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This is definitely not a strange question because I know alot of us here already know that's a fact. Most young Nigerian ladies hardly want to give a chance to some young men who have big dreams and goals in life just because maybe as at the time he meets her, things haven't started working so good for him. They tend to just believe that comfort is found more in a guy that is already made and established.

Yes I know there are quite a number of decent guys who are established and still focused on keeping decent relationships, what I don't understand is why ladies don't see it as appropriate to make or establish a guy if she has the capability.

I somehow believe this is one of the major things that have brought about the ever increasing cases of divorce we tend to see these days.

Please I will love to here your own opinion about this topic.

I don't need a girl to help me to success
Lazy man

ucsparks:
I don't need a girl to help me to success
Lazy man

Please read and prove that you can understand what you read before commenting. I didn't ask you if you needed a lady to help you to success. These type of replies are what make me remember those days in school when you think one student is so sharp but they fail exams and you start wondering why until the teacher says some students like answering questions out of point... Lol

No vex sha, just kidding but you and I know what am talking about ok

If any woman assist you in anyway to get to the top, she would want a refund one day trust me.

NP: Who no like better thing.

Laveda:
NP: Who no like better thing.

my sister in you on Dp?

From my own view even though they're divergent view to this. Growing up l've been able to understand some things about ladies of our present day. The fact is many ladies are greedy and as such want a ready-made guy inorder to cater for their unending needs.(even though they're still few ladies that are opposed to it).
Another reason could be that many guys tend to lurch the babes that stood by them when they were struggling financially. This happens almost everyday in the society.
Sometimes it could be family, peer and group pressure. The family or people in her life would frown at their date if he doesn't meet with their expected standard. This to an extent amount to how some ladies treat and respond to a potential admirer.
There is much to it tho...my few cent

Status must change naaa.....

Cholls:
my sister in you on Dp?

Yes... Why?

Laveda:
Yes... Why?

my sister cuz the person there.....her name is finer than that.

Miztadynamix:
This is definitely not a strange question because I know alot of us here already know that's a fact. Most young Nigerian ladies hardly want to give a chance to some young men who have big dreams and goals in life just because maybe as at the time he meets her, things haven't started working so good for him. They tend to just believe that comfort is found more in a guy that is already made and established.

Yes I know there are quite a number of decent guys who are established and still focused on keeping decent relationships, what I don't understand is why ladies don't see it as appropriate to make or establish a guy if she has the capability.

I somehow believe this is one of the major things that have brought about the ever increasing cases of divorce we tend to see these days.

Please I will love to here your own opinion about this topic.

You are right.
But don't ever have that erroneous belief that a lady would establish you.
Even those who have want people who would give them more.
Just focus on your work and pray for Gods blessings.

The elders dream dreams, while the youths see visions. Well, OP, if you're a dreamer as a youth, then blame yourself not the ladies that dump you and your ilks.

op. change is constant naw but you guys that keeps saying you need a working class no be the same thing

Miztadynamix:
This is definitely not a strange question because I know alot of us here already know that's a fact. Most young Nigerian ladies hardly want to give a chance to some young men who have big dreams and goals in life just because maybe as at the time he meets her, things haven't started working so good for him. They tend to just believe that comfort is found more in a guy that is already made and established.

Yes I know there are quite a number of decent guys who are established and still focused on keeping decent relationships, what I don't understand is why ladies don't see it as appropriate to make or establish a guy if she has the capability.

I somehow believe this is one of the major things that have brought about the ever increasing cases of divorce we tend to see these days.

Please I will love to here your own opinion about this topic.

my dear,ur opinion is well understood by me but have u heard of a lady struggled with a guy and at the end,he gets the one he think is not too expose? Have u heard where a family vowed that they don't care how much she has spent on you,you cannot settle with her? You've been dating this guy who has no job,whos squatting with his friend,who can't even eat twice in a day and u decided to swallow it and help him out,God so kind,he status changes and his family now remember,hes there son and they can die if he ends up with you and he willing obey and ask u how much do u want,lets him settle you or establish you in any country of your choice....thunder fire devil,..... let me not bore you with my own experience shaaa but the thing is,many have been heartbroken that they vowed never to have such relationship.