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dcc by GreenPlumes(op): 11:18pm On Dec 24, 2016*

Rrewssx

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Re: dcc by yomi007k(m): 11:31pm On Dec 24, 2016

Wow. Im touched.

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Re: dcc by Nobody: 12:06am On Dec 25, 2016*

.is there a written agreement your fiancée whom you are yet to marry won't abandon you after her graduation, how about her parents ? and who have been paying her school fees

lots of men had made similar mistake you are about to make with the little money you earn from Okada riding

if she were your wife you would be assured you are doing it for the betterment of your family, if you had lots of cash to spare it wouldn't been a bad idea to assist your fiancée but with your present condition that is not a smart move to avoid stories that touchs the heart

lastly, don't work so hard to please a lady that you are not married to order wise she might use you to cross the bridge and promptly abandon you for another guy with a better job

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Re: dcc by GreenPlumes(op): 6:56am On Dec 25, 2016*

Nbvc

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Re: dcc by Nutase: 7:20am On Dec 25, 2016

I love your spirit. I pray God will open a better door for you IJN.

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Re: dcc by GreenPlumes(op): 8:00am On Dec 25, 2016

Nutase:
I love your spirit. I pray God will open a better door for you IJN.

Amen

Re: dcc by GreenPlumes(op): 8:06am On Dec 25, 2016*

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Re: dcc by Nobody: 12:50pm On Dec 25, 2016*

GreenPlumes:
I know she may choose to leave me tomorrow. I'm not doing this because of the relationship. I just want her to graduate, even if this is out of charity.

Her parents saw her through OND before things became worse for them. She begged me to sponsor HND and I agreed. If I refuse to finish what I started, that will be a waste of effort.

it seems you are comfortable with your present job, I will rather make my self comfortable with the little I earn before anybody because when you grow people will want to be with you but when you fall you fall alone

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Re: dcc by GreenBobo: 1:10pm On Dec 25, 2016*

Your story isn't....convincing... but let me not go into that...
Back to your challenges!

Challenge #1
I assume you've found a way around it. Taking a cue from this your post

With this method, I have mastered 70% of the names of all locations in Oyo and environs

Challenge #2
If shame would put just a plate of food on your table then I would have advised you to continue on that path. As far as am concerned, there's a significant dignity in labour! People might look down on you...But it doesn't matter not until you begin to look down on yourself!

I held a very important position in my last job, and frequently run into businessmen and businesswomen I had dealings with in the past, while dropping off clients.

You could try leveraging on this and see if anyone amongst them could find or NETWORK you to a better job!

Challenge #3
Every job has It's own characteristics and hazards. Learn How to circumvent these hazards and you're good to go. Worry less about How much you're earning at this point. I want to believe that you have an aim and some objectives as regards your riding job, and I know you don't plan on riding that bike for five years!

Challenge #4
As the number of times you're apprehended increases, so should your bag of experience increase. With conscious efforts you should be able to navigate without much interference from them!

Challenge #5
You won't continue treatment for your hearing problem But would rather finance your lady's HND program? Yes you started it and not that you've refused to continue or finish what you started, But the prevailing circumstances wont permit you! I strongly advise that she sources for funds elsewhere! Health is wealth! What if your hearing problem degenerates?

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Re: dcc by Nobody: 1:13pm On Dec 25, 2016

Nutase:
I love your spirit. I pray God will open a better door for you IJN.

As if you would you say same if reverse is the case

One of my uncle took responsibility of his fiancée school fees and his sisters came down pulling the roof until the elders intervened on the matter

Re: dcc by GreenPlumes(op): 2:13pm On Dec 25, 2016

carmag:
it seems you are comfortable with your present job, I will rather make my self comfortable with the little I earn before anybody because when you grow people will want to be with you but when you fall you fall alone

I'm not comfortable with my present job. This is a time almost everyone is complaining of being jobless. If I say finding another job is what I want, people will say I'm not only jobless one on Nairaland.

The only easily obtainable help you can get in a time like this is trying to sell your possession at their real value.

Re: dcc by Diplomaticbeing(m): 2:16pm On Dec 25, 2016*

Except if you once had a stable life and was when you started shouldering your supposed fiance's responsibilities, then your action(s) is justifiable and you deserve a kudos - citing your submission of doing it altruistically. However, if it's in similar condition you're now (citing your submission also) you were when you started it, then you are just a self-deceitful and hypocritical person. It also means that your benevolence towards her is opportunistically induced - in that case don't start crucifying her when she decides to dump you after her graduation. Realistic and honest people never displeased themselves to please others - yet that doesn't stop them from being philanthropic and selfless.

Meanwhile, about your job, you need to understand that one of the important attitudes to adopt when venturing into any line of business is eschewing oversensitivty. You need to embrace it to remain at peace with yourself. People - petty people - must always be disdainful to anyone they superficially assumed to be better off than.

On the other hand, the road to success - meaningful success - is never straight. Always remember that if wishes were horses beggars would ride.

On the flip side, quit self-pity.

I wish you and everyone on this thread a blessed holiday season. May this Christmas bring to you all comfort, joy, peace and happily to last throughout the coming year.

Re: dcc by GreenPlumes(op): 2:25pm On Dec 25, 2016*

Diplomaticbeing:
Except if you once had a stable life, thus was when you started shouldering your supposed fiance's responsibilities, then your action(s) is justifiable and you deserve a kudos - citing your submission of doing it altruistically. However, if it's in similar condition you're now (citing your submission also) you were when you started it, then you are just a self-deceitful and hypocritical person.

I was

Re: dcc by Nobody: 7:15pm On Dec 25, 2016

GreenPlumes:
I'm not comfortable with my present job. This is a time almost everyone is complaining of being jobless. If I say finding another job is what I want, people will say I'm not only jobless one on Nairaland.

The only easily obtainable help you can get in a time like this is trying to sell your possession at their real value.

let me help you with this useful tips as someone who have experienced this kind of scenario

in as much as you agreed to shoulder her responsibilities as your fiancée, take two or three people from your family including a friend to her family and initiate a formal introduction as your wife to be which might not cause you more than 5k, with this little action her intention and her real self towards you will manifest

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Re: dcc by GreenPlumes(op): 7:27pm On Dec 25, 2016*

Bbv

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Re: dcc by GreenBobo: 9:42pm On Dec 25, 2016

Yes, you have a reputation to protect, But your integrity is paramount! Will you steal if you can't find a legitimate way around this predicament?

At the end of the day, It's just a function of priority!
And do not forget that you're at a cross road! Your decisions today would affect your future positively or otherwise! Btw, do not forget the GOD factor!

Re: dcc by Berbierklaus(f): 7:03am On Dec 26, 2016

If I refuse to see my fiancée through college, my reputation will be dampened the more. Our two families already knew about what I started for her. I don't even pray she marries me. Just that she's like a family friend.

With all due respect sir,you need to stop and think this part of your story.
Haba

I'm sure the both families were aware of your financial standing at when you started and they are also aware that things are no longer the same for you,unless they are just trying to ruin you, telling them you are incapable of paying the next round of fees will not damage your overhyped reputation,

I assume you don't really have enough knowledge of how human beings are,I pray you don't learn the hard way, Do you know that If in the course of this job you have a fatal accident,(God forbid) this family members can abandon you? the said lady will still go to school?
There are times you need to think of yourself only in order to achieve certain dreams, you can later include other people o but for now you need to find your feet again.

My advice is to sit those involved down,explain your predicament, you will see how quick they will find a way around it,and you will be shocked.
I'm a lady and I don't advice any man to train any lady in school, it rarely ends well.

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Re: dcc by GreenPlumes(op): 9:03am On Dec 26, 2016

Berbierklaus:
With all due respect sir,you need to stop and think this part of your story.
Haba

I'm sure the both families were aware of your financial standing at when you started and they are also aware that things are no longer the same for you,unless they are just trying to ruin you, telling them you are incapable of paying the next round of fees will not damage your overhyped reputation,

I assume you don't really have enough knowledge of how human beings are,I pray you don't learn the hard way, Do you know that If in the course of this job you have a fatal accident,(God forbid) this family members can abandon you? the said lady will still go to school?
There are times you need to think of yourself only in order to achieve certain dreams, you can later include other people o but for now you need to find your feet again.

My advice is to sit those involved down,explain your predicament, you will see how quick they will find a way around it,and you will be shocked.
I'm a lady and I don't advice any man to train any lady in school, it rarely ends well.

Hmmmm, you typed this with all seriousness. I'm like this because charity of a thing is my first nature; I can't help it. If I tell u how I have lived my life, u won't hesitate to say I'm a first class maga. I fall in love with anyone, ugly or pretty.

I will manage to pay tuition fee alone, and ask her to find a way around others like rent and feeding.

Concerning the risk involved in my latest hustling, believe me that God in involved.

Re: dcc by Nobody: 11:32am On Dec 26, 2016

Berbierklaus:
With all due respect sir,you need to stop and think this part of your story.
Haba

I'm sure the both families were aware of your financial standing at when you started and they are also aware that things are no longer the same for you,unless they are just trying to ruin you, telling them you are incapable of paying the next round of fees will not damage your overhyped reputation,

I assume you don't really have enough knowledge of how human beings are,I pray you don't learn the hard way, Do you know that If in the course of this job you have a fatal accident,(God forbid) this family members can abandon you? the said lady will still go to school?
There are times you need to think of yourself only in order to achieve certain dreams, you can later include other people o but for now you need to find your feet again.

My advice is to sit those involved down,explain your predicament, you will see how quick they will find a way around it,and you will be shocked.
I'm a lady and I don't advice any man to train any lady in school, it rarely ends well.

Am telling you. His fiance and her family is simply using him to cross bridge. If only he can see the heart of man. Even with her OND, she can use it to get a part time job or learn a skill like sewing or fixing of Hair which she can use in school. She has a great opportunity making more money amongst students, than tasking u from her school fees. So many girls in school ,use such skills to train themselves than tasking their poor parents at home

Op, u are being used, u don't know yet. U are still in dreamland.
Even when u decide your mind that if she doesnt marry u at the end, it's all good 2 u.
My dear, that's pure lie.
We are all humans. Let's not deceive ourselves.

Be wise and be strong financially before thinking of a woman.

Am just saying my own oooo

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