What Do U Think I Should Do To Him? - Romance (2)

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Re: What Do U Think I Should Do To Him? by NiRfreak(m): 8:23am On Jan 16, 2017

Amelian:
Op am sorry but your story doesn't add up if u have a job and a higher paid one at that. Except if uv become controlling and unbearable with the new job u have, and he's no longer comfortable with your behaviour towards him?
Before I can understand what went wrong.

Or assume u don't have a job? Till now? One can still understand why he has gone to live with his colleague instead of living with u and making the marriage plans a reality.
The last end of your story doesn't add up.

Op look into this comment... there is sense in it....Ladies don't usually appraise their behaviour whenever there's a problem in a relationship. He must be avoiding probably because u are becoming difficult or u are not handling issues maturely...

Re: What Do U Think I Should Do To Him? by NiRfreak(m): 8:27am On Jan 16, 2017

vic224real:
No dear. I am sorry if my last end story doesn't add up with d beginning. He got a job before me but his behavior towards me changed 2 weeks after. Although I also got a job a month later and I never disrespected him just because I earns more than he does.

First, he said he passworded his phone because of his Colleagues pics that he saved on his phone. According to him, his so called Colleague's phone was bad and she asked him to help her save d pics before she can take d phone for repair. Wouldn't it be better if he let me know instead of pass wording his phone? Then secondly, he said he's no longer having peace with me again just because I normally complain about him being on phone chatting with this particular lady till midnight.

If this is the case, get busy with your phone too...password your own phone too even though u have nothing to hide... spend more time with friends instead of with him....and chat up interesting friends too....don't get too concerned abt his phone....at this point, u may want to give a chance to your admirers...hanging out with them on a date......Just try and be happy without him

Re: What Do U Think I Should Do To Him? by ayokellany: 8:33am On Jan 16, 2017

vic224real:
Permit me to say you did not get me right. Did u just say there is something am doing that he doesn't like? For how many years? And he didn't see that thing when he was jobless? And his eyes suddenly opened to that thing immediately he got a job? Do u really go 2ru my story at all?

Well, that's your own view and opinion. Thank you.

You are seeking advice but not willing to accept them. You need to accept the job could be the changing factor here, he could just be pretending to put up with your excesses waiting for an opportunity to break loose when he is more buoyant financially.

Re: What Do U Think I Should Do To Him? by vic224real(op): 8:41am On Jan 16, 2017

Oma307:
He has become one of ur ex, so move on

Hmmmm..., one of my ex. Tnx anyways.

Re: What Do U Think I Should Do To Him? by Azumoney44(f): 8:41am On Jan 16, 2017

[quote author=vic224real post=52843258][/quote]yes Trust Me Pm Me

Re: What Do U Think I Should Do To Him? by dayvie: 9:04am On Jan 16, 2017

olac21:
He's quite heartless to say the least,i would have told you to forget about him outrightly,the whole thing isnt worth it!

Thank you!! That's what I'm thinking about also.

Re: What Do U Think I Should Do To Him? by vic224real(op): 5:52pm On Jan 16, 2017

ayokellany:
You are seeking advice but not willing to accept them. You need to accept the job could be the changing factor here, he could just be pretending to put up with your excesses waiting for an opportunity to break loose when he is more buoyant financially.

Re: What Do U Think I Should Do To Him? by vic224real(op): 5:53pm On Jan 16, 2017

ayokellany:
You are seeking advice but not willing to accept them. You need to accept the job could be the changing factor here, he could just be pretending to put up with your excesses waiting for an opportunity to break loose when he is more buoyant financially.

OK, thank you.

Re: What Do U Think I Should Do To Him? by olac21(m): 7:00am On Jan 17, 2017

vic224real:
My dear, if I start telling u what I have done for this guy you will be forced to go out of your way and ask if I am being cursed. I did everything within my power to make sure we survive when we were both jobless.
I sold some of my properties to make sure we don't go hungry.Can I ever trust any man again?

Hmmm,pack yourself together maam and move on...but am not sure it will be easy to do that considering the sacrifices you made..may God comfort you.
Ps-hope you do not fall in the desperate age bracket as that is another problem..goodluck!

Re: What Do U Think I Should Do To Him? by raydatluvs(m): 9:33am On Jan 17, 2017

talk2alabama:
just do as I have said...ask him why he left

asking him this is very unnecessary and irrelevant, it puts the problem on the lady whereas the brother might just be the punk ass. Also I think the thing you saw and called pride is actually grief, it makes us recount unnecessary events that was prolly done selflessly.

So op, I think you are wallowing in the need for self pity, you want us to tell you how terrible the guy is. But you don't need all of that to grow. You need to begin a process of healing and it starts with accepting the worse has happened and forgiving the brother for his unfairness. You would be fine, believe me..
I hope you come out a better lady.

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Re: What Do U Think I Should Do To Him? by vic224real(op): 8:27pm On Jan 17, 2017

olac21:
Hmmm,pack yourself together maam and move on...but am not sure it will be easy to do that considering the sacrifices you made..may God comfort you.
Ps-hope you do not fall in the desperate age bracket as that is another problem..goodluck!

Thank you dear. I will do just exactly as u all will advice. I sincerely believe in u guys and that is the more reason why I trow out my burden to u guys.

Re: What Do U Think I Should Do To Him? by vic224real(op): 8:29pm On Jan 17, 2017

olac21:
Hmmm,pack yourself together maam and move on...but am not sure it will be easy to do that considering the sacrifices you made..may God comfort you.
Ps-hope you do not fall in the desperate age bracket as that is another problem..goodluck!

Thank you dear. I will do just exactly as u all will advice. I sincerely believe in u guys and that is the more reason why I trow out my burden to u guys.

olac21:
Hmmm,pack yourself together maam and move on...but am not sure it will be easy to do that considering the sacrifices you made..may God comfort you.
Ps-hope you do not fall in the desperate age bracket as that is another problem..goodluck!

Thank you dear. I will do just exactly as u all will advice. I sincerely believe in u guys and that is the more reason why I trow out my burden to u guys.

Re: What Do U Think I Should Do To Him? by vic224real(op): 8:35pm On Jan 17, 2017

TrapQueen77:
Then juz go on with ur life.. Nothing u can do abt ur ex bobo. He made his choice, so are u.

Thank you for the advice.

Re: What Do U Think I Should Do To Him? by vic224real(op): 8:36pm On Jan 17, 2017

[quote author=raydatluvs post=52876120]asking him this is very unnecessary and irrelevant, it puts the problem on the lady whereas the brother might just be the punk ass. Also I think the thing you saw and called pride is actually grief, it makes us recount unnecessary events that was prolly done selflessly.

So op, I think you are wallowing in the need for self pity, you want us to tell you how terrible the guy is. But you don't need all of that to grow. You need to begin a process of healing and it starts with accepting the worse has happened and forgiving the brother for his unfairness. You would be fine, believe me..
I hope you come out a better lady. [/quote

Thank you so much.

Re: What Do U Think I Should Do To Him? by vic224real(op): 8:37pm On Jan 17, 2017

olac21:
Hmmm,pack yourself together maam and move on...but am not sure it will be easy to do that considering the sacrifices you made..may God comfort you.
Ps-hope you do not fall in the desperate age bracket as that is another problem..goodluck!

Thanks, I will try.

Re: What Do U Think I Should Do To Him? by Apina(m): 10:28pm On Jan 17, 2017

vic224real:
I met this guy some time last 2 years, we fell in love with each other and we started dating.

We were both jobless before we met but that does not reduce our respect for each other. We were both happy with each other and cherish and appreciate every moment together.

A month after my birthday last year, he proposed to me and engaged me with a ring. After that we started planning for our marriage which is suppose to take place in March this year.

But all the feelings lost its taste when he got a job. All of a sudden he passworded his phone and out of curiosity and personal findings, I discovered he is having an affair with his Colleague. The pictures of the lady and their chat on his phone was the reason he passworded his phone.

I confronted him and it resulted into quarrel.

My heart breaking now is, he has moved to live with his Colleague which he is having an affair with and call off the relationship between us.

All our wedding plans has gone down the drain.

What advice do u think u guys can give me.

I see no reason why a man should consider his to be spouse as being overbearing just because she's concerned about his conduct with d opposite sex. He simply has no respect for you, it might not be easy to let go but as Maya Angelou puts it, love is many things, its VARIED. But one thing its not and can never be is UNSURE.

Re: What Do U Think I Should Do To Him? by vic224real(op): 2:36am On Jan 18, 2017

Apina:
I see no reason why a man should consider his to be spouse as being overbearing just because she's concerned about his conduct with d opposite sex. He simply has no respect for you, it might not be easy to let go but as Maya Angelou puts it, love is many things, its VARIED. But one thing its not and can never be is UNSURE.

Hmmmmmm..... Thank you so much. I sincerely accept your contribution.

Re: What Do U Think I Should Do To Him? by Nobody: 12:11pm On Jan 18, 2017

No guy will want to date a jobless lady or marry one so she has what you don't have....a job

Re: What Do U Think I Should Do To Him? by vic224real(op): 6:56pm On Jan 18, 2017

rittyray:
No guy will want to date a jobless lady or marry one so she has what you don't have....a job

Do u read my post at all? Who told u am jobless? Please next time always try nd go through every post before commenting, OK??

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Re: What Do U Think I Should Do To Him? by Nobody: 7:12pm On Jan 18, 2017

Some men are wicked o angry

Re: What Do U Think I Should Do To Him? by Nobody: 7:13pm On Jan 18, 2017

rittyray:
No guy will want to date a jobless lady or marry one so she has what you don't have....a job

Why can't people read? She said she got a job that pay higher than his own job.

Re: What Do U Think I Should Do To Him? by vic224real(op): 9:08pm On Jan 19, 2017

Catalin:
Why can't people read? She said she got a job that pay higher than his own job.

I tire oooo my friend. People will just be concluding unnecessarily.

Re: What Do U Think I Should Do To Him? by vic224real(op): 9:09pm On Jan 19, 2017

Catalin:
Some men are wicked o

God knows d best my friend.

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