u currently not dating for real?

Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by Analee(f): 10:18am On Oct 04, 2016

seizethaBae:
I don't even know where to start or how to explain what my problem is, hopefully i get lucky for the 'problem' to be 'diagnosed'. I'm a 27yrs old lady, finished university very very early and i've been extremely lucky with almost everything in life, but to get a suitor and settle down na palava. Friends/family members keep saying I'm too choosy or not serious.

Honestly, I AM NOT choosy. When the one thing i fast/pray for is for God to link me with the bone of my bone very soon, I even gave up my travelling plans in order to increase my chances of finding a future patner (i know you can meet ur patner anywhere, but na just to shut up people wey don tink say i no dey serious), a close friend even suggested i pend my 'work-from-home business', look for job so i can be leaving the house, and i got lucky within a month or two of dusting my CV i got a fantastic high paid job with no connection (honestly i've always been so lucky when i ask God for anything but i have no idea why he is delaying this). I just dont know how to explain it, the ones i like doesnt like me and the ones i dont have single feelings for will do anything to wife me. I'm not desperate or something, i just want to reach out if I'm the only one having this problem.

There was even a time i made up my mind to accept an ex proposal even tho i have no single feeling for him, i kept hoping/fasting/praying for a miracle to happen so i can at least like him (even if its 20%) bcus hes just too PERFECT, but it didn't just happen. My type of man doesnt need to be extremely rich, tall, handsome like most ladies dream man. He should just be neat, God fearing and have something upstairs biko (i love intelligent guys). Back to the main reason why i created this post; Married women/mature lady out there, has this ever happen to you? I really envy people that love their partners and they are loved back equally. Married women, please, I'm waiting to hear from you.

And for most people that will think I'm looking for a rich guy, believe me i once met a guy that was willing to sponsor my M.Sc in UK if i can be his Mrs, but i will never engage in anything that will bring curse on my head. So my problem is not even money. I'm so sick and tired

enof of d complains, plss js com to OPM n pick assigmnt u get married wif speed.woks lik magic

Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by olarent: 10:31am On Oct 04, 2016

People have said it all,God time is the best wat u just need to do is to b humble and live a simple life if u have a car don't go out with it always join a public bus, make a friend and don't take dem to ur house ave seen a case like dat immediately d young man see d worth of d lady he ran away dat dis we b d one dictating for him.and pray

Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by Nobody: 10:33am On Oct 04, 2016

seizethaBae:
if u guys no d level of my seriousness walah iu wont take it as a joke. shams040 im not here to look for patner/husband but to find experience pple to diagnose what could be wrong with me or if it happens to most ladies before they settle down. Experience pple pls respond plsssss

Analee:
enof of d complains, plss js com to OPM n pick assigmnt u get married wif speed.woks lik magic

Flawlessangel:
wow babe!!! you seem fun to be with. So are u currently not dating for real?

Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by sisisioge: 10:34am On Oct 04, 2016

Flawlessangel:
wow babe!!! you seem fun to be with. So are u currently not dating for real?

I have actually just signed up in a monastery tongue

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