Jessicaseth:

How certain are you about her womb being intact?

They can both go and meet a gynaecologist so he checks and scans her womb for any abnormalities. The result will be given that day. As soon as the doctor says she's clean and her womb intact? Then continue with the relationship if u want.
Life is about making a choice.

DaisyII:
This is a fallacy of hasty generalization.Could you at least consider the minority like myself who have not given abortion a thought

I was not referring to you dear

2SWT:
I never said so

a successful marriage depends on how compatible both partners are and not virginity.

Where did I say virginity guarantees a successful marriage?

If someone says he wants to marry a virgin, there are other factors he wants too. He is not seeking for only virginity.

schumastic:


yeah I do, no hard feelings but you don't have to be judgemental about it, like I said no one is perfect, am sure u must v made mistakes u regret or wish u never did which one way or another u might v paid the price..in this scenerio she might pay d ultimate price of losing her man(which is your advice, for him to let go) but want if there are chances she can get pregnant, if possible 6kids n he leaves her for someone who haven't had any arbotion but can't give birth..

I never thought about it this way. I see things better now. Thanks

Jessicaseth:
I never thought about it this way. I see things better now. Thanks

you welcome

Jessicaseth:
Your future is at stake, don't destroy it because of a random girl.

What are you trying to say

2SWT:
are you a virgin?

It's not something to sing for the world to hear..Whether i am or not,is my private business and it must stay that way.

Oyind17:
What are you trying to say

Is has been resolved but I frown at abortion. It is murder

Michellla:
Could be a very difficult and emotional subject for her.Perhaps she feels guilt/remorse or feel that you would have reacted badly which was why she never brought it up.
People make mistakes,and what she is like now and since you met her should really be what you judge her on.

I know it might be a difficult and emotional subject for her but she should have told me when i ask her earlier. Well she has been good character so far but for someone to hide such a secret for over 2 years in relationship. I can never trust her again. Who knows what else she is hiding.

A very tough one
you can't expect her to tell you her top secrets likewise you.
from your write up it's obvious she still love that ex and finding it hard to move on for some reasons; guilt, ashamed of her actions, and she has no one to trust about her top secrets, etc....
Back to your questions, if you did love her and still do, then show her love, care for her, like she meant the world to you, always be there for her, break your principles for her, communicate with her in every aspect of her life, have great sex with her!(very important, make sure she squirts) don't cheat on her, don't tell her an expensive lies no matter how hard it is, etc...
if you can do all that, then she'll tell you all you need to know, then you can go ahead and marry her...

but for me, numbers don't count only with girls though, otherwise with cash numbers of abortion, dick, dates, i really don't give a damn, so far i love her selling points and she has got what it takes to be my wife... i'll love, marry her everyday

Jessicaseth:

Is has been resolved but I frown at abortion. It is murder

I frown at it too but that doesn't stop ladies from doing it. Most ladies do it but they claim to be saints.

SlimmB:

A very tough one
you can't expect her to tell you her top secrets likewise you.
from your write up it's obvious she still love that ex and finding it hard to move on for some reasons; guilt, ashamed of her actions, and she has no one to trust about her top secrets, etc....
Back to your questions, if you did love her and still do, then show her love, care for her, like she meant the world to you, always be there for her, break your principles for her, communicate with her in every aspect of her life, have great sex with her!(very important, make sure she squirts) don't cheat on her, don't tell her an expensive lies no matter how hard it is, etc...
if you can do all that, then she'll tell you all you need to know, then you can go ahead and marry her...

but for me, numbers don't count only with girls though, otherwise with cash numbers of abortion, dick, dates, i really don't give a damn, so far i love her selling points and she has got what it takes to be my wife... i'll love, marry her everyday

Thanks bro for the advice.

Honos:
I have been dating this girl for over 2 years, i really love her and i was even thinking of getting married to her but until valentine's day, when she wanted to use my phone to check her facebook, so when she was typing her password, i somehow note down the password. And yesterday, out of curiousity, i login to her facebook account with her password and started reading her messages. Then i saw a chat between her and her Ex about having had several abortion for him. I have not ask her about it yet. I once ask her before if she has had abortion before she said No.
Please guys can you marry such a lady
Screenshot of her conversation with her Ex.

Mature Advice needed.

Lalasticlala ,
Mynd44 ,
Fynestboi

Almost all the ladies has done abortion once or more just over look it if you truly love her

Be glad u found out....if you know the consequences of unprotected sex, why do it at first?...


She was never your woman to be

SecretAgent:
Almost all the ladies has done abortion once or more just over look it if you truly love her

Not ladies who know they have futures will do an abortion
So its not all ladies my dear

Oyind17:
Where is that lady who is yet to abort Abegi talk of something else.

some girls do not even engage in premarital sex, much more abortion.

rittyray:



Not ladies who know they have futures will do an abortion
So its not all ladies my dear

I know its not all ladies, thats why i used the word "Almost". Lets say only like 10% of ladies have not done abortion once before.

Jessicaseth:

Is has been resolved but I frown at abortion. It is murder

u frown at abortion and applaud fornication .see ur myopic way of thinking. .stop acting all Saint here. .as if u have not done something worse than this in one way or the other. ..Please try and be real

Honos:
I know it might be a difficult and emotional subject for her but she should have told me when i ask her earlier. Well she has been good character so far but for someone to hide such a secret for over 2 years in relationship. I can never trust her again. Who knows what else she is hiding.

and u think the next girl will be better. .We all have a secret we carry to our grave. ..as if u havenever done something u regret doing.if she is a good woman...don't let her go. ..marry her present not past..We all have past life including u

sekxy:

and u think the next girl will be better. .We all have a secret we carry to our grave. ..as if u havenever done something u regret doing.if she is a good woman...don't let her go. ..marry her present not past..We all have past life including u

Hmmm... Thats true, thanks for the advice.

If you truly love her. Go ahead. Ladies sacrifice a lot for the ones they love. Look at her character and personality if she is good to go. No problem. She didn't tell you cos she was scared to loose you

Honos:
Hmmm... Thats true, thanks for the advice.

welcome ..now is the right time to show her more love since she's hurt by her past. I can make her forget it by the love u shower on her. .and u have advantage cos this kind of lady will never think of cheating on u after what happened to her in the past.so cheer up and trust her. .wish u guys unending relationship

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sekxy:

u frown at abortion and applaud fornication .see ur myopic way of thinking. .stop acting all Saint here. .as if u have not done something worse than this in one way or the other. ..Please try and be real

You see why some idiots felt i was jealous of the babe?. The manner at which Nigerians reason is worrisome.

Before anyone would embark on abortion, i believe there is always a reason behind it, you don't expect a raped teenager who didn't tell her parents she was raped just for them to realize she's pregnant not to have an abortion.

Murder this, murder that but yet they're still bleeping around.

I give up on some mindsets!.

Jessicaseth:


Do you get my analogy? You are beating around the bush.
Abortion is wrong and it damages the womb. Whosoever is dating my have his mind at rest because my womb is not damages I haven't undergone any abortion neither do I take in hard drugs/chemicals.

Chai!

Benita27:
You see why some idiots felt i was jealous of the babe?. The manner at which Nigerians reason is worrisome.

Before anyone would embark on abortion, i believe there is always a reason behind it, you don't expect a raped teenager who didn't tell her parents she was raped just for them to realize she's pregnant not to have an abortion.

Murder this, murder that but yet they're still bleeping around.

I give up on some mindsets!.

I tire for some people's reasoning ability

All i can see from this thread is 2 ugly vultures beefing on a beautiful nonsense who probably dont exist just because attention has been taken from their horrifying faces to a beautiful non existent moniker. How demeaning to these ugly monkeys that guys find a beautiful nonsense more attractive than these ugly rejected-by-God creatures.

Dicksonpussy:
pwerry pulease, don't waste your mb schooling ugly girls you like 15inch pleek talk true

so nah wife you they find for here

yes as long as she knows how to eat Boli very well

2SWT:
I never said so

a successful marriage depends on how compatible both partners are and not virginity.

this is the popular lie going around. Why do married women still go back to their ex

sekxy:

welcome ..now is the right time to show her more love since she's hurt by her past. I can make her forget it by the love u shower on her. .and u have advantage cos this kind of lady will never think of cheating on u after what happened to her in the past.so cheer up and trust her. .wish u guys unending relationship

Worse advice. Ladies like this are emotionally down, you can't make her forget in a hurry and sooner it will affect the partner

You had no right to 'steal' her password and log into her Facebook account

That is invasion of privacy...

Back to your question...personally I think the fact that a lady has been pregnant before is a confirmation of her fertility

So long as the abortion was done properly and nothing was damaged I see no reason to be concerened so long as it was something that happened in her past