I met this guy some time last 2 years, we fell in love with each other and we started dating.

We were both jobless before we met but that does not reduce our respect for each other. We were both happy with each other and cherish and appreciate every moment together.

A month after my birthday last year, he proposed to me and engaged me with a ring. After that we started planning for our marriage which is suppose to take place in March this year.

But all the feelings lost its taste when he got a job. All of a sudden he passworded his phone and out of curiosity and personal findings, I discovered he is having an affair with his Colleague. The pictures of the lady and their chat on his phone was the reason he passworded his phone.

I confronted him and it resulted into quarrel.

My heart breaking now is, he has moved to live with his Colleague which he is having an affair with and call off the relationship between us.

All our wedding plans has gone down the drain.

What advice do u think u guys can give me.

U guys met when yu were jobless,he has a job now,wat bt you?still jobless?

dubylhover:
U guys met when yu were jobless,he has a job now,wat bt you?still jobless?

No, I got a job now. As a matter of fact, i have a higher paying job than him.

vic224real:
I met this guy some time last 2 years, we fell in love with each other and we started dating.

We were both jobless before we met but that does not reduce our respect for each other. We were both happy with each other and cherish and appreciate every moment together.

A month after my birthday last year, he proposed to me and engaged me with a ring. After that we started planning for our marriage which is suppose to take place in March this year.

But all the feelings lost its taste when he got a job. All of a sudden he passworded his phone and out of curiosity and personal findings, I discovered he is having an affair with his Colleague. The pictures of the lady and their chat on his phone was the reason he passworded his phone.

I confronted him and it resulted into quarrel.

My heart breaking now is, he has moved to live with his Colleague which he is having an affair with and call off the relationship between us.

All our wedding plans has gone down the drain.

What advice do u think u guys can give me.

U move on since he already left u ...

But always look at the bright side, it's good that u know he was cheating before the wedding happens.. U saved ur azz actually from all these embarrassments..

Go out and find a job too..

vic224real:


No, I got a job now. As a matter of fact, i have a higher paying job than him.

tor,u have to move on,yu cnt force him.mayb d collegue thingy is giving him a sense of adventure.mayb also sexually more freaky

Op am sorry but your story doesn't add up if u have a job and a higher paid one at that. Except if uv become controlling and unbearable with the new job u have, and he's no longer comfortable with your behaviour towards him?
Before I can understand what went wrong.

Or assume u don't have a job? Till now? One can still understand why he has gone to live with his colleague instead of living with u and making the marriage plans a reality.
The last end of your story doesn't add up.

TrapQueen77:



U move on since he already left u ...

But always look at the bright side, it's good that u know he was cheating before the wedding happens.. U saved ur azz actually from all these embarrassments..

Go out and find a job too..

I got a job already. My major concern now is d time he allowed me to waste waiting for him.

Amelian:
Op am sorry but your story doesn't add up if u have a job and a higher paid one at that. Except if uv become controlling and unbearable with the new job u have, and he's no longer comfortable with your behaviour towards him?
Before I can understand what went wrong.

Or assume u don't have a job? Till now? One can still understand why he has gone to live with his colleague instead of living with u and making the marriage plans a reality.
The last end of your story doesn't add up.

No dear. I am sorry if my last end story doesn't add up with d beginning. He got a job before me but his behavior towards me changed 2 weeks after. Although I also got a job a month later and I never disrespected him just because I earns more than he does.

First, he said he passworded his phone because of his Colleagues pics that he saved on his phone. According to him, his so called Colleague's phone was bad and she asked him to help her save d pics before she can take d phone for repair. Wouldn't it be better if he let me know instead of pass wording his phone? Then secondly, he said he's no longer having peace with me again just because I normally complain about him being on phone chatting with this particular lady till midnight.

TrapQueen77:



U move on since he already left u ...

But always look at the bright side, it's good that u know he was cheating before the wedding happens.. U saved ur azz actually from all these embarrassments..

Go out and find a job too..

I should move on

vic224real:


I got a job already. My major concern now is d time he allowed me to waste waiting for him.

Then juz go on with ur life.. Nothing u can do abt ur ex bobo. He made his choice, so are u.

Thank God and move on.

He's quite heartless to say the least,i would have told you to forget about him outrightly,the whole thing isnt worth it!

TrapQueen77:



Then juz go on with ur life.. Nothing u can do abt ur ex bobo. He made his choice, so are u.

Alright friend, thank u. God will reward me for my good deeds.

sauceTDA:
Thank God and move on.

Alright, thanks for your contribution. I will move on, but my God knows everything .

[quote author=olac21 post=52843014]He's quite heartless to say the least,i would have told you to forget about him outrightly,the whole thing isnt worth it![/quote

My dear, if I start telling u what I have done for this guy u will get out of your way to ask if I am being cursed. I did everything I could within my power to make sure we survive when we were both jobless. He stayed with me in my own apartment for 8 months, I sold some of my properties to make sure we dont go hungry. But what did I get in return?

Can I ever trust any man again?

olac21:
He's quite heartless to say the least,i would have told you to forget about him outrightly,the whole thing isnt worth it!

My dear, if I start telling u what I have done for this guy you will be forced to go out of your way and ask if I am being cursed. I did everything within my power to make sure we survive when we were both jobless.
I sold some of my properties to make sure we don't go hungry.

Can I ever trust any man again?

Get a job and password your phone

Time wasting?


Dammnit...



U ladies should understand that not all relationships lead to marriage... The reason why I won't blame the guy is because there is smth which you are doing that doesn't convince him to marry you! Marriage is a life time commitment so everyone deserves the right to choose whoever that deems fit .. To me I will say he found someone that understands him completely,.

vic224real:


My dear, if I start telling u what I have done for this guy you will be forced to go out of your way and ask if I am being cursed. I did everything within my power to make sure we survive when we were both jobless.
I sold some of my properties to make sure we don't go hungry.

Can I ever trust any man again?

abegi..... What about your character... You think by him marrying you will serve as a thank you for the things you did for him? There is something missing somewhere... Why not ask him why he chose that girl over you and demand that he gives you a honest straightforward answer

Hmmmn I just read this, it's interesting.

9 Things You Should Never Do In A Relationship

http://www.healthimi.tk/2015/07/9-things-you-should-never-do-in.html

vic224real:


My dear, if I start telling u what I have done for this guy you will be forced to go out of your way and ask if I am being cursed. I did everything within my power to make sure we survive when we were both jobless.
I sold some of my properties to make sure we don't go hungry.

Can I ever trust any man again?

Lmao! We all said the same thing when we got jilted for someone else.

talk2alabama:
Time wasting?


Dammnit...



U ladies should understand that not all relationships lead to marriage... The reason why I won't blame the guy is because there is smth which you are doing that doesn't convince him to marry you! Marriage is a life time commitment so everyone deserves the right to choose whoever that deems fit .. To me I will say he found someone that understands him completely,.

Permit me to say you did not get me right. Did u just say there is something am doing that he doesn't like? For how many years? And he didn't see that thing when he was jobless? And his eyes suddenly opened to that thing immediately he got a job? Do u really go 2ru my story at all?

Well, that's your own view and opinion. Thank you.

talk2alabama:
abegi..... What about your character... You think by him marrying you will serve as a thank you for the things you did for him? There is something missing somewhere... Why not ask him why he chose that girl over you and demand that he gives you a honest straightforward answer

OK

vic224real:


Permit me to say you did not get me right. Did u just say there is something am doing that he doesn't like? For how many years? And he didn't see that thing when he was jobless? And his eyes suddenly opened to that thing immediately he got a job? Do u really go 2ru my story at all?

Well, that's your own view and opinion. Thank you.

of course I went through your post and I spotted smth bad about you... Pride... Until you admit the fact that there is something more to it, you won't be able to get your acts right. .



Now you asked if you will be able to trust another man again, well, the choice is yours.


You think material things buy loyalty?

talk2alabama:
of course I went through your post and I spotted smth bad about you... Pride... Until you admit the fact that there is something more to it, you won't be able to get your acts right. .



Now you asked if you will be able to trust another man again, well, the choice is yours.


You think material things buy loyalty?

My dear, there is nothing like pride in me. I just said some few things about us.

vic224real:


My dear, there is nothing like pride in me. I just said some few things about us.

just do as I have said...ask him why he left

vic224real:


My dear, if I start telling u what I have done for this guy you will be forced to go out of your way and ask if I am being cursed. I did everything within my power to make sure we survive when we were both jobless.
I sold some of my properties to make sure we don't go hungry.

Can I ever trust any man again?

yels. U can trust me. I cn b trusted

talk2alabama:
just do as I have said...ask him why he left

OK, thanks for your time. I really appreciate ur contributions!

[quote author=wHyyyyyyyyyY post=52844593] yels. U can trust me. I cn b trusted [/quote

U sure? Are u not a man?

I can boro u bullet

vic224real:

am a man but diff from dis unfaithful men

He has become one of ur ex, so move on