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Toks2008:
Disclaimer: Polygamy is not for everyone considering the stress and complexity not forgetting the economy tipsy turvy.This article is aimed at beaming an eagle's eyes on polygamy at large in relation to the idiosyncrasies of people about it and not intended to encourage anyone to adopt it neither does it represent the lifestyle of the writer.

I implore every reader of this article to analyze each question objectively without any form of bias so that we can have a no holds Barr approach to this age long phenomenon which has caused many marital anomalies all around the world...So lets take a candid look .

1.Could Polygamy be the answer to the prayers of a sect of single ladies.
It is believed that there are some set of ladies who have a better chance with married men?

The widowed who is in her late 30s or 40s with children,the divorced woman who is in her late 30s with children and the never married lady in her late 30s or 40s. While some ladies in this categories are fortunate to marry a fresh guy polygamy seem to be a better choice for most of the ladies rather than single never married guys. The fact is that even you reading this who believes that your marriage is very ok might just fall into the first 2 categories tomorrow..this is not a curse but a fact of life and until then,this point may not make sense to you...Pray you don't experience it.

2.Why do most women prefer polygamy in disguised form.
Have you ever wondered why many ladies prefer their husbands to keep mistresses but frown against same marrying another wife? yes i have asked many ladies that given only two options which would they prefer and they gladly chose the former and i begin to ask myself what difference does it make? Some ladies will tell you to keep your wife while they enjoy the benefits of being a mistress to you and i tend to ask who is fooling who?

3.Could Polygamy relieve stress of a married woman?.
This is one truth many of us can't shy away from. There are some marriages where the lady can't just keep up with sexual demands from the man and this has caused serious issues in the marriage and it usually gets to the point where the wife gives the man the go ahead to get another wife because she can not come and go and die .

4.Is it possible that Polygamy might encourage financial independence in many ladies?.
This point needs to be understood especially in this part of the world.

Do you know that most ladies do not mind if a rich hubby marries another woman? As long as he is doing his duty and she is still getting the goodies she may find it hard to leave the marriage but this is not the case for a struggling guy who will likely be reminded that she is only patching up with him.

Maybe polygamy will make the woman understand that her hubby no matter how poor he may be, might see another financially stable lady who does not need the man's money but only wants a man in her life and this will make every lady sit tight and become financially independent to avoid being a liability to the man...because MEN HATE LIABILITIES.

5.Why are Women willing participants in polygamous act?.
Can a man commit adultery with himself or become a polygamous man without the participation of a lady? In-fact many single ladies have eyes only for married men and i kept wondering why these same ladies will clamor for monogamy when the same ladies will gladly date a married man and even desire to be his Mrs....So why the hypocrisy of monogamy when it has become a norm for single ladies to snatch or share a married man.

6.Could Polygamy reduce the number of unmarried ladies.
I don't need to explain this much. It is no longer news that many ladies in their ripe ages are still single and searching but unfortunately the young men who should marry them are either still struggling or confused about what they want yet there are many married men matured enough to adequately marry two or more wives. It is believed that if Polygamy is embraced, many single ladies will find succor in the hands of some responsible married men who are capable enough to meet the emotional and maybe the financial needs of two or more ladies.

7.Could Polygamy bring about more responsive and responsible young unmarried men.
Many young guys at marriageable ages are just too nonchalant to settle down with a lady and most of them will use the economy as an excuse but if Polygamy is embraced by us,the beautiful young ladies will be taken as wives by already married men thereby forcing the single guys to brace up to settle down fast with the woman in their lives to avoid such being married off to a married man..

8.Can Polygamy reduce wife battering and mortality.
Believe it or not, for every 10 cases of a wife getting beaten or killed by her hubby,you can be certain that 8 can be linked to adultery. The question is;why should a lady go through pains because she found out that her hubby is having an extra marital affair? is her life not more important than that? however,maybe if polygamy is accepted all over the world, no woman will bother her head about a man being faithful to her which will ultimately bring about serenity into the life of the woman....This may sound ridiculous but think about it.

9.Why is polygamy acceptable in certain situations.
We have another hypocrisy when it comes to polygamy. In some cases where a lady can not bear a child for her hubby due to serious complications,she tends to give a go ahead for the man to take another wife and in the case where a lady knows she just can't be available due to many factors she gives a nod to a second wife but in a normal situation she will threaten fire should the man think about such move.

10.Can Polygamy reduce the incidence of lesbianism and zoophilism.
Ask any lesbian or zoophile you see why she is one and you can be sure to hear her tell you about a failed marriage or a failed relationship as a result of a cheating hubby or fiance. Most lesbians are in the act due to heart breaks from men but if every lady has it in their mind that polygamy is a norm, they will be ready to be in any affair with the mindset that the man may likely have another lady which will create an emotional readiness for such happening.

11.Does the Quran and bible outrightly condemn polygamy.
While our married Muslim sisters are at peace with their husbands irrespective of the number of women he marries, our Christian sisters are always quick to use the bible to counter the act of polygamy but while the bible does not clearly give a nod to polygamy,some people believed that there was no where in the bible that polygamy was condemned in clear terms and while many Bible scholars use human philosophy as regards the fact that GOD created only one woman for Adam,there is a documented evidence that those strongly loved by GOD were polygamists.

12.Is there any difference between Philandering and polygamy.
While many people believe that these two are different,i believe they are the same because in most cases, a mistress bears the man's children and gets all the attention the wife gets if not more so why fool yourself thinking you are married to one lady when in-fact your mistress is as good as your wife even if they don't stay under same roof.


13.Could the acceptance of polygamy reduce the rate of divorce cases.
Maybe If the world embraces polygamy, there will be a drastic reduction of women filing for divorce due to sexual unfaithfulness from the man as they will know before going into marriage with the man that there is a bigger possibility of him getting married to two or more wives.


This is not a one sided article but a vivid view on polygamy from a critical angle and i would be glad to read a counter view to this.

Hope this makes sense.

oglalasioux:
I don't like number 9 as a reason for polygamy. There are lots of children in orphanages waiting for adoption. Must we continue to pump up world population?

Toks2008:
I guess you have not seen cases where a man has a crazy libido that the wife virtually begged him to take another wife?

Toks2008:
Honestly it seems many people just write stuffs based on what they think and not what happens in reality. This is why my write ups will always look foolish in the eyes of many people because they always look at things in the light of what is good and not from the realistic point of view..

AZeD1:
Ever heard of the word nymphomaniac?

You are the one writing what you think.
Research has shown there are more sexually unsatisfied women than men, yet you think polygamy would help that? Were is the logic in that?

In reality, women cheat more than men, women have multiple sexual partners so why not polyandry?

Syogbe:
This is a well researched article though as good as it is, the bible does not encourage polygamy especially New testament. If you desire the post of bishop or deacon you have to be husband of only one wife. The question is what of if you are not ready to be a deacon? You will equally be told that we are all deacon as a Christian. From exigency point of view most of the reasons for polygamy are plausible but then it should be a circumstantial issue. One should not go out there with the intention of marrying more than one wife but if your situation permits well it is left for you.

oglalasioux:
I don't like number 9 as a reason for polygamy. There are lots of children in orphanages waiting for adoption. Must we continue to pump up world population?

Shymm3xx:
Lol. This is why this forum is the toilet of the internet. Especially with the type of topics jobless kids who neither have full understanding/experience of the subject-matter and English words they dabble into and use.

I believe in ya mind you think you wrote something cerebral, after writing over 500 words of pure tosh, with no correlation whatsoever with the topic. This is basically an IQ reducing ramblings of an illiterate kid.

1). I believe you don't know the meaning of "idiosyncrasy" cos after perusing through the junk illiterate-write, I didn't see any idiosyncrasy there.

2). You can't really argue for "hypocrisy" when the points you argued against (albeit all over the place in your argument) are simplistic things you made up in ya head and not what the real proponents of polygamy use as posturing for engaging in the lifestyle.

Honestly, you and the idiotic mod who pushed this trash to the FP deserve to be thoroughly flogged for this rubbish. A lot of you don't even read what you write, especially the utter ridiculousness in ya thought process, yet you always think you've the answers to everything.

ItsQuinn:
I later agreed with the op .....and how's that working out for China? they are still very much overpopulated if you ask me

mnairaland:
Believe me you can still express your disgust for the write up without insult.

Hardly have I ever seen you express your disagreement with people's opinion without insults.

Many years ago, I learnt that the right thing to do is to disprove,counter,contradict or attack people's opinion not their person.

Much as I was enjoyed your argument about the Anioma issue,I found the many insults with which you introduce them so off-putting.

bagger293:
Oga u try no be small..I no knw as I go take reward u sef,

Toks2008:
Thanks dude...just thinking outside the box.

mnairaland:
I think Shymm3xx made a bit of sense.
I think the word double-standard would be more appropriate than hypocrisy in the context that you used it.

Toks2008:
Disclaimer: Polygamy is not for everyone considering the stress and complexity not forgetting the economy tipsy turvy.This article is aimed at beaming an eagle's eyes on polygamy at large in relation to the idiosyncrasies of people about it and not intended to encourage anyone to adopt it neither does it represent the lifestyle of the writer.

I implore every reader of this article to analyze each question objectively without any form of bias so that we can have a no holds Barr approach to this age long phenomenon which has caused many marital anomalies all around the world...So lets take a candid look .

1.Could Polygamy be the answer to the prayers of a sect of single ladies.
It is believed that there are some set of ladies who have a better chance with married men?

The widowed who is in her late 30s or 40s with children,the divorced woman who is in her late 30s with children and the never married lady in her late 30s or 40s. While some ladies in this categories are fortunate to marry a fresh guy polygamy seem to be a better choice for most of the ladies rather than single never married guys. The fact is that even you reading this who believes that your marriage is very ok might just fall into the first 2 categories tomorrow..this is not a curse but a fact of life and until then,this point may not make sense to you...Pray you don't experience it.
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They should marry Dia fellow widower or divorcees

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2.Why do most women prefer polygamy in disguised form.
Have you ever wondered why many ladies prefer their husbands to keep mistresses but frown against same marrying another wife? yes i have asked many ladies that given only two options which would they prefer and they gladly chose the former and i begin to ask myself what difference does it make? Some ladies will tell you to keep your wife while they enjoy the benefits of being a mistress to you and i tend to ask who is fooling who?
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They're women
They don't have choice


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3.Could Polygamy relieve stress of a married woman?.
This is one truth many of us can't shy away from. There are some marriages where the lady can't just keep up with sexual demands from the man and this has caused serious issues in the marriage and it usually gets to the point where the wife gives the man the go ahead to get another wife because she can not come and go and die .
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They should choose sexually compatible husband next time


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4.Is it possible that Polygamy might encourage financial independence in many ladies?.
This point needs to be understood especially in this part of the world.

Do you know that most ladies do not mind if a rich hubby marries another woman? As long as he is doing his duty and she is still getting the goodies she may find it hard to leave the marriage but this is not the case for a struggling guy who will likely be reminded that she is only patching up with him.

Maybe polygamy will make the woman understand that her hubby no matter how poor he may be, might see another financially stable lady who does not need the man's money but only wants a man in her life and this will make every lady sit tight and become financially independent to avoid being a liability to the man...because MEN HATE LIABILITIES.
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More choosing with sense

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5.Why are Women willing participants in polygamous act?.
Can a man commit adultery with himself or become a polygamous man without the participation of a lady? In-fact many single ladies have eyes only for married men and i kept wondering why these same ladies will clamor for monogamy when the same ladies will gladly date a married man and even desire to be his Mrs....So why the hypocrisy of monogamy when it has become a norm for single ladies to snatch or share a married man.
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Not much choice

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6.Could Polygamy reduce the number of unmarried ladies.
I don't need to explain this much. It is no longer news that many ladies in their ripe ages are still single and searching but unfortunately the young men who should marry them are either still struggling or confused about what they want yet there are many married men matured enough to adequately marry two or more wives. It is believed that if Polygamy is embraced, many single ladies will find succor in the hands of some responsible married men who are capable enough to meet the emotional and maybe the financial needs of two or more ladies.
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Only common sense can reduce unmarried ladies

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7.Could Polygamy bring about more responsive and responsible young unmarried men.
Many young guys at marriageable ages are just too nonchalant to settle down with a lady and most of them will use the economy as an excuse but if Polygamy is embraced by us,the beautiful young ladies will be taken as wives by already married men thereby forcing the single guys to brace up to settle down fast with the woman in their lives to avoid such being married off to a married man.. /q]

Guys will always have choice of woman to marry.
They should do quick and marry Dia sugar daddies so we know who is serious

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8.Can Polygamy reduce wife battering and mortality.
Believe it or not, for every 10 cases of a wife getting beaten or killed by her hubby,you can be certain that 8 can be linked to adultery. The question is;why should a lady go through pains because she found out that her hubby is having an extra marital affair? is her life not more important than that? however,maybe if polygamy is accepted all over the world, no woman will bother her head about a man being faithful to her which will ultimately bring about serenity into the life of the woman....This may sound ridiculous but think about it.
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More choosing husband with common sense


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9.Why is polygamy acceptable in certain situations.
We have another hypocrisy when it comes to polygamy. In some cases where a lady can not bear a child for her hubby due to serious complications,she tends to give a go ahead for the man to take another wife and in the case where a lady knows she just can't be available due to many factors she gives a nod to a second wife but in a normal situation she will threaten fire should the man think about such move.
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You can See the lack of common sense among single ladies I'm talking about


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10.Can Polygamy reduce the incidence of lesbianism and zoophilism.
Ask any lesbian or zoophile you see why she is one and you can be sure to hear her tell you about a failed marriage or a failed relationship as a result of a cheating hubby or fiance. Most lesbians are in the act due to heart breaks from men but if every lady has it in their mind that polygamy is a norm, they will be ready to be in any affair with the mindset that the man may likely have another lady which will create an emotional readiness for such happening.
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More lack of common sense

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11.Does the Quran and bible outrightly condemn polygamy.
While our married Muslim sisters are at peace with their husbands irrespective of the number of women he marries, our Christian sisters are always quick to use the bible to counter the act of polygamy but while the bible does not clearly give a nod to polygamy,some people believed that there was no where in the bible that polygamy was condemned in clear terms and while many Bible scholars use human philosophy as regards the fact that GOD created only one woman for Adam,there is a documented evidence that those strongly loved by GOD were polygamists.
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No
Only Paul making shitt up

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12.Is there any difference between Philandering and polygamy.
While many people believe that these two are different,i believe they are the same because in most cases, a mistress bears the man's children and gets all the attention the wife gets if not more so why fool yourself thinking you are married to one lady when in-fact your mistress is as good as your wife even if they don't stay under same roof.
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Yep
The woman's acquiescence

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13.Could the acceptance of polygamy reduce the rate of divorce cases.
Maybe If the world embraces polygamy, there will be a drastic reduction of women filing for divorce due to sexual unfaithfulness from the man as they will know before going into marriage with the man that there is a bigger possibility of him getting married to two or more wives.
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Nothing but common sense can reduce divorce Rate


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This is not a one sided article but a vivid view on polygamy from a critical angle and i would be glad to read a counter view to this.

Hope this makes sense.

Heavance:
Some of us understand these points....
It has been proven that polygamy doesn't give that inner peace of mind, one can deny it, but after ones death, the children see one another as enemies in Nigeria.
Different prayers held against the other