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seizethaBae:
you are the right guy for d job. *fistbump*

humilitypays:
‎I know my comment may come late, but let me say this for the single ladies that may read it.


The number 1 mistake‎ ladies make while searching, waiting and screening potential suitors is:

1. Ladies mostly think about: Me, I, Myself...without considering the other party they want to meet.

How do I mean? 

You are a lady, u want a tall, dark, neat, intelligent, handsome man earning good income‎, but then, u fail to ask yourself: do I meet the standard this type of man I want to settle with wants in a lady? Do I have the qualities this my dream man want in a lady he would want to commit to and settle with

Some ladies aren't that physically beautiful and attractive, yet they want a hot looking guy that also has money, how come It may happen to a very few lucky ladies by luck and destiny, but it's very rare!‎

Some ladies are so damn broke, no job, no career, no business, no handwork, no nothing and they don't look exceedingly beautiful (not the beauty is in the eyes of the beholder type of beauty o), and they want a tall, dark/fair, handsome guy with good income source, how come

Many ladies feel they are smart, intelligent, classy, but to their dream man (the type of man they desire), they are dull, unintelligent, tacky and not up to his standard.

Ladies forget easily that men also have standard o (very high standard o).
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This is where compromise comes into play....marriage isn't all about emotional love, butterfly love, tikini love....love fades away...Angelina Jolie was madly in love with  ‎Brad Pitt, but today they are about divorcing and no longer in love...Kim K was madly in love with Ray J that she gave him her virginity, but today, Kim K hates Ray J with passion and now loves Kanye West she never gave a chance. Tiwa Savage was once in love with Tee Billz, but today, the love has turn sour! 


So as a lady, while u are busy listing the qualities u want in your dream man, please also bring out a check list to mark the qualities u have that will make u that your dream man's dream woman!

You may have average hips/as$/bo0bs/no-flat-tummy, etc and your dream man wants a lady with big hips/as$/b0obs/flat tummy/tiny voice, etc. What then happens? There will be conflict of interest and unfortunately, the man makes the final decision when it comes to deciding who to marry, sadly.‎

The more refined a man is, the higher his taste of women; this is one of the reasons men cheat even after marrying hot women....our taste in women changes as we become more financially, politically and academically exposed! So there's high possibility that your dream man may not find u attractive and good enough for himself, sadly.‎
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If u want to be happy in marriage and in life generally, learn to love those who love you and stop fantasizing about those who don't want u!

When it comes to choosing a life partner, God and nature gave men that sole right to decide...so it's not your fault....it is only a man that can decide who to marry and when to marry.

You may think u are very beautiful and hot (most women think so due to several irrelevant complements they receive from both unserious, promiscuous and serious guys), but to those kind of guys u fancy and desire, u are below their standard in terms of physical beauty, character, intelligence, academics, smartness, home-keeping, humor, etc....but u won't know because u feel since u have a good job, u are good to go.

Note: on a normal day, all things being equal, financial status of a lady is never on the list of the 5 major qualities men look out for in a would-be wife.
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Some of the qualities men consider first are:‎

1. Physical beauty/attractiveness
2. Character/morality/respect/humility
3. Home-keeping ability
4. Ability to communicate effectively
5. Friendliness

And maybe
6. Financial status/type of job/career
7. Family background
8. Etc

So check yourself very well; do u really have the qualities of a woman that your dream guy wants in a woman

Everything is not about religion and prayer, God has given us wisdom to make choices and take responsibility of our lives, so use that wisdom!

Love is never enough reason to marry any man or woman! Marriage takes more than emotional love that fades away with time and familiarity!

Marriage need stable income, mutual respect, understanding, sacrifice, patience, humility and tolerance to stand than it needs emotional love! 

Wake up before it's too late!! May you find whatever you seek!‎

JeffreyJamez:
You better Uncrash it o!

Toks2008:
I would have sent you a mail but since you don't like perfect guys make I kuku Sidon dey look...

Because me I be near perfect o..TDH with correct brain and I still get money to pay my bills.

But the wahala be say I'm too principled and I am a no nonsense man...

KingTom:
I can't

JeffreyJamez:
If You let this Bae pass ehn!!......Walai.....me and you go fight!!

masseratti:
am baffled that you guys don't know that there are males forming female on Nairaland, the op in my opinion, I might be wrong tho is one of them, am not saying the story is not common, but If you read the words very well? you will figure the op out.

KingTom:
Kilon so? see mumu o who you dey follow talk? Who you wan fight? You wan die Abi?

Funjosh:
Abeg tell me more about the home biz you are doing I mean the working at home biz you are doing before you get your well paid job biko

seizethaBae:
oya pm me,will tell u all 'bout it.

seizethaBae:
oya pm me,will tell u all 'bout it.

missjo:
I mentioned Lahaye's work in that comment.i believe this book is authored by him, right?

OldEagle:
Black fire Abeg send me ur watsap this matter u dey talk e dey like say I dun enter I dey suspect one Babe fit dun do d same o

Funjosh:
Done reply ya mail.

Sirbun:
Write me immediately or whatsapp me.. 004915145930419 or 004915217118711,, I don't care where you came from just reach me

Dyt:
I am also here ooo

Funjosh:
No worry make i see how e dey go first

sisisioge:
thanks Angel.

Dyt:
See me following you like fly

seizethaBae:
@dyt nd funjosh, basically d biz was/is all abt producing handmade accessories/wears frm home nd sell online(jumia,konga etc) .

seizethaBae:
what is dis one saying?,i opend nairaland acct ealier dis year as part of my strategy to create dis post by sept?. God! some level of common sense tho.

missjo:
You have an ex who you say is PERFECT,still you could not love him.

My g.

A lot of ople. is t of m

All ?

Onegai:
There's a difference between dating a guy you're not sure of and dating a guy you are wondering what you're doing there. I have been on dates where I wondered what made my legs come to this place and i have been on dates where I was hoping the guy would like me but inside me I was baffled why I was setting my standards so low.

See, if you think this longings you have and loneliness you feel are bad, try getting married to someone whom in a year's time you think to yourself "maybe I should have waited a bit longer". That is the truth of so many marriages, each spouse thinking "maybe, just maybe if I had stayed a bit longer, the next guy/girl was The One". So don't rush. The only people who can live a happy life in a loveless marriage are those whom are able to effectively distance themselves from any sort of emotion: happiness doesn't carry them away and neither does Sorrow. They are pragmatic to the core. That's less than 15% of the world's population. You're not one of them, because this is getting to you. You get?

If the pressure gets to you, get off social media. Why bombard yourself with a million pics of your classmates posting pictures of smiling babies and happy husbands and blissful peace? You're not jealous, just being sensible: no need to punish yourself looking at cake when you're dieting. You get?

What are your interests? Go find them. It is better to find someone who likes you the way he met you. So if you like going out, it's better to meet a guy in a club than meet him in church and pretend to be what he wants for a ring and dying inwardly. Go pursue your interests.

When you meet a guy, take a look at your list. Find the one thing that you really need, not what you desperately want. The first thing in my list was a Strong Sense of Humour and Wit. But every single witty guy i met didn't want me. Guys are weird, they want girls they can impress, not girls that can match up to their skills. That Intelligence factor you crave, well those guys will friendzone you so quickly for that chick who thinks a Sidney Sheldon novel is deep intellectual thinking and puts up motivational pictures which she barely understands. That's why every wise woman will tell you to "laugh at his jokes and don't crack yours ". You get?

Live and love your life. Don't wait around for Prince Charming, go out there, attend the ball like Cinderella did. He may be waiting there. Enjoy this minute because you are never getting it back. You get?

You're gonna be fine. Fist bump!

seizethaBae:
oya pm me,will tell u all 'bout it.

seizethaBae:
@dyt nd funjosh, basically d biz was/is all abt producing handmade accessories/wears frm home nd sell online(jumia,konga etc) .

masseratti:
really? u opened an account early in the year to post in October? wow, i clap for u, God bless your ministry

seizethaBae:
THANK YOU.THANK YOU.THANK YOU SO MUCH

seizethaBae:
it was a rhetorical question.

seizethaBae:
where have u been bro? I AM SO PRINTING THIS PIECE. you have no idea how much dis comment will change my perception. you have no idea. Thanks so much. this is exactly what i need.