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Re: I Want To Help My Boyfriend But Scared It Might Be Termed As Being Desperate by Nobody: 2:12pm On Feb 12, 2017
ToriBlue:
Women help alright but men end up leaving them for another lady, yes they do that often.
And there are no woman who do the same to men? Lets not be hyprocritical here look at a situation from all angles. Yes I know of guys Who leave the women who help them out because she never lets him forget. Every time they have an argument he is reminded of what she did for him. Whatever gratitude he has will fade and turn into resentment. There are men who have been disappointed bitterly by the women they helped.

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Re: I Want To Help My Boyfriend But Scared It Might Be Termed As Being Desperate by firstking01(m): 2:13pm On Feb 12, 2017
I think the brothers above has done justice to your question already, so, i dabbed out.

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Re: I Want To Help My Boyfriend But Scared It Might Be Termed As Being Desperate by esthertk: 2:33pm On Feb 12, 2017
thanks for the compliment
fergieboy:
You are a very good girl.. Most girls I know traveled out and dump their bfs
Re: I Want To Help My Boyfriend But Scared It Might Be Termed As Being Desperate by rukygold001(f): 2:38pm On Feb 12, 2017
honestly, dont give him a dime,you'll regret it .. tell him to ask his family for help,humans are unpredictable

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Re: I Want To Help My Boyfriend But Scared It Might Be Termed As Being Desperate by Laird(m): 4:45pm On Feb 12, 2017
Introduce him to an anonymous email link contact( you) who will borrow/ dash him the money for the purpose
Re: I Want To Help My Boyfriend But Scared It Might Be Termed As Being Desperate by mrjojo: 5:16pm On Feb 12, 2017
wow, am really surprised at the comment am seeing here shocked shocked Like what exactly is the big deal in helping someone you actually claimed you love for goodness sake? So it ok for guys to ditch out help without even thinking twice but when it is the other way around you ladies make an issue out of it.
I had same issue with my ex, see we are all human, sometimes we all need help. We were dating for over a yr plus, it was a serious one , Atleast so i thought, I can't even count times I helped her out even without asking, cos it actually not big deal, She was my gf, Well so it happens i needed help urgently and I knew she could or who else am I supposed to ask for help if not for my gf right? well she started seeking advice from friends and her sisters, and i got to know. Well told her to hold her money, and i got it somewhere else.

Well i think in this part if the world, Love is not Mutual, A lady will expect me to get gifts, "help" take her out etc,Which i will do without breaking a sweat, but when I actually needs help, she will start consulting her pastors.

hmmm. Guys learn for real, If a lady is holding you like a pinch of salt, abeg don't carry her like a bag of rice.

@op, Madam I think you should keep your money, since you are even here to ask in the first place.(i doubt if you really love him though) God will surely provide another source for him,

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Re: I Want To Help My Boyfriend But Scared It Might Be Termed As Being Desperate by bisoye11(m): 5:22pm On Feb 12, 2017
Is he in love with you as you are in love with him?
Has he asked for financial assistance from you?
If yes, then you can start thinking about helping him, if not stop bothering yourself he will not die.
Re: I Want To Help My Boyfriend But Scared It Might Be Termed As Being Desperate by derolemode(m): 5:43pm On Feb 12, 2017
esthertk:
I need the candid advise of the matured minds here. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 8 months when our relationship was 3 months I was able to get a German visa and moved to Germany,he lost his job 2 months ago, and we have been discussing on how he can get back on his feet, lots of interviews and no call back and with this harsh economy we consider it best he starts a business which he doesn't even have the capital ,I really wish I can support him but so scared it might be termed as using money to buy love and this might just make him stick to me for the wrong reasons or even later dump me... I am so confused
Sweetheart, if you want to help him do so discretely tell him you can help secure a loan even though the money is yours but he shouldn't know twas coming from you that would put him on his toes to bring out the best in him to succeed in the business.

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Re: I Want To Help My Boyfriend But Scared It Might Be Termed As Being Desperate by emekachimek: 7:02pm On Feb 12, 2017
My advice is this: If you are moved to assist him financially, do it out of love and care like you'd do for any person. He's not yet married to you so you are not bound by law to assist him. This is to avoid heart breaks/regrets if you guys didn't get to marry eventually (not my prayers though).
Saying you might be termed desperate doesn't hold water.
Re: I Want To Help My Boyfriend But Scared It Might Be Termed As Being Desperate by GAZZUZZ(m): 10:44pm On Feb 12, 2017
yomi007k:
undecided


Na wa oooo..




And we help our women without thinking twice or asking for people's opinion.



We learn daily.

I tell you

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Re: I Want To Help My Boyfriend But Scared It Might Be Termed As Being Desperate by masseratti: 10:44pm On Feb 12, 2017
Please dont give financial help any others yes
Re: I Want To Help My Boyfriend But Scared It Might Be Termed As Being Desperate by pocohantas(f): 10:46pm On Feb 12, 2017
yomi007k:
undecided


Na wa oooo..




And we help our women without thinking twice or asking for people's opinion.



We learn daily.
Guys ask!
Don't be a hypocrite. There are so many threads of guys asking if they should buy their girlfriends phone, help with her school fees on this same NL.
Some of you comment to gain cheap likes.

@OP, only give him out of your good heart.
See it as supporting a loved one, not because you want him to marry you.

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Re: I Want To Help My Boyfriend But Scared It Might Be Termed As Being Desperate by ipobarecriminals: 10:47pm On Feb 12, 2017
esthertk:
I need the candid advise of the matured minds here. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 8 months when our relationship was 3 months I was able to get a German visa and moved to Germany .

He lost his job 2 months ago, and we have been discussing on how he can get back on his feet, lots of interviews and no call back and with this harsh economy we consider it best he starts a business which he doesn't even have the capital.

I really wish I can support him but so scared it might be termed as using money to buy love and this might just make him stick to me for the wrong reasons or even later dump me... I am so confused
Not every mrn/women are UNGRATEFUL, USELESS. Pls,help him and if he use and dump u (God forbid),he'll reap what he sow cos GOD WILL NOT SLEEP
Re: I Want To Help My Boyfriend But Scared It Might Be Termed As Being Desperate by Makingmadmoney: 10:51pm On Feb 12, 2017
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Re: I Want To Help My Boyfriend But Scared It Might Be Termed As Being Desperate by Nobody: 10:51pm On Feb 12, 2017
Do NOT give money to someone that hasn't asked for it... as a guy I would not do it for a lady except I am married to her.

esthertk:
I need the candid advise of the matured minds here. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 8 months when our relationship was 3 months I was able to get a German visa and moved to Germany .

He lost his job 2 months ago, and we have been discussing on how he can get back on his feet, lots of interviews and no call back and with this harsh economy we consider it best he starts a business which he doesn't even have the capital.

I really wish I can support him but so scared it might be termed as using money to buy love and this might just make him stick to me for the wrong reasons or even later dump me... I am so confused

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Re: I Want To Help My Boyfriend But Scared It Might Be Termed As Being Desperate by pokipoki: 10:52pm On Feb 12, 2017
dingbang:
If he hasn't asked you for assistance yet, don't give him ..
Black race!!!
Re: I Want To Help My Boyfriend But Scared It Might Be Termed As Being Desperate by LoveJesus87(m): 10:52pm On Feb 12, 2017
dingbang:
If he hasn't asked you for assistance yet, don't give him ..
Simple
Re: I Want To Help My Boyfriend But Scared It Might Be Termed As Being Desperate by dingbang(m): 10:53pm On Feb 12, 2017
pokipoki:

Black race!!!
excuse me

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Re: I Want To Help My Boyfriend But Scared It Might Be Termed As Being Desperate by Respect11(m): 10:54pm On Feb 12, 2017
u said he is ur boyfriend. Y not help him now that u have something at hand. remember that he has been sorting ur bills when u have not moved to yanki o

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Re: I Want To Help My Boyfriend But Scared It Might Be Termed As Being Desperate by Antina(f): 10:56pm On Feb 12, 2017
esthertk:
I need the candid advise of the matured minds here. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 8 months when our relationship was 3 months I was able to get a German visa and moved to Germany .

He lost his job 2 months ago, and we have been discussing on how he can get back on his feet, lots of interviews and no call back and with this harsh economy we consider it best he starts a business which he doesn't even have the capital.

I really wish I can support him but so scared it might be termed as using money to buy love and this might just make him stick to me for the wrong reasons or even later dump me... I am so confused

in my own opinion, 3 months is too short to know the kind of guy he is. But if you really want to help him, just have it in mind that you are helping "someone" not your boyfriend.

Tell him you are borrowing from someone for him to get back on his feet, don't let him know it's your money so that he will have the mind of paying back and give the day the owner will need the money.

If he doesn't want to be with you, even if you give him the whole world he won't still.
Re: I Want To Help My Boyfriend But Scared It Might Be Termed As Being Desperate by pedrilo: 10:56pm On Feb 12, 2017
rukygold001:
honestly, dont give him a dime,you'll regret it ..
tell him to ask his family for help,humans are unpredictable
if u have bn helped by a guy b4 in ur life n u still hav d mind to spill dis shiit then u r unreliable n its unfortunate,

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Re: I Want To Help My Boyfriend But Scared It Might Be Termed As Being Desperate by 234GT(m): 10:58pm On Feb 12, 2017
Except that 'saara yo si e' , don't help him with any amount of money o. Not even a dime. He will surely dump you. I can bet anything on that.
Saara yo si e means you were advised by a spiritualist to give alms to the needy.
Re: I Want To Help My Boyfriend But Scared It Might Be Termed As Being Desperate by abdulaz: 10:59pm On Feb 12, 2017
yomi007k:
undecided


Na wa oooo..




And we help our women without thinking twice or asking for people's opinion.

My brother, the thing weak me

See opinions on just to dash person wey you claim say you love money.

Truly them say never trust a woman with all your heart

And the one wey the guyman go don do for am nobody hear am for here o.

Love don't love forever.





We learn daily.
Re: I Want To Help My Boyfriend But Scared It Might Be Termed As Being Desperate by Nobody: 11:00pm On Feb 12, 2017
You know him better than we do.
Re: I Want To Help My Boyfriend But Scared It Might Be Termed As Being Desperate by abdulaz: 11:01pm On Feb 12, 2017
yomi007k:
undecided


Na wa oooo..




And we help our women without thinking twice or asking for people's opinion.



We learn daily.



My brother, the thing weak me

See opinions on just to dash person wey you claim say you love money.

Truly them say never trust a woman with all your heart

And the one wey the guyman go don do for am nobody hear am for here o.

Love don't love forever.

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Re: I Want To Help My Boyfriend But Scared It Might Be Termed As Being Desperate by jatau7(m): 11:01pm On Feb 12, 2017
the truth is that life is all about risk...and we must take risk. ..1..if you decide to help him and tomorrow he makes it in life and then leaves you for another lady you have no choice than to bear it...2..if you decide to help him and he makes it in life and decides to make you his wife...you enjoy all...dats just d simple truth. ..so choice carefully...but i want to ask a question? must we always want something in return when doing some1 a favour? why cant we help and expect nothing in return? God will continue to help us...think abt it dear
Re: I Want To Help My Boyfriend But Scared It Might Be Termed As Being Desperate by HirstMOG(m): 11:02pm On Feb 12, 2017
I don't think you should be scared about helping someone you love. How much do you know him while you were here together
Re: I Want To Help My Boyfriend But Scared It Might Be Termed As Being Desperate by Donshemzy1234: 11:02pm On Feb 12, 2017
yomi007k:
undecided

Na wa oooo..



And we help our women without thinking twice or asking for people's opinion.


We learn daily.

You know that's funny. lol
Re: I Want To Help My Boyfriend But Scared It Might Be Termed As Being Desperate by oluxy(m): 11:02pm On Feb 12, 2017
He doesnt need to ask before u help him if u can or have d power to.
Person like me dont have but i know it that u are a right position to help me but i wont ask. He knows if u can help him or not.
Help help and expect nothing in return either way he behave latter.

If God want u two togther u will surely be together.
If u doesnt be together n he betrays u, know that God has a better plan for u n afterall u are in germany.
U dont know maybe God placed u in a position ahead of him for u to help him. And if u dont, God wil still raise another person to do it.

Help him n forget may he marries u or not.
U just dont saying ur prayers.

If u need help in term of d prayer, i can help u joing faith.
I'm doing this because u have a heart to help him naturally without even thinking maybe u two would be together.

Jesus the Son of God never fails.

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Re: I Want To Help My Boyfriend But Scared It Might Be Termed As Being Desperate by Oblackq: 11:02pm On Feb 12, 2017
esthertk:
I need the candid advise of the matured minds here. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 8 months when our relationship was 3 months I was able to get a German visa and moved to Germany .

He lost his job 2 months ago, and we have been discussing on how he can get back on his feet, lots of interviews and no call back and with this harsh economy we consider it best he starts a business which he doesn't even have the capital.

I really wish I can support him but so scared it might be termed as using money to buy love and this might just make him stick to me for the wrong reasons or even later dump me... I am so confused



U dnt seem confused. U actually seem desperate. Probably u wanna use d money u wanna give 2him as Bait? Dosent work dat way. U should knw beta. D answers u seek are dancing shoki around u.
Re: I Want To Help My Boyfriend But Scared It Might Be Termed As Being Desperate by jatau7(m): 11:03pm On Feb 12, 2017
jatau7:
the truth is that life is all about risk...and we must take risk. ..1..if you decide to help him and tomorrow he makes it in life and then leaves you for another lady you have no choice than to bear it...2..if you decide to help him and he makes it in life and decides to make you his wife...you enjoy all...dats just d simple truth. ..so choose carefully...but i want to ask a question? must we always want something in return when doing some1 a favour? why cant we help and expect nothing in return? God will continue to help us...think abt it dear
Re: I Want To Help My Boyfriend But Scared It Might Be Termed As Being Desperate by Ngokafor(f): 11:03pm On Feb 12, 2017
jejemanito:
If All Guys Open Threads To Seek Opinions Before Giving Their Girlfriends Money, The Number Of Threads On Nairaland For Don Reach 10 Million



...but really,since when did you guys start giving money to ladies?..I thought you all claim you are not your gurlfriend's father and have signed off giving your babes money blablabla?..so where is all these talk about giving your girlfriend money coming from??.

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